This episode, Jess, Evan, and Mike talk about what they are doing while they are out of work (Spoiler alert: It's pretty much the same way you are spending quarantine). Then they talk to Kelsey + Holly who are getting hitched at Camp Cody up in Freedom, NH October 2020.
This episode, Jess, Evan, and Mike talk about what they are doing while they are out of work (Spoiler alert: It's pretty much the same way you are spending quarantine). Then they talk to Kelsey + Holly who are getting hitched at Camp Cody up in Freedom, NH October 2020.
Evan: 0:14
Hello again and welcome to Episode three of W.E.D. Talks Weddings Entertainment drama This
Evan: 0:21
episode Uh, let's look at how we're spending our quarantine life here were probably much like everybody else in America, But board let's talk about it. And then later we're gonna talk to Kelsey and Holly, one of our great friends and future couples. Uh, Halloween this year. Hopefully.
Jess: 0:46
So, uh, Evan still has a day job, so that takes up most of his quarantine life. Which leaves me to just entertain myself. I think
Evan: 0:58
you prefer if I if
Jess: 1:00
I I wanted you to binge Tiger Kings with me, but you didn't. So that was a So I came in.
Evan: 1:09
I came in and out of that show, and I saw enough to be intrigued, but not enough to get the full scope. And I'm kind of disappointed in that. But at the same time, all the means have filled me in on everything. Yeah, really. It's one of those things where it's so prominent on the Internet right now. With means and jokes and stuff like you kind of like half to be in on the joke. You get, like, serious foam. Oh, I don't know what's going on.
Jess: 1:36
This is what Mike and I say is that it gives us a reason to binge all of these terrible, terrible shows like Love is blind because we need to keep up with our couples that be able to talk about it. Uh,
Evan: 1:53
and having a day job gives me a perfect excuse not to watch any of them. Yes, exactly. Because I am. I all admit it. I am a snob when it comes toe what I watch. And if it's not like family, Stanley Kubrick are Star Trek or something where I'm thinking or admiring the cinematography. Uh, by and large avoid it. And that's annoying for Jess. I know,
Jess: 2:21
yes, but that's where my comes in as my let's binge trash TV
Evan: 2:27
have zero standard somewhat, But mostly not.
Jess: 2:32
Yes, so we I binged Love is blind. Evan wanted nothing
Evan: 2:37
to do with that show. I am so against reality TV since since the early days, since, like all the way back in The Osbournes, a rat like I was like, What the fuck is this watching this? It's not really it's so fake. I can't get over. Yeah, I can't get past the edifice of these shows, and I know that people adore them so much. So it's tough.
Jess: 3:03
I don't think it's that I adore reality TV. It's just it's just mindless entertainment, something it's just
Evan: 3:12
just escape with. You know,
Jess: 3:14
I mean, love is blind with so stupidly ridiculous that it was like you just had Teoh to be there. And, you know, Tiger Kings was also just I you could ask me to outline Tiger Kings for you And I don't think I could
Evan: 3:31
only one Tiger King. Sorry, Even I know that I didn't watch episode. He is the tiger.
Jess: 3:40
You didn't ask me outline everything that happened in that show. And I don't think that I could because it was so much. And it was so ridiculous that I was like, I feel like I need to watch us again because I don't
Evan: 3:52
know. It's just so absurd that I can't even explain No, we binged re accidentally watched all eight hours of the latest money heist, uh,
Jess: 4:03
last night accidentally
Evan: 4:05
accidentally, because we thought, ah, that the Siris was wrapping up. So we're like, Oh, you know, two more episodes, three more episodes. We can see how it ends. And then there's a part
Jess: 4:17
five. Yeah, I was mis informed by you. Yeah, me also told me that this was the final season.
Evan: 4:27
We'll when? When? Ah, part When part three came out Ah, I was reading to see like, oh, what was in store for the next part? And at that time they were saying that Oh, there's only one more part because the director is going to move on to a different project. And then I didn't read anything since. So obviously that has changed in the interim. So I guess we have the wait until Corona virus passes and they get back to production and maybe two years. Just find out what happens.
