Communication is an important aspect in any human relationship. So how can something so important lead to mixed messages? Bento Leal, a relationship skills trainer and author, focuses on helping individuals improve their communication skills and the importance of empathy—an essential ingredient in communication.
In this episode, Bento shares some of the obstacles that often prevent effective communication. He also shares how we can use empathy to become active listeners and speakers in our communication with others. He gives practical advice about how to structure our messages so that they can easily be heard and understood.
Communication is a necessary skill in any relationship, and we can improve this skill by learning about and practicing effective communication.
This episode also kicks off our 4-part communication series. We’ll dive into different types of communication and how we can all be better communicators with one another.
Key takeaways
A little about himself and the work he’s doing
Biggest problems in interpersonal communication
Difference between sympathy and empathy
What emphatic awareness is
How to figure out your communication patterns and that behaviors that are causing issues in your relationships
The role body language plays in communication
His advice to those who want to change their communication patterns
The 3As in his book
His thoughts on “thinking before speaking”
How to communicate effectively and in a calm way when you don’t like the other person
How stress gets in the way of effective communication
What self-care is for him
Links
Bento Leal Website - https://bentoleal.com
The Marriage Course by Nicky and Sila Lee - https://themarriagecourse.org/try/the-marriage-course
Mahatma Gandhi - https://www.biography.com/activist/mahatma-gandhi
Martin Luther King Jr. - https://www.nobelprize.org/prizes/peace/1964/king/biographical/
Mother Teresa - https://www.nobelprize.org/prizes/peace/1979/teresa/biographical/
Abraham Lincoln - https://www.whitehouse.gov/about-the-white-house/presidents/abraham-lincoln/
Books
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change by Stephen R. Covey - https://www.amazon.com/Habits-Highly-Effective-People-Powerful/dp/0743269519
4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work - Anywhere! By Bento Leal - https://www.amazon.com/Essential-Keys-Effective-Communication-Love/dp/B075TK6M6X
The Five Language of Apology: How to Experience Healing in All Your Relationships by Gary Chapman - https://www.amazon.com/Five-Languages-Apology-Experience-Relationships/dp/1881273571
Bento Leal Bio:
Bento Leal is a Relationships Skills Trainer and author who has taught marriage and relationship skills classes and parenting skills classes to more than 2,500 couples and singles at family resource centers, community organizations, churches, substance abuse recovery programs, county jails, and federal prison throughout California.
In 2017, he published his first book “4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work—Anywhere!” It continues to be an Amazon Bestseller in several categories and has sold more