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I"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":327.15,"endTime":331.77,"body":"had not heard this term before."},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":327.15,"endTime":331.77,"body":"And in the process of actually"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":331.77,"endTime":335.73,"body":"creating the blog post, I"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":331.77,"endTime":335.73,"body":"googled it. And Alas, I can say"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":335.79,"endTime":340.86,"body":"it's not an original idea. And"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":335.79,"endTime":340.86,"body":"I've read several other blog"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":340.86,"endTime":344.97,"body":"posts by Grievers who have felt"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":340.86,"endTime":344.97,"body":"grief shamed themselves. So this"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":344.97,"endTime":349.56,"body":"topic is not something new. 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However, on"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":587.05,"endTime":592.15,"body":"average and 2019 people are"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":587.05,"endTime":592.15,"body":"spending just as much of their"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":592.15,"endTime":596.53,"body":"income on paying down current"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":592.15,"endTime":596.53,"body":"debt as they are on accruing new"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":596.53,"endTime":600.97,"body":"debt for clothes and trips."},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":596.53,"endTime":600.97,"body":"According to a nationwide study,"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":601.54,"endTime":605.62,"body":"so that was 2019 I am not sure"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":601.54,"endTime":605.62,"body":"what the numbers would be for"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":605.62,"endTime":611.68,"body":"2020 considering we had COVID."},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":605.62,"endTime":611.68,"body":"However, essentially, Americans"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":611.71,"endTime":616.21,"body":"are paying billions overall in"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":611.71,"endTime":616.21,"body":"interest and are continually in"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":616.21,"endTime":621.28,"body":"debt. In grief recovery, these"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":616.21,"endTime":621.28,"body":"modes of distraction, such as"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":621.28,"endTime":627.79,"body":"food, alcohol, drugs, shopping,"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":621.28,"endTime":627.79,"body":"workaholism, or gambling, and"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":627.79,"endTime":632.32,"body":"many more, in our lives are"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":627.79,"endTime":632.32,"body":"called sterbs, short term energy"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":632.32,"endTime":635.47,"body":"relieving behaviors. And I"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":632.32,"endTime":635.47,"body":"actually have an episode on that"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":635.53,"endTime":641.11,"body":"a while back. 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The most loving"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":662.27,"endTime":665.75,"body":"thing you can do for widows and"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":662.27,"endTime":665.75,"body":"widowers who want and need to be"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":665.75,"endTime":671.06,"body":"listened to, is to do just that,"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":665.75,"endTime":671.06,"body":"without judgment, comparison, or"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":671.06,"endTime":675.59,"body":"trying to fix them. And it may"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":671.06,"endTime":675.59,"body":"also be helpful to ask how they"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":675.59,"endTime":680.21,"body":"felt at the time, because often"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":675.59,"endTime":680.21,"body":"two people get wrapped up in the"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":680.21,"endTime":685.01,"body":"story of what happened, but"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":680.21,"endTime":685.01,"body":"they're rarely asked how it made"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":685.01,"endTime":689.33,"body":"them feel. Another thing you can"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":685.01,"endTime":689.33,"body":"say is, I don't know what to"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":689.33,"endTime":693.47,"body":"say. And it's okay to tell the"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":689.33,"endTime":693.47,"body":"truth. If you don't know what to"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":693.47,"endTime":698.24,"body":"say. Your honesty allows the"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":693.47,"endTime":698.24,"body":"widowed to know you're a safe"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":698.24,"endTime":701.51,"body":"person to talk to because"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":698.24,"endTime":701.51,"body":"they'll know you aren't trying"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":701.51,"endTime":707.36,"body":"to fix them. Another thing to"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":701.51,"endTime":707.36,"body":"say, I can't imagine how you"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":707.36,"endTime":711.65,"body":"feel. No two relationships are"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":707.36,"endTime":711.65,"body":"the same because they are"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":711.65,"endTime":715.64,"body":"comprised of two different"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":711.65,"endTime":715.64,"body":"people. So even if you've had a"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":715.64,"endTime":719.9,"body":"spouse die, you could never know"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":715.64,"endTime":719.9,"body":"exactly how another widow or"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":719.9,"endTime":725.39,"body":"widower feels. At best, only you"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":719.9,"endTime":725.39,"body":"know how you felt when your loss"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":725.39,"endTime":729.89,"body":"occurred. Comparing losses is"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":725.39,"endTime":729.89,"body":"never helpful when offering"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":729.89,"endTime":735.02,"body":"advice or suggestions. It breaks"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":729.89,"endTime":735.02,"body":"my heart to hear of your loss."