Jess: 5:05
Can't Can't wait. That long is also, like, two years before the next mind hunter Mind hundreds. My favorite thing.
Evan: 5:14
Oh, if there's anything that just likes more than weddings, it's murder.
Jess: 5:20
E love murder.
Evan: 5:24
I don't think you're alone with that. True crime is like your yeah, number one.
Jess: 5:29
Oh, my God. You could
Evan: 5:31
talk for hours about that. That case with the what's her name with the text messaging?
Jess: 5:39
Oh, the Michelle Carter case?
Evan: 5:40
Yeah, the Michelle card. You could talk for hours.
Jess: 5:43
I watched the whole trial, Remember? On my cell phone?
Evan: 5:46
Yes. You did Live Live live as it was happening. There's just so much content out now with Netflix and Lulu and Amazon Prime. Um Well, actually, I just watched the, um how to fix a drug scandal, which is about Massachusetts.
Jess: 6:06
I watched that one to
Evan: 6:07
That was That was pretty good. Very interesting.
Jess: 6:10
Very interesting. And it was just It was, like, just Tiger King crazy. It was like, How is this happening?
Evan: 6:17
Yeah, like it gets more and more. And it's only four episodes, so definitely, easily doable in one day, Especially if you're
Jess: 6:26
course
Evan: 6:26
as skilled at which binging things as we are. I would say as say, that there's a lot of content, but there's also not enough because I would die to see the Bruins right now. True. I mean, I'm really missing sports. It's like sports is your life, Mike and I know hockey is mine. Ah, for you, Jess. You didn't have any skin in the game anymore. Because you're Buffalo teams suck, but, uh, yeah, there was. There was so much promise for the Bruins like it's It's
Jess: 7:01
heartbreaking, so desperate. He was watching some handball
Evan: 7:07
e. I was watching. I think it was from I think it was Hungarian. Um, but it was something. It was a professional league of some kind on ESPN, the O. J. Was on. It was it was on a channel I've never heard of. Um, but that does like international sports. And what not, Um, I had watched handball like at the Olympics, like the last time, the last summer Olympics, and it's pretty fun to watch. It's like fast paced. It's like a cross between basketball and, like lacrosse.
Jess: 7:43
Your curling game that we got you.
Evan: 7:45
We do have a tabletop little curl. Any game. That's fun. Yeah, we can make our own sports tournaments.
Jess: 7:51
I know people have been
Evan: 7:52
doing brackets with random things like potatoes, and I did some potato character, but that's not enough. That's not going to replace, like your March madness or your hockey playoffs. He
Jess: 8:04
I mean,
Evan: 8:05
we need our own sports. I think we need to do like living room Olympics in America. Yeah, like Office Olympics.
Jess: 8:10
That would be good for us. I think we should come up with like a Justin after photography Olympics that we do it here.
Evan: 8:17
I mean, we could do like, how fast can we do our shutter finger? I can tell the carpal tunnel. Or how
Jess: 8:27
quick can you change your settings?
Evan: 8:28
Yeah. What else? Any books? Because some people, you know might get sick of watching Netflix for 14 hours a day. So
Jess: 8:38
I I'm reading a Tarnoff books. I
Evan: 8:42
can I Can I talk about your book habit for a little bit? Because I've experienced a little bit. I have clued Jess into this wonderful, magical place. It's this place. It's beautiful where you can have any book for free for a limited time, but you can have it for free is called the Public Library, and I know they're closed right now, so it doesn't help. But she insists on buying these books all the time, and she keeps him on the shelf. And I'm like or paying 17 99 for this book you could have had
Jess: 9:18
for free. I like to own my books. It's weird. I feel like they're an accomplishment. It's like a little metal. You've done it to you for this book. Now you get to keep it. Um, I also like to re read some of my books. So there is food. I have it at any time to re read it. Um, but I also like to read the latest books, which the library doesn't always have. But you know who does have it? Barnes and Noble,
Evan: 9:54
this Amazon to but
Jess: 9:56
Amazon to. But right now, I can't really get anything from Amazon. So I have three books left. I kind of stocked up when we were going into more of a stay at home procedure. Mike was not very happy about accompanying me to the bookstore and searching for books with me. Although
Evan: 10:19
I'm much better at finding books than you are.
