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Coffee with a Twist!
Coffee with a Twist!
From Traffic Jams to Purposeful Conversations: Navigating Everyday Adventures and Dilemmas
Have you ever given thought to the expiration dates at grocery stores or pondered the difference between street vendors and panhandlers? We have, and we're getting into the nitty-gritty of these everyday topics. We're also digging deep into how the simplest actions can create ripples in our lives and the importance of purposeful conversations. So, come join us for a chat that promises to be as insightful as it is enjoyable!
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Hey guys, welcome to coffee. With the twist, you are here with madam balloon. I hope everyone had a great week, looking forward to a great weekend Uneventful weekend, I Feel like as you get older, uneventful is good. You just kind of want to chill. You don't want any surprises. Um, yeah, my week's been pretty good. I've had a very productive week. I'm pretty proud of myself With work and real estate etc. Life. But yes, I know I haven't been on in a while. Just trying to catch up. The past couple of weekends I have been extremely busy.
Speaker 1:My one cousin, she, graduated from high school. She's gonna be going to James Madison for college so we went to Virginia Beach area to celebrate that. She had a big party so we went down and celebrate it with her. Just wanted to be a part of it, show support. Had an excellent time down there. I wish actually I could have stayed longer.
Speaker 1:We ran into a lot of traffic going down so it cut into a sum of our time so should have took us, you know, a little under four hours, end up taking us about five hours To get there. So that was a little tiresome, mainly because you're in traffic that stop and go, you're more tense and up, but it was a great drive down. We had a couple of passengers, so it was really nice and my son stayed home with his grandmother so Gave us time to like relax a little. And we drove back that night With no traffic, a pretty easy drive and Magic 102.3 was jamming on the radio. So my sister-in-law was able to drive back with no problem. When we went to go to commercial we would just talk to her, keep her alive and awake. But yeah, it was a nice time. And then last weekend more of an unfortunate note we did go out of town again into the Richmond area.
Speaker 1:A good friend of mine who was more like you know, like another mom I think I've told you guys before majority of my friends are in their 60s, so they're my friend, but you know we have great relationships. But her husband had a very tragic sudden death back in April so we were down at War Memorial Park to have his memorial service. He was cremated. So we went down there definitely to show our support and my husband is awesome, he did drive us down. I drove us back, but he drove us down, him and Eli, and they went off at the flea market and things like that Just found stuff to do while we were there to support my friend, my mom and I, which was really nice of him, even though I know he wanted to be a part of the memorial service. But my son isn't gonna sit for that, even though of course my friend said that he could be there. But I didn't want my son to be not I say disrespectful, but he's a kid, so wouldn't really be that he's trying to be disrespectful, but he wouldn't have sat there that long, he would have got restless and just having a little tantrum. So I didn't want that. So Jason was nice enough to drive me down, so I wouldn't have to drive down and back up on my own and take care of Eli as well. So I definitely appreciated that Because regardless, I was going and I didn't really want to spend the night, but anyways.
Speaker 1:So yeah, the past two weekends has been that, and then I feel like three or four weeks ago I was busy with stuff too. Really can't remember, that's my brain, but anyway. So it's summer, it's been hot, it's been very hot. We did do a couple of pool days. I want to do another pool day with Eli. He loves the pool. He is well deserving of it. So probably tomorrow or even this evening might take him to the pool, let him hang out. The problem is, when you go to the pool with Eli, be prepared to be there Because rather, if he's cold or not, he's going to be in that pool. So and it takes two of us because he'd be swirming and worming, he don't want to leave. So I mean needing my husband's strength to be like okay, so we'll see if we go tonight when he gets out of school or out of daycare, or tomorrow or even Sunday, but yeah, so definitely some pool days.
Speaker 1:So yesterday Jason was in the Winchester area and it was this guy on the side of the road selling like coconuts and fruit things like that. So we were talking about coconuts literally like a few days before. So he was like, okay, when I get finished with my appointment, I'm going to go back, circle back and get them. So he said by the time he got there the police had shut the guy down, unfortunately, and it's literally sad. Again, you guys know my podcast and about politics or anything, but I just got to say I get don't get me wrong, I get like safety issues and things like that and by, but you know it's buyer beware to a degree and I get certain things when they're selling like that without permits or whatever they say, it's not controlled. But even with a permit you know what I'm saying You're not inspecting the fruit every time that person goes out there and things like that. I mean shit.
Speaker 1:You go into the grocery stores and lately and guys not to like derail make sure you check the expiration dates. So normally I don't, you know, it's one of those things. I guess it's in our head where it's like oh, it's from the grocery store they stock, they have inventory management. Oh my God, I have purchased so many things in the last few months and they be expired. And I'm not saying expired from like let's say this is July, today's July, what 14?
Speaker 1:For instance, I brought like a thing of cereal at the store last week, forgot like I have been checking expiration dates, but that day I guess I was like rushing, I don't know Didn't check it. Get home Yesterday I went to go eat it, mind you, like I said I brought this last week, went on Monday, I was gonna eat some. I looked and I said let me something said. Look at the date. It expired back in April, don't get me wrong and then you'll have those people at expiration dates. Don't mean this and that I get it. I understand.
