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Life Together - Shame (AM)

January 07, 2020 Pastor Eric
The Village Church
Life Together - Shame (AM)
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The Village Church
Life Together - Shame (AM)
Jan 07, 2020
Pastor Eric

Eph. 2:19-22 We are members of his household with Jesus as the chief cornerstone. In Him we are being built together. Gentiles and Jews become one: this is a mystery. Paul is creating a picture of what this looks like with Jesus as the cornerstone. We are all together a temple. This happens every time we are with believers: this is what is happening. This is fascinating and has requirements for this to happen. Jesus just doesn’t float around: Jesus became a man and deals with us within our physical bodies. 

·         We must talk together. 

·         When two people get together, creativity happens. We create things! 

·         We move around each other; ie: we had to move to even get here, to worship. 

Part of being shaped (into a temple) is we talk, create, and move together. There is vulnerability to this. This creates a very good, beautiful vulnerability. Did you know that 90 percent of the world’s church have 70 or fewer people? These are millions of little temples all over the world.  

BUT…it doesn’t work this way. SHAME is like the word “pornography.” You know it when you see it. You know shame when you feel it. “Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.”  The Hebrew people could have said they felt joy or happiness…but instead, they said they felt NO SHAME. It’s a foreshadowing of what will rip us apart: SHAME. 

Shame: Eric’s story of shame: it’s like playing b-ball in high school when the coach told me to tie my shoes but I didn’t. I once tripped over my shoelaces: this was exposure and I thought something was wrong with me. This is an example of shame. Another example: You lie and get caught…or children tell you your nose is really big like you are Jewish…Let’s understand what is happening physiologically when we are shamed:  

When you are born, you want to know and be known. You want a safe place: Mom and Dad. You then want to explore. You come back to the safe place. At some point you try to head to something dangerous and your parents say NO. The nervous system freezes: You have an innate biological sense that is now confused: what is safe (parents) now feels unsafe. You fight or freeze: a shameful thing brings on this experience: frozen and/or can’t speak. Creativity won’t happen. Movement won’t happen. This is the weapon of the enemy and what he uses to destroy the beautiful construction of the world and the church. This shame will make life difficult. Shame makes a story that is difficult: I forgot to turn off the light in the bathroom. We all live by stories. When I was made fun of for having a big nose, I believed there is something wrong with me and I am not worth looking at. This is my story. WE ALL HAVE SHAME STORIES.      

You believe you don’t fit here. Example story of Eric’s younger brother Wes thinking Eric is so great. Last week after 7 years of being away, Wes visits and Eric is VERY self-conscious of the Village. His shame isolated him and he didn’t connect with anyone. He didn’t listen to the sermon. He was critical of everyone. He could feel his heightened sense of shame and it was all about him. The enemy triggers this to happen similarly all the time. Shame makes you go internally south. The enemy uses shame to do this.  

I Cor 8:3 But whoever loves God is known by God. Love builds up, knowledge puffs up.  

How we deal with shame (in the U.S.): Acquire knowledge. We think if you know about something, you won’t be caught off guard. Think about Facebook: It’s people trying to protect their shame. No one feels built up or confident. The feeling of anxiety is rooted in shame: We don’t know about something and don’t have control.  

BUT Love builds up: When I say, “I need you,” it builds you up. It’s not “I know” but “I need you” regardless of your foibles. When

Show Notes

Eph. 2:19-22 We are members of his household with Jesus as the chief cornerstone. In Him we are being built together. Gentiles and Jews become one: this is a mystery. Paul is creating a picture of what this looks like with Jesus as the cornerstone. We are all together a temple. This happens every time we are with believers: this is what is happening. This is fascinating and has requirements for this to happen. Jesus just doesn’t float around: Jesus became a man and deals with us within our physical bodies. 

·         We must talk together. 

·         When two people get together, creativity happens. We create things! 

·         We move around each other; ie: we had to move to even get here, to worship. 

Part of being shaped (into a temple) is we talk, create, and move together. There is vulnerability to this. This creates a very good, beautiful vulnerability. Did you know that 90 percent of the world’s church have 70 or fewer people? These are millions of little temples all over the world.  

BUT…it doesn’t work this way. SHAME is like the word “pornography.” You know it when you see it. You know shame when you feel it. “Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.”  The Hebrew people could have said they felt joy or happiness…but instead, they said they felt NO SHAME. It’s a foreshadowing of what will rip us apart: SHAME. 

Shame: Eric’s story of shame: it’s like playing b-ball in high school when the coach told me to tie my shoes but I didn’t. I once tripped over my shoelaces: this was exposure and I thought something was wrong with me. This is an example of shame. Another example: You lie and get caught…or children tell you your nose is really big like you are Jewish…Let’s understand what is happening physiologically when we are shamed:  

When you are born, you want to know and be known. You want a safe place: Mom and Dad. You then want to explore. You come back to the safe place. At some point you try to head to something dangerous and your parents say NO. The nervous system freezes: You have an innate biological sense that is now confused: what is safe (parents) now feels unsafe. You fight or freeze: a shameful thing brings on this experience: frozen and/or can’t speak. Creativity won’t happen. Movement won’t happen. This is the weapon of the enemy and what he uses to destroy the beautiful construction of the world and the church. This shame will make life difficult. Shame makes a story that is difficult: I forgot to turn off the light in the bathroom. We all live by stories. When I was made fun of for having a big nose, I believed there is something wrong with me and I am not worth looking at. This is my story. WE ALL HAVE SHAME STORIES.      

You believe you don’t fit here. Example story of Eric’s younger brother Wes thinking Eric is so great. Last week after 7 years of being away, Wes visits and Eric is VERY self-conscious of the Village. His shame isolated him and he didn’t connect with anyone. He didn’t listen to the sermon. He was critical of everyone. He could feel his heightened sense of shame and it was all about him. The enemy triggers this to happen similarly all the time. Shame makes you go internally south. The enemy uses shame to do this.  

I Cor 8:3 But whoever loves God is known by God. Love builds up, knowledge puffs up.  

How we deal with shame (in the U.S.): Acquire knowledge. We think if you know about something, you won’t be caught off guard. Think about Facebook: It’s people trying to protect their shame. No one feels built up or confident. The feeling of anxiety is rooted in shame: We don’t know about something and don’t have control.  

BUT Love builds up: When I say, “I need you,” it builds you up. It’s not “I know” but “I need you” regardless of your foibles. When