Jess: 10:21
Yeah, actually, the only reason I think I found all of them.
Evan: 10:24
Well, I'm pretty sure you didn't know what the Dewey Decimal System was until very recently. So I'm not surprised by that.
Jess: 10:32
I don't know. I
Evan: 10:34
mean, the books are just alphabetical, and you were just like you had no order to the way you are looking at that. I'm just gonna walk around forever. Including
Jess: 10:45
Mike was like, I cannot be in this fucking store marketing out of a bookstore
Evan: 10:50
speaks volumes about I need the next chapter in my life.
Jess: 10:55
Start. It's all right to grown at home.
Evan: 11:00
Hashtag groaning thing is the perfect Segway because I know that some of the books that you just recently got came from Holly of Kelsey and Holly, who were going to speak to next.
Jess: 11:14
Yes, I haven't read Kelp Holly's books yet.
Evan: 11:19
Are they real lesbian books?
Jess: 11:20
Yes, there lesbian. The one of them sounds sounds very interesting to me, but as we talked about the meaning of this segment, I love murder. So most of my books are, you know, suspense thriller mystery murder type things. And Holly is a much lighter, happier person. And so her books are not about birder
Evan: 11:51
there about romance and lesbians. And now we'll talk to Kelsey and Holly. They're getting married. Halloween, October 31st you're
Evan: 12:02
at camp toting freedom, Theo. So let's first ask Chelsea Holly, how
spk_4: 12:15
long have you guys been together? Our first date, Krystle on September 11th of, um, not these of 2018 2018.
spk_3: 12:24
Yep. Um, and then she proposed. Almost were not quite out a year, but it was beginning of June or end of May, last last year s So we've been together for a total of almost a house two
Jess: 12:42
years. What was your engagement story? Kelsey's
spk_3: 12:46
dad was sick of the time, and our family had not. Our families had not gotten together yet. Um, and met. And we thought it was important for our families to meet, um, while her dad could still accept visitors. So we had ah, big barbecue planned for the two families and some other friends to get together and just have a cookout and kind of get to know each other. Um, it was probably like a little bit earlier than we thought. We had planned the proposal ing, but it was really important to us that her dad could be a part of it and be there with us. Then have is much family together as we could for that moment. So Well, I was definitely surprised by ended up being the perfect timing for for it.
Jess: 13:33
So you talked about like, marriage and proposals. Prior
spk_4: 13:37
to that we had and we had one rule. Holly wasn't. I asked Holly because she had taken every other first in our relationship. I asked her toe. Allow me The honor
Jess: 13:47
way knew
spk_3: 13:51
where it was coming down the road. It just It happened a little bit sooner than I think We were initially anticipating, but did it, you know, wasn't like, shocking toe either of us. We knew it was coming.
Jess: 14:00
Yeah, they do have their proposal on video to doings to Mike
spk_4: 14:04
was there present. Mike is also the a man of honor on my side.
Jess: 14:09
Yeah, unfortunately, Mike lives with calcium holly, and we share joint cost custody of Mike.
Evan: 14:17
Yeah, that is my 2nd 3rd wheel
Jess: 14:19
way. Like to say he's
spk_3: 14:22
our He's our axle. These are our third. Well, he
Jess: 14:24
keeps us together
Evan: 14:25
is very nice.
