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It's A Single Mom Thing
Welcome to “It's A Single Mom Thing,” the show for single moms by single moms, hosted by Sherry Chandler.
Being a solo momma and present parent is hard work, and losing focus is easy when you forget your faith. The good news is you are not alone. You were singled out this season, and together, we can work on what’s not working for you—finding Christ in the crisis! Whether you’re tuning in early in the morning or late at night, I’m here for you, momma.
This podcast is your go-to space for navigating life as a single mom with faith, fun, and a fresh perspective. We'll cover everything from mastering a single-mom success mindset and budgeting like a boss to prioritizing self-care and raising resilient kids. We’ll share time management hacks, parenting perspectives, co-parenting challenges, and how to find joy and laugh again. Together, we’ll move from surviving to thriving in every season of single motherhood.
Be encouraged. Get inspired. You can do this, momma.
Each Monday, join me for practical advice, relatable stories, and uplifting conversations as we walk this journey from solo momma to solo momma. I promise not to take too much of your time, and I’m so grateful you’re spending it with me.
It may be a single mom thing, but it doesn’t have to be the "single thing" that stops you!
It's A Single Mom Thing
Bye-Bye Mom Guilt: Confidence Boosters for Single Moms
Feeling like mom guilt has the mic again? Not today, Mama! In this week’s Power-Up Pep Talk, we're throwing grace at guilt and reclaiming our confidence—one truth at a time. Whether you're folding laundry or hiding in the bathroom for five minutes of peace (we see you), this episode delivers a quick dose of encouragement for single moms who feel like they're falling short.
💬 We’re talking real-life guilt trips, grace-based resets, and tiny confidence boosters that pack a punch. You'll walk away with powerful phrases to shut down shame, practical ideas to boost your mom mojo, and a reminder that God didn't ask you to be perfect—just present.
✨ Hot Topics Include:
- The truth about mom guilt vs. grace
- Faith-based confidence hacks you can use today
- A guilt check-in you didn’t know you needed
- The #PowerUpPepTalk mindset to carry all week long
🎧 Tap play and power up, Mama—you’ve got this, and God’s got you.
It's a Single Mom Thing, Not the Single Thing That Stops You!
Welcome to it's a Single Mom Thing, the show for single moms by single moms. This is Sherri, your host, and I am happy you are here today. Remember it's a single mom thing and not the single thing that stops you.
Speaker 2:Adios, arrivederci. So long, good friend, bye-bye, mom guilt. Today we are opening up our time together with a little power-up pep talk, which is going to be your quick hit of encouragement when the guilt gets loud and the confidence feels low. Today we're taking a little twist on our time together. It may go quick, but I guarantee you it is going to be the pick-me-up that you need. So we've now entered the second quarter of the year, that shiny New Year's resolution. It might already feel like a thing of the past. And let's be real, if you're listening, on Monday, april 7th, today is the 97th day of the year and your life might not be where you thought it would be by now. But don't worry, listen. This episode is here to help you shake the shame, punch the guilt in the face with some love and power up your purpose again. Today we're kicking single mom guilt to the curb. Why? Because guilt may be loud, but God's truth is louder, so those lies can just park it. This is your moment to pause, reset and walk away ready to own your role without shame. So, whether you're listening on your commute, folding laundry or hiding in the bathroom for five minutes of peace, this episode is for you. Welcome back to another episode of it's a Single Mom Thing. So pep talk. Pointer number one the reset button.
Speaker 2:When I became a mom, some strange phenomenon happened that took over my mind and then my emotions with it. On day one Maybe this has happened to you too. It's called the guilt trip, am I right? Like for no good reason, all of a sudden you start to feel guilty about everything. For me it was. He's not my child, meaning the baby in the 90th percentile for his weight. I should nurse him more or wait? Should I bottle feed him the gas bubble in his belly? It's my fault, I just know it. I shouldn't have enjoyed that fajita last night. I didn't change his diaper fast enough. That rash, yep, it's totally my doing. And I could go on and on. And I'm sure you too have taken a few guilt trips of your own that led to emotional dead ends.
