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Stewart Shurtleff & Kevin Carey Season 5 Episode 2

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It's a new year! 

... but we had some of the same tech troubles this week. 

Kevin and Stewart tried out a new "on the road" format and the recording dipped pretty significantly, cutting short the episode.  However, what remained is classic first-of-the-year 17Twenty content about goal setting and accountability as the guys challenge each of you to make 2024 the best year ever!

Keep Moving Mountains! 

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Time Perception & Entrainment by Dopamine, Serotonin & Hormones
https://www.hubermanlab.com/episode/time-perception-and-entrainment-by-dopamine-serotonin-and-hormones

James Van Der Beek Narrates Surprise #1 Bestseller One Night In A Thousand Years
https://www.kron4.com/business/press-releases/ein-presswire/680654385/james-van-der-beek-narrates-surprise-1-bestseller-one-night-in-a-thousand-years/

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Book Recommendations and Setting Personal Goals

Speaker 1

Oh , we did you there , hello you there , hello . Every single individual has a story to tell and they're great stories that need to be heard .

Speaker 2

I Want every listener to know they have the ability to change the world .

Speaker 1

Welcome to the 1720 podcast . What's up ? Mountain movers , welcome back to the 1720 podcast . This week Kevin and I tried something new . We tried to record a new format while we were both in the car headed from one place to another , because our schedules have just been Hectic and finding time to get together to record has been difficult . But unfortunately the technology that we used to do this failed us . So the first 15 to 20 minutes of the podcast , where we recorded Summary about Christmas and the things that have been going on and an update about you know , various things in our lives , it just got completely lost . Kevin's audio was going to X and it was not lined up on top of my audio . It was a complete disaster . So we may or may not revisit that episode format , but for today I'm just gonna drop us into the section of the audio that was working . It'll come a little bit out of left field , it'll sound a little crazy , but at least with a little bit of background here you guys will know what's going on .

Speaker 2

Traction . You've read traction , haven't you ? You know , I don't think I got all the way through it , which is weird for me , but also not , because last year I decided like if I'm not fully engaged in it , I gotta move on to the next one . The list is very long . We have guests that give us two to three every week Leaders , mentors , counterparts . It's like , okay , I'm gonna move to the next one . So I don't remember if I got all the way through it , but I know a lot of people that do EOS . Start with that book .

Speaker 1

Yeah , yeah . So I had breakfast with Michael Blakemore the other day . We were talking about it and he was Very high on it and I was into it just a little bit and we started having a very interesting conversation around it . So we're we're chewing through that and I'm very excited about it so far , and I'm gonna oh , two other things . So Adam Tarnow I remember Adam from a I don't know , maybe 60 episodes ago . He actually pushed out this last week , like here's how I read so many books , sort of email newsletter , and one of one of his Seven points I forget what they were was if you ain't into it , just move on . Like it's not that deep , right , and so I used to be . That's probably part of my . I hate to read is because I don't want to be a quitter and I would just be like grinding through something I hated and just learned to hate it . But it's good advice . It ain't that deep like . If you're not feeling it , move on .

Speaker 2

Man , there's way too many books out there that just be grinding through something you hate . So millions , millions of books .

Speaker 1

Yeah , um , and then I'll make you a third one here . This is also a little pitch or not pitch prop I don't know what the right word is uh , for my buddy , kent Ravele , who we had on some time ago . He I don't know all the right words if I have a lunch with him next week to get all the details but he bought the rights to this book called I think it's called one night in a thousand years , and then got James Vanderbeek from varsity blues remember that guy , mm-hmm to read or narrate , I guess , the audio book , and so that's the book . I actually am listening to that one . I take back what I said earlier I'm listening to that one because Vanderbeek narrated it and it's uh , man , it's , it's .

Speaker 1

It's not a business book , I'm reading it for pleasure and it has been one of these things that I texted Kent the other day Like I have hung on every word of this thing . I got stucked into it from the , from the preview , and it was hung on every word and it's um , I think it's kind of a generally a coming of age story , a la dead poet society , and it's been great . So if you all are looking for something for to read for fun , or listen to for fun . Uh , I'm eight or nine chapters in so far and it's super duper . So that's it .

Speaker 2

That's I'm reading three books , yeah .

