The Wonder Of Life

Acceptance: When it's time to let someone or something go

January 10, 2019 Season 1 Episode 7
The Wonder Of Life
Acceptance: When it's time to let someone or something go
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The Wonder Of Life
Acceptance: When it's time to let someone or something go
Jan 10, 2019 Season 1 Episode 7
Nat Rich
How to let go of situations that are too painful
Show Notes Transcript

If you have had to let someone go or to move away from a situation in your life that seems too hard to handle then you may find this useful. 

I felt that the first week of the new year was the right time to do a podcast on acceptance so we can start our new years off to a flying start. I really believe that acceptance is one of the hardest things to achieve for painful situations. But when we do accept what comes after is amazing. It's the true power within.

Enjoy ;-) 

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My name's net and you're listening to the wonder of life before getting comfortable. Please make sure that your phone is switched to do not disturb, and if you're in a room that the door is closed, if anyone else is around you, ask them kindly to not interrupt you or ask them to join you. This is your time to relax and to wonder about life from a place of peace. Make sure you're comfortable and warm and cozy. Get yourself settled and relaxed. We're gonna. Tune into the breath. We'll do the first breaths using only the nose, but before taking your first breath, please be aware that where you breathe in with your nose, your stomach should inflates. If it doesn't, it means you need to correct it, breathing through the nose, deep into the stomach or relaxed you so breathing through the nose, watching the belly rise, and then lower is the way to do it. Let's start one more time in through the nose,:
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You're now ready to wonder about life. Acceptance is sometimes hard when we're trying to accept something that we don't agree with. Maybe it's something we don't want to accept. Maybe it's something in ourselves or something we have to accept about someone else that's difficult, but acceptance nonetheless is important for our own growth aspiring Katie that talks about acceptance and saves to us, if we argue with reality, will lose every time. The reason that she says this is because it's our resistance to accepting our current situation that causes us the most suffering generally in life. What we resist somehow persists and it seems to be a neverending story when we're trying to get over something. Usually someone that we really struggle on letting go. Letting go is one of the hardest. We have to do the in the letting go. There's an energy. There's a new power and a new presence that comes to us that strengthens us.:
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When we create our boundaries and we're willing to let something go that no longer serves our source of temporary suffering, so suffocating us. That's when we really have the magic to let go. If we can let go in that moment, we can find peace holding onto something than trying to keep hold of someone or something. In your life that just doesn't fit right now is hard. I've personally done this myself, unfortunately on more than one occasion. On the latest occasion I held onto the love I had for someone for such a long time. They didn't. They transformed it into something else, but I couldn't let go of my dream. I wanted it to be that person. I wanted the magic and the connection that we once had, but I can't say the same for them. I held on and held on and held on and every time I held on it cause me more pain.:
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When I decided to let go almost probably two years ago, he was one of the most freeing moments of my life. Almost immediately of letting go of someone. Someone else popped up and there lie in my numerical. This was the new person that was coming into my life to teach me something else and something better, but that also turned out to be an education in learning to let go and accept the situation. I went from finding someone that rejected me, that didn't know how to be with me, to someone that wanted me, but he just wasn't the right time. It was difficult, but on both occasions I just needed to let go. I needed to create boundaries for myself to find someone that aligned with me and that loved me in the way that I loved them, but what I really found was it doesn't matter about the other person.:
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If you learn to love yourself, you don't need love from another person. Yes, you might want the attention and you'd like commitment and you also liked to have the communication, but when you have real love for someone, he actually comes from you. It doesn't come from the external source and you only find genuine, real love. When you've learned to accept even the toughest of situations. Now, it's not easy learning to accept someone that doesn't want you or to accept a situation that isn't quite what you wanted it to be, but the longer that you try and struggle with that situation or manipulate into something he doesn't want to be, the harder it is to work with. Learning to let go is a great gift and funnily enough, it's one of the most simple things we need to do in order to let go. It requires us to have faith, faith in something we have never seen faith in, something that might be on its way to us.:
