Roommates or Soulmates? Rebuilding Emotional and Physical Connection

Remember when your partner made your whole body light up, not just your calendar? We’re getting honest about how couples quietly slide into “roommate mode” and the simple, repeatable rituals that turn logistics into longing again. From nervous system insights to playful polarity, we share the five-step reset we use with clients to rebuild safety, spark, and trust without relying on grand gestures or perfect timing.

We start by naming the signs: conversations stuck on chores, obligatory touch, and the edge-of-the-bed gap that feels a mile wide. Then we break down what changes everything—self-connection as the spark, daily appreciations that are actually sincere, and a three-layer check-in that gets right to I feel, I need, I’m open to. You’ll hear why oxytocin isn’t just chemistry trivia; it’s the body’s way of saying “you’re safe with me,” and how pressure kills that signal fast.

From there, we dive into polarity as energetic charge, not gender roles: steady, grounded leadership meeting warm, receptive presence. When both people collapse into the same pole, attraction flatlines; when difference is honored, desire wakes up. We offer practical ways to schedule intimacy without performance—20-minute micro-rituals, guided breath, and low-stakes touch that rebuilds heat. And we tackle the quiet killers: invisible labor and unspoken resentment. A monthly clearing ceremony, a concrete new agreement, and shared follow-through can dissolve years of friction in weeks.

Yes, we also have fun—sharing some wild dating app finds as a reminder of why making love work at home beats swiping for novelty. If you’re ready to move from cohabiting to co-creating, press play for tools you can use tonight and a warm nudge to try one new ritual this week. If this conversation helps, follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a quick review—it helps our empowered posse grow and keeps these heart-forward tools flowing.

Transcript

Roommate Horror Stories

SPEAKER_01 0:00

Do you remember having roommates?

SPEAKER_00 0:02

Oh my goodness. That that in itself is a a horror show. Like you get I've never I never had a good roommate. There's always issues with the roommates that I had. Either they were partiers or they were like, you know, hitting you.

SPEAKER_01 0:17

Let your cat out.

SPEAKER_00 0:18

Remember that one that that that one chick who stayed with me for like maybe a month and she was like hitting on you.

SPEAKER_01 0:24

Yes.

SPEAKER_00 0:24

I was like, dude, this is not gonna work. Like, I'm out of here.

SPEAKER_01 0:28

She would like accidentally walk in when I'm in the shower. You know, wait a minute. She's she's she's very thirsty.

SPEAKER_00 0:36

Yeah, they someone stole her cat. Then there's the food issue. You know, I remember I remember dropping a couple, you know, as a college student, dropping some money and and stocking my refrigerator and coming, coming home to a party that my roommate is is throwing, and all of my food is out there, like getting eaten. I was like, what the hell is this?

SPEAKER_01 0:56

Yes, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 0:57

No problem, bro. I was like, dude, no problem, bro. It is a problem.

SPEAKER_01 1:04

Yeah, nobody wants a bad roommate, but nobody wants to be married and be a roommate.

SPEAKER_00 1:09

No, that is that's even worse.

SPEAKER_01 1:11

And the con the the the other side of that is that once you've been in a relationship and you know, if you're past 25, you probably don't want to be on the dating apps anymore. Probably are like, okay, did the dating apps like I've I really gotta figure out how to make my relationships work, you know, like I gotta find somebody who I'm compatible with, and or you're in a relationship and you're like, you gotta figure out how to work because let me tell you something. We were on the apps just to do some research. A couple of our friends are single, daughter is single. We looked at the the apps, the dating apps, and oof, I gotta tell you, it's wild out there. It's super wild.

SPEAKER_00 1:59

And like I said, we we were able to look at those apps and the uh the the safety of our relationship of our relationship, right? Yeah, and it it just it reminded us like, oh, by the way, you guys got a good Yeah, oh by the way, you better make this show work.

SPEAKER_01 2:16

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Roommates Or Soulmates Framework

SPEAKER_01 3:38

Alright, so let's dive into our show. We are gonna talk about being roommates or soulmates. And obviously, you wanna choose to be soulmates, right?

SPEAKER_00 3:50

Indeed.

