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Advice is cheap, endless, and weirdly addictive. We have all felt that pull to ask one more question, watch one more clip, or hunt for the perfect hack before we start. Today we challenge that habit head-on, using real stories from coaching athletes and building a business to show how “seeking tips” can turn into a comfortable form of procrastination.

We dig into the classic overthinking trap with strength and conditioning and boxing conditioning: obsessing over tiny variables like 10 seconds versus 12 seconds, while ignoring the bigger levers that actually move performance. We talk about what those bigger levers look like in real life: a properly structured training programme, nutrition, sleep, mindset, skill development, and the willingness to do the unglamorous work consistently. The point is not that details never matter, it is that details only matter after you have built the base and put in the reps.

Then we get practical about how to ask for advice in a way that leads to real answers. Instead of “any tips?”, we explain how to bring context: your goal, what you are doing right now, what you have tried, what is not working, and the exact problem you need solved. We also make the case for paying for implementation when you need a plan, and for taking action when budget is tight, because information without execution is just noise.

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Why Advice Feels Like Progress

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What's going on, guys? Welcome back to the Life Without Limitations podcast. And today we are talking about advice. We're talking about advice because quite simply, there are too many people asking for too much of it. This is something that I run into run into all the time in my strength and conditioning business. Um, with as my social media presence started to grow over the last few years, I'll have athletes just asking for the most random things that are just not the right questions. And I want to talk about this to first try to hopefully show some of these guys they need to be asking deeper questions or to help you understand that it's time to implement instead of continue to ask for more. So the biggest problem is not asking for advice, it's just not knowing how. It's not knowing the advice that you need. And most people end up falling into this trap where they're asking for advice on problems they don't really have, trying to find solutions that they don't really need. And they're doing it for a very simple reason. Most of the time, they're doing it because asking more feels like productivity, right? If you're continuing to try to get more info about how to improve at anything, you feel like you're being productive. You're watching a you're listening to a podcast, hey, you're watching another YouTube video, you're DMing a coach that you know on Instagram trying to get some sort of advice or some sort of help from the person without really knowing what you're trying to get help on, or without really asking the right questions.

The Micro Detail Trap In Training

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A perfect example of this, I remember for a long time I have this person who keeps coming back into my DMs. And I used to post a lot of just straight conditioning sessions. If you're having this problem, go do this conditioning session, it'll help. And this person would come into my DMs and say, Hey, you've made one video where you said that you should do 10 seconds of work and 90 seconds of rest for the alectic system, and you made another video saying 12 seconds of work. Which one's better? And I told him right off the first time, neither of them are better, they're just different, right? They're two ways to hit the same thing. And then probably four or five separate occasions, I had this kid answer question boxes that I would put on Instagram asking the same question, or DM me again. Hey, you know, really love your videos, but uh 10 seconds or 12 seconds for a lactic system, which one should I do? And the problem with that question is you're focusing on the most micro details that make the least amount of difference, right? And that's what happens when you try to find advice too much. What most people should be doing is taking that and going 10 seconds or 12 seconds, I'm just gonna go really hard for a short amount of time and then rest completely, and then we're good, and then just continue to move on from there. Because the truth is, with most things in life, that two-second difference isn't going to make that much of a difference, right? Even if it's with you know other types of training, whether it's with stuff in your life and your business or anything, that little tiny difference, the chances are it's the intention, it's the action that actually matter. And so what they think they're getting a lot of the time is they think they're getting like the hack, right? In their mind, he's coming into those DMs and he's going, Oh, you know, if I just know 10 seconds or 12 seconds, like that'll be the thing that gets me when in result, when in reality, that's one tiny little element of such a bigger picture, right? To be successful in a sport, it's not 10 seconds or 12 seconds for the ale-lactic system. It's a whole properly structured training system. It is nutrition, it is mindset, it is sleeping seven to nine hours per night. It is figuring out the limits that you have on yourself and working through those, becoming a better, higher-level individual. It's working on your skill set, it's being willing to move to a bigger gym or a different city when you outgrow the gym that you're in. There are so many different things. And if you're spending so much time focused on such a small detail, it's because it's comfortable to worry about this little thing instead of worrying about the areas that you're not actually doing anything in. So what they think they get, what they think they get is the hack or the trick. What actually happens is they're not really getting an answer at all. They're not really getting any progress, but they're spending all their time focused on that because it feels like progress to them in the moment.

