Real Talk Parenting

Parenting looks simple from the outside until you’re the one trying to keep a tiny human safe, fed, respectful, and still yourself. We reunited the sisters on Coffee With A Twist for a real-family conversation about parenting styles, old school rules, and the modern parenting anxiety that comes with phones, social media, and nonstop headlines. Three of us are parents, one of us is the aunt watching it all, so you get both the “I live this every day” view and the honest judgment you sometimes hear before people have kids of their own. 

We get into the stuff parents debate in real life: discipline that actually works, whether taking electronics makes kids tighten up, and why one child might only respond when you pull the thing they truly love like swim. We talk routines, reward systems, picking battles, and the hard truth that kids can hurt your feelings without even realizing it. We also unpack how parenting decisions change when you’re thinking about safety, community trust, and childcare screening, including what feels different about in-home daycare versus centers where access is more controlled. 

Then we go deeper into what shaped us: what we wish our parents did differently, how fear and silence can backfire, and why being present matters more than throwing money at kids. We end with simple definitions of what a good parent is: sacrifice, understanding, and showing up, even when life makes it hard. If you care about parenting advice, discipline strategies, family boundaries, and modern parenting realities, this one will hit home. 

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Transcript

Welcome Back And Meet The Sisters

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Hey guys, welcome back to Coffee with a Twist. You're here with Madame Belou. I hope you had a great week, a great day, and looking forward to your weekend. I have such an exciting show for you guys tonight. A lot of you all have been asking for this, and um it's been years since I could get these lovely ladies back on, and um, they are here. So I have my sisters on to discuss parenting. Let me get them on. Hold on one second. Alright, guys, so I have started this episode. I kind of introduced you all. I um there have been people wanting us back, and mind you, we haven't done an episode together since I like first started doing this, and I think I'm going on like five years now, so I think people are gonna be really excited about this episode, and I had decided to have it on parenting and um parenting styles, old school, new school, how do you parent things that you know you swore you would never do, and just anything parenting. I got a couple of uh questions and things that I pulled up that I will ask, but um, like I tell anyone, including myself, this episode it goes out to many different platforms. So anything you don't feel comfortable speaking on, just say, hey, I don't feel comfortable. That is okay. Um, there's no judgment, no anything. So it's release what you feel comfortable with, what you you know don't mind. I say the world my podcast isn't that big, but just know it's out there. So, you know, whatever you feel comfortable with sharing, please share. Um, and yeah, and it's great. So I will let each of you introduce yourself the way that you want to, and we'll go from there. So whoever wants to start.

SPEAKER_02 2:17

Well, dang it. Uh uh. Okay, we can go in order.

SPEAKER_01 2:24

Yeah. After Madame Balloon. Yep.

SPEAKER_03 2:32

Melinda. I'm Melinda. I'm I'm I'm Melinda. I am K A Queen D. I don't know. Where am I in this line of people? I am like one in between, I guess, or after Tamika. Yeah. One or two after Tamika, because it's one of the two.

SPEAKER_00 2:54

You're the second, yeah, yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 2:57

Yeah. I'm the last, and Don't Bea, aka Queen B.

SPEAKER_00 3:02

Ooh. My favorite. My favorite. Yeah, everyone knows.

SPEAKER_01 3:09

Ridiculous.

SPEAKER_00 3:11

Um, don't be jealous. Yeah, just just don't be jealous. You just gotta deal with that. That's just how it's gonna be. Um, so we're gonna kind of jump in, but the great thing about the dynamics here is three of us are now parents, one of us are not, so it's kind of nice because we have an aunt on the phone, but also for myself, we're all aunts, yes, but I'm a late parent, so I was an aunt first, of course, and it's different being an aunt than being a parent, it's just how it is. So it's gonna be nice to get like different opinions and things, so definitely, Donzea, chime in, like even on what you see, you know, with us, or even yourself as you plan for your future or things that you may think about, the question still could, you know, impact you. Because I can assure you, I'm not the parent I thought I would be. Not even close. Not even close. It's just how it is, and then um, it's just you know, it's just how it is. Um, but are you guys drinking is anyone drinking anything? I'm drinking fresca tonight.

SPEAKER_03 4:38

No, that's fine. I had a beer, but now I'm upstairs. So nothing.

SPEAKER_00 4:43

That is that is a okay. So now that we got the band all back together for this episode, all right. So let's ask some questions and and you know, like just discuss parenting topics and and see where this, you know, ride takes us.

Parent Habits You Swore Off

SPEAKER_00 5:06

So yeah, you guys are like, what the heck? So what's what's one thing that your parents did that you swore you would never do, but now you catch yourself doing it. So I will start with Tamika.

SPEAKER_03 5:36

I need to think about it.

SPEAKER_00 5:40

Okay, Melinda.

SPEAKER_03 5:43

Forcing food. So I'll be pissed when when women used to make me eat food, like the Brussels sprouts and shit. I still remember that. So I've never wanted to be that parent that would force a child to eat food. I don't make them eat like vegetables and brussels sprouts, the stuff that she made me eat. But stuff I'm like chicken, you know how the little girl is. She don't like to eat meat. You need to try some chicken. I'll make her eat chicken. I'll be trying to catch myself, but I'm also like, man, you need to eat this food. The food is too expensive. I don't I still don't feel brussels sprouts should have been forced. Oh my gosh. But just me. So that's something that, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 6:26

That is fair. Um, that's a good one. Um, Donzea, as an aunt, of aunt perspective, or even for yourself in the future, you can even turn yours for like what is something that you swear you won't do as a parent that you you might have had done to you and in when you were younger.

SPEAKER_03 6:51

I always would say like discipline. I wouldn't be disciplining like him.

SPEAKER_04 6:57

Okay.

SPEAKER_03 6:57

But now that I see like how they are now, they need some kind of discipline. It doesn't need to be putting hands on, but I got you know, store.

SPEAKER_02 7:07

You know, they need to have some kind of fear in you, even though you're still the parent. Like respect, nothing.

SPEAKER_00 7:15

I gotcha, yeah, yeah. That's funny. She's like, now I see. She's like, these kids need some discipline.

SPEAKER_03 7:25

They're crazy. Talking is not enough. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 7:30

Sometimes, I don't even know. Sometimes even putting hands ain't even doing nothing. So it depends on the child.

SPEAKER_02 7:41

Yeah, like having squat on the wall.