SPEAKER_01 3:51

So are you sharing space but not soul connection time?

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If your relationship feels more like cohabiting than co-creating, it's time for a powerful reset.

SPEAKER_01 4:02

Yes, so welcome back, Empowered Posse. In today's episode, we're diving into one of the hardest truths couples face, but rarely talk about. When emotional intimacy fades and physical affection becomes routine or worse, non-existent, and you're just living together, and essentially you become roommates.

SPEAKER_00 4:25

Roommates.

SPEAKER_01 4:26

But guess what? You don't have to stay stuck there. Let's talk about rebuilding emotional trust, reactivating polarity, and transforming blah into beloved.

SPEAKER_00 4:37

Blah into beloved. Indeed. I love that.

SPEAKER_01 4:41

We're seeing it more than ever in our private coaching sessions. Couples who love each other but don't feel each other anymore.

SPEAKER_00 4:51

Like they're sharing a bed, but they're sleeping miles apart emotionally.

SPEAKER_01 4:55

Yep, that edge of the bed syndrome.

SPEAKER_00 4:58

Yeah, they're they're parenting, they're working, they're existing, but they're not truly connecting.

Signs You’re In Roommate Mode

SPEAKER_01 5:03

And this doesn't mean you're doomed. So wherever you are, just lovingly accept where you are. We're gonna invite you into some solutions because you're not doomed, but it does mean that your connection needs some tending. Today we're gonna break down how relationships default to roommate mode and how to consciously build or rebuild your emotional and physical bond.

SPEAKER_00 5:30

Indeed.

SPEAKER_01 5:30

And here are some signs that you may have shifted into roommate mode. Your roommate dynamic crept in maybe by you rarely checking in with each other emotionally, like you know, having a deep emotional conversation. Go ahead.

SPEAKER_00 5:49

Uh physical touch feels obligatory and not magnetic, right?

SPEAKER_01 5:54

So it's like you don't like crave to touch them.

SPEAKER_00 5:56

Exactly. Oh, it's been a week. We might as well get this done. You know what I mean? It shouldn't be that way. It should be like, hey, it's been a week. Let's tear each other's clothes off.

SPEAKER_01 6:06

Why has it been a week? Conversations are functional, and so that means that your schedules or your tours and logistics are taking up any time that you talk to each other.

SPEAKER_00 6:21

Like it's just just like all business, no pleasure. There's little to no flirting, no play, no anticipation, there's no romance throughout the day. No heat.

SPEAKER_01 6:33

Maybe you feel more like teammates or co-parents than you do lovers. Love us.

SPEAKER_00 6:39

And often this dynamic builds not because you don't care, but because you're overwhelmed.

Research, Safety, And Oxytocin

SPEAKER_01 6:44

Yeah. And sometimes there's unprocessed resentment, stress, past betrayal, or simple disconnection from self. And all of that will drain the bond. Of course. So let's talk about some research and root causes. Okay. So Gottman Institute research shows couples who regularly check in emotionally and express fondness for one another are 80% more likely to stay together long term.

SPEAKER_00 7:13

With that being said, I love you.

SPEAKER_01 7:16

With that being said, are you okay? I'm gonna express my fondness for you.

SPEAKER_00 7:20

I like your cute little robe over there.

SPEAKER_01 7:23

Don't expose my robe.

SPEAKER_00 7:26

Then there's physical intimacy. Physical intimacy triggers oxytocin, which regulates stress and builds trust, but it must feel emotionally safe to be effective. So if I walk over there and just like, you know, pounce upon you, if you're not ready for it, it might feel a little too much. You know what I'm saying? But I wouldn't pounce on you, just kind of, you know, I'd ruffle my, I'd show you my, you know, my my peacock feathers and you know, do a little prancing around and get you all hot and bothered. No?

SPEAKER_01 7:55

Okay. If you prance around me, I'm gonna laugh at you, first of all. If you pounce on me, I'm gonna be like, okay, let's go. So I'll take the pounce over the prance any day.

SPEAKER_00 8:07

All right, how about a how about a prance?

