Ready for a hard-hitting reality check? This episode delivers a powerful wakeup call about the impact of your actions and beliefs on your life and those around you. We discuss the ripple effect of the choices we make every day, particularly the decision to stay in a job we hate. We highlight how this not only erodes your mental health but also negatively affects your family and other people in your sphere of influence.
But don't despair; we also offer a roadmap to change. We delve into how action and consistency are the real game changers and how they can help reshape your self-perception and ultimately, your life. We dissect why your belief system is critical and how it influences your life's trajectory, and underline why taking control of your actions is the key to becoming the best version of yourself. Tune in to understand how you can tap into your potential and start making better choices for yourself and those around you. Find out how to unlock your true potential through consistent action and leave a lasting positive influence on the people in your life.
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I am strong, I am confident, I am successful, I am worthy. Let's be real, guys. That shit ain't gonna change you. By actually staying in a job that you hate, you're not just harming yourself, you're harming your family, you're harming your kids.
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I think that men oftentimes underestimate the influence that they'll have in their entire lifetime. One thing I like to tell men is this is that you may not have a lot of friends, or maybe you have a small family, or maybe you have a small workspace, but you interact with people on a day to day basis, and if you look at the compound interest of you interacting with people every single day for the next 30 years, you will have some sort of influence, either good or bad, on your family and the people around you. And every single person that you touch, every single person you interact with, will have an influence on you, either positive or negative. And if you hate your life, you hate your job, you hate your circumstances, you're not in a place that you feel freedom and that you feel peace. You're not just affecting yourself. Your life has a responsibility and it has a repercussion to every single person that you touch, and so what influence are you going to have on the people around you. Is it going to be positive or negative? If you're in a job that you hate, I promise you you're probably going to be an asshole to your wife and you're not going to be good for your kids. There's a point of view that has resentment towards yourself for settling for beating, being mediocre, for not doing the things that you love, and that resentment you have towards yourself you actually take out on your wife and your kids and the other people around you. It's not just harbored within you. Your actions are actually speaking out towards the people around you and it's influencing them.
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So what kind of legacy are you going to live? What will people say about you? What influence would you have on people? What were your kids say about you? You owe it not just to yourself, but to everybody around you and the thousands of people that you will touch and influence, to be the best version of yourself and to make choices that are the best for you, because you'll be a better man if you do. Would you be proud of where it ended?
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If the termination point is today, would I be happy with the effort I put in to be where I'm at, because either you're somewhere on the scale of like okay for me right now. If I were to die today, I could say with confidence that I would be happy with the man that I've become, with the battles that I've fought, how I've fought them and the desire to be the best for my husband and my kids and the people around me. I could say that with honest truth. There are probably times in my life that I could not say that, but I think that's an honest assessment that you need to ask yourself is if you were to die today, would you be proud of the man that you've become and the path that you're on? Would you be proud of the husband that you've been, or at least the growth and desire to grow in that? Not that you're perfect, but you've been on a path of being better? Would you be happy with the way you've traded your children? Would you be happy with what you've done in your job and your career that has left an impact on other people? If the answer is no, then you need to find what that thing is, what that growth path is, what that distance is in order to get you to the place in which you need to be, that you've been called to be, and truthfully, that's my whole life mission. My whole life mission is to help men to find their purpose, to help them get out of the job that they hate, to help them to move from a place of hating their physical body, being miserable, feeling no energy, to thriving with confidence and energy, because I know that so many men struggle in this area of their life and I know the truth of what happens when you decide to change.
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One of the number one things that holds men back from being the best version themselves is the belief in themselves. Most men have really terrible belief systems about themselves. They don't believe that they're capable of achieving what they see other men achieve. There's an internal belief system that you can look at like a thermostat that actually prevents you. You hit that ceiling, that glass ceiling, where you feel like you can't get any farther, and it's because what you have in your life, the condition of everything in your life, and the things that you own are all a replication or a magnification of the belief you have about yourself. And so if you look at your surroundings, you look at everything in your life, from your wife, your kids, your house, everything you have and there's discontent. It's because that your belief system has led you to where you are and you believe that you're only worthy of what you have.
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The only difference between an unsuccessful person and a successful person is the change of a belief system. But the thing about a belief system is that you can't just shout affirmations in the mirror and change who you are. You can't just walk into a mirror and look at yourself and say I'm confident, I'm worthy, I'm strong, and that change you. It won't change you, truthfully it won't. But there is one thing that will change you, because I can't control your belief. You can't control your belief. What you can control is your action, and here's what happens. This is why action and consistency are so important in your life and how it will change everything about you, from the success you have to the quality of your marriage, to everything in your life.
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If I can get you to take more action consistently in your life, you'll all of a sudden start to get better results. Think about this If right now, you're working out one to two days a week and you're seeing very minimal results, your results are a replication of your action. You're taking one to two days to work out, you're putting in minimal effort and you're getting pretty lousy results. But if I tell you, hey, what if you were to double that and work out four days a week? All of a sudden, working out four days a week would provide a better result. Now watch this.
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When all of a sudden you get a better result, you start to change a belief about yourself that says, oh, I can do this, oh, I am seeing progress. When you start to change your belief system, you tap more into your potential, which we all have unlimited potential. There's nothing that you can't do, right. So we all have the same potential. But when I tap into more action, I get better results. When I get better results, I have a better belief in myself. I tap more into my potential, which creates me to take more action. And all of a sudden, more action gets better results. And all of a sudden, I'm on this uphill climb and my belief system is transforming along the way. This is how you change your belief system. It can't be done by shouting affirmations. It can't be done by someone pouring into you. You have to take the action every single day, consistently, and that will change the way you think about yourself and change the ultimate success of your life.