Speaker 1:But if I'm buying something I at least wanna buy it fresh. And if I let it expire and then eat it, that's a different, in my mind anyway. It's different. I didn't go in the store to spend all that money on this thing of cereal at full price, mind you for it to be expired. So make sure that you are checking your, your expirations on everything. And if you're anything like me, I at least wanna buy it before the expiration date, even if I let it expire and I choose to eat it at home. That's on me. But I'm not paying full price Because there are stores you can get expired stuff and it's discounted and some people that works for them. I'm not saying anything's wrong with expired food in that way, but I'm paying full price at a regular grocery store and it's no good it. You know if you're going by the sales date.
Speaker 1:So, anyways, I say that to say, like you know, yeah, the stores have expired food or rotten food and they're getting on this guy who's selling us fresh fruits and vegetables and stuff out there Because he didn't have a permit and I'm, I get, I get the rules, I understand that. But it's like would you, I rather Him stand there and do that Fresh fruit, whatever? Then these panhandlers that and I'm not saying all panhandlers are Drug addicts or anything like that, so I'm not like Trying to make it seem like they're bad, because some they're not, it's just they're doing what they can. But I could see, at least, when I'm giving my money to get this fruit or this coconut or whatever, at least I'm getting something in return. And they're out there trying to make a living. You know what I mean versus the person that you might give money to, the panhandling, might give money to today and you're still want to see them out there tomorrow because they just this is their way of life, you know.
Speaker 1:So it was kind of sad, but you know, whatever it is what it is. But my husband's like man, I should have stopped early. He said he tried to get it. But the guy was like no, definitely obeyed the rules and what the officer you know told them. You know like no more selling and he did it. My husband tried and he's like nope, can't do it. But it's just like really sad when you see someone trying, it's like, but you don't arrest the panhandlers and it's because I get, because they're not selling anything. But still, you know it is what it is. I don't really have an opinion one way or the other, but I just thought, like, if the panhandlers can do it, why can't them? I get, I know the difference is that one is selling something, but that's when I feel the buyer beware comes into it but whatever. Yeah, it's just, it's crazy, but it was. You know, it's nice to see someone out there trying to make their money. You know the best that they can.
Speaker 1:But anyways, that's not my full topic but one of my topics, and that probably will break it up because, again, as you know, my podcast, my episodes are only a few, maybe like 30 minutes, 15 minutes, sometimes, sometimes an hour. I think I've had a couple that might have been like 40 minutes, 45 minutes, just depends on what we're talking about. But anyways, do you have like people in your life and they might not be in your life, like strong or like a lot, et cetera? But I have found that the older that I'm getting and I'm not that old, but the older I'm getting, I'm realizing I don't enjoy talking to everyone. Some people my dog is like right here in my face. I'm in the basement watching some Jack Ryan and my Layla is right here, so sorry to derail, so she wants a little rub, rub, rub, okay.
Speaker 1:So I have realized that there are some people that I truly don't enjoy talking to. I talk to them if I have to and even when I do, it's like needles in the eyes, like it's like you wanna talk to people that the conversation is purposeful. Does that make sense? Is anyone else in that phase in their life right now where it's like you're not talking about anything? So why am I talking to you? And I guess it also depends on the setting you're in cause.
Speaker 1:I'm sure everyone has these type of people in their lives rather than if it's a family friend, acquaintance, where some people you have, they just call you to bragging boasts maybe, and what they're bragging boasting about is like nothing. You know what I mean. Like it's like huh, and they don't make sense half the time. It's like I've always heard the statements like they always would say. Like I might be getting the quote wrong, so I won't even try to quote it. But those situations where they're like the people who like pull up in their Mercedes and dress into like the best or whatever, and they're typically the ones that don't really have any cash flow, versus the person that has, like might be driving like a Toyota or whatever, dressing pretty normal, maybe shopping at Costco or wherever they typically have a cash flow and the odor I get. Oh my God, that statement is so real.
Speaker 1:Like you don't have to brag if you got it you know what I'm saying Like typically people who are doing well for themselves. It doesn't show in the fancy clothes and stuff. It just shows in other ways. I don't really know how to describe it, but it shows. But in other ways. You don't need to put your business out there and brag.
Speaker 1:But those people that want to brag and boast and you know you talk to these people you're just like you think you know so much and you know nothing. You know what I mean. It's like and it makes me laugh because it's like you're calling me to brag about something and it's like, again, I don't need to put out there what I do, don't do, make, not make this and that. So it's like you're choosing to call me because I guess you think I don't have or I don't, can't keep up with your conversation or you don't think I'm smart enough to know what you're talking about, which mind you have the shit that they're talking about that be completely wrong about. So it's just like, it's just so funny to me and I'm like, the older I get, the worse I'm getting, because I truly don't have the time to talk to those type of people I typically, especially in person, it's 10 times worse.
Speaker 1:I'm 10 times worse in person. My AC just went off so you don't hear the fan right now. I'm sure you guys are happy about that, but I'm just like. I'm just like you sound so stupid, like I said, the older I'm getting. Oh, so that's what I'm saying. And when I'm in person, like in person, it's much worse, cause I guess you can see my facial expressions.