Nervous System And Functional Freeze

SPEAKER_01 8:08

A prance and a prancing prance. No. Oh my gosh. Okay. Another cause can be trauma and emotional shutdown. Because and both of these can cause the nervous system to enter functional freeze. So, like you're doing life, but you're not really living in love.

SPEAKER_00 8:39

Yeah, functional freeze is not enjoyable. Uh, this is a nervous system plus energy issue, right? It's not you, that's not that you fell out of love, right? When you numb out, you disconnect from yourself first and then your partner.

Step 1: Reconnect To Self

SPEAKER_01 8:55

Yes. So it could just be that you are not meeting yourself emotionally the way that you want to be met, or you're purposely checking out, or purposely disconnecting from yourself so that you don't feel some type of pain. Therefore, it does have a ripple effect in all of your relationships, but especially your relationship with your spouse. Indeed. Especially so let's talk about the five-step shift to go from roommates to soulmates.

SPEAKER_00 9:27

Let's break down what to do instead of leaving the relationship or checking out or just being a roommate. First, reconnect to your own heart first, right? We just talked about that you can't offer connection if you are not connected to yourself, right? So you can start with a daily check-in. You can ask yourself, What am I feeling? What am I avoiding? I like to do body scans where you sit in meditation and you start asking yourself questions like where am I holding tension or hiding truth?

SPEAKER_01 10:00

Ooh, hiding truth is a major one. So self-connection is the spark that reignites relational intimacy. So a lot of times in a relationship, we're pointing fingers at each other, you know, and being like, Well, you, blah, blah, blah, and you, you. And like, I can't be happy because he's a downer. Like, I hear that a lot in my coaching practice. And the truth is, is that the more you connect with yourself, the more you create your own internal spark, the more you are loving on yourself, it will have that ripple effect. It will have that effect on your partner where they're gonna see like a part of you that is being tended to, that where you are becoming more feminine and more appreciative and more alive and more awake and you know, into your own sensuality. And you're gonna have a demand for that type of return too, because it's energy, it's frequency.

SPEAKER_00 11:00

The second step is to rebuild emotional safety, right? So you want to use safe communication rituals like daily appreciations.

SPEAKER_01 11:09

Oh, I so appreciate you.

SPEAKER_00 11:11

Uh you are so beautiful. Your skill sets are just so marvelous to watch you just use your it's it's it's dynamite, Zuri.

SPEAKER_01 11:19

Can we do it with not being fake?

SPEAKER_00 11:21

No, that was fake.

SPEAKER_01 11:22

Yeah, I know. Can we do it like a real daily appreciation?

SPEAKER_00 11:25

Yes. You know what? Everything I just said, but in with a very solid, I really mean like watching you work and and and kick ass is is inspiring to me. So that's that's a real one.

SPEAKER_01 11:37

I really appreciate that French toast you made me.

SPEAKER_00 11:39

You're so welcome. I like filling you up with loveliness.

SPEAKER_01 11:43

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 11:44

Another great uh communication uh ritual is the three-layer check-in where you and your spouse talk to each other and you cover things like I feel so-and-so, I need so-and-so, or I'm open to. So those three those three phases I feel, I need, I am open to. It's a great way to start that communication, or actually keep that communication going. And then also the vulnerability first, right? So you go first and you speak soft and you be real, right? So if you open yourself up, it allows your partner to also do the same. If you walk into it closed off, it's just gonna be a mirror effect.

Step 3: Reignite Polarity

SPEAKER_01 12:27

And so it helps if you do these things in order. So appreciation, then the check-in, and then the vulnerability. And the truth is that your heart opens when it feels safe. So it doesn't open when it feels forced. So you have to be willing to open yourself up to your partner and not force your force yourself into their reality. Correct. All right, so number three is reigniting polarity. So masculine and feminine energies aren't about gender, they're about charge. So they will ignite each other. So masculine and feminine energy should create polarity if you are actually in your own masculine or your own feminine state. It should create a an opposite, an opposing energy, which is polarity. The divine masculine energy provides a safe, stable structure for the divine feminine energy, which is seen as more fluid and dynamic. So check in on your divine feminine and masculine energies to determine if there is polarity in your relationship. To assess, you can ask who's holding the container. So is your if if you know you're listening, and is it your husband holding the container? And if so, is he holding it in a way that makes you feel safe, that makes you feel like you can melt inside of the container. You can ask who's being receptive or who's closed off and be willing to look at yourself and be hold yourself accountable. Self-assessment is a huge part of creating polarity because again, oftentimes we're just looking at the other person as the problem. When it it takes two to tango is a phrase I still like to use because it's true. It's like you are creating, they're not gonna become more masculine if you're masculine. Correct. So, like they are gonna become more feminine if they're trying to make things work. And so you have to really assess. So who's being receptive, who's being closed off, who's leading with warmth and clarity. Maybe somebody's leading, not you know, not leading enough. Maybe somebody's not allowing leadership. So ask like who's who's leading, who's following, who's not allowing leadership, who's power struggling, they both want to be leaders.

