Jess, Evan, and Mike talk about their new-found admiration for TikTok in the midst of quarantine and then ring up Courtney + Evan, who delayed their wedding from June to October 2020 to avoid the "Big Cancel". They tell us how planning is going and what went into their decision to postpone.
Jess, Evan, and Mike talk about their new-found admiration for TikTok in the midst of quarantine and then ring up Courtney + Evan, who delayed their wedding from June to October 2020 to avoid the "Big Cancel". They tell us how planning is going and what went into their decision to postpone.
Evan: 0:14
Hello. Welcome to Episode four of W.E.D. Talks. Today we're talking to
Jess: 0:21
Kourtney and Avid who are or were a June 2020 couple and have now had to postpone to October of 2020. But we will get to that main segment in a minute. It's been 436 states notes. It's been a month of quarantine and
Mike: 0:44
diarrhea. It has been 472 days.
Jess: 0:51
We're all pretty addicted to take talk
Mike: 0:56
and also just going stir crazy. So
Jess: 0:58
yes, pretty much going stir crazy today. It was a a big day in the stir Crazy leap as Mike mistress repeatedly talked to himself in a random voices. And I've just kind of rolled around on the floor like a potato bug. So yeah, good. Good times over here.
Mike: 1:16
Very dramatic potato bug, depending on
Jess: 1:19
what part of the day might Potato bug was dramatic. Um, but yeah, thank thank Gen Z for tic tac
Mike: 1:29
millennials are here to take it over.
Jess: 1:30
Eso taking it over.
spk_3: 1:35
Carol Basket killed her husband Vince. Me? It didn't happen. Not really a moment of the day where I'm not thinking that
Jess: 1:50
I am very much singing it when I do the dishes. Uh, when I vacuum, because a lot of cleaning
Mike: 1:58
the lyrics will transform until, like, whatever you're doing, Yes. I mean, it will literally just pop into your head at any time of the night. Day morning like, yeah, it doesn't matter if
Jess: 2:10
I even still works his day job from the office, um, stays pretty much in the office from about 7 30 until 3 30 every day. And wherever I am throughout the house, sometimes I randomly here a carol by asking and and I just know he's just sitting back there doing nothing. So we have started to attempt to make our own tick talks, which is a little harder than then. I expect it's a
Mike: 2:46
learning process, learning we're just not young enough, But we'll get there. Yeah,
Jess: 2:50
we just find odd things humorous, too. So maybe I don't find things funnier than other people. Yeah,
Mike: 2:58
I mean, it's a I mean generational, different styles of humor and, like references to like I mean, people make tick talks about like, okay, millennials like this is just for you. And then okay, the Gen z's air gone like Do you remember that Hey Arnold episode where they out?
Jess: 3:20
Evan was singing dug the other day. I know, I know. I didn't I didn't have a problem with it. I just It was just so random
spk_3: 3:28
that you were just
Jess: 3:29
singing Doug's.
Mike: 3:30
I have dug in my head all the time and it's a great song. Just ah, capella. It's It
Jess: 3:34
is a great song. I don't disagree. Run Right run from Corona, which we're not talking about today. Most of my tic Tacs have just really, obviously been our cat because that's the most entertaining thing in the house right now is old.
Mike: 4:07
I mean, pets are always, ah, good, a good subject for a solid social media video post. So
Jess: 4:17
I mean, Mike made a tick talk about about following the ice cream truck
Mike: 4:22
Carvell Carvel ice cream truck.
spk_3: 4:27
You don't do the right and you shake hands. You come to the left and you shake that hand. You meet new friends, you tie something on, and that's gone. So
Jess: 4:37
if you guys would like to see us do the scarred on Arctic talk, please let me know because Mike and I are game for this and we cannot get Evan on board.
Mike: 4:48
Now that he's a fashion icon is just in the clouds. I'm actually more of a character actor and less of ah, uh, choreography. You know, I'm just sadistic field
Jess: 5:01
carne is hardly coroner draft. Like you're tying yarn and shaking hand, you can manage, but somehow I manage. Um, you guys did do a fun quarantine video, though. Yeah, you're riel Parcheesi for the teepee.
Mike: 5:25
The first time we've in a while that we've busted out are creative juices. Um, so it was It was fun.
Jess: 5:34
It was fun. It was nice to be able to do something fun and creative like that. I know Evan really loves that. And not something that we struggle with finding time to do side projects like that during wedding season. So, you know, trying to take advantage of this time to do is money kind of creative side projects as we can.
