David Willans, founder of the website Being Dads joins the show as we discover what is behind his thoughtful and informative weekly emails. We learn how a typical dad moment - losing your rag with your kids, and lacking role models the resonated, turned into a project to educate himself and others about fatherhood - our behaviours and how they impact on others. David talks convincingly about how definitions of fatherhood lack "depth."
Content
03:00 We discuss the burning question in November - is it too early for Xmas?!
06:30 The euphoric feeling bumping into someone you know in the park
07:30 David's path to setting up Being Dads
Classic school run moment - shouting at kids, getting stressed.
Caught myself - angry dad moment I'd lost control and I didn't want to be that guy
Limited role models - either Disciplinarian Dad, Lego Dad or "Steve Martin" Dad
10:30 Speaking to other Dads he knew - "longest I've ever spent talking about fatherhood".
You lost temper and started a website, was this a conscious choice?
"Hard to sit still and do nothing."
14:00 Kids give you lots of opportunities to be a better person if you are paying attention
17:30 How to stop thinking? James' experience of the Gender Agenda project
18:30 Expert status - talk and think about it.
20:30 Digging in child development and psychotherapy - how adult behaviours are driven by childhood. The dangers of reading too much!
22:00 Top books for thoughtful parents (see below)
25:00
We discuss time, attention and behaviour
James anticipates being laughed at
Adults talking about Dads - it's attention or lack of, that they remember. The dads they don't remember growing up
30:00
Dads and sport
31:00 Tips
Read about Virat Kohli, Indian cricket captain, planning to miss 2 test matches in January for paternity leave.
Wake up and think about what you are going to do that is amazing for the family.
Dad to dad meet up - outdoor fresh air is good for the soul
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David Willans
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More to read
Becoming Myself: A Psychiatrist's Memoir, Irvin Yalom
Reflective Parenting: A Guide to Understanding What's Going on in Your Child's Mind, Cooper and Redfern
Kids Are Worth It!: Giving Your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline, Barbara Coloroso
https://www.workingdads.co.uk/virat-kohli-stereotypes-cricket/
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About Lockdown Dads
James Millar and Ian Dinwiddy are recording a weekly ‘show’ exploring the impact of lockdown, self-isolation and social distancing on working dads.
We’ll share tips, thoughts and stories with special guests, discuss our hopes for the future and the opportunities that all this represents, especially for dads who want to be more active and involved fathers but who until now have struggled with the expectations of what it means to be a man in the workplace. We hope you enjoy watching and listening!
To get in touch, submit your tips and learn about us click here: https://www.inspiringdads.co.uk/lockdown-dads