},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":735.77,"endTime":739.67,"body":"This is a good one. following up"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":735.77,"endTime":739.67,"body":"with a fond memory of the person"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":739.67,"endTime":742.76,"body":"who died also expresses how"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":739.67,"endTime":742.76,"body":"their loved one touched your"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":742.76,"endTime":748.58,"body":"life. You can also give an emoji"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":742.76,"endTime":748.58,"body":"of a sad face or tears. You know"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":748.58,"endTime":752.66,"body":"we are in a time of texting and"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":748.58,"endTime":752.66,"body":"messaging and things like that"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":752.66,"endTime":756.23,"body":"we often don't see people face"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":752.66,"endTime":756.23,"body":"to face. But just sending an"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":756.23,"endTime":760.7,"body":"emojis expressing your feelings"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":756.23,"endTime":760.7,"body":"is a far more positive response"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":760.7,"endTime":763.79,"body":"to their pain. Rather than"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":760.7,"endTime":763.79,"body":"telling them they shouldn't feel"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":763.79,"endTime":768.14,"body":"bad. Regardless of the griever"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":763.79,"endTime":768.14,"body":"or the type of loss they've"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":768.14,"endTime":772.22,"body":"endured the most helpful things"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":768.14,"endTime":772.22,"body":"you could say are likely not"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":772.52,"endTime":776.81,"body":"what's your impulses tell you to"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":772.52,"endTime":776.81,"body":"say? So I caution you when"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":776.81,"endTime":781.43,"body":"replying to agree or sharing"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":776.81,"endTime":781.43,"body":"online or in person. Instead,"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":781.61,"endTime":786.14,"body":"dig into your heart, not your"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":781.61,"endTime":786.14,"body":"head and approach the situation"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":786.14,"endTime":789.29,"body":"as if you're holding the"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":786.14,"endTime":789.29,"body":"Grievers heart in your hands."},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":790.49,"endTime":794.06,"body":"Utilize the suggestions I have"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":790.49,"endTime":794.06,"body":"given and change them up to"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":794.06,"endTime":799.73,"body":"reflect their loss and maybe"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":794.06,"endTime":799.73,"body":"even helpful to imagine them as"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":799.73,"endTime":804.05,"body":"a child. Because often adults"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":799.73,"endTime":804.05,"body":"say things to other adults that"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":804.05,"endTime":809.09,"body":"they would never say to a child."},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":804.05,"endTime":809.09,"body":"And you know, what? Aren't we"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":809.09,"endTime":814.16,"body":"all holding our inner child in"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":809.09,"endTime":814.16,"body":"our hearts? We carry all of our"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":814.16,"endTime":818.48,"body":"losses with us from childhood"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":814.16,"endTime":818.48,"body":"into adulthood. Therefore, we"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":818.48,"endTime":824.18,"body":"are all Grievers. It's just some"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":818.48,"endTime":824.18,"body":"are willing to admit it to"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":824.18,"endTime":827.06,"body":"others, when the most"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":824.18,"endTime":827.06,"body":"compassionate thing they could"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":827.06,"endTime":831.08,"body":"do for themselves is to admit it"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":827.06,"endTime":831.08,"body":"to themselves."},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":832.59,"endTime":835.53,"body":"So another thing to keep in"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":832.59,"endTime":835.53,"body":"mind. While you may have found"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":835.53,"endTime":840.09,"body":"great resist assistance in your"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":835.53,"endTime":840.09,"body":"faith at times of personal loss,"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":840.93,"endTime":844.86,"body":"do not assume that this is the"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":840.93,"endTime":844.86,"body":"best way to assist others."