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Faith in a higher power, faith that this situation isn't our greatest goal and that something beyond it is even greater. Something that can transform us in ways that we never knew, imagined, or even possibly thought could be for us, but trust me on the other side of letting go and on the other side of just acceptance, I found the best version of me. The depth that you understand within yourself when you've learned to let go and the acceptance that you have for all situations pretty much revolves around you. Learning to be patient, patience is something I'll talk about in the future, but just for now, it is indeed a virtue and it shapes you. It'll turn you into the best version of yourself and learning to be patient allows the good things to come into your life. I really want to stress here though that acceptance sometimes does feel counterintuitive.:
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Acceptance doesn't mean that you're giving up. It's not a weakness to learn to accept something. You shouldn't accept someone for bullying you or for being mean to you all. Accept someone for not giving you the respect you deserve or the communication that you deserve, but when there's nothing else you can do about a situation and you've done all that you can to align with what it is that you want, but it's still not happening. Letting go in that moment and trusting that there's another higher power at play. Bringing new exactly what you need and at the right time is brave. It's definitely, definitely not a weakness. The way to truly accept is to resist nothing. Nothing at all. If you can learn to fully accept a situation regardless of what shows up for you and just to be at peace with everything, then you're living in a magical world really to accept a situation even if it's one you don't like, and to know that it's just temporary as everything is and that nothing lasts and everything changes.:
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Soon you'll see that what you didn't like moves past and sometimes the hardest things need to move through us. They're designed to break us down to help us see who we really are and it's something most of us don't like, but if you go against the crowd and you find your own path of acceptance is magical. When you truly accept something, you learn to be more compassionate. You can forgive. I'll give you an example. When I truly learned to accept the situation that the man I loved daily, they don't want me in the same way that I wanted him and I truly learned to let go. My forgiveness came flying through the door. I had no hate for him. I understood the situation. I understood that for reasons that I couldn't see or that didn't yet know of that there was something even greater lying in my path.:
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I started to forgive him. I started to forgive all the things that used to annoy me about him. I stopped hating him for not wanting me. Sounds crazy, but it's true. I stopped getting angry at the thought of him with someone else. I just let him go by letting him go. It didn't mean I stopped loving him because when you really love someone, it never ever ends. Only gets deeper and sometimes it transforms into something else and sometimes you just need to wait until something else happens, but for me, I knew at that time it wasn't the right thing for me. Right then I needed to move on and behind me hanging on there. I was waiting for myself the whole time. I've been single for 10 years on the seventh of February, 2019, and I thank him right now for not choosing me. I accepted fully that he rejected me and I accepted it.:
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I embraced it and I moved on and what I learned in that process was the most magical thing I've ever learned about myself in the acceptance I fully learned to love myself and yes, occasionally there's things I don't like, but on a whole I accept who I am. I understand who I am and why I'm here and the power that that holds, and I know when I celebrate my 10 year anniversary with myself, I can stand there and say, I fully accepted being single. I engaged with being single. I saw all of my fears, all of my dramas, all of my ego traits, all of my habits, all of my understandings, and I fully, fully grasped who I was and I would never ever have been able to do that without being rejected by him. So as much as it hurt in the moment, it was one of the most magical gifts he could have ever given to me. I wouldn't be where I am now if he hadn't rejected me and that I fully accept and I love him even more for that gift. Trust me, when I say acceptance is the most powerful thing you have, you can accept any situation that comes into your life. When you accept it, you learn to look at it differently. You relax, you have a different perception and you become very, very strong within yourself.:
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I truly believe that we all have a greater level of acceptance within us and it's something that you do personally, something you do on your own. Usually acceptance just slowly comes and goes. If there's a big dramatic acceptance for something, it might feel like a relief, that true acceptance, you hardly notice it. It's just one day you realized that you fully accept the situation. It's calm, it's relaxing, doesn't require any thoughts. It just happens. There's nothing exciting about accepting something. You just know that it's the right thing for you to do. Thank you for listening to the wonder of life.:
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