Kick Off Your Damn Heels!

Self Care To Combat Toxic Relationships and Anxiety

December 17, 2019 Dr Teralyn and Shannon & Ester
Kick Off Your Damn Heels!
Self Care To Combat Toxic Relationships and Anxiety
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Kick Off Your Damn Heels!
Self Care To Combat Toxic Relationships and Anxiety
Dec 17, 2019
Dr Teralyn and Shannon & Ester

Meet Shannon and Ester, two of the most hardworking people I have met.  Both have left their medical field jobs to help others regain their best lives through good living.  They joined me all the way from Bali!

Self care, for nice-under appreciated-people who stuck in toxic relationship (work, personal, family) that makes them always feel guilty and manipulated by their own circles and caused high stress that lead to body discomfort.

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Meet Shannon and Ester, two of the most hardworking people I have met.  Both have left their medical field jobs to help others regain their best lives through good living.  They joined me all the way from Bali!

Self care, for nice-under appreciated-people who stuck in toxic relationship (work, personal, family) that makes them always feel guilty and manipulated by their own circles and caused high stress that lead to body discomfort.

Listen in to this very important episode about self care

Did you enjoy this episode?  Let us know by dropping us a comment or leaving a review!

CLICK HERE To Learn About Dr. Teralyn's Anxiety Freedom Masterclass

Contact Dr. Teralyn

Email:  [email protected]

Social Media Links

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Dr. Teralyn FACEBOOK
Dr. Teralyn INSTAGRAM
Dr. Teralyn LINKEDIN

Check out my guests 
INSTAGRAM  @cravebasic
Pinterest   www.pinterest.com/cravebasic


Speaker 1:

Welcome to kick off your damn heels . Are you sick and tired of getting bad advice about anxiety? Does it piss you off when people talk about anxiety as something you must claim or just live with forever? All of that crappy advice ends right now. Are you ready? Because we're ready. It's time to get down and dirty and kick anxiety to the curb so you can live a badass life. Welcome to the podcast with guts. And now here's your host, Dr Tara Lynn

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Speaker 3:

Hey everyone, and welcome back to another episode of kickoff your damn heels. I am Dr Tara Lynn and I have guests across the globe today and it's pretty late their time. So if they look a little sleepy, they're not there. They're super pumped to be here. I Have Shannon and Esther here from crave basic.com hello guys. How are you? Good, good, good, good. So where are you from? Uh , we currently live in Bali . Yeah . Yeah, I am . Yeah, I am from a solid Borneo, so I have to say you guys are my first international guests. So yes, we need to like throw confetti for that one. Woo. Woo. All right . So you guys have some compelling stories and I would like to start off by having each of you introduce yourself first so our guests know who you are and what you do and then talk a little bit about your story and then let's get your message across. How does that sound? Yeah. Yeah. So , um, it's criminalizing actually , uh , on , generally we just want to share our boys and um, um, me and Esther are , we are from different background. She's a physician, she's a general practitioner and I used to be, yeah, I used to be a personal trainer, but at the same time we both had struggled with self doubt. We have struggled with , um, Tom's thing there. It's all safety and environment, work environment, especially when we suppose to , uh, we , we're supposed to end and get people to live healthy life , to nail a healthy. But at the same time we were actually the , the one who needs the hell . Yeah . Um , like as thorough as she is , she works in the hospital. I used to work in the hospital before it . Um, some one , um , one of them was because little also little clinic as well, but I found that both of my working environment before it was not really healthy for me. So , um, yeah. Yeah. So we were really focusing on have the guts really to stand up for people whose being in toxic relationships , whether it's for work environment and family. Um, Arthur shared everything because it's actually , um, the, what's affecting us for years and years. I personally had this , uh , low Beckman each year for many, many years and got misdiagnose and even hospitalized for it and spent millions for that without any solution. Even no one, no one told me that actually failing something and eating, eating right. Um, it's actually how could help you to go through what you've been through in life and also as they're really struggling with , um, self , um , like he made sure . Um, because I had to , um, work with random hours and it's also like I'm very fast paced and then they high stress my book environment. When I go home, I didn't, I can't even think of doing anything else, but just having a good rest, but still even I tried to rest but I couldn't rest because there's still that anxiety that kicks in. Um , the , the, the anxiety for tomorrow, what type of setting off , um , in the hospital can get crazy sometimes and it makes me really, really anxious to go to work every day . And I forgot how to take care of myself. Um, and I gained weight, I gained a lot of weight and my mood was up and down almost all the time. I get irritated very easily and I know that, you know , that's not me. That's not, that's not who I am. And I think there needs to be a change in my life.