},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":845.91,"endTime":849.15,"body":"Grievers especially those"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":845.91,"endTime":849.15,"body":"dealing with an emotional loss"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":849.15,"endTime":852.84,"body":"caused by death, might still"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":849.15,"endTime":852.84,"body":"find themselves in emotional"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":852.84,"endTime":856.68,"body":"pain, while still being secure"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":852.84,"endTime":856.68,"body":"in their relationship to their"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":856.68,"endTime":860.04,"body":"faith. They may even have"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":856.68,"endTime":860.04,"body":"conflicting feelings when it"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":860.04,"endTime":864.39,"body":"comes to their faith as well"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":860.04,"endTime":864.39,"body":"primarily if religion or faith"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":864.39,"endTime":869.67,"body":"was used against them in past"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":864.39,"endTime":869.67,"body":"loss experience. Their"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":869.67,"endTime":872.97,"body":"relationship to their emotions"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":869.67,"endTime":872.97,"body":"and their faith are two"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":872.97,"endTime":877.29,"body":"different things. Many"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":872.97,"endTime":877.29,"body":"Christians often forget that the"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":877.29,"endTime":882.48,"body":"shortest sentence in the Bible"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":877.29,"endTime":882.48,"body":"is Jesus wept. It's only"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":882.48,"endTime":886.38,"body":"reasonable that mere mortals"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":882.48,"endTime":886.38,"body":"might cry as well, even if their"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":886.38,"endTime":892.02,"body":"beliefs are strong. And it is my"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":886.38,"endTime":892.02,"body":"opinion that the Bible does not"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":892.02,"endTime":896.85,"body":"tell us the how and recovering"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":892.02,"endTime":896.85,"body":"from grief. Or faith can"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":896.85,"endTime":900.33,"body":"undoubtedly help us through the"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":896.85,"endTime":900.33,"body":"darkest of the days. With When"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":900.33,"endTime":903.75,"body":"thoughts of your loved one come"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":900.33,"endTime":903.75,"body":"to mind, in fond memories turn"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":903.75,"endTime":908.97,"body":"painful recovery has not"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":903.75,"endTime":908.97,"body":"occurred. You may have convinced"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":908.97,"endTime":912.69,"body":"yourself you are. However, when"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":908.97,"endTime":912.69,"body":"another significant emotional"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":912.69,"endTime":917.49,"body":"loss occurs later, and stacks on"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":912.69,"endTime":917.49,"body":"top of the ones before it, you"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":917.49,"endTime":921.12,"body":"will be taken back to that old"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":917.49,"endTime":921.12,"body":"familiar pain you experienced"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":921.12,"endTime":925.29,"body":"before. The past hurt and pain"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":921.12,"endTime":925.29,"body":"will rise again to the surface."},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":925.86,"endTime":929.64,"body":"And when this happens, think"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":925.86,"endTime":929.64,"body":"about the sterbs that I"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":929.64,"endTime":933.45,"body":"mentioned go back to that"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":929.64,"endTime":933.45,"body":"episode as well. Our minds can"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":933.45,"endTime":936.33,"body":"cocked all kinds of ways to"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":933.45,"endTime":936.33,"body":"distract ourselves from our"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":936.33,"endTime":939.9,"body":"hearts. And I've only begun to"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":936.33,"endTime":939.9,"body":"scratch the surface on this"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":939.9,"endTime":943.68,"body":"topic. And as you've been"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":939.9,"endTime":943.68,"body":"listening, you may believe"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":943.68,"endTime":947.49,"body":"you've been doing just fine with"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":943.68,"endTime":947.49,"body":"your grief. But something you've"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":947.49,"endTime":951.48,"body":"heard is perhaps needling at"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":947.49,"endTime":951.48,"body":"you. Pressing a button on your"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":951.48,"endTime":955.14,"body":"heart that makes you squirm in"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":951.48,"endTime":955.14,"body":"your seat. Perhaps you even want"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":955.14,"endTime":959.67,"body":"to email me and tell me I've got"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":955.14,"endTime":959.67,"body":"it all wrong I get that. What we"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":959.67,"endTime":965.94,"body":"resist persists. And I know you"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":959.67,"endTime":965.94,"body":"because I was you and still am"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":965.94,"endTime":971.34,"body":"you in ways because recovery is"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":965.94,"endTime":971.34,"body":"an ongoing process. I am a work"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":971.34,"endTime":976.44,"body":"in progress. You are a work in"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":971.34,"endTime":976.44,"body":"progress. And healing is a work"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":976.44,"endTime":982.83,"body":"in progress too. However,"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":976.44,"endTime":982.83,"body":"recovery is only in progress."