SPEAKER_00 7:44

Yeah. She's taking an old school thing.

SPEAKER_03 7:49

Yes, we need more old school practices. This generation is just it's different. I remember having to sit in the corner of the door, like at Granny's having to sit behind the door in the corner because you're in trouble and people be opening the door on you, don't even care you're there. That was embarrassing. Isn't that like enough to not do nothing else? I need that bag.

SPEAKER_00 8:14

That's a good one. Tamika, did you think of anything? There's plenty more questions, so if you did it, not a big deal.

SPEAKER_01 8:25

I was gonna say what Dantea said about the um discipline. Okay, you're not all kind of uh strength. No, strict.

SPEAKER_00 8:37

Gotcha.

SPEAKER_01 8:40

You gotta have order.

unknown 8:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 8:44

Order is needed. I don't know how we're gonna get it, but yeah, order is needed. Um,

Rules That Would Not Fly Today

SPEAKER_00 8:55

and anyone can answer. Uh, what's one rule you had growing up that would not fly today? Hmm. I don't even know. That would not fly today. One rule growing up that would not fly today.

SPEAKER_01 9:19

Outlook.

SPEAKER_00 9:21

What is it? Outlook.

SPEAKER_01 9:23

No, staying out late.

SPEAKER_00 9:25

Oh, yeah. Staying out late. That's a good one.

SPEAKER_03 9:30

Yeah, like staying out till the streetlights come on. I feel like that can't happen a lot.

SPEAKER_00 9:34

Yeah, that has changed. That has changed a lot. That has changed.

SPEAKER_03 9:40

Neighborhood helping y'all, helping raise the kids, like looking out the city. I feel like that can't fly today because you don't know who's in your community. And even if you do know who's in your community, you really still don't know them. Yeah. You can't trust them the same.

SPEAKER_00 9:55

I know. That is true. That is true. It's definitely uh changed a lot, in my opinion. And this is a good thing. So do you guys think it's truly that it's changed that much? Or do you think with the technology and the social media and the news outlets and the the way that we can get information so quickly because of our phones is what I mean with technology. Do you think in computers, internet, AI, etc., do you think that is why community has changed? Do you think it's more a light on it? Was it always like this? It's just you couldn't see it.

SPEAKER_03 10:38

I guess that's kind of a good question because I do be wondering. I don't know if y'all have asked like your mom's how was times? Like, was it really like this? Because I I wonder that a lot. Like, was it they didn't have the same amount of information, I get that, but was there these things going on? Maybe they read it in a newspaper, like pedophiles, whatever going on. Was that stuff happening and they didn't know about it, or was it just not happening at all? Like, I want to know what times was like was like during that time from an adult standpoint. I know what we was like from kids, but they didn't really seem that nothing was happening.

SPEAKER_00 11:20

We were kids, yeah. Yeah, do they what did the adults see, you know, or or was it ignored?

SPEAKER_03 11:28

Yeah, was it ignored? I know for us being able to have it on like on your phone, yeah, you can see stuff now. You couldn't see stuff then, but would it make you ignore because you couldn't see it, or were you just not aware? Now we're no now we know, now we have information.

SPEAKER_02 11:47

Yeah, I think it could happen. You just didn't know.

SPEAKER_01 11:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 11:58

That's true. That is true. You do see that. That's very true. Um, yeah, I I I don't know, to be honest. I think it's a combination of both. Um I think people are bolder. And you know I you know, I think it some of it is changed and some of it is more that, you know, big brothers looking everywhere, I guess, in a sense. It it wasn't so much technology before that could, you know, bring it out. But I don't I don't know. Something's changed, definitely. It's scary. It is scary. Yeah,

Safety And Trust In Childcare

SPEAKER_00 12:48

it's scary because I know even for myself, like when Eli was younger, and like me personally, I don't mind in-home daycares. Cause I've I guess I could say that because we've had good experiences with it. You know, we're a little spoiled with Miss K for Trenton. And, you know, even you know, even growing up. So I was never like, oh my, you know, I would hear people, oh, never have an in-home one, but I found myself as a parent, I don't I don't mind in-home, but I screen differently for it. What I mean by that is if like if a person's like, oh yeah, I do in in-home daycare, if they have like a spouse and things like that, I tend to not let my son go there. I it I just not saying that everything negative comes from the man, no, some times it's from the woman too, but I think about the lines, not about like of like them messing with your child, I think more along the lines of like um you never know if there's like domestic abuse going on in the house, if the guy is controlling, things like that, even if they're not like directly doing anything to the children there, it puts a tension there. So I think about it in terms like that, you know. So when he's done some in-home ones, it was with someone that's single, she had her kids, no husband, no boyfriend, no nothing. Like you, I feel you have to get a little personal to ensure what who's coming and going from there in their house, kinda. I hate to say it that way, but I feel that way, you know. But versus before, I don't think people thought about it like that. I think most people thought about it. Oh, it's great if they're a couple, you know. Just because someone's with someone doesn't mean that it's this great thing. They're just together sometimes. Wow, wow, and you never know the home life, you know. So I don't know. I'm just weird. Um, but yeah, that was something. So I tend to do centers or, you know, places that had sinners or at the churches and stuff, um, just because you didn't have to you didn't have to worry so much about the comings and goings of their friends and if they have older kids and their friends coming and going. It's just I don't know. I just feel weird about stuff like that. So my mindset was a little different, I guess. Um yeah, so I I don't know. It's I think some of it has just changed or we're hypersensitive, maybe. I I don't know. Yeah.

What We Judge Parents For

SPEAKER_00 15:42

Um, this is a question for Don Zaya. Really, any of us can answer, but I want Don Zaia to answer this one because this is really for a non-parent. But if you guys have something, chime in after her. But as a non-parent, Don Zaya, what is something you judge parents for? Be honest, as you can be. Like, I mean, it happens. Think about it. I know I did. And still do. But yeah, what is something you judge parents for?

SPEAKER_02 16:14

Um, I guess the kid's like knowledge.

SPEAKER_00 16:20

Okay. Learning abilities, yeah, skills, learning skills, etc. Okay. That's that's a good one. Um any particular reason why you judge them on that?

SPEAKER_03 16:39

Like, for example, I guess I can use Pierre because she's a big at home mom. So, you know, Aliana knows her A, B, Cs, all that stuff. So I just feel like you should, like, at home, you shouldn't just rely on the teachers to be teaching them. You you too should be, you know, engaged with what your child knows.