Mike: 5:54
I think the only bummer is like, you know, we're also limited by where we can go and that kind of stuff. So it's like, What can we dio dio? Yeah, so we want in candy land. But we got Parcheesi, and I think we killed it. Yeah, I
Jess: 6:10
think so.
Mike: 6:11
I think it worked out really well.
Jess: 6:12
Yeah, I do, too. I think my coming up with name perch easy for the T p. Just made the whole thing come together in a way that it was coming together before. But then when mike, like, literally walked out of the bathroom and was like, Hey, thistles
Mike: 6:30
like towards the end of the process, it just popped into my head Said, this is gonna be it. Yeah. My mind was so on candy land that I couldn't even think
Jess: 6:40
we were like, we were really in the candy land mode. But But I found it interesting to learn that candy land was created during the polio pandemic. Four kids. Um, and that's why and how candy land was created. So I was like, Oh, this kind of fits. We have another pandemic candy land. It is but parents a lot
Mike: 7:03
of things invented during ah, rough periods of history. Yeah, well, they're saying, like after, like, the crash in 2008 or whatever. Then it's like all the app That's like when the app boom really started. Like people were just like trying to come up with new ideas for APS, you know, like uber And, you know, crazy think like not crazy ideas, but innovative ideas that haven't hadn't been done yet. So it's This could be an interesting time to see what comes out of Chad. And I mean, it might just be millions of tic tac Carol basket dances that Yeah, but now you adopted a stray elliptical machine.
Jess: 7:44
Yeah. Now I won't go into the details because I'm not exactly sure if what we did was entirely legal. What, with coming coming up the elliptical. But I actually really like the elliptical machine, so I'm very happy that we now have that. Ah, Teoh jump ons just materialized. Nicer On my knees. Um, so, yeah, we haven't elliptical now, sitting in our living room just sitting there, uh,
Mike: 8:18
just sitting there waiting for somebody to get.
Jess: 8:20
Listen, all three of us got on the elliptical today. I'm impressed.
Mike: 8:25
Yeah, I was just boredom Ford in the house and I'm in the house board. It still happened, And now we're going to talk to Kourtney and Evan. They're getting married on October 18th originally in June at
spk_3: 8:41
the Crystal Lake Golf Club. Start We're just gonna start with
Jess: 8:54
Kourtney and Evan's story. So how did you guys meet?
spk_4: 9:00
Way. So we actually met at work? Um, we actually both were working at a liquor store during college. And we were, of course, co workers who became really good friends. It took forever for Evans, who finally asked me out. But I'm glad he finally did. It
Jess: 9:27
took forever.
spk_4: 9:30
She has the consular remind me of that. Yeah.
Jess: 9:32
How long were you guys together? Prior to the proposal.
spk_4: 9:36
Um, three, Three years. Okay. Yeah. Yeah, Just about a year.
Jess: 9:45
And had you guys talked about marriage before the proposal. Already had talked about it three
spk_4: 9:52
games,
Jess: 9:55
she knew what she wanted.
spk_4: 9:59
I actually told him on our second date that I knew I was going to marry him eventually.
Jess: 10:04
Nice. It's That's kind of Yeah. I think this is why we initially, like, bonded right away with Kourtney and Evan. Because the Evans are very similar. Must be a name trait. Um, Aziz. And you know, I basically moved in with my Evan on our second date. So it's, you know, moved pretty quickly,
Mike: 10:28
faster than lesbians may get that
Jess: 10:31
a joke ever. He put that in her wedding vows just so
spk_4: 10:36
Oh, my God.
Jess: 10:37
No way. Yeah, it is, of course, that, um and Evan, how did you propose?
spk_4: 10:46
Um, so, uh, I had had a weekend trip to New York City plan for her. She had always wanted to go. Um, so I planned it around Christmas, but we would go to Rockefeller Center at the big Christmas tree, and then I actually hired a photographer to hide and take pictures.
Mike: 11:11
But it
spk_4: 11:11
wasn't as sneaky as I wanted Teoh free on English. She kind of, I guess new like stuff was gonna happen. Um, but other than that, it was it went really well.
Jess: 11:23
So you guys got engaged And how quickly after that did you guys start planning
spk_4: 11:31
immediately? Have Medio? But it was funny because we had actually agreed to do indoctrination wedding. So we actually had met with travel agents, and we were gonna plan this crazy allotment. After a while, he realized that we didn't want our family there. That's what kind of switched years and decides to just be more like the traditional wedding.