Step 4: Schedule Low-Pressure Intimacy

SPEAKER_00 14:58

Most certainly, soulmate connection is energetic. Like when polarity fades, desires do too. And I when every time I think of polarity, I think of magnets, right? So if you have a positive, negative magnet, and the and the polarity is when you have a negative and a positive, and you try to push those together, and that that energy between those those two that repels them is that that sexual tension, right? Is that's the tension that you're wanting. If you take that negative charge magnet and you match it with a negative charge magnet, it's just it's gonna bind together. There will be no difference and there will be no uh energy involved, right? So the energy that you want is that little push-pool that you get when you are uh polarized. Uh number four, uh you can schedule intimacy without pressure. Intimacy doesn't have to mean sex, right? It means a presence. So you can try showering together, you can have 20 minutes of uninterrupted eye contact and touch, such as holding hands. There can be a guided partner breath work or some tantric exercises that you can get into, all of which will definitely build sexual tension, and that's exactly what you're looking for.

Step 5: Release Resentment And Labor

SPEAKER_01 16:13

Yeah, and you're looking for not just sexual tension, but just safety and intimacy and acceptance in being. A lot of times we're not connecting in a way that allows us to drop into masculine or feminine, whatever the case may be, because we are trying to find the way through to the partner instead of just being the way and you know, being in our own resonance. So let's talk about number five. Number five is to release what you've been holding, and this is major because likely if you are acting like roommates and not soulmates, there is some resentment or betrayal. There's some type of invisible labor. We reference that. It's also known as like not being seen or appreciated. So, like you're doing, let's say, all the cooking and cleaning and never getting a thank you, never getting acknowledgement, or you're doing all of the maybe providing money work stuff, you know, to provide for the family and also not getting a thank you and being like, oh, we don't have enough money for this, you know, like maybe you're getting nagged. That's invisible labor and that's resentment. It carries all kinds of resentment and problems. And these don't go away by ignoring them, repressing them, or you know, distracting yourself or just like checking out of the relationship. They don't go away because these types of things have cords connected to them, and you will carry all of that, you know, baggage with you year after year if you don't process and like have these moments where you can release what you've been holding. So, one idea is you can hold a monthly clearing ceremony to release unspoken truths and co-regulate.

SPEAKER_00 18:16

Yeah, be advised that any unspoken resentment becomes energetic resistance. And let me tell you, you do not want resistance in your marriage.

WTF Dating Apps Game

SPEAKER_01 18:24

Right. So I think it's a good time to play a game. And I know you love games.

SPEAKER_00 18:31

I I do love games, and and the the game today is is gonna be the what the fuck? It's what the fuck, because as I was looking, you know, through the whole dating stuff, I was like, oh my god, like the game has changed so much, and I am I'm fearful. So here are the top five what the fuck dating apps that are out there. Like, what? Okay, the first one that came to mind is this is hilarious. Uh there is an app. Um, it's like a tender for threesums.

SPEAKER_01 19:02

What?

SPEAKER_00 19:03

Yes, there's an app that um and should I say its name or no? Uh I don't know. But it's it's designed to No, we're trying to keep people in relationships. No, it's the side note, but like like that's that's a lot of information to deal with.

SPEAKER_01 19:21

So wait, how does it work? You have to like triangulate your relationship?

SPEAKER_00 19:25

Gladly, I don't know how it works.

SPEAKER_01 19:28

Okay, tell me the next one.