Jess: 14:26
Yeah, he's great. Mike is also e how soon after getting engaged Did you guys really start the process off looking at venues and deciding on dates and things like that? Did you take time to be engaged for a little bit, or did you immediately kind of jump right into that process? I think
spk_4: 14:50
our hand was a little force than waiting a couple months because of my dad, but I think we went up and looked at We were looking at venues and then I think in September we started to, like,
Jess: 15:01
actually look at them. So we got if they
spk_3: 15:04
engaged the beginning of June. And then I, um, had also started a new career is about near in. The next day,
Jess: 15:14
I got engaged, and then the next day started his
spk_3: 15:16
job. Um, so I think that there we knew that we wanted to wait a little bit. Um, you know, not not terribly long, but I wanted Teoh, you know, feel comfortable in my new position. Kelsey's dad obviously had some health issues going on. Um, we moved to a new area. There was a lot of kind of things going on in our life that we know we didn't want to do it kind of right away. So I think, you know, initially when we came back from the proposed, when we got back to her house were like, All right, let's not set a day plus a year. And I think we actually initially said 2021 made. And now we're
spk_4: 15:52
looking back at that now probably would have been a better. And,
Jess: 15:55
uh um, but
spk_3: 15:57
we ended up doing instead of, you know, kind of spring 2021 of fall of 2020. So not too far off that, um But things kind of fell into place really nicely and kind of came together a little bit more, you know, smoother and sooner than we had thought they would. Um, so but we're really happy with the timing of everything, assuming that things still go according to plan.
Jess: 16:18
So when you guys began the whole looking at venue kind of process, had you, did you have a budget set aside? Oh, our cat. And were you kind of a taken back by budgets? You are. I mean, venue prices or catering prices. Things like that. I think
spk_4: 16:37
we are extremely fortunate and that we have Holly's family, um, supporting a lot of
Jess: 16:42
what we need we needed.
spk_4: 16:45
Um, I actually wasn't expecting that at all when we went to our venue, and we're talking about booking the date. Her mom turned to us and said, This is how much your father and I can take. And then I think I started
Jess: 16:57
crying. She started crying. Eyes was so
spk_4: 17:01
unexpected. So I think that, you know, with the amount that her mom gave us, that was what our budget
Jess: 17:06
was going to be.
spk_4: 17:07
And Holly and I have paid for me to put a bit on our own two
spk_3: 17:11
just for some of the extras above and beyond the, you know, kind of the core base budget waas. But, you know, we were really, really very lucky that, um my parents were able Teoh help us out with the budget and and with everything. And, you know, there wasn't too much extra that we have to put in to kind of cover the rest of And we kind of enabled us to be able to get a lot of the stuff that we wanted and weren't sure that we were gonna be able to afford on her own. So But I
Jess: 17:40
see Liam's surprise at the expense of everything. It doesn't take away the sticker
spk_3: 17:44
shock even if you're having help. Um, especially because, you know, here like, Oh, gosh, what parents are paying for so much
spk_4: 17:50
by, um, it was nice because it gave us an opportunity to do like, the normal
Jess: 17:55
wedding things.
spk_4: 17:56
And then Holly and I, on her own were able to do the above and beyond and pay for things out of our own pockets that maybe we wouldn't have normally done like Ruby. The photo bus and your toe splurge a little bit more on the side. Yeah. Yeah.
Jess: 18:10
Okay. Um, so we want to talk a lot about Not a lot about, but I want to focus on the fact that you guys air a lesbian couple and way shocked. Um, how did that affect some of your decisions? Obviously, when it comes to vendors were your photo and video team. You guys know us. So that wasn't so much of something you had to think about. But when it came to like looking at venues knowing if they were LGBT friendly or if they advertised with any, you know, lesbian photos or things like that Was that something that came across your mind? Did you have to think about it? Did you want to think about it? So our venue,
spk_3: 19:02
actually. So we are getting married at ah, summer camp in Freedom New Hampshire off a leak. And, um, they do wedding there throughout throughout the summer and and some of the fall. I didn't actually look up ahead of time to see if they were kind of LGBTQ friendly. But we did luck out there. I think we are. I think they said we are their first lesbian wedding, and there seemed very
Jess: 19:26
exact very, very excited about. So Torto,
spk_3: 19:30
um, so, you know, kind of worked out in our in our favor there where it wasn't something that we sought out, but that they're very excited about. And, um, you know, so far, I really haven't had any trouble with any of the venues that we've gone Teoh are, you know, especially like when I was looking at dresses or, you know, they were talking to the florist and, you know, they're like, OK, so it's Kelsey gonna be wearing a dress or stewed and they want to know all those details. Um,
Jess: 19:58
I was a
spk_4: 19:59
little uncomfortable at Men's Wearhouse. Oh,
spk_3: 20:01
yeah, we did go get a suit fitting, but But I
Jess: 20:03
think that they were They were They were awesome. I think you were. Doesn't. It's tough to be
spk_4: 20:10
in a setting where you get a lot
Jess: 20:12
of eyes. Yeah, so, like, there's a lot
spk_4: 20:14
of uncomfortableness around a female shopping for male close.
