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Mom, Faith is Everything
Today we have a mom who is walking in her gift on the show! Tamia Dillon, a mother of 4 is here to talk about walking out on faith while raising 4 kids that span from ages 2-16. Tamia is dropping gems this entire episode
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You're listening to the Moms Making Moves Today Podcast. Listen to moms share their stories, lessons and best practices on how they're crushing it in business health, faith and their communities plus so much more. Here's your host, Andrea McKoy. Welcome to another episode of moms
Andrea McKoy:Welcome to another episode of Moms Making Moves Today Podcast, on the show we have an awesome mom of four who will give us some great information regarding her journey and just fill us with those golden nuggets today. Welcome to the show Tamia. Thank you for joining us today. Let's just jump right into it. Tell us a little bit about yourself, your motherhood journey, like you stated before.
Tamia Dillon:I am a mother of four. I always say I have the developmental spectrum cause I have a teenager at 16 a new teenager, a 13 and a six year old and a two year old. So what have been some of the challenges having kids and those different age ranges? Just from my own experience in the background, I think we sort of grow up with this. Most people do grow up with this antiquated idea that you discipline one way, you handle all the kids the same way and it's just not true. They're all in their own little people with their own individual needs. And it's not me. I mean I really just recently learned truly the dynamic that you can't treat them all the same. So I say the struggle is just learning out of the different personalities, especially of having, like I said, a teenager who is, you know, wants to be a teenager and wants to feel independent, but you're still being a mom and trying to be a mom and a protector and love on them and give them their own identity, their own individual spaces. So I say that was probably like the biggest struggle. Just learning that all of their needs are not going to be designed because we all have different personalities and different things that we draw on that we love. Like you have some, you know, some people that, and you have some that may want you to just keep pushing them and giving them more things to do and that's the way they receive your approval.
Andrea McKoy:So I can imagine for kids they're going to be a little bit different. Yeah, I imagine so how you take care of you in the midst of four. You have teenagers where life can get busy, I'm sure, activities and their friends and then you have little ones that are requiring more of your time.
Tamia Dillon:It is definitely a challenge. I think you really have to be, and I've had to be really intentional about getting that time for myself. It's so funny, I just had this conversation this morning, how throughout the day we are mom, we're white, we're a student. Uh, employees are, you know, we have all of these titles and on the rare occasion you get to wear that to me at hand or the Andrea hat or whatever your name is on the rare occasion that happens, that's usually at the end of the night. And the most important thing is just sleep. That's it. So that's your time. I just have to be really intentional about creating that space for myself, being communicated with my husband and my kids like this, this is my time. I'm busy, I have to do this, so I'm doing this. And I think that's just been the biggest key. Just being open with communication and transparency. Like, yeah, no, I'm having them on me. I need to know I need them on me. I need to sit down, I need to go and just take 10 minutes. And just really kind of demanding that space a little bit too. Otherwise you just don't get it. It's just the reality. Yeah. And it gives you time to regroup because sometimes you're trying to be everything, do everything, but if you don't get that, then you get like, it's pretty much so off where sometimes just taking that five or 10 minutes or if you can get more, then you can come back and be a better mom, be a better employee, be a better person. Yeah. And I always say too that if I'm not okay, nobody's out there because the reality is I'm blessed to have the help. Me and my husband, I truly appreciate his presence, but really as mothers, we make the world go around in terms of household folding, in, making things put together. So if I'm not okay, nobody's there. I guarantee it just, it just won't go right. Like you said, we going off, we popping off. It's frustrating. You know, we're overwhelmed. So that's been sort of the thing I have to tell myself to like, okay, I'm not okay. Just know you guys are not going to be okay. No, I think we talk about balance. Is there a such no, but you have to get as close as she meaning balancing yourself as a mom, as an individual, as a career woman, and knowing, okay, well when I'm in mommy mode, I'm there. When I'm in work mode, I'm there. So let me get the, you're trying to do this, trying to move here. You're trying to do that. And clearly today was not a fan, so they was not an effective and I'm okay with that. And that's all righty.
Andrea McKoy:So what are some of the resources or things that you do to take care of you in regards to self care?
Tamia Dillon:Generally it's new music. I'm a big music girl. I love music. Music really just puts me in a space of happiness. Like so usually I'm either listening to music, I love being outdoors, so if I can get outdoors and just take a walk or just sit in the backyard and just take some, some good deep breath in. And criminal justice is the heart and the core of me. So First 48 and music is a good night to me.
Andrea McKoy:I have watched that a couple of times and I get upset when I'm like, all right, well we need to solve this. Right? Yeah. I know I have a couple of times about how your faith, what role does that play as a mom?
Tamia Dillon:Oh, that is just the core of who I am without my faith, I'm not sure how I navigate. U m, so in terms of instilling in them, I, you know, I never was big on forcing the issue. You know, l ike I think again, most of us grew up with k ind o f like, yeah, this is what i t is. I am pretty farm on the idea that a s for me a nd my house, we was o ur l ower right. But we also live in a world where things are changing, society is changing, they have their peers and their influences. So for me, what I truly t ry to instill in them is just the integrity piece of doing right and doing wrong. And I know it kind of seems off base, if you will, spiritually, but it really is at the core of spiritual reality when nobody else is looking, what are you doing and how are you, how are you behaving? And so that's a big piece around here. And accountability by just being accountable to somebody. It's not yourself. You know that you have to be accountable to God that God is, you know, he's a just God, he's not condemned but it convicted that conviction of being right or being wrong should always be at the core and I think you can get those two things down. You're, you're, you're smooth.
