You know you’re on solid tribe status with someone when you don’t feel like you have to clean up, put on makeup, or wear real pants for them. They’re the people that first come to mind when you’re excited to tell someone something. You don’t have to be anything other than you and they’ll tell you when there’s something gnarly in your teeth at dinner. When you’re with these people, you feel energized and your tank is filled. These are the people you want to surround yourself with. The relationship comes so naturally that the connection feels effortless most of the time.
However, there are also people in your life that are energy-suckers. These could be people that are temporarily in your life (like a customer) or they could be more permanent residents (like a family member). As tough as it is, it’s ok to let negative people go. This is way easier said than done and can cause a whole avalanche of emotions, but as a human - you have the right to say who can and can’t be in your life.
The big hairy question is: How do you part ways? Do you send a box of chocolates that says, "It’s not me, it’s you"? Or go silent and never respond? I wish I could give you the secret recipe for ditching shitty relationships, but this isn’t a one-size fits all scenario. In one case you may just silently drift apart. If it’s a client or someone you’re doing business with, there’s a tactful way to help them on to their next success (give them files, give them references for other service providers like yours, etc.).
Attracting and maintaining your tribe is an essential part of your business journey. The best way to do so is simply by being who you are, regardless of who is around. Your energy is like a magnet and you’ll attract the love and support of the ones that appreciate you for who you are. Be transparent, go places you enjoy, do activities that you love… like-minded people tend to flock together.
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