A Business Coach Calls It Out

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Now, I want to tell another story about this because, again, what I want to make very clear, especially as we keep bringing this show back, is I am not trying to tell anybody any of this stuff from a place of perfection. I'm trying to tell these stories because they're real, they've affected me, they've been a large part of me being able to see success in my life, and I want them to be a large part of you being able to see success in yours. A couple years back, one of my business coaches, Janelle, I fucking love you, by the way, if you ever see this, came up to me at an event and she started the conversation off really nicely. Hey, Kenny, how's it going? You know, everything going well? Tell me about business, tell me about life, what's going on with you? And so we're talking away, my guard's down, and then she goes, Can I be direct with you for a second? And I was like, uh uh, yeah, I guess. And she goes, Dude, you gotta get your head out of your fucking ass. And like, pretty taken aback, I remember sitting there being like, What do you mean? Like, business was going pretty well, it was picking up, life was life was good by all accounts. And she stopped me and she was like, I see you on every one of the fucking mastermind calls. You're always there, you're always asking questions, and 99% of the time, they're the same fucking questions, man. You're asking about similar things that don't really matter, and then you're coming back the next week and you're asking for such a small tweak, or you're asking a very similar question to try to get someone else's perspective. It's like you're spending all this time on shit that doesn't matter. You need to fucking implement what you're learning, and that's what's going to help you break through to a new level. And so I brought that back. I started thinking about it, and I realized she was right. I was comfortable in that feeling of like, look at me, I'm the student that shows up to every call, learns, and always asks a question. I was checking the boxes of what a productive business owner was doing without actually being productive, taking any chances, making any sacrifices, or doing the things necessary to move the business forward and help more people. Excuse me. And so after she tore me in half, she told me, I'm making a rule for you. For the next 30 days, you're not allowed to show up to a call. If I hear from a coach that you showed up to a call, or if you show up to one of my calls, I'm kicking you out of the mastermind and I'm keeping all your money. So that was a pretty hard line because this mastermind is not cheap. That it made me just realize, like, okay, I gotta actually take the stuff that I'm doing and implement. And so for the next 30 days, I literally just looked at all my notes, looked at all the questions that I had asked, looked at all the notes I took from the answers I got, and started putting things together and actually moving things forward, implementing new things with my coaches to make sure that my athletes were getting better results, implementing new things with social media to start upping the amount of people we were getting following the page, implementing piece by piece by piece to make sure we were bringing the business to the next level like I wanted to. Within 30 days, I almost doubled the size of my company. I want that to sink in. 30 days. We almost doubled the size of the company. Not because I went to a bunch more calls and tried to pick up a bunch more information, because I took the information I had and I fucking did something with it. From that moment on, the rule I made for myself, and a very similar rule that should apply to all of you, is do not ask for more information once you've implemented the information that you have. So in that same mastermind, which I'm still in, they have four or five calls a week. I only show up when it's things that specifically apply to what I'm struggling with right now. I'm not showing up to everything anymore. So for you guys, as an example, if you're an ad, if you're one of the fighters watching this, if you've watched my energy system video breaking down this is how to train each different energy system, don't come back into my DMs and say, Well, do I train it with like two minutes or do I train it with two minutes and 10 seconds? Go take what was in the video and for the next 30 days, use it two to three days a week. And then once you use it two to three days a week for 30 to 60 days, you're gonna start noticing, wow, I feel so much better. My body's recovered, I'm more explosive, all these things are improving. And that's whether you did two minutes of work or two minutes and 10 seconds, or those little minor changes, right? But by making the actual intentional effort towards the outcome you're looking for, not by just searching for more information, you're always going to get further. And