SPEAKER_00 17:02

Yeah, I agree with that. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 17:06

I'm not judging it a bad way.

SPEAKER_00 17:07

I'm not trying to be like I mean that it's it is what it is. I mean, we all in one day when you have kids it it might be different. It's the same. Exactly. Because you every kid is uh different. Even every kid from you is different. It's they're just not the same. They're night and day. Um Tamika or Melinda, anything you judge parents for, or did in the or even you can twist it either way. If you did in the past and after having kids, you're like, oh my god, or you know, just even if you're a parent and you still judge them for certain things. Um, what do you judge parents for?

SPEAKER_01 17:47

I judge when the kids is bad. You can tell them when they're bad, and there's kids that the parents that actually love their kids and are nice and friendly.

SPEAKER_03 17:59

I was just looking at the kids, there was just two kids that live around the neighborhood that the friends play with, and they just so gentle and nice, and then you got the ratchet ones just jumping around, always getting into stuff, and it's like you can just tell, and they the parents, you can tell those one that's loving, yeah, you know, well put together, you're on looking ratchet, and then you can tell.

SPEAKER_01 18:26

I drop it. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_00 18:36

Yeah, yeah. That's funny, Melinda. Do you have a judgment? It's the same. Exactly the same. Oh my god. But what what what makes a child bad? Like what's your ex what's your definition of bad for your examples?

SPEAKER_01 18:57

Examples today.

SPEAKER_03 19:03

Well, I looked outside. No, my mama came upstairs and was like, oh, the clans are fighting. So I look out the window and they went, they had stopped or whatever. I called the climate house. And they come in the house and say, Why are we y'all fighting? Oh, this one boy, the ghetto boy, said that we should fight.

SPEAKER_00 19:21

Oh, God.

SPEAKER_03 19:22

So he told them, like, don't, you know, y'all brothers, you don't do that. But it's just like, yeah, of course, it's that one.

SPEAKER_01 19:29

It's not the nice one.

SPEAKER_00 19:36

It's the ghetto one. I love it.

SPEAKER_03 19:38

That is good. Why don't you tell them to fight each other and they're brothers, and they're supposed to be your friend.

SPEAKER_00 19:43

True. That's true. It's gotta be taught. It's gotta be taught.

SPEAKER_03 19:48

I love that they were honest with you, though.

SPEAKER_00 19:50

They weren't like we weren't crazy. Yeah, that's true. Yeah, they did tell you. That's pretty good. Honesty is is a good thing, you know. It is. That's I think that's the harder part to parenting for a lot of parents. The honesty is sometimes not there because they're afraid or whatever the case. They know it's wrong and don't want to get in trouble. So I can yeah, I can see that. Um, so let me see. Um did you answer? Um, oh yeah, I did not answer. Um, judgment. So yeah, um, for me, uh, before I was a mom, uh I would judge behaviors and stuff like that as well. Like, why is your kid doing this? Or, you know, why are you allowing your kid to do this or that? Um, yeah, I was judgmental in that way. And as a parent, I get it. Um you pick and choose your battles, you never knew know what they've been going through all day. You know, you can't you cannot um go after every battle or or you just you would lose your mind. So um yeah, I I I used to think like that old school manner where it's like speak when spoken to, you sit here and you wait, like you have patience, you you know, kind of like how I was raised in a sense. And um I'm nothing like that um in in the least, even though I thought I would be. But yes, I would judge that because that's all I knew, and of course my my cousins and all did the same because it were all from this same type of parenting style. And um being a parent. Yes, it's nice when your kid can do all that, but sometimes your kid just can't and you gotta pick your battles. Um, you know, do you want them to wear the right color shoes or do you want them running around like you might have to pick one, you know? Um, because you know they're not gonna be able to do both or will not do both. So you know, so yeah. Um my judgment was like disciplined. Um to when I say discipline, discipline to everything, though. Like meaning I felt like there was no room for anything to slack, and that's just not realistic. Yeah, apparently it is realistic because we lived it, but it's not realistic you know, as a parent being a parent, and I'm a I'm an old parent, so I I don't got uh I ain't got time. But yeah, it it's um yeah, I was judgmental in that way. Like I just thought it was no room for error at all. But um I'm definitely definitely wrong, you know. Um yeah, it's it's it's definitely uh different. Um I yeah, my my son, my son gets away with shit. I just never thought I would ever accept. I I just thought I would never accept. And of course, people that are around you, especially if they're raised the same way I was, like, what the hell? Because they're like, you're not even reacting. Like, why? Like, why am I gonna react? Like, I got I gotta save, I gotta save my brain. Like my mental can't handle all of it if I react to everything, you know? That's just yeah, yeah. It's just what it is.

Strict Or Laid Back Parenting Styles

SPEAKER_00 24:06

And this is actually a good gateway into the next topic of parenting, and this is about parenting styles. Yes, yes. Um, this is on parenting styles. So either anyone can answer, especially the parents. Um, are you more strict, relaxed, or somewhat in between? And I guess we'll start with Tamika.

SPEAKER_03 24:36

Um I feel like I'm more laid-back, but I can get straight when I need to, but I don't like being straight. I hate yelling and beating them and stuff. So I've tried to refrain from it a lot. Yeah. I'm majority of the time laid back.

SPEAKER_00 24:57

I can see that because that's your personality, but yeah.

SPEAKER_03 25:01

Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 25:02

I can see that. Molinda.

SPEAKER_01 25:06

But if I'm not like you react to everything that these kids do, bro.

SPEAKER_00 25:10

Oh my god. And that's exactly you'll go crazy. You literally some to some degree, you gotta protect your mental because yeah, it's so true. It's so true. It's so true. You have to protect yourself from the damn kids, man. These kids got more yes, these kids be having you in a chokehold. You be like, you don't even know what to do. You don't even know. You just be like, alright.

SPEAKER_01 25:51

Yeah, yeah. But yeah, I don't I don't beat them too much. I get that.