Jess: 11:54
Okay, what made you change your mind? Cause that's a pretty pretty drastic change going from Were a loping on a destination wedding to then, you know, planning like a full whole wedding here.
spk_4: 12:05
Um, I think the biggest thing is that we realized it was going to be difficult and just as expensive as doing a normal wedding, but with a lot less people. And then we realized we wanted family there. So don't waste. That's kind of what we decided.
Jess: 12:19
So it wasn't any less expensive doing a destination wedding? I wouldn't
spk_4: 12:26
were just as expensive dio a destination wedding. It was to see him.
Jess: 12:32
I know that a lot of people are like, Oh, we do a destination wedding, and it's less expensive, but I don't know.
spk_4: 12:38
And certain princes, it waas um, but then when it came down to, like, per person, like forget, she was just as expensive as it was for a normal venue.
Jess: 12:50
When you guys started, you know, kind of planning your wedding for here. Um, how did you guys settle? Are in your venue. Did you have, like, what you were looking for? Were you kind of mostly going for, like, what was in your budget?
spk_4: 13:05
We had actually been to a wedding at first ability, and we thought it was really beautiful. And it was it was the most affordable than you that we found, though I think that's why we ultimately did go up it.
Jess: 13:18
Has there been any expense that was really surprising to guys with with cost? Obviously, the whole thing is for sure, Haven't answered that really fast.
spk_4: 13:35
Yeah, we were very surprised at how the militants where
Jess: 13:41
for my like Evan and I had such a tiny wedding that I didn't do any of that huge planning. So I don't even know what Lenny linens cost or anything like that. So for me, I'm like, Oh, I got fancy China. Yeah, I ordered from Amazon first Recyclable China. It's
spk_4: 14:03
honestly, that's
Jess: 14:06
according you are pretty active on, um, Facebook and kind of crowdsourcing to help, you know, find vendors and your opinions and decisions and stuff. Do you find that helpful, or do you find that overwhelming?
spk_4: 14:22
Honestly, probably more overwhelming, Especially when I was looking for vendors, I would get hundreds of comments on a post, and obviously there's no way you can read every comment. You could look at every company. It's honestly, it's just It's too much. I like vendors promote themselves. Okay, Because that's actually where I serve you. Yeah, And one night you had just posted. Okay? I'm just a nausea. Here's my company. Check it out. And I did. And here we are. Way. It was just easier that way. You you like you have advertised. Well, you weren't in my state messaging May. It was just easier
Jess: 15:10
other than the Corona virus. What was your biggest challenge before this whole pandemic started? What did you guys find was maybe your biggest challenge or something that you guys were kind of having to compromise on? Or maybe Evan was having Teoh real you in from Linens E.
spk_4: 15:35
Um, I definitely think one of our biggest challenges was the guest list. Because we even though we did ultimately the started to have a traditional wedding here. We dont still want to keep it on the smaller side. Um, however, both of our parents kind of had their own length, so we actually had to reel in our parents a lot. Um, and it was definitely hard Teoh compromise, Especially when it comes to accept inviting extended family. It's like you have to stop it somewhere. Otherwise, we'll have 500 people at your wedding. Yeah, so that was definitely the biggest struggle that we definitely had with our parents to.
Jess: 16:20
And how did your parents kind of take it? Because this is a very, very common thing That we see is that a lot of couples, you know, end up inviting Beverly and George from down the street because their parents had them over for dinner when they were eight years old, and they haven't seen sense. And so, um, you know, it's hard to not offend your parents, but to also kind of remind them that it is your wedding day. Um, did you guys just kind of, like, put your foot down or was there like, a ginger lee A little talk and let down?
spk_4: 16:57
Um, it was no different purple tux of parents. So my parents are paying for a portion of 11 and they are taking the largest portion, so I did have to give them more leeway. The white did. But you know, we all to playing that because we're picking up a portion, you know, we have to keep within our budget as well. And with Evan's parents. They're a little bit more traditional with the bride's family, these thermals. So they certainly have helped. Does um, but no mistake without throwing bags. They kind of has the least input.
Mike: 17:40
Okay, that's fine, though.