Implement First Then Ask Better

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then the second part of this is understanding not just that you don't need more advice, but also understanding how to actually ask for advice in a productive way. Because there are times where you're gonna need more advice, right? There are times where you're gonna be stuck and you're gonna need someone to point you in the right direction. But the ways that most people go about it are massively, massively flawed. On a weekly basis, I'll have conversations with athletes in my Instagram DMs, we'll talk, and at some point or another in the conversation, or I'll go on Instagram live and at some point or another in the live, without question, I'll get a message, I'll get a comment like this. Hey, I'm a 21-year-old amateur boxer. Any tips? What the fuck do you mean? Any tips? Like train hard and like don't get fat so that cutting weight is easier. Like, what tips do you want? Tips about what? About your skill set, about strength and conditioning? What area of strength and conditioning? What are you doing right now? What are you struggling with? What area of your game do you feel needs improvement? Right? But if you're just coming onto an Instagram live being like, any tips? How is anyone supposed to actually give you a tip that's going to help you when the only thing they know about you is I'm a 21-year-old amateur boxer? You get what I'm saying? And the reason that that doesn't work is because, first off, I have no idea what kind of tips you want because you're not asking anything specific. But second, I don't have the context to even give you any tips. So, like another variation of that is I'll get an athlete that comes in and says, Um, you know, I'm a 21-year-old amateur boxer, what's the best conditioning for me to do? And again, same deal, right? You're looking for that quick hack that just says, Oh, I go do this, that's my answer. Guys, that does not exist. And any coach on the internet trying to tell you it does is fucking lying to you. They're fucking lying to you. There's no way about it. If someone is to come in and have that little context about who you are and say, just go do this conditioning, they're fucking lying to you. That's it. Because in order to know what the best focus for you for conditioning is, first off, there's never one. Like if anybody ever says the best conditioning is two minutes of work with one minute of rest for five rounds at the highest pace you can keep, they're fucking out of their mind, stupid, or they're just lying. Whereas if somebody says this is the best conditioning for you, that's still not working. Why? Because there's all different kinds of conditioning that go into preparing for a fight. And not only on top of that as well, they don't have any context on you. If you just say, I'm 20 years old, what's the best conditioning? Instead, what you need to do is you need to better assess the way that you're training right now, and you need to better assess what your strengths and weaknesses are. Because once you actually come with that type of question, hey, I'm a boxer, I've been training for the last five years. This is the kind of training I'm doing right now, and I feel like I'm struggling in this, this, and this area. Now you're able to take that information, and I'm able to look at that and go, okay, here's the background, here's the person, here's the struggle. What could we maybe tweak from what they're doing right now? Right. And then back to what I was saying before about implement the advice, you get that little tweak, go use it before you start asking for more. Because if you then go, okay, but then what next? Oh, but what next? But what next? Well, we don't know because you gotta try this first and see if it works. Right? So it's about figuring out how to ask the right questions. But as I go through that example of fighters, no matter who you are, no matter what area of life you're in, think about this the same way. If you're trying to get into podcasting and somebody says, Hey, I'm I'm trying to get into podcasting. Any tips? It's like, well, what do you want to talk about? Have you podcasted before? What are your goals with it? Do you want to make it something huge? Do you want to just have it be something you do for fun with friends? Do you want to interview people? Do you want to just talk about whatever you want to talk about? Like, there's no context there to try to give you information. You need to figure yourself out a little bit first to start actually being able to get advice from other people. Whereas if you come and you're like, hey, I started a podcast, I'm talking about this. Now I'm feeling like I'm struggling a little bit with understanding how to come up with more episode ideas. Well, now there's a little bit of a conversation to be had, right? Okay, well, what episodes have you done so far? Um, what kind of feedback have you gotten from your audience? You can get into that conversation a little more. And again, podcasting kind of a random example, just since that's what I'm literally doing right now. Okay, that was the first thing that came to mind. But hopefully you get the idea, right? Hopefully you get the idea that in order to give advice that actually helps move something forward, you need to have a specific problem or a specific thing that you need advice on. Just getting random general advice from random people with no context is not actually helping you in any way, shape, or form. But if you are stuck in life, whether that's the athlete in my DMs saying, What's the best conditioning for me to do, or just generally asking, any tips, or whether you are a podcaster trying to get more into that, whether you're a business owner, whatever area of life you're stuck in, there's a couple of ways to get past it.

Pay For Implementation When You Need It

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Number one, and this I cannot emphasize enough, you need to pay for implementation. Because if you're one of those athletes and you're sitting there and you're like, I've watched every strength and conditioning video on the internet, but I still don't know how to put together the best program, well, then you need a coach to put together the best program for you. And the way you're gonna get a coach is not by spamming my fucking Instagram BM saying, hey, make me a program for free, because uh-uh, and anybody who's doing that is not giving you anything good. They're probably going to ChatGPT and then charging you 50 bucks for a program or some crap. But the way to actually get the right effect that you're looking for is to pay someone to help you with it. Pay someone who has the expertise that you're looking for. Like myself with the business, I put down thousands of dollars that I was barely able to cover to get coaching on the business. And four years later, I'm in my own house in the studio that I've built and paid for myself, podcasting about these topics after speaking on a stage about these topics, after building the social media audience, all the things, I'm not gonna go through all of it, but I'm able to be in that position now because I paid the price to help to have someone show me how to implement the stuff I needed to implement. And the second, if you're in a position right now where you can't pay for that, because I understand budget's part of the discussion. If you're in a position right now where it's not likely for you to be able to do that, well then A, you need to take the information you have and you need to actually go and do something with it. Stop asking people for more, stop trying to get the nice next little hack or the next bit of info from somebody else, take what you have already, create something, and go. And the reason that that's so important is because if you stay in that loop for six months, like that kid in my DMs asking 10 seconds or 12 seconds, if you stay in that loop for the next six months trying to find the next bit, the next bit, the next bit, six months later, you're gonna still be in the same spot asking for the next bit of information. But if you take the information you have and use it, maybe you didn't make the best progress over the course of six months, but you've made some progress over the course of six months. And now, six months later, you can look and say, here's where I was six months ago, here's where I am now, here's where I want to go. This is what I've tried so far, this is what my problem is. How do I fix this very specific problem? Because I actually know that's what I'm struggling with. Because the way to see success in anything and the way to get to the level you want in anything is by intentionally focusing on implementing actions that will help lead you towards the goals you have. I'm gonna say that one more time if I can remember all the words. Intentionally implementing action steps that will help lead you towards the goal that you have. I know that wasn't the exact same words, but the tone stayed the same, the message stayed the same. So that is the thing I want you to take away from today. And if you can write down anything and fucking paste it somewhere, you're gonna see every single day. Information without execution is just fucking noise. Information without execution is just fucking noise. Whether you were in my situation with my business coaches threatening to kick me out of their program and keep all my money, whether you're the athlete trying to find all the perfect strength and conditioning tips to get yourself the perfect plan without having to pay anybody, whether you're the podcaster trying to figure out, hey, how do I get my podcast set up? My first