SPEAKER_00 25:58

I get that. I mean, I I've I've I've done the beating strategy. It doesn't work for for my son. It doesn't work. Um it doesn't work. So it just to make me feel good in a at the moment. It it doesn't, but it's not effective because if it's effective, you ain't doing it again. And guess what? He gonna do it again. So that way don't work. So I really I got exactly have to find different ways, and I do and I have to a degree, but yeah, I I really don't, you know, he don't really get popped or anything because it don't work. It's not effective in the way that I need it to be effective in. I'll say that. Because to me, if you do something and that's their punishment, the reason why you're doing it is so that they don't do it again. Like it's not to be repeated. If you're gonna keep repeating it, that means what I'm doing doesn't work in my in my world. So it doesn't work.

SPEAKER_01 27:06

Right.

SPEAKER_00 27:07

Melinda, what's your style? Are you strict, relaxed, somewhat in between?

SPEAKER_03 27:12

I feel like I'm more somewhat in between. I feel like I used to be strict, but I've gotten a little bit more laid back as they've gotten older because they just get on my nerves. So I'd rather just not yell at them. So if I have to beat them or something, then you know, yeah, I will. But for the most part, we'd be on a schedule. They have things that they know they need to do, they know they have tours they need to do, so we're more on like a routine, but we also still have fun. So I feel like I'm a little balanced now.

SPEAKER_00 27:51

Yeah. And guys, just so you know, when we're using the word beat, it's a spanking, it's not like we are taking knuckles and beating these kids. I know there's some that don't even believe in spanking at all, and that's okay. Um, but I just want to clarify that I don't need any. We're not, you know, putting knuckles to anybody. It might be a pop on the hand, pop on the butt, etc. Um it's just wording. Umzea, you're an aunt. Do you feel you're strict, relax, or somewhat in-between aunt?

SPEAKER_02 28:33

Oh, so relaxed.

SPEAKER_00 28:35

I believe that. I believe that. 100%. I'm a strict as well. I believe that because I'm a strict aunt. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 28:44

No, you're not. No, you're not. No, you're not. I knew it was coming. I knew it was coming to the city. The kids are not.

SPEAKER_00 28:52

The kids know. The kids know.

SPEAKER_01 28:56

They don't know.

SPEAKER_00 28:57

They do. They'll tell you. Discipline. They tell you.

SPEAKER_03 29:02

You just throw out words. You just throw out words. Don't even know what they mean. You don't do it.

SPEAKER_00 29:08

They they listen. They listen. That's why they don't even want to come over here because they're like, oh my God, she's just so strict.

SPEAKER_03 29:16

Y'all have to want to go over there because you're not strict.

SPEAKER_00 29:20

You guys have to drag them here. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 29:24

Alrighty. Because you let them do whatever they want to do.

SPEAKER_00 29:31

No, I do not. You be hearing me when I yell at them, like, y'all better stop that right now. And what does Ricky or Skye say? Discipline.

SPEAKER_01 29:41

No.

SPEAKER_03 29:47

Okay. With a lie. Yes. Let them do whatever they want.

SPEAKER_00 29:52

I would never do that because that's what it be good. Discipline.

SPEAKER_03 29:56

I just want to point out. I want to point out fans and everybody on this thing. Even the way she just said that. How like she said she's strict and she tells them, hey, don't do that. Exactly how she said it is how she does it to them. So you know she's not strict.

SPEAKER_00 30:12

I am very strict. What I tell what I tell the twins when they run through here, what I tell them, don't be running through here. You gonna hurt yourself. I'd be like, I'd be like, y'all gonna hurt yourself. And it is believable.

unknown 30:34

No.

SPEAKER_00 30:34

I do. And they'd be like, okay, I'm so sorry. Oh my god, mommy, she's so strict, I gotta go. And I'd be like, oh my god.

SPEAKER_01 30:41

You don't know how you want to see.

SPEAKER_00 30:42

None of that ever happens. We know better. None of that. We know better. They the kids know. That's all that matters.

SPEAKER_03 30:52

Okay. We'll let you have that.

SPEAKER_00 30:54

Thank you. Thank you. Just so you guys know, I'm very strict. And uh the kids hate it. My nieces and nieces.

SPEAKER_03 31:01

When kids be running through the house, you tell them just take your socks off and don't hurt yourself. That's literally it. Well, continue running. Well, we all just hit each other, running into each other because you're both running in the house. Oh, it's okay. Are you all right for the band-aid? Keep going. It's fine. You want chocolate with that too, safety first.

SPEAKER_00 31:22

Safety first. Just saying. All right, let's get through a couple more.

Raised Like Us Or The Opposite

SPEAKER_00 31:31

Um, do you parent based on how you were raised? Or do you feel it's the opposite? Or a mix. Or it could be a mix. I mean, you know. Yeah, like a style. Yeah, yep. Yeah. Basically, do you parent like your parenting style based on how you were raised, or opposite, or in between? Like, do you think you parent the way that you parent because of how you were raised? Or do you think you parent the way you parent just because it has nothing to do with your upbringing? This is how you always envision you, you know, raising your kids.

SPEAKER_01 32:18

I'm in the middle.

SPEAKER_00 32:20

In the middle, yeah.

SPEAKER_03 32:22

I do, and you know, I've got my own thing, I do.

SPEAKER_00 32:27

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 32:29

I get that. Yeah, I feel like in the middle too. I feel like I I feel like now certain punishments justify certain things. So I'm not being drastic, you know, with what I'm doing. You know, like if you you was I don't know, you was talking back, I'm not going to, you know, be brutal to you because you were talking back. I'm just like, hey, you don't need to be talking back now. I'd rather talk rather than maybe how we would have grown up. That might have been like a smack in the mouth or wash your mouth out with dish soap or whatever. Like different.

SPEAKER_00 33:10

Or get kicked out and sit on the front porch. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 33:14

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 33:15

Yes. Yes. Yes.

SPEAKER_03 33:18

That as well.

SPEAKER_00 33:19

I kick my son out every night, I feel. In my mind, I do. Just get out. Go sit in the garage. So I kick myself out. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_03 33:33

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I think now I can remove myself from the child. Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 33:41

It don't help though. They just fall under.

SPEAKER_03 33:45

Yeah, exactly. So it's almost like, what's the point? If you're gonna follow me, you go somewhere. I'm telling you to go see the scent over there. So I do understand. But you know, it's different.