Jess: 20:18
It is a very it's a male dominant store. Let's call my men. It's called Warehouse. Yeah, and when it is like very
Evan: 20:28
if I may say so, though as a man, I feel uncomfortable going.
Jess: 20:35
I think for
spk_3: 20:37
the most part, though, we haven't had any.
Jess: 20:39
I haven't bad experiences when I haven't sought
spk_4: 20:42
out. Like, you know, I haven't We haven't been for up front like she'll say me and my wife for me or me and my fiance or I don't know how we phrase it, but e don't even think we That's the first question that we
Jess: 20:53
ask. OK, I have been
spk_3: 20:55
out pretty much my entire life and have had a super supportive family. I've hardly ever gotten any pushback on it, like I So my mindset is so much that I almost don't even think about it. Whereas, you know, I think some other people who had probably more difficulties coming out and, you know, um and feeling comfortable with with you, they are probably they think about it a bit more during the process than I would where I've never really had an issue with it. Are you are, you know, like had struggles with it, so we're
spk_4: 21:25
very lucky in that way
Jess: 21:27
So I guess, Kelsey, I would kind of pose this question more towards you. Then if you say if we were not your photo video team and you guys had to go looking for vendors wouldn't make a difference to you seeing something on our website or something that says LGBT friendly, you know, seeing photos that are more of a reflection of your relationship with Holly versus just the standard male female relationship. Um, I do
spk_4: 21:56
think I would be biased if I was looking at, um oh, photographers website and saw a picture of a same sex couple. I think it would definitely steer me in the direction of reaching out to them over a photographer that doesn't advertise, refreshing to see that it is because I think that what's, you know, missing and a lot of the I want to settle called the Older generation. But people who don't understand it is it's the same love that you share as a male and a female. Then if you are same sex, and I think that that gets lost a lot in some of the less open and
Jess: 22:30
yeah, you know Yeah. Yeah, I
spk_3: 22:33
definitely think, though I so I'm like, if I see, like, a, like a lesbian couple or something on some sort of advertise Representative Jeff? Yeah, definitely. And bias towards towards those companies.
Jess: 22:44
Yeah, so, I mean, that's kind of one thing. We we really strive to make sure that everybody knows that we are all inclusive. Um, you know, it's a lot. A lot happens with some of our interracial couples where, you know, they want to meet to see how we react to them. Being interracial and things like that in this is terribly sad and upsetting to me. Um, which is why I like Teoh touch on it with you guys too, because, you know, if you had any negative experiences that that kind of make you think about things a little bit more everyday life,
spk_4: 23:20
um, Holly probably has had a lot less of those experiences. And I have, Yeah. I mean, I have family members that, like, want nothing to do with me because I'm gay, So Yeah, it's tough. But you know what? At the same time, you have to remember who you are.
Jess: 23:35
You have to live your life up. Yeah, um, so kind of going into a little bit about about family. How are you guys balancing what you want for your wedding and what you guys vision. And maybe this is a little more directed towards Holy Because they kinda know versus how much influence your family has over what you guys are are doing. I think we're
spk_3: 24:00
really lucky in the fact and that, Well, I think that Kelsey's side of the family is a little bit more hands off
Jess: 24:06
on the wedding side of
spk_3: 24:08
But, um, you know, my family is very invested in it, but they're totally with, like, whatever makes you happy and they want it to be, you know, are they are vision. You know what? We want our wedding to be like our day, Not not their vision, but our vision. And, um, you know, we've never been a family where it's like we want a traditional wedding in a church and, you know, we're having another summer camp, and it's, um
spk_4: 24:33
we're having a softball being. Yeah, I gave my traditional lesbian softball game on
spk_3: 24:39
my own. Is officiating like they are just really excited for us and wanted to be, you know, our day and what we want. And so I think that's been You know, there's not really been any sort of
spk_4: 24:49
no drama
spk_3: 24:50
mother of the bride like craziness or anything like that. And there are
Jess: 24:55
just very Yeah, there are just very excited for us. So, Mike and I kinda we're talking about it yesterday is like a bigger wedding because, I mean, I know you're not getting married in a church, but you are kind of having, like, a traditional outline of a wedding. Um, you're having a little bit of a bigger wedding. You have. Ah, decent sized bridal party. Wedding party. Um, is that something that you each always wanted? Or is that maybe something that was influenced by your family versus, like, a loping or something like that? How much time do we have for me?