Start Messy And Collect Reps

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hundred episodes, I literally opened up Zoom and pressed record. That was it. There was no equipment, no microphone, no nothing. And then I found Buzzsprout.com to upload the podcast to, which then spread it out to everywhere. Like it was the most basic bitch setup you've ever seen in your life. But I had a hundred episodes, and then I would have people say, Oh, I've been thinking about it for so long, but I just don't know how to start a podcast. You open up Zoom, you click fucking record. That's how you start a podcast. Like that's it. But people overcomplicate it because they're trying to find the perfect way. Was it the perfect hundred episodes? No. Was it the maximal amount of views I could get or downloads I could get on every episode? Definitely not. But it was a hundred episodes while a lot of other people were sitting around going, Oh, I don't know what to do. I don't know how to how to get this started. And the person who sits around and says, I don't know how to get this started, is going to still be sitting around saying, I don't know how to get this started while you're figuring shit out. Actually, to wrap it up, hilarious story on that. Well, hilarious to me. I remember when I started my podcast, I had a bunch of people telling me, like, oh, you know, you're like, you don't have enough of a name yet, you're not gonna be able to like get the right guests or anything like that. And then people telling me the same thing. Oh, once I get a bigger name, like that's when I'm gonna start my podcast. And I was like, oh, okay, I'm gonna start mine now. And my tenth guest was an Olympic gold medalist. My first guest was a professional hockey player. Every one of the early episodes I had, pretty much every one of the early episodes I had, were extremely high-level people. And I got them by just reaching out and saying, Hey, I'm doing a podcast trying to help athletes. Do you want to come on for an interview? And they said, Yeah, sounds good. And then they came on for interviews, right? We overcomplicate these things. And one of those guys, especially that I remember telling me, like, oh, you know, I'm gonna start it when I have a bigger name. We are six years after I did my first episode right now. This is the 604th podcast that I've produced, let alone the ones that I've been on as a guest, the second of the new show, but the 604th overall. He still has yet to start his podcast, from what I from what I see. I haven't searched, so maybe he has and I just haven't seen it. But from what I know, that guy telling me, you know, oh, you're too early, and I'm just gonna, you know, start my own later when I have a bigger name, six years later, still hasn't fucking done it. This is episode 604 that I've produced. Now, is it when you go to the grand scheme of things, is it better to have 604 reps of something trying to do it and not being perfect? Or better to wait six years and have zero reps at something because you're trying to wait until it's gonna be perfect or gonna be the best. I guarantee in any field, no matter who you are or what you do, 604 imperfect reps beats zero perfect reps every fucking day of the week. So take from this the quote that I said when I said I was wrapping this up like five minutes ago. Implementation information without implementation is just fucking noise. Take the information you have right now, implement it, start doing something, and then find advice when you actually need it. Stop just going around trying to get advice from everybody because it's just going to confuse you, burn you out, annoy you, and stop you from getting started, which is the goal in the first

Final Kick And Share The Show

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place. So, guys, that was the Life Without Limitation Podcast. I hope this helps. I would love to hear from you if it did. And then if you know somebody that needs the little kick in the ass that we gave in this one, send it their way. The goal here is to continue to grow the show, continue to help more people. I appreciate you so much for tuning in. Have a great rest of your day, and I'll catch you on the next episode.