SPEAKER_00 33:58

Yeah, yeah. Um I I don't know what parent I am. Um I feel like to a degree, I have a daddy style because I kind of just let him kind of do whatever to a degree with still teaching, but like that daredevil is this, I allow it and stuff, and I feel daddy's more of that, like go and explore. Um so I feel that is my approach. I don't know. Um, I don't even got an approach, but um, I don't I don't I feel okay, I feel like I've started off parenting the way I was parent, and I quickly realized that doesn't work for at least for my child or it's not how I want to be. I'm not short, so it was short-lived, and um, so now I'm just a parent. That's it. I'm just a parent. I I don't know what that means. I am a parent for my for my child.

SPEAKER_04 35:19

Yeah. That's really it.

SPEAKER_00 35:21

I I've converted to him.

SPEAKER_01 35:26

I mean, basically.

SPEAKER_00 35:28

I I mean, no, not like he just runs all over top of me, but it's like I just I'm not I'm I'm just not the parent that I the my parenting style is I don't feel is anywhere close to how my upbringing was. Not even I don't even think it's close. I don't think. I could be wrong, but I don't think so. Um, but it also I'm an old mom, so I think that makes a difference. My pay what I mean is my patience is level, it's different. It's I have uh a huge threshold for my patience level, my needs are different. I'm not I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. Um I enjoyed my 20s and 30s. Like I don't feel my kid is not in the way of anything I'm trying to do. So I do think sometimes we as younger parents, or even from like how our parents were parenting, it came from a necessity. Being single parents, you need your kids to be right because you can't afford to be off work because they acting up in school or they're this or that. I feel like they have to mature differently because you really need that of them, because you're on your own. So I think it's not that they want it to parent that way, it's sometimes it's a necessity. They they it's like I just need you to get with the program. So you tend to make the kids adapt to your life versus you adapting to the child. So I think it it's like a mix, not that it's bad, it's definitely not bad, but I think it's different when you kind of just I need you to get in line, basically. I need you to fall in line because I gotta do this, I gotta do that. So I think that might be part of it. It's not really that they want it to be strict, that's how it came off, but they needed us to be a certain way so that they could go out and work to provide, being the fact that they're single parents.

SPEAKER_04 37:40

You know?

SPEAKER_00 37:40

That's what I think. I I don't know. But because I I think if I were a single parent, I would parent different. Not that I want to be a single parent, but I would have to parent different because I can't come to his needs. He gotta kinda, we kinda gotta meet in the middle. I'm not saying where it has to be all one way or the other, but I would I would need him to maybe do do a little more of this because of, you know, I need to do this or that. So I think my parenting style would be a little different, maybe and it might change, you know, as it, you know, changes, I think, as they get older or depending on the needs or how they are. I think all of that makes a difference. I'm not sure though.

Discipline That Actually Works

SPEAKER_00 38:27

Um, what is your go-to discipline methods? Mmm, that's a good one. Your go-to discipline methods, and I'm sure for each child it's different, so feel free.

SPEAKER_03 38:43

Like, if you know, I don't expect what you do to one to work for all, so in my house it does taking the electronics.

SPEAKER_00 38:53

Ah, that's a good one. Ooh, they be sad, don't they?

SPEAKER_01 38:58

Oh, yeah, and they get right back in line.

SPEAKER_00 39:06

Wow.

SPEAKER_03 39:08

What did he do? He uh, so the FaceTime on his uh phone was messing up, it wouldn't unlock or whatever. Okay. So I tried to look at it. I couldn't, you know, figure it out. So I was like, I don't have to take it to the store. And he said, Oh, you got the phone from China. Mind you, I got it from the Apple store. He got the iPhone 16, y'all. I brought the fucking with my money. And he said that I was hot. I said, Give me the phone.

SPEAKER_01 39:38

He was like, No. I was about to kick him in his room. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 39:46

And then he just gave me the phone. And I was like, don't she ever want to be like that? Are you crazy? So I I actually just gave it to him today.

SPEAKER_00 39:59

Okay. I don't blame you. That that's yeah, yeah, kids. I have I have I now see, and even myself thinking back on things now that I'm a parent. Kids can hurt parents' feelings without even realizing it. You know?

SPEAKER_01 40:20

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 40:21

It they don't do it on purpose, but me as a you know, me as a parent, like let's say I go out above and beyond to like my son, as you know, like Sonic, like Mario. So let's say I went out and above, you know, to get him a I don't know, something Sonic, and I know I went through like hell to get it or whatever. And then it's then let's say I gave it to them and it's like, oh, I would be hurt, you know. And but I say that because I know I've done that to my parents before. Not that exact scenario, but there's been things that when I think about it now, I'm like, damn, I kind of like hurt them. I didn't know I was. I, you know, you're a kid, you you don't even know, I don't even think you're doing it to be mean, but you know, your parent like went above and beyond, like, had a day plan for you, and maybe you're like, oh, I just want to go back home. You you know what I mean? You'll be like, damn, I had this whole because you probably talk about it at work all week with your coworkers. Oh, I'm gonna take my daughter or my son to this thing. We're gonna spend the day together, even I'm gonna surprise them with it, and you know, so kids can hurt their parents without even knowing. Yeah, you know what I mean? It does, it can hurt. I'm fortunate I haven't experienced it quite yet, but I I know it will come. I mean, it's just how I mean even with our stepson, he does that to us. We'd be like getting him these cool presents. He's like, Oh, thanks. We're like, what the fuck?

unknown 41:54

Like, dude.

SPEAKER_00 41:57

You know what I mean? You're like, you're like F you. Like, all right, you're not impressed at all. It's like we're the only ones excited about this, but whatever. It's yeah, they they can be uh a little hurtful sometimes. Um Melinda, what's your go-to discipline?

SPEAKER_03 42:21

Um, yeah, kind of still the electronics. Um, we have a in a calendar reward system right now. So I put tasks, uh we have um like a Google electronic calendar. It's a picture frame kind of thing that you put on a desk and you put it has an app and you put tasks and stuff in there, and as they complete the task, they get stars that goes to rewards. So I just had to recently take some of their work rewards away. So for my kids during the week, they really can't be on electronics like that. They can have their um phone, they can watch YouTube for like an hour, but you know, have it on a time limit basically during the week. So one of their rewards is that they can redeem if they have enough stars, they can redeem uh electronics for the week, like during the week. So I had to take that away from them because they were trying to abuse it and not try to do chores, like, oh, we're not having to do any chores because we're doing electronics. I was like, nope, I'm gonna take that reward up out of there. So I took it out and that that made them tighten up because they're like, Well, we want it back, we want to be able to do it. Well, yeah, if you do what you're supposed to do, then you'll get it back. So still kind of electronic key, but in a reward system.

