Kick Off Your Damn Heels: How To Kick Anxiety & Live A Badass Life!

Claire Ketchum

December 03, 2019
Kick Off Your Damn Heels: How To Kick Anxiety & Live A Badass Life!
Claire Ketchum
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Kick Off Your Damn Heels: How To Kick Anxiety & Live A Badass Life!
Claire Ketchum
Dec 03, 2019
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Speaker 1:
0:01
Welcome to kick off your damn heels. Are you sick and tired of getting bad advice about anxiety? Does it piss you off when people talk about anxiety as something you must claim or just live with forever? All of that crappy advice ends right now. Are you ready? Because we're ready. It's time to get down and dirty and kicking anxiety to the curb so you can live a badass life. Welcome to the podcast with guts. And now here's your host, Dr Tara Lynn
Speaker 2:
0:37
[inaudible].
Speaker 3:
0:39
Hey everyone, and welcome back to another episode of kickoff your damn heels. I am Dr Tara Lynn and I am here with my colleague Claire Ketchum. And so clear. Can you please tell us about yourself? Yeah, absolutely. Hi. Thanks for having me. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. Excited to be here. So my story was that I sort of spent, I gained some weight in college and then after I was out of college, couple of years, I decided that I needed to lose weight. And I just remember got stuck jumping from diet to diet and nothing ever worked. And I got really, really frustrated because I just felt like I wasn't happy with where I was, but no diet was something that I could stick with it. I just kept on having reasons why I would quit and then I would just blame the Diet versus, you know, maybe me or what I was doing or the, or how I was approaching it.
Speaker 3:
1:31
And then I read the Book Women Food and God and by Janine Ross, which introduced the whole concept of mindful eating and not being on a diet anymore. And so that was sort of like this Aha moment that I could, you know, eat really well and not be on a diet. And it was more about how I was approaching eating versus what I was eating was the more important, um, but I still struggle to even be consistent with being a mindful eater. So I still wasn't like, he just relaxed about it. Um, and that's when I learned the emotional freedom technique when I was at the Institute of Integrated Nutrition. I learned about that. I just, you know, deep dive into it, learn all about it. So hold on. We need to add, do a little education. So what is the emotional freedom technique in a nutshell, please? The emotional freedom technique is, um, it's a process where you tap on the Meridian points. And so if you are, say, like really stressed out about something that's going on in your life, you can work through it by what you tap on these meridian points while you're working through this stressor in your life. And so you increase your stress because you're, because you can't be in a relaxed state and a stress state at the same time. So because you're tapping on these points while you're working through a stressful situation, your body remains in a relaxed and that's what allows you to bring that stress down. Okay.
Speaker 4:
3:04
So for those of us who are listening on the podcast, cause I do have videos of this too, could you tell them what a meridian point is?
Speaker 3:
3:12
Sure. A Meridian point is, um, is there, uh, there are energy points and they're all over your body. Um, so similar to acupuncture where they, like if you're having a specific problem, they will put the needle in different parts. So you can get varied fans. Um, but what the founder, Gary Craig was the founder of EFT discovered is that as long as you're sort of activating one of those pressure points or Meridian points or whatever you want to call it, you're gonna send a relaxation signal to your body. So yes, you can get more advanced, but you, it's war of a way to bring it to the masses. And so that people could do it on themselves versus having to know, I'm having this emotion that's located in this little spot on my phone or whatever. So it's, it's a way to mainstream it. And so people can use it as a tool for themselves to reduce their stress. Um, and so for me, that was sort of the key in being able to be more consistent with, um, eating healthy on a regular basis.
Speaker 4:
4:15
Oh, nice. So we're going to be talking about, um, something that you call the chronic stress loop. So let's talk about that and then tie it into the EFT emotional freedom, um, work that you're doing as well. So, so tell me about this chronic stress loop.
Speaker 3:
4:33
So this is just a name I've given to a pattern that is probably familiar to a lot of people that, uh, or maybe it's not, maybe they don't notice it. So you have some sort of a stressor in your life. And then we have these thoughts in our heads like that, oh, I'm not good enough, or I never have enough time or you know, all these sort of like negative little thoughts that pop into our head. Yeah. And that's increased their stress even more. And then everybody has some sort of default habit that they go to to reduce that stress. And for some people, you know, it might be, you know, Gossiping or shopping. Um, but for the people that I work with, it's eating. Um, and typically, uh, although some people over eat healthy food also cause they're trying to be healthier. So the old nuts, uh, but still they're not going to, if you're over eating nuts, you're not going to get, um, to the weight that you want to be at. And so then eventually if you have this pattern. So I had it my whole life, but it wasn't until I sort of hit my twenties that it really became a problem when I started to gain weight. I was sort of, my metabolism was like, you know, revved up enough. I was doing sports. Like I was able to like make it through high school, even though I still had a pattern. It just was, you know, it wasn't, I wasn't seeing the weight.