Speaker 1:Like I'm like when you start talking and it's just not really going anywhere, it's not purposeful conversation. I just start moving on to something else. Like I move on, I, my attention span just doesn't allow me to deal with stupid people. So I'm starting to realize I don't enjoy everyone's company and you know, again a topic to discuss or to think about for yourself. Like, do you find yourself feeling the same? I'm 38, I'll be 39 this year. So you know, have you found yourself if you're in my age range, maybe even younger, I don't know maybe older Like do you find yourself in that same like dilemma? Like I just don't enjoy talking to you. You know, you have certain people, just you can deal with them in different type of settings.
Speaker 1:I feel like in life right now, at least where I'm at, it's like my life is busy, but busy more so around my kid. So it's not. You know, I have my busy days with work and things like that in life, but my normal life is pretty calm, which I like. That's what I got for myself, so I don't want BS and drama, I'm kind of. So. I'm at a stage where it's like, when you talk to me, let it be purposeful, because if more time you're wasting of mine is more, you're taking me away from my calm space, and not even just my calm space. You're taking me away from activities or something I can be doing for my kid. Like, I don't know, I don't know if my patience level is different, I don't know but if it's not purposeful, I'm just like, why are you talking to me and I get the normal banter or have some people over and you're just talking, you know, but some conversations just aren't. They're exhausting. Yeah, they're exhausting and I'm sure some of you guys listening you guys know what I'm talking about. I can't bottle it all up into words, but it's exhausting to deal with those type of people and I have found myself just like my circle was small as it is, but it's getting smaller and smaller as soon as it's just gonna be myself in it, you know.
Speaker 1:I just think you wake up one day and you're just like you're in, different. I think you go through different phases in life and dependent upon which I think I've said this in the past events in your life, milestones, things like that, actions and things that happen throughout your life make you could potentially makes you different, not saying that you're like a different person, like you're different than your normal self, but I think it makes you sit back and evaluate life yourself, your actions, your this, your that, because of life's events that have happened to you, for instance, some people. For instance, I lost my dad to me at a young age, even though it was in my 30s. It's you know. There's some people lost their dad, you know, or parent, either parent younger than what I'm even saying, but for me in the 30s to me is young. I expect it to be with my dad forever. You know, I know realistically, but I really always envision that I'll be like 50, 60, he'll be 70, 80, and we're like bitching at each other like we do the banter back and forth old age I'm trying to drive us around and things like that going to doctors and this and that. You know, that was kind of like my vision of me getting older with my dad.
Speaker 1:So I say that to say that particular event and being his caretaker and stuff for the four years that he was going through, you know, his stuff made me a different person today, not a different person, but my outlook on life is different than probably some people. My age in the sense of how I view life, how I might even view certain diseases, how I am with my kid, how, you know, if I didn't go through that, my outlook would be slightly different. Possibly Don't know, but I think so because some of the ways that I am is due to that, even some PTSD from it. I'm still getting through it. That's a whole nother topic I'll, you know, discuss with you guys one day, maybe in next couple episodes there is something with that that I would love to share with you guys. As you guys know, this is like my platform, that you guys are my outlet, but anyways, things like that you know. Then you know my dog passed away. I don't know if I told you guys that I think I did last time. Sorry I forget, but you know just different things, different life events. My son with a speech delay that makes my outlook different.
Speaker 1:It's just so many different things that can make your outlook different on life. Rather, if it's the type of person you're dating, or siblings, aunts, uncles, life turns. I mean, I've owned my home for many years, since I was my first. Home was a purchase. I've talked about this before. You can listen back at some of my old episodes, recordings I've been owning since I was 20 years old and you know I went through the crisis of, like the 2006 crisis and 2008 crisis of the. You know the economy and its fails and coming out of that, learning how to respect money a little bit better, like you know what I mean.
Speaker 1:So events happen and sometimes it happens to you younger than what you might feel it should or what you've heard. You know, even when you hear of, like, a parent dying, it's normally when a child is older, like typically. I'm not saying this is the norm or not norm, it's just that's just kind of your envision and what you hear. So I say that to say those events, all these events these are small ones. I'm just kind of trying to throw a couple out there to make my point.
Speaker 1:Events change your outlook. So my outlook may be the way it is now, with not talking to people that have purposeful conversation is because of things I've been through to where I'm like I don't have time. I don't have, I don't want to waste time on nothing, you know, on things without purpose. So not sure, not sure if anybody else goes through that or has gone through it, and if you have, think about it. Have this as a conversation to talk about this weekend, or just something for yourself, or like you might be wondering, man, this person me and this one person needs to be really cool. Why can't I stand them anymore? This might be why? Because they don't have purpose, but I won't take much more of your guys' time. Thank you so much for tuning in to Coffee with a Twist. Have a great weekend. I should be putting out some more episodes. I'm going to try to do another one here in the next couple of days, but have an excellent, excellent weekend. Thank you for listening. As always, you're here with Madame Belu, coffee with a Twist Bye.