SPEAKER_00 43:51

That's a good one. You guys are impressive because um Um my son doesn't care. I mean, that don't care. He he plays electronics and stuff, but like he he just moves on to the next thing. Like he, you know, he's like unfazed. There's times where it's like like we did take it from him like last Friday and he got it back like the next day, but he didn't care. But what he does care about that we uh hate to use the word threaten, but that is kind of what it is. We dangle is swim. He loves swim, so that's like our go-to. Like, no more swim if, you know, you know, things like that. And that typically um gets him to tighten up a little bit. Um because he loves swimming. Yeah, he loves swimming.

SPEAKER_03 44:53

So swim.

SPEAKER_00 44:55

Yeah, swimming. Yep. So that's one that I can use sometimes to be like, well, we won't sign you back up for swim, or you won't get to go to swim one Thursday, or whatever, whatever. That one helps more than electronics, believe it or not. And he does, he plays electronics, but if you take it from him, he just moves on to something else. He will find something else to like entertain him. So that's impressive that you guys can can do that. And and it tightens them up. I I I have no idea.

The Backstory Outsiders Never See

SPEAKER_00 45:33

Um I have a couple of questions for Don Zé so that she can join in a little bit more. Um, so what's something you've seen parents do that made you say, I would do that differently? And it doesn't have to be anything negative, it could be even that they've done something positive, but you still would do it different, you know, a different technique, a different whatever. But yeah, what's something that you've seen parents do that made you say I'd do it differently?

SPEAKER_03 46:11

I don't know, I haven't had. Okay.

SPEAKER_00 46:18

Melinda or Tamika, anything that you've seen that you're like, oh, I I would do that differently.

SPEAKER_02 46:29

It's really hard because like there's a reason why parents parents away maybe.

SPEAKER_00 46:36

Yeah. There even if you don't know the reason, you might not even see the reason. And that's that's that's that can be tough. I like for instance for me, um, when I when I would have my stepson, especially when he was with us, and of course, I'm a stepmom. So of course, you're already to a degree, I feel being judged, because it's like, oh, is she this way with him because of whatever? So a lot of times by the time they would see me blow up per se, it's after I've maybe been talking to him about this all day or all week, and you get to a point you're like, dude. So they might be seeing the end of something, but don't know the backstory that, hey, you know, he's been doing this, this, this, this, etc. Even with your own kids, that happens. And people are seeing the ending of it, and you look like the bad guy. Because, you know, they're they have no idea to to your point of everyone has a reason reasoning for their parenting style to a degree. And like we were talking about earlier, sometimes it's truly to protect your own mental health, or you just have blown up because you've been telling your child all day to I don't know, stop chewing on your shirt or whatever it might be, and you're like fed up, and by the time you're fed up, people are maybe seeing it. Like, for me, it was like, oh, it's because she's the stepmom. No, it's not that. It's been getting on my nerves all week, you know? So sometimes, you know, in general, people don't know the whole story, so it can look it can look negative when really it was some patience in there once upon a time, it just they wore it out of you. They wear you down. They wear you down. That now I get why those parents, like Melinda's kind of lucky because she's the third for my mom, so she got easier and easier. So Melinda like did not go through anything me and my brother went through. She had a pretty easy childhood because she did that.

SPEAKER_03 49:00

You can't say that I do not feel like that.

SPEAKER_00 49:02

She did.

SPEAKER_03 49:04

Thank you to me.

SPEAKER_00 49:06

She did compare to me and my brother. She did. Because you get worn out, man. You get worn out. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 49:16

So your mom was there. Yes. I mean, work on y'all than Melinda.

SPEAKER_00 49:24

Agreed. 100%. So imagine. So if you think my mom was strict, if you think my mom was strict on Melinda, just imagine us.

SPEAKER_03 49:37

I did not see her being no like that with y'all.

SPEAKER_00 49:42

She was. By the time, because by the time, gotta mean me and Melinda are six years apart. So by the time that she was like focusing on Melinda, she was done with us. Like, we we she molded us where we needed to be, I guess, in a sense. She was done with us. So, yeah. Yeah. It was crazy. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 50:07

That is crazy.

SPEAKER_00 50:09

What it is. Yeah. So it lets you know how rough it was for me.

SPEAKER_01 50:14

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 50:16

Yeah, it's it's different. That's what I say. I'm definitely not the parent I thought I would be. Oh, yeah. Melinda didn't go through half of what me and my brother went through. Trust me. She just didn't. She just didn't. And yeah.

SPEAKER_01 50:35

I can't kill it. And then your mom is the way she is now.

unknown 50:39

Right.

SPEAKER_00 50:40

I know, isn't it crazy how they just change?

SPEAKER_01 50:43

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Oh my god.

SPEAKER_00 50:47

It just changes. They are they're no longer. Yeah. They're no longer crazy. Yeah. It's true. They're like just no longer crazy. I I don't know.

SPEAKER_03 51:00

It's like what happened?

SPEAKER_00 51:04

Night and day. Night and day. Yeah. It is crazy. Night and day.

Breaks And Protecting Your Mental

SPEAKER_00 51:12

Uh Donzea. So has watching friends or family members raise kids changed your view on parenting at all?

SPEAKER_02 51:24

Most definitely.

SPEAKER_03 51:26

I would say I would be the strict one, but I I could see why Connor just like like you said, you just gotta do what's good for your mentor at this point.

SPEAKER_00 51:40

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 51:41

Okay, baby trying your and then y'all y'all gotta live with them to 247. I can give them away.

SPEAKER_00 51:50

Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 51:55

No, you're you're you're absolutely having yeah, like having someone to you know to raise the kids with also makes a difference. So you can get a break.

SPEAKER_00 52:10

Yeah. Breaks help. I try to get breaks every chance I get, and it's funny because like my breaks, I don't get them often. My breaks are typically like visiting friends or something, they're always like, Why didn't you bring them with you? And I'm almost like, because I needed a break. Like we wouldn't be able to sit here and chill the way we're chilling if my son was here. Because I'm different when I'm on mom mode, I even if he's being on his best behavior, I can't focus. So on adults, like I'm just in mom mode. I can't turn it off if he's in my anywhere near me. I he can be being as good as he wants to be. I just can't. I I don't know why. That's something I wish I could change. I don't think I can. It's just in me. I cannot change it. So I typically am not engaging at all when my son's around me. I'm just I'm a different person. I'm in mom mode. So I'm like, I prefer you just not to fucking talk to me. But people don't get the hint and be trying to people be having full-blown conversations with me, and I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I can't do that. I can't do this right now. I gotta go. I gotta go.