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Yeah, I have to say. So we have similar stories. Um, Esther , especially in, I have very similar stories. Um , working in , um, a high stressful, I used to work for the prison system here and the psychology and I'm

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very fast paced, very stress induced. Um, and that's my anxiety story too. And I was wondering, do you guys focus on working with health care professionals? Like is that a focus of yours? Cause it should be, yeah. Um, yes. Um, I, because I may , I have many friends in the medical field as well and also , um , some psychologists as well because I be in an internship and then many wonderful psychologist also and psychiatry . And then I know that , um, I know that these people need to know that, you know, we're in the, we're in the industry where we take care of people, but at the same time we have to know how to take care of ourselves. We have to take care of ourselves breasts . So that's , that's a thing that , um, we're about what pay basic is about. And I actually, before, when I got this diagnosis , um, I hate doctors for a while . I did not go , well , no offense to you Esther. Right. But then when I work as a personal trainer, I had less of dog threats . I talk to them, then I I get to know, asked her and she told me about this , um, this messages , um, healthcare system where they pushed work and work over over often time. And she even came to me after she stayed up for 22 hours and really pushed me to , um , to train her. And I was like, what have you just slept for two hours yet ? But I got work after this. I'm like, no, no, no, no, no. It cannot be like that. Your life can not be like this. So then we really come to the coalition where self care is really important. It's under still underestimated with plugs and lots and lots of people because people are hustling BBZ all the time. And I realize it that from only my doctors before who got, who mixed misdiagnose me from because he was fired also. So it cannot be like sick people take care of sick people because yeah. Whereas of course, we're going gonna get more sick. It's because the healthcare and the wellness people who work in , um, toxic environment, they cannot take care of themselves. So that's why, no, I mean, you guys are speaking my language and the, you know, in, in the states, the mental health

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professionals are the same way. I mean, they give and give and give and answer crisis calls and do all this stuff and they're not eating lunch. They're not eating breakfast. They're not, they're not taking care of themselves even on this big level. But yet we expect to give these messages to people of self care and if, if we can't even be doing it ourselves, how do you think that that is received, you know, not received well, you know, so it's, it's fascinating. I love this, that you're, that you have realized this work in medical communities, mental health communities. I think it's great because it's very , um, underserved and our , our physicians I speak of the United States have one of the highest rates of addictions, you know , um , out there. Yeah . So it is a highly underserved population as far as what is self care. And when you're talking ester about working 22 hours street, not getting any sleep. I mean people turn to unhealthy ways to just keep going. Right? Cause that's what it's about, not falling over, you know. So do you guys have some, so when we talk about self care and the thing is, is that the terminology of self care is , um, it's kind of a buzzword. Everyone's talking about self care. But what does that mean to you guys

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really about nourishing , um , our body in , um, comprehensive brother. It's, it's more about to make, to me it's more about like listening to our own body. Yes. That's what pretty basic believes. Now I mentioned that , um , our buddy can talk to us even though we cannot hear them like physically, but if we just really have an open heart to really feel what they are trying to tell us. Um, is that from discomfort ? Is that from um , mental fatigue that we have all the time. That's how they are talking to us and self care is when we listen to that. Um, signals from our body. Yeah. And really , um , really trying to connect with ourself again. So for us, it's are much healthier . You buy you so on your clothes. Right , right . It's called like that we were trying to , um, uh, we're trying to , um, we , the, the real self care means because , um, we, we also , uh, in my, in my 2022 , uh, I lost a friend due to high stress work , uh, environment and [inaudible] lost , uh , her friends to do that due to work load in hospital also. And He, yeah. And he just , um , both of our friends, my friend is 26 years old that time and my friend was 29 years old , um, trying to get into hospital , um , residency and he had to work as well as do internship at the same time. And sometimes he's so tired, but then he couldn't sleep. So he drank lots of , um , black coffee to get to his work after getting back from the hospital. And he still needs to do some work and study at the same time. And when he got tired still, he couldn't, he couldn't sleep. So he, I don't know what else he took to make him slip faster, but then that happened , that type of , um, working life happened for about a year , um, from , um, from when she lacked Bali. Um , and yeah, his heart stopped for some reason and yet he passed away. So we really wanted to bring the self care , uh, for really take care of yourself because sometimes we really feel guilty not to be Spz as people out there. And we really feel guilty to take a rest. And because maybe people around us, they push us to keep going, to keep going all the time, to chase something, to chase that success line . But at the same time you have to slow down and not to listen to other people, but you to rest. It's , it's fine to take class . It's like we have this working life, then it's the be perfect. It has a , it seems like we have this social life that needs to look perfect and personal life that needs to look perfect and we have to perform in every area and we have to, and that's just, that's just not, sometimes we need to prioritize which ones that are really , um, um, working and good for us, not just to please other people. And then, you know , um, that's, that's really something that I've learned along the way. And with the story from Shannon's friend and my friend, I really, I decided that I would not live in that way anymore from this moment where just where we're here to really, really prioritize which ones are worth doing. And this is the message that we are trying to tell people as well. I look at the crave