Jess: 17:43
Yeah, they
spk_4: 17:45
were more go with the flow, like whatever we wanted to kind of do. Like they creditors want with that
Jess: 17:50
e mean, it's it's It's always a process, and it's just Yeah, everybody kind of has to deal with and, you know, even even the day of the wedding, there's some brides who will tell me like my mom's gonna do this this miss and just, like, push her out of the way or tell her No, or I don't have 16 photos with my third cousin. So, you know, it's just it's just a navigation of family. That's fine. So obviously Corona has affected everything. You guys actually ended up moving your date from June until October. Um, now, Courtney was one of the first brides to reach out to me. Um, and Courtney, you kind of made it seem like, uh, like your venue had reached out to you. So had your venue kind of touched base with you about picking, like, a backup date where they kind of proactive with everything
spk_4: 18:51
are the new coordinators basically said, you know, it's your decision, but I think we should come up with a plan Big and, uh, so, you know, as it. And I kind of knew that that was gonna be you know, of course, a topic of conversation. So we weren't really surprised when she brought it up. Um, so we just said, Yeah, you know, we're definitely willing to take a second date. What do you have available? And that trying It was basically the end of October or she had some availability in November and December. So what was October Just because we wanted she'll have the world English status, because So it was basically hurt. Suggestions to take a plan, a plan B date.
Jess: 19:36
I liked that your venue was kind of proactive about everything. Working with you, Um, just to even have that back up date because I am kind of reaching out to a lot of our couples to even, you know, let's just get a backup date on the books, guys, just in case, you know, So we know that everybody's covered the right one thing that I really big shout out to your venue for being on top of it. So good job. Yes.
spk_4: 20:01
Tracy is amazing. She's the coordinator there, and I am so thankful we have her because she is really bad. Still want salt of everything and just so easy to work with.
Jess: 20:14
So how did you guys, you know, take the decision to postpone? Um, obviously, you know, when you are you texting. I made myself my like depression son ice cream sundae, because I was like, I just want to see her in her wedding dress. And But how did you guys like, do you feel, you know, kind of relieved about things? Are you, You know, still free that October might be affected.
spk_4: 20:47
I think we're relieved in some aspect. I'm lousy. Courtney was really upset at first because we have been looking for for the dates for so long, and you know that he finally closed, and that's kind of pushed. That was, you know, really hard, especially for Courtney. I think we were pretty relieved that you and all our other vendors were so feel accommodating and available to switch to the date. So the second beat. But I think that that was you know, we're leaving aspect. You know, as the weeks go on, I guess we get a little bit terrorists that potentially 12 them, right? Not even happened. It was definitely a difficult decision to post on, but we kind of both agreed. Got there was no way life was gonna go back to normal in just a few weeks for us to have our wedding on the original gate. Plus her wedding shower or bath arrest party. My fashion party, like none of those things were gonna happen. But regardless, even in Pune was going to happen. We just knew those things that we're gonna be planned for may just work and be a possibility. Yeah, So it was a hard decision. Um, but the fact that yeah, obviously you guys and all of our other vendors everyone was amazing. Everyone switched to a new date if I was a problem, so that definitely made it even less trump bulls because that we didn't have Don't worry about losing a friend. We're like finding new vendor. If our vendors weren't so accommodating, I think we would be more struck out. Yeah, it is hard. But if there are still, you know, guidelines as to how many people can be together, I honestly think we're just going to go with it, you know, into 50 people, 50 people. I think we're just gonna have to maybe caught back on our guest list because you know what Evan said. I don't think we'll have, like, the heart to reschedule
Jess: 22:55
again. I think I think most people would be understanding for something like this. It's not like your just cutting your guest list in half because you guys feel like it. It's, you know, right, pandemic way,
spk_4: 23:11
way. You might have to limit it to just white owned media, family and bridal party. You know, Damien, I mean, we're just really gonna have to see, and we might not know until September 1st or act over prefer Yeah, I would never have postponed to a G at you guys weren't available, and that was like, what kind of made us want to reschedule, like, sooner rather than later? Because I was like, I literally will not do this without evident jest. So I knew that we had to like I want a week to on to postpone. Yeah, And then you guys would have been full officer like I just didn't want to mess with it. I got So that's why I checked you. I was like, Can I text you say I was just thinking, well, this day or he'll be able to stay like we would have only ever picked a day. But you guys were there.
Jess: 24:12
If you picked a day that I wasn't available, I still probably would have, like, just sniped in there. I have to see this woman and her dress
Mike: 24:22
You would have You would have invented the teleporter.
Jess: 24:25
Yeah, it would have cloned. Just have a whole bunch. Yes, is running around.
Mike: 24:31
I feel anything is possible.
spk_4: 24:35
Yeah, right. E,
Jess: 24:38
thank you guys for doing this. Um, and helping us stay entertained and coming on the podcast.
spk_4: 24:45
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Mike: 24:52
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spk_3: 25:02
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Evan: 25:26
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Mike: 25:26
Think concludes another thrilling episode of wind talks. Next week we're gonna talk to Tiffany at the barn at Bradstreet Farm A and will discuss the five things that we look for out of the venue. Stay
Evan: 25:42
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