Speaker 1

My goal was one a month and so I guess if I picked up three immediately , if I get these finished , these three finished in the first quarter , I will count that as a victory .

Speaker 2

Yeah , absolutely , man . It's huge . It's like three X from last year .

Speaker 1

I know you can't . It's like dividing by zero breaks the system . It's not even an X . You can't X this . This is because last year was zero to the moon , yeah Right , so those are . Those are the three . Uh , Brett , wedding ring One . One book per month , Uh well , and the other one was exercise , but they're trying to figure out the why , Um , and so I've packaged a Y around exercising . It is non derivative of scoring 30 points on Sundays . Um , so that's , that's my three .

Speaker 2

That's awesome , man , and you're already rocking and rolling on the reading one , which is great . What's the game plan for the exercise one ?

Speaker 1

Um , I don't really have a great plan , other than , uh , jake pushed out to this hundred pushups , hundreds , setups and a bunch of other couple of things I don't know if you saw that email and so we've been trying to do that . It's not great , it's not like a marathon , but that's okay . Yeah , actually , the most religious to this is Stella . He has done her pushups and setups every day , every day , and sometimes she'll come in and hit me . She's like , dad , have you done yours today ? And I'm like no , yeah , so that's the . The very short plan is this just do it If it's a set of server day that's .

Speaker 2

That's a plan , and accountability comes in all shapes , sizes and ages . Dude , how cool is that .

Speaker 1

If I told you , speaking of accountability and all shapes and sizes , if I told you the story about me and William running . One day this is about three years ago and we were hitting with it . He was , he was running cross country and it was at that time where he was like I had pushed him for years when we would go jogging Like , hey man , come on , you got a lot of I just kind of in his ear the whole time . And this particular day I'm actually driving right by where we were when he said it , cause I'm getting close to my house and , uh , I was lagging behind and he was kind of running me down and he turned back to me and he goes come on , dad , he's got to push a little harder . Your body is strong . Get your mind to its week . I was like , oh man , it got me so good it's do yes .

Speaker 1

Yeah , this was like three years ago , it was 12 or 13 . And uh , so anyway , yeah , to your point . It comes in all sizes . That one's from those two are from the kid , but yeah , it comes in all shapes and sizes .

Speaker 2

I love it , man

Setting Goals and Holding Yourself Accountable

Speaker 2

. I do genuinely love hearing other people's goals and the game plan to get there , and every year I have several people that send me their goal achieving worksheet and say , hey , would you please hold me accountable ? I don't . I don't have faith that I'll keep on with this and I'm like , oh , I got you . I got you .

Speaker 2

Yeah , I know , yeah , don't you worry about it . And it's funny when you think about that , like how much we need each other because people are pleading with you to just hold me accountable , like because they just don't trust themselves . And that's the whole point of having a game plan and a system that goes beyond your thoughts and that's why we're so passionate about talking about this stuff , at least for me . I've always had such a low ceiling over my life that if I , if it weren't for goal achieving , I wouldn't be anywhere near where I'm at . And so you're over years , setting these goals and achieving them have radically impacted my life . And you know the making sure we're hitting all the buckets of the life . So work , career , family , physical , spiritual you've got to have some personal ones , like those are the buckets . And then the types of goals each year that I set , our consistency goals , which you can do it as the person you are today , you just have to keep showing up . And then stretch goals that the consistency goals can feed . Which stretch goals are goals that I can't achieve with who I am today , but with some consistency and effort I can potentially get there . And so much like how you just shocked me with some goal setting . I'm going to shock you if you haven't seen it on the DM list , like typically I'm known for the audacious physical goals like I'm going to go do this and people like you're insane , and so that's kind of played out for me . I'm going to do it right .

Speaker 2

I got consistency goals in the physical bucket 250 workouts , 5010 case , a no snacking past eight . That was the little Debbie comment earlier , because I've learned that when I create new habits or when I break old habits , I create new habits . So last year was the first time in my journey of getting to 10% body fat those last year stretch goal . I got there , but I started this new evening snacking thing that I've never done before . So now this year there's no snacking after eight and if I do it I have a 5k penalty .

