Kick Off Your Damn Heels!

Find you Signature Voice with TV personality Sam Buckingham

January 19, 2020 Dr. Teralyn and TV Personality Sam Buckingham
Kick Off Your Damn Heels!
Find you Signature Voice with TV personality Sam Buckingham
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Kick Off Your Damn Heels!
Find you Signature Voice with TV personality Sam Buckingham
Jan 19, 2020
Dr. Teralyn and TV Personality Sam Buckingham


So many of us struggle with things like confidence and self esteem.  Finding our voice through the power of speaking is crucial to success.  It is also crucial to our own self worth, confidence and self esteem.  

Meet Australian TV personality Sam Buckingham.  Sam is not only a media darling but she is also a voice and speaker coach.  Sam is a soul-based public speaking expert, and professional speaker coach for thought leaders, executives, aspiring influencers and female entrepreneurs. Sam helps people speak with impact, leverage their influence and change lives with the magic and power of their voice.



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So many of us struggle with things like confidence and self esteem.  Finding our voice through the power of speaking is crucial to success.  It is also crucial to our own self worth, confidence and self esteem.  

Meet Australian TV personality Sam Buckingham.  Sam is not only a media darling but she is also a voice and speaker coach.  Sam is a soul-based public speaking expert, and professional speaker coach for thought leaders, executives, aspiring influencers and female entrepreneurs. Sam helps people speak with impact, leverage their influence and change lives with the magic and power of their voice.



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Welcome to kick off your damn heels. Are you sick and tired of getting bad advice about anxiety? Does it piss you off when people talk about anxiety as something you must claim or just live with forever? All of that crappy advice ends right now. Are you ready? Because we're ready. It's time to get down and dirty and kicking Zion to the curb so you can live a badass life. Welcome to the podcast with guts. And now here's your host, dr Tara Lynn

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Dr Teralyn:

Hello everyone and welcome back to kickoff your Dan Hill's . I am dr Tara Lynn and I am here with my friend Sam Buckingham and Sam is over in Australia. So she's across the pond from me and I'm like, what is the title that I can use for you? And I said, I'm just going to do something crazy. So Sam is the goddess of all things public speaking. She helps badass women like yourself get clear on their message and put you on stage. Am I correct? You absolutely are. Dr T , thank you so much for having me. I think you need that as your new slogan because you are the goddess of all things public speaking plastic . I actually love it. It's a great one to go to mock . It is . All right Sam. So why don't you tell us a little bit about who you are. So what's your story?

Sam Buckingham:

Oh, okay . So, well , um, I studied speech and drama from a little girl. I happened to live next door to a speech and drama teacher and I studied the curriculum from Trinity college of London, the speed , the art of speech. And it saw me ended up on stages. I was in acting and all of the performances in place through school. And then I got out of school and ended up in amateur theater then into , um, you know, professional theater. I got picked up by an agent and plunked into television with my first role being on the TV N , which is the Australian shopping, you know , these , the equivalent of QVC in the States, I guess. So I was an , I was an ONAP presented to us . So I presented, you know, health and beauty home with fashion, jewelry, kitchenware , et cetera . And I also saw , I worked 20 years , um, as a freelance TV presenter and I did a lot of direct response advertising, which is all of those advertorials in morning chat shows. I'm guessing you guys in the States ? Yes, yes. Good morning America. Yes, go ahead. We'll go on there and promote their product for four minutes and talk endlessly. Yeah, quite annoying. I was one of those girls that , sorry, sorry everyone, but it was a lucrative little world and so it's called direct response advertising. So I was the face of many, many brands from fast moving consumer goods to national service providers and everything in between. So I would go on until the latest deal of products . So I was the face of Australia's largest internet service provider for five years. And so I had regular work on all of our TV networks and all of the morning chat shows and three to air and paid TV infomercial spots . Um, I represented , uh , I also sold mops and cleaning equipment and you know, superfluous and useless as well as useful. Good. Nice . So I would describe myself actually as a brand hall. Is that okay to say it's called kickoff your damn heels ? You can say that. I didn't say no too much. I did say notice some products, you know, but , um , okay. I gotta ask you though, I have to ask you like what was the weirdest thing that you were a brand whore for ? Can I even say it on here? Um , Oh my goodness. Which is a hemorrhoid cream. That's the glamorous side to my job. Like this . And then I did a whole series, like actually recently in the last couple of years for the Australian menopause clinic, that was a sign that my career was coming to an end. And I sat in this beautiful lucrative space for a long time because the most influential household decision maker, a women between around 30 to 40, early forties. So from a point of mid twenties to mid forties, I sat perfectly and spoke to that market. So, whether it was cars , holidays , insurances, how houses , um, you know , household products, you know, women at that age are the most influential decision maker of a family. But once you get past that age, which I have, I then got into funeral plans, cruises, yeah . This side , this time . So that my career on telecom did with wrapping up, sly , going back to my roots and I'm now helping using all of my experience and my original training to help people bring their message to the world and have the confidence to share it that well. And that, that's the most important part because, so the audience that listens to me has a lot to do with anxiety. Right. And typically they're women that are career-driven and um, but they have anxiety. And I've also found myself having this performance anxiety sometimes because when you get in front of a group, usually I feel like I black out, like I just in front of the group and I say stuff and I can't remember anything that I said and I get off and I'm like, how did I do? Okay. Did I do all right? You know, but so often we're asked to speak in front of a group, whether it's a small group or a big group, people want to know what we know. And it is, it's anxiety provoking. It is. Um, if you don't have a message, if you, if you have a message but you don't know how to put it together so that it makes sense that I think that's where the anxiety is, right? Like I know what I want to say, but I'm not really sure that you want to hear what I have to say. Number one. And number two, how do I put it together? That makes sense. So how do you help women get their message clear? What is your process? Yeah, great question. And just to go back the truck up just for a second, listening to Oprah Winfrey, she said every single person she interviews including bill Clinton, Barack Obama, Ellen degenerates , whoever they always say after the interview. Was that an okay ? Yes. I ask the question because we all have this sense that maybe it just, I wasn't quite right. Maybe I didn't address what you wanted me to address. There's all of these expectations out there and we all so desperately want to meet all the expectations out there. But when we don't know what they are, how on earth can we feel that we've met them? Right? It's kind of crazy. So it brings me into um, knowing you what your message is and having a very clear and concise message to market about what it is that you stand for, what it is that you wanted to say and share with the world and having the words all worked out so that they roll off your tongue. And the second part to that is knowing that your take on things, Oh , message is absolutely okay. It's okay too if you polarize the audience. But all people want is to know and feel your conviction. And your conviction is your persuasion, your stance, your take on things, your belief, what it is that you stand for. Now, everyone in the room may not agree with it, okay? But as long as you stand true in that, they will admire you and remember you for your conviction. Okay? So I love that, by the way, I love that because I , as I , as you're talking, I'm thinking, I was just asked to do a speaking engagement in the spring here and they liked my brand, right? The kickoff your damn heels. They liked it that I was different. But then when they started sending me these emails, they wanted to change my message. They wanted to like water it down, dull it down, like make it agreeable to the audience. And I said, I said to my husband, I said, I don't think I can do it. I don't, because it didn't feel right. You know, it didn't feel right for Monday , you know, platform. Right, exactly. And they took it away. So when you talk about like standing firm and believing in yourself, like I just said this to my daughter the other day. I said , um , you know, sometimes you have to take a stand even if you're the only one standing. And yeah. And , and I'm like, I think that's where I need to be with the speaking thing. So you just like gave me chills. Like I'm like, Ooh, like I love this. I love this because it's not about watering down or , or being agreeable to get the gig. It's about standing