spk_3: 25:30
It wasn't so much about the size of the wedding, but that I my family, happens to be large and happens to be very close. So it naturally progressed into a large wedding. But it wasn't something like, Oh, I've always wanted some big, huge event with with a bunch of people. It's just my family ends up being really big and where you know, I'm lucky that we're all very close. So when you go down your list of people that have to be there, you know? And if you have a big family and a lot of people that are close to you, it just naturally ends up being bigs. That wasn't something that I had necessarily always dreamed of, but just kind of happened. Naturally. I know about you Calls.
spk_4: 26:10
Um Well, I've had a wedding before, prior to this one that I'm doing.
Jess: 26:20
So Kelly's. But I I've been married before, um, to a guy. So you want to throw a surprise in there for our listeners? I was married to a girl. So, Booth, a bomb sound effect. Um, and I had
spk_4: 26:40
the wedding where everything was what I didn't want eso I am very happy in, in a sense, that literally I could not have dreamt a better look. Wedding like toe have no sports involved. And, you know, all the family be there. And for it to beyond, you know, the shores of a lake and northern New Hampshire, like, literally could not have planned it any better. Um, so I'm really excited, and I don't think that, um, my family, that zero influence on this wedding.
Jess: 27:10
So it's been nice. Okay, Uh, what kind of compromise is for your theme in your style? Have you guys had to work on together? They just gave each other like they there there. There hasn't been any compromise. It is funny,
spk_3: 27:26
though, because, like, out. Like besides wedding styles, Kelsey's, like, very kind of
Jess: 27:31
preppy, and I'm very much not. Our styles are actually
spk_3: 27:35
very, very, very different. But, um, you know, planning the wedding like our image was actually quite cohesive. We we had a pretty similar idea of what we wanted. And Kelsey was, you know, nice enough that she's gonna let me run with things. And it just so happened that the things I brought up to herself that she also likes, But I think that, you know, I've done a majority of the styles and
Jess: 27:58
thinking things that I don't care about color. I just care about winning dance. She has not greatest sense of style, but I dress nicely. She likes shades of
spk_3: 28:09
brown for decorating and those sorts of things.
Jess: 28:12
So So So we get a little exactly Thank you, Evans. The office with the brown balloon is our wedding.
Evan: 28:23
Put that up there.
Jess: 28:25
The rehearsal. But lucky enough
spk_3: 28:28
that are what came together. You know, we would go over a couple different options of things and then kind of narrow it down together. But we've had a very kind of cohesive vision of what we wanted. And it's worked out really well. We haven't had any big tiffs over not decision. We never like that. Everyone fights occasionally.
Evan: 28:45
E
spk_4: 28:47
It was a joke.
Jess: 28:48
Doesn't say we fought last week. I was pretty sure You guys said last week You fought. We fought last like the same. She ate my last cookie. Very a midnight snacking hater. Less cookie
spk_4: 28:59
from Chick fil A. Yes, we're lesbian To support Chick fil A
Jess: 29:04
I I can't say
spk_3: 29:06
I support Chick fil A.
spk_4: 29:07
Now we eat it.
Jess: 29:08
I contradict them though, because I do not e what Chelsea really is. What did I bring? You lost me chicken achievable. You brought me chick fil a Did you like it? Not I wasn't enthralled like it wasn't. We like the waffle fries. I liked the waffle fries. I like that Greece, Please See, that's what she
spk_4: 29:29
ate she ate my last chick fil a cookie.