SPEAKER_00 19:30

What the okay, there's a there's an app that connects you to other bacon lovers.

SPEAKER_01 19:40

What I gotta know the name of that one. Is it oink?

SPEAKER_00 19:44

It's Sizzle.

SPEAKER_01 19:45

Sizzle. Listen, if all you have in in like common is your love of bacon, I don't know. That's not what I would lead with.

SPEAKER_00 19:56

No, no, exactly.

SPEAKER_01 19:57

For a long-term relationship, what if what if you go to the doctor one day? He's like, listen, ma'am, I gotta tell you something. No more bacon for me.

SPEAKER_00 20:06

No more bacon.

SPEAKER_01 20:06

Oh no, I don't want to lose my loved one. I met my my husband on sizzle. He's only with me because of my love of bacon.

SPEAKER_00 20:16

No bacon, that's means for divorce right there.

SPEAKER_01 20:19

Then he's coming back on sizzle. You see, I would just be like, that's too wobbly for my taste.

SPEAKER_00 20:27

Yeah, indeed. Uh, this next one is um there is a dating app that's seeking arrangements for the notorious sugar daddy dating site, right? So basically, it's women trying to find older men who are super successful, exactly, almost dead, you know, have lots of money in the bank.

SPEAKER_01 20:45

And don't have like a good relationship with their kids or something like that.

SPEAKER_00 20:48

That's it. That's it. A sugar daddy site.

SPEAKER_01 20:50

What's the name of that one? Just kidding.

SPEAKER_00 20:54

Seeking arrangements. That's what it is. It's a tourist sugar daddy dating site.

SPEAKER_01 21:00

Oh my god. So if you have a daddy war bucks complex, here we go.

SPEAKER_00 21:04

Okay, next is wingman. What do you think wingman is for?

SPEAKER_01 21:09

Wingman.

SPEAKER_00 21:10

Wingman.

SPEAKER_01 21:11

Um, I I would say I'm a pretty good wingman. Like I would I help my my girls out when they need help, you know. Yeah. I'm very outgoing. So would would I be on that for my friends?

SPEAKER_00 21:24

Absolutely not.

SPEAKER_01 21:25

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 21:26

Wingman is tender at high altitude. Wingman is designed to help you get lucky while flying. Right? You're talking about entering the mile high club. Like, who's on the plane? Swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe. Oh, this motherfucker. Meet me in the plane in two in the in the bathroom in two minutes.

SPEAKER_01 21:50

I love that. Wait, that one I might have. I just I would I would download it and then would just catfish people to see who's like running to the bathroom.

SPEAKER_00 22:01

Okay, so if you like, if you like bacon, there is one called salad match.

SPEAKER_01 22:07

Oh, salad match.

SPEAKER_00 22:08

Salad match and salad match. Allows you to meet someone, uh allows you to meet your salad soulmate.

SPEAKER_01 22:16

Wow. Salad.

SPEAKER_00 22:19

Salad soulmate.

SPEAKER_01 22:21

Hmm.

SPEAKER_00 22:21

Hmm. Indeed.

SPEAKER_01 22:23

I mean, I think that one might have more longevity than sizzle.

SPEAKER_00 22:29

Oh, yeah, totally. I mean, in regards to the heart, sizzle isn't going to be as good as as salads. You know what I'm saying?

SPEAKER_01 22:39

So you have one more for me?

SPEAKER_00 22:41

I I I actually have two more.

SPEAKER_01 22:43

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_00 22:43

Alright, so this one is easy, right? So what do you think tall friends is?

SPEAKER_01 22:47

Tall friends?

SPEAKER_00 22:48

Tall friends.

SPEAKER_01 22:49

I think this is for tall people.

SPEAKER_00 22:51

It's for tall people. Yeah. Indeed. That's fine.

SPEAKER_01 22:54

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 22:54

That's fine. Maybe there's a short one, or maybe there's a middle one, or maybe there's, you know, you know, so it's tall people meeting tall people. Yes.

SPEAKER_01 23:02

I think that's great. So is there a what the fuck about this?

SPEAKER_00 23:05

There's a couple questions that I have. Okay. So who is considered tall?