Andrea McKoy:No, I agree. Like that's the one thing because with our kids, we can't be with them all the time and as they get older we're not around the school or hanging out with their friends or when they go off to college, they're on their own and it's one of those, I want to make sure that you walk on at this house and a place to go when mommy's not available or daddy's not available. Who do you turn to? Who do you go? Who is holding you accountable, like you said, and those values and beliefs that you got at home or that you even acquired on your own? Getting older.
Tamia Dillon:Everything as swear. Like I always say, none of this comes with the handbook, being a wife, being a mother. But in reality, we do have a handbook if you, I mean if you had said that to that in a test to a higher being and have that faith, he actually doesn't have a handbook. Everything that we need is right there in God's word. Whether we take the time to do it, that is a whole nother thing. I'm guilty. I'm not always where I need to be, but I know I know the core of me. And where is that? No, I'm the same with you. So you're a mom away and then you work to actually a full LL full time student. Right. That's just graduated. I have now moving on to the next step, you know, getting my bachelor's. But yeah, it's definitely works. I guess you right. Let me not even correct you, that is work. How are you able to do all that? You have your four kids and you're going back to school. What motive to do that now? It's always know something that's just been in the back of my mind like I want to finish school, I want to finish school. But you know, you come up with those excuses, I don't have the time I got to work. We need the income, the kids, you start telling yourself all of these things that you just, why you can't do it. And I like to believe that has a funny way of forcing his hand. And we forced his hand by saying, no, I can't. I can't, I can't. But this is where he actually asked me. And so there was a situation that occurred and, and my marriage was hit with a blow and the opportunity presented itself and I ran with it. I just truly just took what I felt God was saying to me that moment and just capitalize on it. But it definitely leads to a support system. It's a planning. It's a definitely being intentional about and really not beating myself up. I would just oftentimes, because I can't get to this, I can't get to that. I just beat myself up, but I just had to learn in that moment. It's okay, you didn't study. You're probably gonna bomb that test. But it is cool. Like this had to happen when it has to happen to kids or homework or whatever was going on at the time. But I just, I just always knew that that was something I needed for me. If nothing else, like I mean I don't, I'm not being going titles, you know, degrees that you know, them you, but that was just always something I really want it for me and God created the opportunity for it.
Andrea McKoy:Well, shout out to you and congratulations. You know, moving forward in pursuing what she desired. I know it's been challenging and hard, but at the same time I'm sure it's been rewarding as well. Yeah, definitely rewarding considering, like I said, just everything that just sort of transpired in this space in this season or it's just all come together almost so gracefully and so divinely really, it just kind of just worked itself all the way out. So you know, kids are doing well now. Like yeah, it's not easy though. Definitely not easy, but it can be done. So what's next for you? What do you have taking place right now?
Tamia Dillon:Right now. I definitely, like I said, just continuing my education. I have a podcast as well, so definitely honing in on their baby. I think that has some purpose then designed to have as well because I can talk, so I'm learning that that means something that I can put it to you.And so that's what's kind of like my focus now really, like I said, continue my education and really becoming the best version of myself and showing up to that, showing up that way. Everybody. And what's the name of your podcast? So incidentally long-winded. Like I said, I realized that I can talk and there's something, so what I'm saying I think definitely so when we talk about multitasking and just trying to get everything done, but what we think is coming to that shoe, understanding that everything just all fall into place and it's okay if we are just not effective. The idea is to keep trying to keep doing and showing up. I mean even if it's not all the way together now. I agree. All right, so we have something here called the speed.
Andrea McKoy:I'm going to ask you some questions, then you can just give me what comes off the top of your mind. Don't give it much thought. If you want to elaborate on it and give it a little bit of more substance of why you selected that. It's completely up to you.
Tamia Dillon:Right?
Andrea McKoy:What's your favorite word?
Tamia Dillon:Hallelujah. That just came to me.
Andrea McKoy:That's okay. No, you're right. That's that word does. Yeah. All right. As a mom of four, what's your go to meal?
Tamia Dillon:taco?
Andrea McKoy:Do you all do taco Tuesday?
Tamia Dillon:Oh, we've fateful taco to veterans. Participants. Yes.
Andrea McKoy:Yeah, I love that too. What would you say is your super power?
Tamia Dillon:S uperpower helping people? I think I have a way of helping a nd healing people through my words, t hrough my a ction, doesn't seem like much of a power, right? To help people, but really when it's at the core of who you are
Andrea McKoy:Thank you, I know that our viewers can hear you on your podcast. Where else can they locate you everywhere?
Tamia Dillon:No, not, I'm not a Snapchat thing here, but Facebook, Instagram. That's where you can find me.
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