SPEAKER_04 53:28

No.

SPEAKER_00 53:29

You either follow me around or you know what I mean? So I think people get the hint now when I'm at like birthday parties and shit, like, just don't even just say hi, see me, and that's it. I don't, you know, if you want to have a conversation with me, hit me up later. Come by my house, something. Like, I just can't. Um yeah, I can't. I can't. It just I don't know. So my break is me leaving the house and meeting up with friends, and my son is nowhere near. Like, that's that's the only way you're gonna get me engaging with you. I I just yeah. I'm terrible to talk to outside of my home with my child. I like don't even fucking talk to me. Yeah, like the one thing I hate, like when I go to the store, oh, I was I used to be really bad. I used to be really bad. Because you know, people be want to like come up to you and like, oh, your baby. This I'd be like, don't don't talk to us. I'd be like, please don't talk to me. I know they probably like this. I cannot imagine that. Yeah, oh I've being a mom has brought I'm like crazy anyway. It it made it worse. It just it it's bad. It my filter is like gone. Um, not that I had much of one anyway, but like my filter is all the way down. But yeah, I would just tell people like, don't talk to me. Especially when I was by myself, just me and him. I'm like, just don't talk to me, please. And they're like looking at me all weird. I'm like, I just don't want you talking to me. And they just look at me. I'm just like, yeah. And I keep on walking. Yeah. I know. Isn't that effed up? That's pretty effed up of me. I'm not like that that bad anymore, but yeah, I'm not bad like that anymore. I will like be like, hey, hi, whatever, but I pretty much keep walking. Yeah, I don't I don't like to be talked to when I'm out. I gotta focus. Like, I don't know, I'd be focused. Yeah, it's it's bad. It's bad, y'all. It's really, really yeah. Parenting it was probably not was not a good thing for me because yeah, I'm pretty. I'm pretty, my filter is just not good anymore. I can't. I know. One day I'll be better. One day.

SPEAKER_01 56:11

One day.

SPEAKER_00 56:13

Um, let's do like two more and then I will let you guys go because I know it's getting late.

What We Wish Our Parents Did

SPEAKER_00 56:22

Um, this is kind of a good one. Um this one you can answer if you want, if you if it's too much, you know, whatever. But I feel this is a really good one and it's powerful, and all of us can answer this. Okay, what's something you wish your parents did differently? Who wants to start that one?

SPEAKER_02 56:54

Talk about talk about why not, why we couldn't do things instead of like putting fear. Okay, like for example, no sex before marriage, no boyfriend. Like talk about those things. Why can't we do those things? Or like educate us so we're not learning it outside the house.

SPEAKER_00 57:20

That's a good one.

SPEAKER_03 57:22

That's a good one. I can agree with that.

SPEAKER_00 57:27

What uh what's something you wish your parents did differently?

SPEAKER_03 57:40

I guess I've done that. Um my mom let us have a better relationship with daddy instead of being sober.

SPEAKER_00 57:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 57:56

Now that I'm older, it seems like it was just e it was like an emotion. It was messed up.

SPEAKER_00 58:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 58:05

But yeah, that and what like Dante said, explaining why we can't do things, because my mom and I got shelter. Well, we shelter. I don't think her was shelter. She's kind of baby. Gotcha.

SPEAKER_01 58:21

Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 58:22

I just had like I would had fear about it. Oh yeah. You know, which that's not good either.

SPEAKER_01 58:29

Yeah. Yeah.

SPEAKER_03 58:31

She would have talked to us more.

SPEAKER_01 58:33

Yeah. Right.

SPEAKER_00 58:34

Yeah, it's unfortunate when when um people are in relationships, they bring their emotions out, and it does affect the kids because you're right. It wasn't that you didn't have a relationship with him because of anything with you all. It's the emotion of their relationship, you know? And that sucks. It does suck. Um because even because you're a child, so you're impressionable. And especially when you live with the parent, you tend to kind of sway to their thoughts, even though it has nothing to do with you. You you're you're being a part of a relationship that has nothing to do with you. And um that that that does suck. That's one thing where I am fortunate. Melinda may not agree with me with what I'm about to say, but I'm fortunate because unfortunately for Melinda, I felt she got all of that from my mother to where it made her be the way that she was towards daddy versus me. It wasn't gonna fly. Um But you you know what I'm saying? I mean, it but it could have gone the other way, and I would have that same regret. And I mean, even though it's still there, I I push past it type of thing. But yes, it makes you like look differently to him, even though what they're complaining about has nothing to do with y'all's relationship. It's so it made you be a certain way about him for what? You're not his girlfriend, you're his child, so it's a difference. But I do feel unfortunately for Melinda, she got a lot of that. She got a lot of that, in my opinion. She got it.

SPEAKER_03 1:00:21

I don't I don't feel that you're I know she doesn't the way that I was was because of things that I've experienced. But um, I personally don't feel like our mom said too much about daddy too much like that to me. Um that's just my opinion. For me, I feel like for doing it's like wish they would have done something differently. Yeah, probably more explained things. I do feel like a lot of the adults that we were around, they were fun and it was great being around them, but if there's stuff going on, I don't really feel like we got explained that to, or something was done off of an emotion. So you really don't truly know the issue. So I feel like now growing up or being later, like now being an adult, you still are human. You still need to know how to maneuver through life. That helps you be able to maneuver through life later if they explain why they're doing something or why something's done a certain way or why they feel you shouldn't be involved in something.