Speaker 4:
5:49
Well, and I would think that your pattern would be, you know, the eating pattern would be the same, but maybe your activity level changes when you're not doing sports, you know, so when your life changes, like those good patterns that you have may not be good anymore,
Speaker 3:
6:03
you know? Right, right. Um, and, and I do think as you get older, you sort of, your body is less forgiving. You know, you spend daddy's really less forgiving. You know, it's Kinda like, you know, we let you get away with it when you wrote. Yeah. But like you should know about her by now. Um, and so then you have, let me see, the week started coming on and then that increases your stress when you go back to the top where you have the stress about that'd be overweight. And so people are trying to solve that stress, but maybe the underlying stress is that, you know, they have a tiler and they're not sleeping at night, so they're exhausted and that's the real stress, but they're trying to go on a diet to solve it. Um, and so that just keeps them stuck in this loop and they're trying to solve, um, I guess they're trying to solve stressors all with diet, which isn't necessarily gonna work.
Speaker 4:
7:01
Yeah. I, I just want to comment on this a little bit. So, you know, I'm a therapist by trade and pretty much every time when, when people come in and we started talking about food and things like that for stress, the first thing they want to talk about is weight loss. And as if that's going to solve every problem that they have, it seems to emerge as like the number one thing. Well, if I could just lose weight, then all my problems would be solved. You know? And
Speaker 3:
7:31
I, it's a, that's,
Speaker 4:
7:34
I can go back and talk about like the Diet culture with that because they say that, you know, you lose weight and you're a sexier and you have a good sex drive and you have energy and you have all, all those things can be very true. But you know, it's not, we're not using nutrition just for weight loss. You're, you're using lifestyle and nutrition to help with the stress loop that you kind of caught yourself into.
Speaker 3:
7:58
Right? Exactly. Exactly. And so when I was able to keep my stress low and per me, I use the emotional freedom technique to do that. And that's just what works for me. People can do what you can do lots of different habits besides, you know, the emotional freedom technique to help. I just personally really like that for me works the best because, um, it's active. So you're moving your hands through these clients as you talk through this, you're really talking to yourself. You could do it with somebody else, but that's the beauty of it. You don't actually meet another person to do it. Um, so you can do it. And I sort of me like what if I just tried to meditate? I would, I couldn't, like I would just be thinking about my grocery lists. Like I couldn't, like I never felt like I got anywhere with it.
Speaker 3:
8:47
Whereas as I was tagging and I was moving, I was able to stay focused on what I was doing and stay focused on the, of releasing that, uh, versus thinking about what my to do list, which was obviously not going to help anything. Well you also with with EFT, like giving your hands something to do, you know, if you're a picker or doer or a fidgeter or whatever, I mean this really helps, um, cause then you're actually doing something that, that enhances your emotional experiences versus, you know, causes more stress. Like if you're a nail biter or you know, that type of thing. So it does give your hands something different to do, right? Yes. Yes. Cause I got, I mean nail has a big way that people relieve stress. I've worked with a student who just would sit there and nod fingers whenever he was so stressed out, be like, oh my gosh.
Speaker 3:
9:40
Well I'm not a nail biter so I can't relate to that, but I can relate to, I had a bad day, I'm going to buy a bag of gummy bears and I'm going to eat them to like feel sick. Right. And why? Like why can't I get normal amount of gummy bears? [inaudible] a really good question actually disgusting. But that was my, that really, really sweet sugar, like pure sugar. And there's a lot of, you know, their actual, it does relieve stress to each sugar cause it gives you a little bit of a boost and it makes you a little bit happier, not a long term. Cause then you gained weight and you actually [inaudible] after. But you know, for a little bit like it's a good strategy. Technically there could be way worse ones by the way. Right. There's a little bit of that. It's socially acceptable. Oh yeah.
Speaker 3:
10:38
Whoa. To overeat, you know. Um, well cause it's socially acceptable to eat, you know, whereas it's not always socially acceptable, full to like smoke cigarettes or you know, have a joint [inaudible] dollars in debt. Like, you know, people who shop that's less socially acceptable. Whereas like, oh, I went to my mom's and we had cake and cheese. Like no one's like, oh my gosh, what's wrong with you? Oh yeah, me too. It's so good. Yeah. It's funny when he's so could you walk me through kind of an experience of, um, with one of your clients? Like what would you do for them? So what I would do with a client is, um, so I have a process that I developed called, uh, it's called the eating well blockers assessment. So I would go, I would take some through that and that would just sort of help me identify what areas of their life are causing them.