Jess: 29:30
I didn't love the cookie. It was too gooey. I like she
Evan: 29:35
doesn't like the gooey. I like e. I love
Jess: 29:38
the way too. No, it was to was to It was too sweet
spk_3: 29:45
for me. Just mellow such thing. Others.
Evan: 29:48
You're already sweet enough.
Jess: 29:49
Oh, God. Collecting. But I'm glad Evan said that was going t o road at home without me constantly telling you guys that Corona could be an issue for your wedding. Is it something that you thought about together? Talked about, uh, maybe considered what you would have to dio should it impact you at all? We haven't
spk_3: 30:14
really yet. Um, you know, we've thought about that. It could be a possibility that it could affect our plans.
spk_4: 30:21
Every time I bring it up. Holly says, let's not worry about it until we have to. Yeah. Good. I don't think that we're at a point yet where we need to worry about in October 31st Wedding. Is it in the back of our mind? Sure. Absolutely. But like, why
Jess: 30:33
don't stress about
spk_3: 30:34
it? Yeah. You need to think about it. Yeah, Okay. That's sort of in our philosophy,
Jess: 30:39
hopefully healthy attitude every every
spk_4: 30:41
single day. It comes up in my mind that where I'm like this is really kind of
spk_3: 30:44
suck. I know it's like you're like, Oh gosh, everything is wheel set. Emotions are you know, our vision were so excited about it and to think about having to reschedule is heartbreaking. But, you know, hopefully that is not a reality for us, although it's unfortunate it's been a reality for a lot of other couples.
Evan: 31:01
So one thing we were talking about Ah Waas how do we protect ourselves as vendors going into a wedding? And it would it be like, totally foreign and strange if we showed up with masks on or something?
Jess: 31:17
I think in
spk_4: 31:18
the current climate, strange if you all had just like black formal, where your formal masks,
Evan: 31:23
like a little bow ties, that's a good idea.
spk_4: 31:27
That is a good idea if
Evan: 31:28
we dress them up. All right,
Jess: 31:30
I think
spk_3: 31:30
if our vendors willing Teoh come out and do that for us, I'm going to say I have no problem if they want to protect themselves and exemption perform.
Evan: 31:38
So one thing we've been asking every couple Azaz I know it's early in the process for you guys, but what is that? Something you would would do for any perspective Couple working at the wedding process. And what is something you wouldn't do that you've currently experienced?
spk_3: 32:00
Figuring out what your priorities are in terms off what your vision is, what's important to you. Make sure they align with your partner, right? We're very fortunate, you know, Be somewhat lenient,
Jess: 32:11
you know,
spk_3: 32:11
make compromises. Um, you know, I think planning things early is never a bad thing. Um, you know, in terms of things we wouldn't do, you know, maybe not get married in the middle of a Corona virus.
Evan: 32:25
But, um,
spk_3: 32:28
I think just, you know, just be understanding.
spk_4: 32:32
Remember, that is your day. Not anybody else's right? I think I think is important. Don't like I feel like it myself got I got caught up a little bit in wanting my mom to be somewhat not supportive, but like, excited or involved in. She's not wanting to do that
Jess: 32:51
these days, which is fine.
spk_4: 32:53
But, you know, I'm not Don't don't let things like that weigh you down, remember, that is your day. And it's between you and the person you're marrying and embrace.
spk_3: 33:03
I think also to what I found throughout the planning processes Don't get like if you're one of those people where I was never really one of these people, but who's been planning their wedding for like since they were a little kid. Don't get super caught up on what you think that you want If something is really go, Maybe I like this wasn't when I was expected that I wanted, But I'm liking this like, don't be afraid to stray from your original vision. If it's I feel every work. Yeah, if it wants out that way, that's
Jess: 33:31
a very good point. I know that because they would dress shopping with you. Yeah, Address is beautiful. She doesn't know what It has no idea what it looks like right now. Everybody else at this table knows what it looks like. A portion when I say shit on a podcast. Yes. Were rated M for mature
Evan: 33:51
e. Well, thank you for coming on and talking to us about your experience.
Jess: 33:59
Thank you guys for being supportive and amazing and awesome. And we love you. Yea, you
Evan: 34:05
love you too.
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