},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":983.28,"endTime":987.81,"body":"Once we can admit to ourselves"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":983.28,"endTime":987.81,"body":"that we need it. Tell the truth"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":987.81,"endTime":992.97,"body":"about yourself to yourself."},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":987.81,"endTime":992.97,"body":"Start there. And when you're"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":992.97,"endTime":996.99,"body":"ready, you know where to find"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":992.97,"endTime":996.99,"body":"me. So I'd love to hear your"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":996.99,"endTime":1001.79,"body":"thoughts on this. Have you felt"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":996.99,"endTime":1001.79,"body":"grief shamed? Have you"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1001.79,"endTime":1007.49,"body":"recognized where you may be have"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1001.79,"endTime":1007.49,"body":"grief shamed someone else? And"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1007.49,"endTime":1010.94,"body":"if that's the case, you know"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1007.49,"endTime":1010.94,"body":"what, forgive yourself for that."},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1011.75,"endTime":1017.09,"body":"And if you need to offer an"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1011.75,"endTime":1017.09,"body":"apology, do so. But the best"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1017.09,"endTime":1022.94,"body":"thing you can do too, is listen"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1017.09,"endTime":1022.94,"body":"to this podcast, search research"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1022.97,"endTime":1028.7,"body":"articles. Seek out education"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1022.97,"endTime":1028.7,"body":"about grief, how to support"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1028.7,"endTime":1033.86,"body":"others, how to support yourself."},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1028.7,"endTime":1033.86,"body":"This is why I'm so passionate"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1033.89,"endTime":1038.27,"body":"about grief education. Because"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1033.89,"endTime":1038.27,"body":"as we start to work on"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1038.27,"endTime":1042.56,"body":"ourselves, it creates ripples."},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1038.27,"endTime":1042.56,"body":"And this work that I've done on"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1042.56,"endTime":1047.33,"body":"myself has definitely created"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1042.56,"endTime":1047.33,"body":"ripples in my life. I hope this"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1047.33,"endTime":1052.37,"body":"was helpful to you. Apply it to"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1047.33,"endTime":1052.37,"body":"any losses that you've maybe"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1052.37,"endTime":1057.86,"body":"encountered and will encounter"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1052.37,"endTime":1057.86,"body":"because grief isn't going away"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1057.92,"endTime":1062.51,"body":"anytime soon. I thank you for"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1057.92,"endTime":1062.51,"body":"listening. Reach out to me if"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1062.51,"endTime":1066.68,"body":"you have any questions. If you"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1062.51,"endTime":1066.68,"body":"are interested in any of the"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1066.68,"endTime":1070.43,"body":"services I provide if you want"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1066.68,"endTime":1070.43,"body":"to dig deeper into your grief,"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1070.73,"endTime":1075.32,"body":"reach out. I hope this finds you"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1070.73,"endTime":1075.32,"body":"well today, and I wish you much"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1075.32,"endTime":1075.68,"body":"love."},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1137.42,"endTime":1141.08,"body":"from my heart to yours. Thank"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1137.42,"endTime":1141.08,"body":"you for listening. If you liked"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1141.08,"endTime":1145.7,"body":"this episode, please share it"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1141.08,"endTime":1145.7,"body":"because Sharing is caring. And"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1145.7,"endTime":1149.24,"body":"until next time, give and share"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1145.7,"endTime":1149.24,"body":"compassion by being hurt with"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1149.24,"endTime":1153.38,"body":"yours. And if you're hurting"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1149.24,"endTime":1153.38,"body":"know that what you're feeling is"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1153.38,"endTime":1156.74,"body":"normal and natural. Much love my"},{"speaker":"Victoria Volk","startTime":1153.38,"endTime":1156.74,"body":"friend."}]}