SPEAKER_00 1:01:37

Yeah, I agree to a little because it's it's a balance, you know. Some things some things, yes, should be an explanation from your parent, definitely. But there's also depending on age, maturity, is it something that you really need to learn right now? You you know what I mean, or get explained to right now, especially if you're just kind of in the area with grown folks. You're kind of supposed to be like that fly on the wall. You you know what I mean? So I don't know. Um, but yes, I agree with like at home, in your home, like when your parents like know this, know that, whatever, that you should be able to fill in a space where you can say, but why mom, or but why dad, or without it like feeling like you're talking back. So I I agree in your home, it should definitely um be a little bit more like transparent. Um for me, something that I feel that could be different, and it's not particularly with just pay my like one parent, it's like my family in general. Um I think people don't realize it, but aunts, uncles, all of it, you're role models, so and things that you do and things that are said, you know, are kind of like embedded in you. So, like if you have aunts or uncles that like are players or whatever, it was like looked upon to be like this great thing, you know what I mean? And that trickles down into the kids, I feel, to feel like, oh, I want to be like that too. So I feel like you're like a role model almost, so you have to be careful how that is portrayed, you know. Something like that I feel should be kind of covered up almost, like where the kids aren't seeing all of that, or at least it being explained to them in a sense, like, yeah, this is happening, but you know, this is not how you're supposed to be, or you know what I mean? Like, I feel like it was just very accepted, and um that that can be bad, you know, for boys and girls looking back on it. Um, the only other thing I can think of, like I wish I was so again, like I kind of said earlier, my dad was more like you go out and explore. My mom was more like you are more sheltered, you can't do after school activities, you can't do this or that. Like, I wish her fears weren't pushed onto me. Um you know what I mean? Like, I don't like that. I had to like overcome that on my own as I got older to be kind of just jump out there and do stuff. Um, if I was raised more by my dad, or should I say in my dad's household, I I my life would definitely be different, but I feel like I would have been able to be involved in a lot of those things, and those things help mold and shape you, you know, as you get older. So I do wish, you know, those fears weren't put on to me. I that's one thing I try to strive to not do is I have fears, of course. I don't want to put those on to my kids. Like, I want them to try everything, you know, or do things, be a part of things if if they choose to, that are safe, you know, and you know, make sense, etc. I want to be there to support it. Like, I didn't go away to college, you know, because it was in my ear of like, oh, that's far, you're not going there, you know. So like I didn't even look beyond, you know what I'm saying? So it like can hinder, it hinders your children sometimes, you putting your fears onto them. Because as kids, you want to make your parents proud. So if they're complaining that you know it's too far, versus saying, you know, let's go check it out, you know, even though they might. Still be having the fears, you know. If they put it out there, you tend to not do it, you know. So, oh, I have plenty, many, but you know, but those are like my main ones, like me now being an adult and more mature and like really seeing things. I'm like, yeah, that's not really cool, you know. But that's something I hope I do not put on to my kid, and it's gonna be hard for me. I already know because um my baby's my baby, so you know, I'm gonna let him go wherever he wanna go. I already told Jason we just gonna move wherever he moved to, so we good. But I'm gonna let him do him. But I got I gotta be near. Yeah. I mean, I I can't hold him back, but I can be right there. That's that is my plan, you know. For now, for now, that's my plan. I know. I know. I can't help it, y'all. I can't help it.

What A Good Parent Looks Like

SPEAKER_00 1:07:08

All right, so we're gonna wrap it up here with this final statement sentence from each of you. So we'll start with Tamika. Finish this sentence. A good parent is someone who sacrifices. That's a great one. Oh, she's coming out with just a word. I let you know she likes. Got you. Got you. All right, Melinda. A good parent is someone who.

SPEAKER_03 1:07:48

Understanding and loving.

SPEAKER_00 1:07:51

That's a good one. Donzea. A good parent is someone who is present. Ooh, you guys got some good ones with these one, these ones. I love it. Um wow, I agree with everything you guys said. A good parent is someone that definitely sacrifices. That is huge. Um, being present is another huge one, and I'm not saying that I feel many parents want to be present. Life makes it hard, honestly. It's hard. I mean, we we're all different walks of life. It is hard to be as present as you want to be in your child's life sometimes. You gotta work, you got bills, some people are single parents, some people are married or with someone and still a single parent. It's it's hard, you know, or you need two incomes, you need three incomes, really. And it's hard to be present. So I do feel people try their hardest. I really do. Um, but yes, I agree. Sacrifice, being present, being understanding, um, being able to adjust and and seek and know their children's needs, and just being there emotionally, I feel is like huge. Um, it's not about money. Kids have no knowledge of money, they really don't. It's what they get taught. If you lived in a shack, your kid would not care as long as they're there with you. That's just how they're made up. They don't to them, it's just, oh, we're out camping, you know. They don't see it as the negative. So, as parents, it's hard, you know, because sometimes you beat yourself up, but you really shouldn't. Kids don't care about the money, they just don't. Um, and that's one thing where it's a whole different topic, but that's one thing where like parents that just throw money at things, I get it. It's easy, but kids don't care about that. They really don't. They prefer the parent to be present and with them than to just throw them money. Um, money's good, don't get me wrong. It helps it helps a lot of things for you to do stuff with your kid, but you do being present and being there with them is what they care about, I feel, more than a ball or something, you know. I would think. At least I know I would want it that way. But um, you know, you we do the best we can with what's given to us and the situation that's in front of us. But yes, I agree. That is what a good parent is. It's all those things and then some. It's so many words. Um, before we close out, is there anything anyone wants to say on here about parenting or just a statement, a suggestion, or this or that? Take the floor.

SPEAKER_03 1:10:59

No, I don't have anything to Donzea, the auntie.

SPEAKER_02 1:11:07

No, nothing. You guys are doing great, just so you know.

SPEAKER_00 1:11:12

Oh, thank you. It's hard to tell sometimes, boy. It's hard to tell. And that was a question I was gonna ask you guys. Like, what is your biggest fear of parenting? That's a loaded question, boy.

SPEAKER_03 1:11:27

Oh yeah. You gotta save that for another time in the morning boy.

SPEAKER_00 1:11:34

Oh, I know. I know. That's why I said it that way. Cause, oh, the fears, the fears, the fears, because I'm sure people that have multiple kids, you have different fears for each kid because you're watching your kid. You know what I mean? You're like, oh shit, this one's gonna be like this, this one's gonna be like that. You know what I mean? So there's definitely fears. Definitely fears. But thank you guys for joining. Let me close this out really quick. Hold on one second.

Final Thoughts And Sign Off

SPEAKER_00 1:12:15

All right, guys, we are gonna end it there. Um, I do apologize for my technology tonight. I did the best I can with recording. We did have some technical difficulties, but I'm so grateful that they could come on here and do this episode with us. I really hope you all enjoyed it. And next time we'll get the logistics all uh hashed out. But thank you so much for joining Coffee with a Twist with Madam Balou. You guys say bye to everyone. Bye.