SPEAKER_01 23:12

Oh, yeah. Right.

SPEAKER_00 23:13

So if I go into, say, you know, China, I'm pretty tall. Right? Am I gonna be in this?

SPEAKER_01 23:19

But if I go into like Peru, you're tall.

SPEAKER_00 23:21

If I go to like Peru, exactly. Can I be on this tall app?

SPEAKER_01 23:29

No. It's not it's probably is it location specific? You're right about that.

SPEAKER_00 23:34

What about stilts or high heels?

SPEAKER_01 23:36

It's like you're um, you know, you're on this app that's like for exotic people, and you're like, oh, I'm so exotic because I'm a redhead, and then you go to Ireland and everyone looks like you. You're no longer on the exotic app. Exactly. But you would be the exotic on the exotic app in Ireland. Boom. Okay, so yeah, I see what you're saying. I think it's probably location specific, and I think tall is anything over six foot, I guess, in the US. But anyway, I wouldn't know. I'm not tall.

SPEAKER_00 24:08

I mean, to someone who's five two, I'm tall, bro.

SPEAKER_01 24:11

Yeah, to somebody who's five two, you're tall.

SPEAKER_00 24:14

Okay, this last one, this last one is Luxie. What do you think Luxy does?

SPEAKER_01 24:20

Luxie? How do you spell it?

SPEAKER_00 24:22

L-U-X-Y.

SPEAKER_01 24:25

Luxie.

SPEAKER_00 24:26

And here's a hint. Remove the Y and you get Lux. Lux. So Lux is for luxurious people. The 1%.

SPEAKER_01 24:36

Oh.

SPEAKER_00 24:36

The 1%. So there's a dating app geared toward millionaires, supermodels, celebs, CEOs, and others in the 1%. So my question is could I be in the 1%? Just by just by being on this app?

SPEAKER_01 24:51

And the funny thing is, is that No, but there's probably a qualifier. You have to have, you know, a B that follows your your uh net worth.

SPEAKER_00 25:01

It's it said that this is the Tinder minus the poor people.

SPEAKER_01 25:11

Well, my my celeb friends are on Raya. They're not on Lux. Luxie?

SPEAKER_00 25:17

Luxy.

SPEAKER_01 25:18

I've never heard of it. Okay, so um my single celeb friends are on Raya, not Luxy, but maybe it's because they don't have a maybe they're not billionaires? A couple of maybe, yeah, maybe they do.

SPEAKER_00 25:29

I mean, would you have to put your tax records? Like, how do you get on the site?

SPEAKER_01 25:32

Well, definitely not tax records.

unknown 25:35

I know.

SPEAKER_00 25:37

Oh, yeah. If you have tax records, you're not on the site because 20% don't pay taxes.

SPEAKER_01 25:42

That's what I was gonna say.

SPEAKER_00 25:44

Question, bro.

SPEAKER_01 25:45

Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_00 25:47

Get back, get your ass back to Tinder.

SPEAKER_01 25:49

Exactly. That's how they get you.

SPEAKER_00 25:52

Yes.

SPEAKER_01 25:54

Okay, well, Luxie, yeah. Let's uh I might have to look at that one and see what you have to do to qualify.

SPEAKER_00 26:01

Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_01 26:02

But it says the 1% and then it says like exempt.

SPEAKER_00 26:06

Exec CEOs, supermodels. Hey, you know what? I'm a supermodel.

SPEAKER_01 26:09

Well, so is it based upon your social status or is it based upon your dollar, the dollars in your in your account?

SPEAKER_00 26:18

Luckily for you, I have no idea.

SPEAKER_01 26:21

Luckily for you, I don't even know.

SPEAKER_00 26:23

I don't even know.

SPEAKER_01 26:26

Okay, okay.

SPEAKER_00 26:26

I'm over here trying to make my my uh my own internal system work better. You know what I'm saying? Like you and me.

SPEAKER_01 26:34

Seriously. Oh my god, okay.

