Imagine standing on the edge of a transformative journey, one that could not only repair a crumbling marriage but completely overhaul your entire life. That's precisely the journey our brave guest, Nathan, embarked on. He shares an intensely raw and inspiring discussion about self-discovery, growth, and the power of accepting personal flaws. Nathan's story serves as a potent reminder that the power to change lies within us; it is not about changing the people or circumstances surrounding us, but about changing ourselves.
Nathan didn't just revitalize his failing marriage; he transformed his life in only 60 days. He encourages each listener to take full ownership of their actions, reactions, and intentions. Through his journey, you'll gain profound insights about self-respect, self-improvement, and the power of personal responsibility. Nathan's journey is not just about redemption; it's about the ongoing commitment to becoming a better version of oneself every single day. So, join us as Nathan uncovers the power within you to create a life of success, happiness, and fulfillment.
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As a man who preaches consistency and action and doing all the hard things, I failed my wife and my family. We talked, as we were just talking a few minutes ago. We were talking about, you know, the things that you're dealing with and that affect your marriage, right? And so I think that so many times that we look at the external problems of like who is creating us? You know, we look at our marriage and we're like well, sometimes, a lot of times, we blame our spouse. We begin to see bad things in our job or the way our kids are acting, the way our spouse is acting, and it just reminds me of a place that I was in just a couple of months ago. I'm newly married. In fact, at this point, we'd been married for nine months and my marriage was crumbling around me and I could not figure out what was happening. Like, I do a ton of self work I think I'm probably a little bit prideful in that but I could not figure out why, how my marriage had gotten to such a rough place in such a short amount of time. And through this process of month after month, my wife would say to me like, hey, you lack consistency. Hey, this, this, and I always took them as pride, like my pride would take it as an attack on me, like why is she? Why is she talking to me this way? Why is she putting me down? And there was this moment that I just sat with myself and I said what if you are the problem? What if it is you? And then I began to think a little bit deeper. Is it? No matter who you're around, no matter if your wife has issues, your kids are disobedient, people are disobedient in your workplace, no matter what is happening around you in the external, the only thing that you can take responsibility for is you. I can't control nobody. I can't get anybody to do what I want. I can't stop anybody from disrespecting me. It doesn't matter what is going on around you. The only thing that you can fix is you.
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And so in that moment, I decided to take complete ownership of my life. I decided to realize all of my flaws that were truly holding me back. I decided to face my pride and my ego head on and to say whatever people are saying about me, whatever my wife is telling me about myself, maybe I should listen. Maybe I should try to find truth in those words and begin to search myself, search my heart, search my intentions and see what I find. And through that period of discovery, I found a lot of flawed areas in myself. I began to journal them down.
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What are the things, nathan, that are holding you back from being a good husband, nathan? What are the things that you're doing that is making your marriage the way it is, nathan? What are you doing that is not leading your kids properly, nathan? What is it that you're doing that is creating scarcity in your mind financially? And so I began to compile a list. I'll tell you that being truthful and honest with yourself is one of the hardest things to do as a man. Oftentimes, we like to hide behind the pride and the ego we inflate ourselves to make ourselves look good in front of other people, to act like we got it all together, but the truth is that you don't have to have it all together. It's okay to be where you are, but it's not okay to stay where you are.
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And so I went through this period of discovery and decided that I would no longer be this man that I had been, that if I changed me. What if it changed my marriage? If I changed me? What if it changed the quality of father that I could be, and so, through this process, I began to intentionally line out details of my life that needed to change the way I reacted to things, and I committed to a better version of myself. Every single day, I made a list, I made a checklist, I counted the days, I counted the tasks, I journaled the reactions, the flaws, the mishaps, the successes and, through this, within just 60 days of commitment, completely turned my marriage around. Not because my wife changed, but because I changed. Not because my kids started acting differently, but because I reacted differently. My financial situation completely overhauled in less than 60 days. My entire life has transformed in 60 days because of the complete ownership of myself, my reactions, my thought processes, my intentionality, and so a major message that I have for every man out there is that whatever is happening in your life that you don't like, stop pointing fingers, stop placing blame, stop being the victim and begin to take full ownership and accountability. The only thing that you have in your life is ownership and accountability of you. Take care of you, take ownership of you, and your entire life will transform in a short period of time, and you'll notice that people will treat you differently, people will talk to you differently.
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In fact, one of the major loveliness which is of men is Respect. I think that every man can can relate to desiring respect, and I promise you there are people in your life that you feel like are disrespecting you. But let me ask you this question Do you respect yourself? You can't expect anybody to respect you if you don't respect yourself. And so what is self-respect? Look like? It means that you take care of yourself first. It means that you prioritize your own health. It means that you make you the best version of you.
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And so when you begin a path and a journey of self-respect Putting yourself first, taking care of your health, taking care of your wealth, taking care of yourself All the sudden people start to respect you more. You become a respectful man because you decided to respect yourself first, through the action, the commitment, the consistency that it takes to earn respect for yourself. And what happens when you respect yourself? Your confidence increases. Your confidence increases and all of a sudden, your life begins to change in front of your eyes, based upon one big decision To be the best damn version of you that you could ever be, every single day. It doesn't mean you're perfect. It doesn't mean that You're gonna slip up, you're gonna fall, you're gonna make mistakes, but it means that, whatever you are today, tomorrow you should be striving for the next best version of you physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, relationally and financially. Every single day of your life is a commitment to being your best, every single day.