Speaker 2:Guilt trips of your own that led to emotional dead ends. I always said and likened it to the thought of that someone I don't know. They flipped a guilt trip switch that I have been trying to shut off for the last 22 years of motherhood and I'm still looking for it. And if mom guilt wasn't enough. Single mom guilt is like the supersized combo meal with extra sauce. Single mom guilt is like the supersized combo meal with extra sauce. You see, we carry guilt for things we did and didn't do or had no control over, especially when it comes to how we think we've ruined our kids. But, girl, let me tell you, god is still writing their story and yours, which leads me to pep talk.
Speaker 2:Pointer number two guilt check-in. So we all have one or two lies that we always tell ourselves. Some may be new as a single mom, or some may have been with you since you were a kid. Think about that thought and let's point it out. Now ask yourself what lie has guilt been feeding you this week, this month or even in this new year? Maybe it's I'm not doing enough, I messed up again, I'm not like other moms, or I'm never going to get ahead. I will tell you mine, I never have enough. I will tell you mine, I never have enough. My baby bird well, he may be out of the nest, but I still have that same lie that comes up, even when he lived with me. So let's get something straight.
Speaker 2:Guilt is not our GPS. Grace is, and it should be. But as women, single moms even. I don't think that we are very good at extending that to include ourselves. Maybe everybody else, but certainly not us.
Speaker 2:Romans 8 says there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. So if God's not condemning you, ladies, why are you condemning yourself? And I'm throwing myself in that mix, okay, so you're not alone. So let's sit with that thought for a minute. Why, as women, or even single moms, do we condemn ourselves? It's like we hold this imaginary bar above our heads that we think we'll never measure up to, and we are the only ones holding that stick. What if, instead of condemnation, we had competence? Now, I'm talking competence, not pride or conceit. Okay, I think sometimes, as Christian women, we confuse confidence with arrogance, instead of alignment with who God says you are. Ladies, you're not just surviving and you need to stop marginalizing yourself with that low thought, taking you on a guilt trip. You, my dear, you are raising humans, running a home, making hard decisions and still showing up. That is some mad skills and some superhero status. Now, let me tell you, when I was in it, I never saw it that way, but now that I'm a few years removed from the everyday hustle of single momhood, I can say with confidence you are sheroes, so we're going to move on then to pep talk. Pointer number three power phrases for confidence.
Speaker 2:So something as a single mom and a single lady, that I do often is talk out loud to myself. My boss, well, she can attest to this, as her desk is behind mine and she listens to a whole conversation I have with myself. Quite frequently while creating social media posts. I mean, I don't know, as a solo, there is no one at home to bounce ideas off of or to encourage me in my meltdowns behind closed doors, so I kind of got used to talking to myself. I know there's someone listening who gets this. So let's just go with this or follow me on this little tangent for a second, would you OK? So if it's just you and you, my guess is that you are either talking yourself up or you are talking yourself down.
Speaker 2:Now, in my side hustle, I call these upwards. As a solo, what I am training my brain to do and it's a daily process and habit is to replace my downwards w-o-r-d-s that lead me into into a downward spiral, into upwards which move me in the direction I was created for. You see, I have these things on my phone, on post-it notes, like everywhere's in my journal. On my computer I even post them and share them with others on the gram and on my Facebook page and you can hit me up at at Upwards with Sherry, I made a personal commitment to myself and others that I was going to have one upward thought to share for 365 days. I am on day 97. So look forward to seeing you there, see.
Speaker 2:But here's what I've discovered, and that has come about because of the many guilt trip voyages I have taken, and that is the thought that there are lies that have come to us in the many guilt trip voyages I have taken, and that is the thought that there are lies that have come to us in the form of cliches or colloquial sayings that we grew up with. Something like children are to be seen, not heard, whether it came from a teacher or a coach that talked it over you, a parent or a partner or an ex-spouse that told you who they thought you were, but really that was just their pain or their past speaking. It really wasn't all about you. But here is the good news If there are lies, there is also truth. So here are a few little up words that I can share and shout out with you that I would like for you to start speaking over your own life.