Speaker 2

So somehow , some way I got to fit a 5k into my schedule that's already blown to pieces which I've already had to run to so and it's very difficult to fit into my calendar . So it's like I'm going to keep my fat butt out of the little Debbie drawer and just sleep through the night . But this year . So I started really evaluating , like I don't want to look back at my life and be like oh cool , you did all this physical stuff . What about the whole person you know ? And so I've been focusing more on family and focused more on family this year and now this year . In the personal bucket , my consistency goal that's a wild card is singing lessons and the stretch goal is leading a worship song at church .

Speaker 1

Oh my gosh , that is a total curveball man .

Speaker 2

So you didn't know that until I just said it .

Speaker 1

No , I did not know it , so you just said it . Does that mean I'm not reading the DMs that well ?

Speaker 2

Oh , 100% , but that makes for a better podcast episode .

Speaker 1

Yeah , that's funny because I do look at them every day , but I've , you know , not like stop down , study them every day , and I might have skipped one and nine , and then , but yeah , that's amazing , can you sing it all ?

Speaker 2

Not really . No , it's going to be Russ . And so Sam , my pastor on New Year's Eve he's a good buddy too . He called me at seven o'clock because he had my goal achieving work seed . He called me 7pm New Year's Eve and he's like dude , are you sure about this goal ? Are you sure you want to come through with it ? Like I don't think you can do it . Like I don't think it's a great idea . We got to protect the brand , all this sort of stuff . He sounded genuinely concerned with it and he was either playing like leadership chess with me because he knew that put a chip on my shoulder to take it serious . But , as you are well aware , I don't need that chip , but it's like no , it's staying . It told me that I was right , where I needed to be with the weird kind of stretch goals in my life . It's just not the physical bucket this year .

Speaker 1

I want to know how that's going , because I don't doubt that you can and will do it , but not like not knowing you to be a singer , that's like .

Speaker 2

That's just such a curveball , just such a curveball , and , as you know , I spend months coming up with these , and so I had like a three item thing . It was singing , like line dancing so we can go dancing like Billy Bob's with Sadie and playing the piano , and out of those three , singing scared me the most , so I had to start with it . And so January's bananas there's . We talked about it twice , I think already on this episode , but I can't formalize anything other than singing in the car and just finding out just how bad I am . But I start lessons Wednesday , february 7th . Okay , one-on-one coaching . So I'm in , I'm spending money on it , I'm spending time on it , I'm spending consistency and effort on it . I'm in .

Speaker 1

You know , ashley and I talk sometimes about how I wonder if the kids , specifically , but like they , have some unique talent that we didn't even know to attempt to cultivate , and maybe they are all like concerto opera singers and we don't even know it . Maybe that's you man , maybe , maybe , yeah , maybe it's just a diamond in the rough . You're going to get that thing sharpened up and we're all going to be headed to , uh , what's it called the fancy place in New York City I can't think of the name of it right now Radio Music Hall . No , that's Nashville . Uh , huh , radio Music Hall , I think is in New York too , but I'm thinking about , um , it's like a center for performing arts . It's more of a you know violin and operas than it is , uh , the Rockettes .

Speaker 2

Yeah , I'm going to make Pavarotti sound like a subway singer by the end of this year . Okay , I'm absolutely kidding , it's going to be ruthless yeah .

Speaker 1

Yeah , and I've heard some really good subway singers too , so that's even that too . You know you're stressed . Go , okay , see a church . That's good . Just been a bit trying out for America's Got Talent . That's what it should have been , oh man .

Speaker 2

That's brutal . So good , here are some gnomes after belting out some true trying to really really sing in the car , try this on your next ride , solo , like try to truly sing . Uh huh , what I , what I found out , is like I could whisper , like I could whisper , sing , medium sing or , like boisterous and of joking , sing loud , but like you cannot connect those three dots , like there's no range whatsoever . So when I try to go from like one sound to the next sound , it's brutal . So we're , we're . It's kind of like zero to marathon .