Coaching Offer And Client Wins

SPEAKER_00 26:37

I think we can get back to our our uh our podcast, but um thank you, Zuri, for not not um turning into your roommate, yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_01 26:49

So that you didn't have to get up get on the taps. Okay. We're always looking to give you solutions, Empowered Posse. And if you've been stuck in roommate mode and want to rediscover the magic of soul deep connection, we created a special offer just for couples like you.

SPEAKER_00 27:09

Our Empowered Relationship Breakthrough is a 120-minute joint coaching session with both of us. And it's designed to help you release relational residue and uncover your communication blocks and rebuild polarity, add more presence and more passion to your relationship.

SPEAKER_01 27:28

Yes, who doesn't want more passion? In fact, we've been getting amazing results, and I'm gonna read a quick review with their permission to Anya and Steven came in, had a breakthrough session with us, and this is what they said. They said, We came in stuck, barely speaking, never touching, and so disconnected. The breakthrough session and even the questions in the intake form helped us see each other again, really see each other. This was better than six months of therapy. We tried everything and we finally understood why we kept fighting. We are now planning our second honeymoon.

SPEAKER_00 28:06

Yay! I love that.

SPEAKER_01 28:08

So we are getting so many great responses and results with our breakthrough sessions, including in this session is two confidential intake forms used for massive momentum. Again, this is with both of us. So I work with the women and Mike works with the men. And so we are working together to help find unified polarity and excitement and passion. And then we meet with you on Zoom for 120 minutes, so two hours. And then 48 hours after your session, we give you what we call an empowered relationship plan. And then we follow it up with 30 days of audio coaching. And you can do that on Boxer or Messenger, and it's with both of us, and you get feedback and you can share your wins, you can get more coaching support. Sometimes we schedule follow-up, you know, sessions. It just really depends on the couple, and we try to present as much opportunity for transformation. And the transformations have just been undeniable across the board. If you're interested in something like this for your relationship, you can book it using the link in the show notes. And we take two couples per month. So we have a couple open, and you're welcome to join us in this empowering transformation.

SPEAKER_00 29:35

Yes, I mean you didn't sign up for a roommate, right? You came here for real love, right? And this is the opportunity.

Commitment, Change, And Rekindling

SPEAKER_01 29:42

And if you got married, like it's a big commitment. And you know, it's it's a lot of work. What I will say is that Mike and I have done a lot of work on ourselves, and then we work on our relationship a lot, so we know it's a lot of. Work. We know it's a major commitment. And we also know the the you know, it's just not really satisfying to have a roommate. Roommates are not the goal.

SPEAKER_00 30:10

No, never is. And and keep in mind that when you enter into a relationship, you just know that both of you guys are going to be changing. Nothing stays the same that is true in the natural world. So as you guys are going through your marriage and constantly changing, sometimes those changes will remove you from the heart-based relationship that you had you guys had shared together. And this is an opportunity to rekindle that, to get back to that passionate side of your relationship so that when you wake up, you're not waking up on the on the opposite side of the bed, you're waking up back in each other's arms.

SPEAKER_01 30:49

Yes, I like that. I'm ready to be cuddled. Let's go cuddle.

SPEAKER_00 30:54

Oh yeah. I mean, it it's it's on the schedule.

Playful Close And Cultural Observations

SPEAKER_01 30:58

Okay, we are sending you the highest vibrations.

SPEAKER_00 31:02

You are held.

SPEAKER_01 31:03

You are loved.

SPEAKER_00 31:09

All right. So we talked about all those dating sites, right? Where they're very, very, very specific. The bacon lovers. There was a site where um if you liked men with beards, that's the site that you go to. Okay. My question is with that is do the women have to have beards as well? Because that's a different site. And that starts me thinking like, we're in that, we are in such a nuanced phase in our life that we can, you know, with social media, we can literally go on a uh a site for something as specific as bacon. Like, what else is there? But there's things out there like wingmen.

SPEAKER_01 31:47

Like, how does one come up with that? Yeah, I think like probably somebody who's flying a lot who's just like, I don't know, horny. Like, what is like what else?

SPEAKER_00 31:57

Oh, I got a good idea. Remember that flight back from Australia was like 10 hours?

SPEAKER_01 32:04

What would be What if what if every girl on that plane was on wingman?

SPEAKER_00 32:10

Well, I could s I could swipe all day long.