firm and who you are and presenting that no matter what unwavering. Right? And when you can work out your language around it. So that's the thing you need to put in work. Like anything. If you want a good bicep muscle, you got to do the curls baby. Any other way. There ain't no pill. There's no Botox or anything that'll give you the bicep, right ? It'll give you the, you want the guns, you do the code , you want to sound. If you want your message to resonate with people, you've got to find the language. And you say over and over and over and over talking to yourself. Ladies isn't for the crazy ones. It's for the smart phone . It's for the smart girls that want to nail their message to market. Yes. And I'm saying that whether or not you're wanting in a sales position or whether you're just making a stand for something, getting the language around what it is that you believe and being strong on that and repeating it and practicing it. So that it rolls off your tongue organically is the way to go. I like that because I'm , as I do, I roll through like how many times was I wish you washy and how did that work out? It didn't work out always. The times when I'm not wishy washy that things work out. You know, when you, when you are, you're like, well, I'll try to make it agreeable to you, then it works. It doesn't work out at all, you know? Yes. Go ahead. And also then, so when I teach people to bring their message to market, not only is it about nailing your message with your language and owning your stance , but it's also owning, claiming, and owning your voice. Because whilst we can be strong in our message to market, we can dilute everything by way we deliver it with our boys. If we're kind of feeling that we don't own it, but we're wanting to pretend and have people believe that we do, we can really undermine that message. So it's about the feeling , um, and see your voice stems from your , um, your solar plexus. That's where your voice starts from. It's where your thoughts and feelings merge together as one. And it's your thoughts that start, that carry the voice that lead the voice. So if you can have strength from when those thoughts and feelings meet and then allow that to come through expression on stage as strength in your stance , then you've nailed it. You've got it. So essentially I do quite a deep dive into the voice and about owning who you are in this world because emotion guides the voice, not the other way around. That's really, I gotta write that down. Cause that's going to be a quote. Emotion guides the voice. Yes. So as you were talking I was thinking yeah, because you've had to own a lot of things as you were being a product for, right? Like you've had . Yeah . Like you have to believe in that mom . You know, you have to believe in the message that you're selling about the hemorrhoid cream. I can't pretend. So what ? Look, here's a really good secret for everyone is to, you've got to find all the time you are being, when you speak, you a being of service to someone. Yeah. So what I want you to do is find that one person, one person in a sea of thousands of people that could most benefit from your message and speak to only them . Now when I would sell a mock , I remember selling a mop and bucket and the bucket had this division in the middle and you put them up in the clean water and would squeeze it out and then you drink it in the other side and that somehow separated dirty from plain . I can't remember how you did it. It took me a while . I was like, Oh, and I had to demonstrate it on set on the linoleum that they lay down on the floor and I thought, wow, this is quite complicated, but actually who would really love this? Who would love it? And I was starting to think of the avatar that one person, and I was thinking, how old would they be? What would they look like? What would their home look like in a house by blah, blah, blah. They like to systematize things. They like to have great control over how they use things. I really pictured who it was and I was like, I've got it. I could speak with utmost conviction and passion to that one person and that get the message through. Yeah. And cause I'm thinking like who is, who is the stage or what is the stage? And so I'm thinking like the stage could be a client, one, one client that you have, you know, like let's say you're a realtor. Like your stage could be your, your client. Like how are you going to know them? How are you going to speak to them? How are you going to connect with them? Right. So this doesn't always have to just be, I'm, you're speaking to people in front of who are talking in front of a hundred people. No, not at all. Between one and a thousand. It can be one in one in a meeting room or one to three or one to a thousand on a global stage. Right, right. So it's really , it is about that confidence in voice. No matter, no matter the stage, no matter the audience. Right. It can be small, it can be large. And I think maybe I didn't, I didn't really think of that until we just were talking about it now. I was thinking like, you know, getting in front of a group of people or you know, being in front of a television camera, you know, but at least we speak our message every single day, every single day we're always on a platform. Right, right, right. Absolutely. Picking up the kids, she has a platform. So, which is why also I want people to speak authentically. You really deeply grounded to a cellular level in their message and when you can find the language that fits you, that's authentically you and them and repeat it over and over so that you can actually ingrain it in your muscle memory, then you're able to speak organically from that place of deep centeredness . That's what we want. We don't want these , you know, canned pinash opted charisma baby. Yeah. Crafted charisma that that sounds like, cause everybody you talk to is like, what's your elevator speech? And I'm like, I don't have an elevator speech. Like, I don't, you know, because I, I've never really like latched onto that idea that I need to have a speech, but I black form yet . That's right. And you can have a deeply anchored message. Yes. The world I like deeply anchored. I love that. I'm writing that down too. In your gut. It sits down in your gut. It's where thoughts and ideas meet emotions. And I say on my website by the way, which I'm redoing at the moment, but , um, it's where passion, it's a tumultuous say with passion and emotion. Um, sit and toss around together. And when they all meet and connect beautifully, that's when your message comes together and you can speak it and share it. So what does that feel like in your gut when it comes together? It feels, you know, that feeling of it , of it just, it just sits, it just sinks in. It's right. It's that intuitive knowing I've got