Speaker 2:If you're going to be talking to yourself. Then girls say some of these things Like God picked me for this family on purpose. How about this one? Even when I fall short, his grace fills the gap. Or single mom, guilt doesn't get the mic today. No, in fact, we are going to drop that mic altogether. So today let's celebrate the wins, even the weird ones, like okay, here's one, you managed to drop off your kids to school without yelling Check, that's a win. How about let's see you serve cereal for dinner? Well, that's called delegation, or even a delicacy in my house sometimes. Or you folded one basket of laundry and left five. Well, that's progress, baby. You see, confidence is built in the tiny wins, not the perfect days. Pep talk pointer number four practical confidence boosters here are three girl boss moves for a powerful day today.
Speaker 2:One write a truth over a guilt lie. Now I triple dog. Dare you to pick one that you have been telling yourself for a long time, for example, guilt or a lie? In this case also, I'm not enough. Truth. God equips me for what I've been called to do. Now, if you really listen to this truth drop and what you just said out loud, it's what you've been called to do. Maybe it was you who decided to end a marriage and you are thinking to yourself. God calls people to get married, not divorce, sherry Not sure how that's my calling, but listen. He has called you to be the parent who your kids need Deuteronomy 6, 6 through 7. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts and press them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up Proverbs 22.6,. Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old, they will not turn from it.
Speaker 2:So, for today, put the guilt down and pick up the phone Text, or even go all old school and call a mom friend and share with her something that you admire about her and watch how it lifts her and you up as well. Or even snap a real life moment, a mess and all of it, and remind yourself this is love. This is a picture of what love is. You see, motherhood is messy. Who else would clean up all the messes? You see, motherhood is messy. Who else would clean up all the messes? Pep, talk pointer number five your faith fix Now, as I've mentioned in several podcasts.
Speaker 2:God isn't asking for perfection. He's asking for your presence. Your kids don't need a perfect, single mom. They need a present one and your presence covered in grace. Well, that's just enough To the point where you can help them with the little recorded lies. They are starting to develop just like you did when you were their age. In fact, you can go as far as ensuring that what they hear is nothing but the truth.
Speaker 2:Proverbs 31 25 reminds us she is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future. So the next time, mom, guilt whispers, you're not doing enough. You remind that guilt. I'm doing what I can with what I've got and, by God's grace, I am rocking it. Bye, bye, guilt. I came with what I've got and, by God's grace, I am rocking it. Bye-bye, guilt.
Speaker 2:So as I close, I want you to share your power phrase in our Facebook group with the hashtag power up, pep talk. Ooh, say that a couple times fast. That was a hard one to come out. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, spotify or iHeart Radio so you never miss your weekly confidence boost and then leave a review. If this pep talk gave you life today, then you need to send it to another mom who needs it and maybe, just maybe, you can even get that Thriving 25 journal out that we didn't use today and start to use it to have your own pep talk with yourself, while tapping those lies over to God to handle for you.
Speaker 2:So before I go, here's a little pep talk for you from one of our friends from Indian Rocks Christian School. My name is Adeline and I chose John 3.16 for God so loved the world that he gave His only Son, for whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. Now, ladies, you may not feel like you got this, but I want you to know God certainly does. I'll be off next Monday, returning on April 21st. Have a wonderful week and a happy Easter. Remember it's a single mom thing and not the single thing that stops you.
Speaker 1:Thanks for listening to. It's a Single Mom Thing. I hope you enjoyed our time together. If you have more questions on how to have a relationship with Jesus or need prayer, visit us at wwwshepherdsvillagecom. Backslash prayer. For more information and resources, check out our show notes.