Speaker 3:
11:40
The biggest stress so that, you know, they know where to start and what to start working on. Um, because it depends. Like, what if, what stresses you out, um, you know, is your schedule then working on like, like finding space within your schedule is a strategy. If you have all the time in the world, then that's not a strategy. So it really depends on what your stressor is. Um, and then, um, some people like EFT and some people don't, but I do, I personally love it, so I do. And um, but not all my clients have necessarily, but you don't need to love it to, to sort of find those habits to break that pattern.
Speaker 4:
12:20
Well, to me it's one of these things like, um, one thing doesn't work for everybody, but it some, some things are very much worth trying, you know? I mean, I did EFT too and I didn't really, wasn't something that resonated with me. Yeah. Um, but that doesn't mean I'll never ever try it again. Right. You know, so, but I feel like experiences are important.
Speaker 3:
12:44
Yeah. And I do think like EFT can be really good to help you bring down a stress on them in the moment or to help you keep your stress levels low. But sometimes it is sort of more of a lifestyle. I had one client who decided that what really stressed her out and drove her to the kitchen was when her house was a mess. You felt really out of control about it. And so she's like, every time I have the urge to go to the kitchen and eat, I'm going to set a timer and I'm going to clean my house. I'm going to pick up for 20 minutes instead of grabbing a bag of chips and sitting on my couch and watching TV, which makes me feel worse for her. Cleaning was actually what reduced her stress. Now if I gave that as a list of suggestions of ways to reduce stress, people like, I don't think the cleaning is on my list. Like it's not [inaudible] time for that. Like it's like more stress and you tell him I need to click. So it's really individualized. Right. Well you're going to break that habit.
Speaker 4:
13:46
Yeah. So do you have any, um, strong words of wisdom that you can share as we wrap up this interview today?
Speaker 3:
13:53
I think the, um, my biggest takeaway would be that if you find yourself, you know, craving something or wanting something and you're not hungry thinking what happened right before this, what's going on in my life that might be pushing me towards this? And then working on that, um, to help you avoid, um, help me break out of that pattern. Um, it's just really being helping your like be aware of it is sort of the first step for sure.
Speaker 4:
14:32
[inaudible] and then doing something about it. Yeah. Well and as you talked about, like the majority of clients need to kind of figure out what they need to do and you get to help them do that. Because if you were to, like you said, if you were to say, you know what, I think you need to clean your house, you'd be like, yeah, screw you. Right. It's great
Speaker 3:
14:52
cause that's not a, because really that's what you've got, you know. Exactly. Exactly. And it also depends on your stage of life, where you are and you know, do you work full time? Do you work part time? You have kids don't have kids. Like all of those things impact how, like what you're actually able to do and what you will. So some things can be as little as a minute, but they can have a huge impact in stopping that pattern of eating to see what the stress,
Speaker 4:
15:19
right. Right. Or eating or doing anything else that you shouldn't be doing. Right.
Speaker 3:
15:24
Yeah, it doesn't, it doesn't have to be eating. That's just, that's just a focus on the clients I work with is, you know, the struggle is with eating. Okay. It works for anything for sure. Right.
Speaker 4:
15:36
All right. Well very nice. And so, um, I th I think you're going to be writing a blog post for me too, right? Yes. All right, cool. So that'll be up on my website and I'll have a link back to it on the show notes for this and also clear as social media handles and all of her information will be located in the show notes as well. Um, anything else that you want to cover that we didn't touch on today, Claire?
Speaker 3:
16:01
Um, I would just love to invite people to join my, um, I have a community called the stress free weight loss community. Um, and we have little mini challenges every week that sort of all these little mini habits that help break this pattern and we just do one a week. Um, so it's just a great place to get support and sort of get started. And obviously as we talked about, not every little may challenge is gonna make sense for you, but the ones that do need to participate. So just an invitation if that sounds like something that would be helpful, um, to the people listening.
Speaker 4:
16:33
Awesome. So we can also put that link in the show notes for them too. Perfect. Great. Perfect. Awesome. All right, well thank you everyone for joining us and if you loved this episode, please leave us a favorable review and leave a comment below. Take care of your one. Until next time, I really hope you loved this episode as much as I did. Please subscribe to this podcast and leave a review. Basically wherever your favorite place to listen to the podcast is. And don't forget to head over to kickoff your damn heels.com for information about my book, my private Facebook page, and for more free bonus content. See you next time.
Speaker 1:
17:18
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