it. This is me. This is right. Because I, when I think about that, like I don't think I have a deeply anchored message , um, because when I think about my message or talk about it, like my stomach flips. So I know that I don't have a deeply anchored message. Right. Or a message that , um, I don't know that maybe I'm like rooted in, like you said, like, because , cause I think in my profession there's a lot of expectations about, about who I should be or how I should practice. And so I feel like rogue sometimes, you know, like, like I , I gotta please this group and then I got to please this group, but I need to do that because that's what gives me the stomach flip in the like over here, I don't want to be over here. So it gives me, you know, the stomach thing, you know, I think it's about getting in touch with your why, like the goddess of the audience. What is your, why, right? Your calling in this world is it to bring greater happiness to the planet. And so regardless of who your client is or who your audience is, if you can anchor to that, why , then the way you go about it doesn't matter. That's the beat you've got to , you'll work out and , but your why is always the same. Yeah. Yes. And yeah, as you're saying that, I'm like my why is to end suffering around , um, traditional medicine. Like that is my why and there's just too much suffering. So however I do that is, and it's funny, I just said that and my stomach stopped turning there . You got it. Weird. That's weird. That why. And then it's the how, how you go about doing that in some way , feel better and maybe you're tossing around in the house and that's upsetting you, but keep coming back to you why and then looking forward about how I'm going to , and you can have several house . Sure. How you going to do that. Right. Thank you. That was very helpful. I feel like I had a , a therapy session with you. Yeah, exactly. I just have a question. Do you miss being on the television? I do actually. Yeah, I do. I really do. It was a , you know , it was high vibe. It was exciting. You know, live television was great. Prerecorded stuff was great cause you film it as if it is live camera action sound guy, three cameras supporting host products that go wrong. You know, I blooper reels that were making cracking up, you know, it's, it's great. And you know , places that I saw on the people that I worked with. Absolutely. But now I'm really working like I have a group coaching program called experts speak and where we um , it's a three months training program where people are wanting to find their voice and be able to deliver that, share their message with effortless confidence and overcome all of that crap that , that has plagued them for years with public speaking, impostor syndrome, all of that stuff. And I get to work with people so deeply and that is really enriching. Yes, it's a Tridell . While his TV was fun and buzzy and high vibe, this is really deeply connecting and there's some massive breakthroughs for people because there's many reasons why out we struggle without voice. It sits around our communication shocker . Where we can't speak. And B , we don't feel that we can be fully expressed because we've learned over our lifetime to dull down DML cells , soften our light, squish ourselves , high down message, not believe in ourselves. And what I do is peel back the layers and enable people to find their true stance and their true message and bring it forward. It's very empowering. I love it . I love it. So, you know, I think , uh , well I'm not sure if my listeners know, but we have some stuff in common cause I used to work in television and uh, yeah, so I used to, I was an intern at good morning America years ago and yeah. And then I made television commercials , um, for several years after that. And it's funny because I'm like, wow, this podcast kinda went back to my broadcasting roots and then, yeah. Yeah. I mean how things go full circle. Yes. Well, because back in the day when I was doing all this, the equipment was so large. Like I just couldn't schlep it all around anymore. It was like carrying around a small Volkswagen or something every day. You know, now I've got this tiny webcam and I've got a little microphone over here and I can interview people like you across the world. You know, it's , it's fascinating. So I can't, I can't wait to see more videos that you have. Um, yeah. And right. And so how can people get ahold of you? So my website is Sam, presents.com. Dot. AAU . Um, you can check me out over there, but it's about to have a big upgrade and I'm going to sassy it up a bit and in fact I might use that old things up , up the , what was it? Old things. Public speaking goddess . Oh yes. Yeah, the goddess of all things public speaking. Yeah, because it's funny cause I have been in this transition period and it's like, what do I call myself now? Right , right. To be nice . And I was , uh , you know , worked as a voiceover artist for years. I've been the voice hole . I haven't been the brand harping the voice hole , you know , I've sold every ripe over radio or I've sold all sorts of thing . Dog food and sit up . Yeah . People often recognize my voice. Um, but not go , I know your voice. I know . Right. So people can find [email protected] Dot. AAU because I am in Australia. Yeah, just shoot me a message. All right . And so anyone listening here, if you need to get clear on your message and really want that deeply anchored message that Sam was talking about, she is your gal. Um, and all of her contact information will be in the show notes as well. Do you have a free download or anything that you want to share with anyone yet ? Well, gosh, it's coming. It's coming up. Maybe by the time this is done , um , it'll be there. So , okay. So , um , we'll have whatever she's got, we will have available for you in the show notes as well. So do you have anything else you'd like to share before we sign up? Look, I just want to say to everybody that your message matters. Yes. Everybody's story matters and it helps build the fabric of this world and everybody is yearning and seeking out a deeper connection, a deeper understanding. And it's stories and messages like yours and mine that helped create the fabric of our world. So please know that just as you are is enough. And even if you start with just a whisper, start sharing your story, start putting words to your message and believe that your stance on things is enough. You are not aiming for people to agree with you. You're just aiming to stand true in what you believe. I love it. That's a great place to end. Thank you so much everyone. This was Sam Buckingham and yes, thank you all for joining us and um, yeah, we look forward to talking again soon. Thanks Sam. Thank you.

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