Speaker 4:

basic and I think, and correct me if I'm wrong, but what resonates to me is like what basic things does your body really crave? And those, yeah. And so those basic things are slowing down, you know, really the prioritizing of what's it really important to you, not what you think is important to the rest of society. To see in you or to have you become, or you know what I mean? Like what is in your heart important and work from there. And when I said that my story resonates with you. When I was having my extreme anxiety , um, it was because of toxic people around me in the work environment and not the prisoners either. It was the staff, they were pretty toxic people. Um, but I made the decision that, that I couldn't do that to myself anymore just to earn a paycheck, you know, I couldn't do it. And so I, I quit state service. I think now it was like seven years ago and pink people thought I was nuts because, you know, in the states when you work for the state, like government, like your benefits are good, you're retired , everything is good. Like it's all mapped out for you. And I was like, see up peace out, you know? And they're like, what? And I'm like, I know I, I plan on retiring and living not retiring and then dying the next day because I retired. You know what I mean? So I really understand like doing things that you need to do regardless of what you think other people want you to do. Does that make sense? Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Or being a musician, like being a physician and not being a physician anymore because it doesn't serve you, you know, or or taking your practice in a very different way instead of working in the hospital setting anymore. You know what I mean? So that's risky. That's courageous. Thank you. I didn't know I had the courage to do it, but then I choose me. I choose my body. Yeah. Right. And I think we all need to make the decision to choose ourselves more frequently. Yeah. You mentioned we have to decide and actually we really think that many people just say that they won male . Like I have to like I want that kind of flag , blah, blah blah. But at the same time did this edition , when we decide something, we actually program our brain, our bonding to really doing . Yeah. That's many people miss that. They don't decide. But at the same time when we know when we decide something is not going to be easy because people thought that we were amazing and we're crazy. Yeah. I can relate to that. I, you know, I , I think people still think, do you know when I left state service people actually came up to me and said, good luck, you're going to fail. And I was , yeah . And I was like, whoa . Do you get through that? Well, because when you're in a state and you're in a hole and you're solo and you've made a decision, like that neurological connection, I had never known what yes. Felt like, like this decision to leave my state job. Like probably like your physician job. Like I just knew and when I finally made the decision and finally, you know, pull the bandaid off and I was like, yes, this is the decision I need to make. I just looked at him and I was like, whatever, I'm not going to fail being here as failing, being here, being stuck here with you. That's my definition of failing right now. So, yeah, but you know, when you make those decisions, you just gotta go for it, right ? You cannot waiver. You can't waiver in those decisions for yourself. So yeah. So do you have any final words of wisdom that you'd like to share? So,

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or the Nice people out there. One of the Nice people out there. We know that you guys have underappreciated with people around you. And once you decide something , it's not gonna be easy , um , later, but decide something and you, you will have the guts to just follow what your heart, when your body, what your mind is craving for. Just follow it. Because to stay in a toxic relationships , not gonna help you and that's going to help other people and not , it's not going to help you and your future self will thank you. When you get up from the situation you're in, feed yourself oh thing here . We know that to the nice people out there that you want to help, you really want to help you have the heart to help other people. You want, some of you want to see them happy because you want to be helped . You want to be happy, you want to see other people happy, you want to ease their pain. But when you are in a situation or an environment where you cannot be yourself or you cannot thrive , and when the , when , when the people around you do not support you to do that, I think it's better for you to like take a step back and then really look where you are at that moment and really think, is that place really good for me or not because I do want to help. But is there any other way that will , um , you know , make me be able to do that but not getting , um , slowly killing yourself,

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killing myself in the process. Yeah, absolutely. You guys are fantastic and I really love your, your message of self-empowerment really and being courageous and you know, stepping outside of what you thought you were and what you felt other people think you need to be right. Um , not pigeonholing yourself and staying put. So I really love that message about you guys. And so for those of you listening, all of your information are going to be in the show notes of the podcast so you can get in touch with them. Um, their website is beautiful and the message is amazing. So I was so happy that you guys are here even though it's 10 30 at night where you are happy to be [inaudible] . Thank you so much. Yes, thank you so much and everyone thank you for joining us on another episode of kickoff your damn heels. I really hope you love this episode as much as I did. Please subscribe to this podcast and leave a review. Basically wherever your favorite place to listen to the podcast is and don't forget to head over to kickoff your damn heels.com for information about my book, my private Facebook page and for more free bonus content. See you next time.

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