Speaker 2

You know , I bought the running shoes . That's as far as I've made it . Let's see where we go . Where we go , that's so good , but I'm excited for the other things , like physical check . I should have those . This one is way outside of my comfort zone . And then I got two family trips on there , which is forcing me to think early and often about it . We already have a ski trip booked for next month and none of us or I haven't been skiing before . Quinn hasn't been skiing before , and it's just . You know . Again , I don't want to look back at my life and see that I've only focused on work , or only focused on work and physical . I want to look back . When I have those rock and tear moments it's like , yeah , you gave a lot of things a chance . Man , you know you write your family first . They felt that you know , like there's a Quinto lunch once a month on there . Take Sadie on a date once a month on there . Like doing those things continuously Is how I make sure life is Lived fully .

Speaker 1

You know well and and there's some , there's some . I don't remember where I read it or heard about it . I want to say it was the Huberman podcast , but there's . There is some Part of your brain that you know .

Speaker 1

They say , as you get older , life tends to speed up , which I think is true , but the neuroscience behind why that's true generally is because you perceive Experiences that you've had before at a faster clip than new experiences , and so the gist of it , the gist of the theory , is people who are always doing new things or having new experiences , or deciding they're gonna learn how to sing when they're in their stories , like they , their lives feel longer because they're always having these new experiences as opposed to no , I get up and do this and drink my coffee and put a tablespoon of this and go to work and sit in this chair and then , all of a sudden , 40 years fly by like boom . So not only is there some rocking chair moment of looking back and saying I don't want to have been just focused on these things , I think there is , for you and for your family , the ability , with all these new things , to begin to elongate the perception of the time that we do have here .

Speaker 2

So there's a couple of things going on there , man dude , that's rich and timely , because we're just exiting a two-day strategy session for mountain over facades and Laying out that we did do yearly goals , like we always do , but for the first time we did three , five and ten year big be eggs . So big , hairy , audacious goals , yeah . And Looking at the three and fives , it's like guys , look , it's already January 24 . Like the end , like the end of this three year be hag is only the end of 2026 , like that's gonna be here in a flash . I can't . Why don't ? Don't look at that as burdensome , that that's so far away . Look at how close it really is . So , and if you , berman , said it , that means it's backed by science .

Speaker 1

So Well , don't somebody fact check me on that ? I think it was humor , but it definitely was a scholarly article . It wasn't just some random nonsense website . It was a reputable neuroscience related article that I read . So If it ain't , if it ain't here , man , my bad . But also if you're not watching , you remember listening here when you should go . Do that also , Andrew . Right , andrew , here , man .

Speaker 2

Yeah , he's an absolute beast man . Yeah , every time I've listened to an episode of it , it's just , it's so engaging and Intelligent . My goodness like yeah , yeah .

Speaker 1

Yeah , it's just unbelievable . All right , so we we have the car ride home episode , which is awesome . I love this new idea , but also what that means is our timing gets a little jumbled up . I have no idea how long we've been going , but I'm home , though I don't know if we have , I get sent for a minute , we have other stuff , or I don't know where we are in the episode or if we want a rapper what man ?

Speaker 2

Yeah , I think . Just recap Get those thoughts and wishes out of your brain and on the paper . Right , so have some goals for the year for yourself , for your family , for your future , for your company , for all the buckets of your life . Come up with a tracking mechanism . So don't don't say be more , be better , like it's got to be quantifiable . Come up with something that I'm going to do this X number of times or whatever the case may be . Share it with somebody , just like Stuart and his daughter Stella , like they're holding each other accountable because they're walking through something together and they have a unified goal . Find an accountability partner and then , once you have that game plan , just execute it repeatedly . It's simple , yet difficult for so many . Get it on paper , get it tracking . Well , after me , hold you accountable and follow through on this will be your best year . Yeah , just keep up with it .

Speaker 2

Don't let this don't , don't let the fire that goes out every single year for every single one of us be the reason why you stop chasing your goals .

Speaker 1

Yeah , I've heard a few people myself included , a little bit sort of repeat the mantra that 24 is going to be the best year ever . And I mean , I think there's something to it if you , if you put something to it . Or there's nothing to it if it's just words , you say you know , but there's something to it if you do something about it . So it's a good reminder for everybody as we kick off , or kick off into , I guess , sort of mid January . Get yourself back on the goal that you fell off of and have some ideas on how to keep track of all it , so that this is so the 24 is the best year ever . You got it All right , man . Well , we will catch up again next week . And for your listeners out there , y'all stay out there and keep moving mountains .