#77 - A conversation with Richard Newman about creating successful human connections again!

If you’ve ever wanted to master communication with yourself and with others you’ve come to the right place! In this episode, communication expert Richard Newman and I give you some tips to become better at communicating, while keeping a good energy balance.

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Transcript

Murielle Machiels: 0:00

Hi. I'm Murielle co mom, an educator, I other leaders build meaningful lives. So each week, I'll be

Unknown: 0:39

I'm really good. Yeah. How are you, Muriel?

Murielle Machiels: 0:42

Great. Welcome in rebel leader with a

Unknown: 0:47

Thanks. Thanks for having me.

Murielle Machiels: 0:48

Yeah, you're calling from London? Across the

Unknown: 0:54

Yeah, yeah, I'm just I'm just outside London. And

Murielle Machiels: 1:10

Yeah. Nice. So I've read a little bit about

Unknown: 1:31

Oh, thank you. Well, yes, it's a long journey that moment. And back when I was four years old, that's when I started school. And then I moved to a new area, my parents moved like being in a glass bubble, and not being able to connect with me through throughout school. And it got to the point there. And I suddenly thought, well hang on a second is this this is important for me, it's important for my life. And so I Darjeeling tea comes from, when I was living in this little monks didn't speak any English. So they spoke Nepali and a bit have a lesson with them to teach them English. And so I lived how to speak some Nepali back to them, which was the main important to creating a character and telling a story. for more than two decades. And there's more than 100,000 people effectively and fulfill their potential in their working

Murielle Machiels: 5:31

Yeah, nice. Wow, impressive. And it all to the office, or coming out of this pandemic, a lot of a lot of leaders of those people to help them? Again, connect and better

Unknown: 6:26

Yeah, it's a great question, great observation as would still be working with people on you know, lighting, how to deal with the fact that people are not in the shake your hand? Do I? Do I give you a hug? Do you want me to the pandemic. In lockdown, I didn't drive my car. So we you street and going onto a motorway and pulling into lane. It just people, what we've always said in our training is to practice this really important negotiation, or speak at a big couple of your peers, spend time with them and really consciously people would previous to the pandemic they'd have banter, starts at midday. So we turn the camera on at midday and we start into bigger and more important meetings.

Murielle Machiels: 9:32

Yeah, but I I also feel like a lot of people from other people, but sometimes even From themselves, and going really connected with yourself first.

Unknown: 10:25

Yeah, yeah, that's a great way to put it. So, so looking for. In my country, I know that's certainly happening super clear on your core values. Now, what does that mean? If you What do you rely on? What do you come back to? And sometimes you look to find three core values where you think that's there's some great results seen through something called the key linked into those key principles for you. And before when you're going to that meeting, you're going to need to important to think how do I want this other person to feel by the you do that, it takes you away from self consciousness towards target, it starts to allow everything else to align really great if you can aim towards the idea that by the end of that If you do that, they will have loved spending time with you. you're focused fully on the connection with the other

Murielle Machiels: 14:12

Yeah, that's, that's really interesting. I the biggest transformation we can get is to our own bodies. Once, or the doubts we might have, or the fears, they're all then?

Unknown: 15:24

Yes, sure. So we talk about this in terms of helping could short circuit, that system of beliefs, actions results by supposed is designed to work, how you're born to breathe, how act. And very early on, they said, We're not going to teach gonna teach you how to stand and how to walk and I thought I can you then feel free to be able to express yourself to tell a story And how might that make them feel? And how does it make other them just to settle and we say, okay, just pause and notice how they crossed over? What have you done in those few seconds since up came up to give you a little push, gave you gave you a nudge, simple exercises. One of them that's so simple to do is we get a proper strong jump in the air and land. And then we say, Okay, to protect yourself from injury through your bones, your joints, really grounded emotionally. And if I gave someone a nudge in you can do, which are hard to describe on a podcast, but when

Murielle Machiels: 19:35

Yeah, no, I completely agree and but but in control of things wanting to control everything. And so my anymore. And so I had to learn to do that again, and I did fell And it's only when I managed to relax my body again, that I we have.

Unknown: 21:15

Yeah, and there's something important in there, to well, you know, spending 99% of the time, tensing them, and 5% certain parts of your body. I found this out because I had a the tension is. And so you can consciously relax it, because immediately jump out. But if you put them into cold water and gradually increases to the point where you don't even realize your point of being in action mode, sometimes we need to going to see. And that's going to get a certain reaction. So physicality changes and the muscle tension that you may have up. Yeah,

Murielle Machiels: 23:45

no, that's that's completely true. And, and not that anymore. That's not a good leader anymore. A good

Unknown: 24:25

I mean, I think we've gone from a place where, you biggest boardroom table you've ever seen. And I think something sense? And so I think we're seeing a lot of people relaxed questions, we're, we're really starving for true human a sense of purpose or a sense of connection with something that

Murielle Machiels: 25:40

Yeah, yeah. And I also liked the idea of better now with the news we hear. But out of this tension

Unknown: 26:17

Yeah, I think there's a there's a, an opportunity for they work, there's been that sense of as the tension builds And so yeah, that that tension really can give us a great the other side. And so yeah, I've certainly seen that with

Murielle Machiels: 27:22

Yeah, and, and then I wanted to bounce a great. That's a great illustration of that high

Unknown: 27:51

Yeah, so So I believe the story you're mentioning occasionally, people had said, Hey, can you do this online? Can that's happening around this COVID thing. And then by March and people looking at me saying, okay, just let us know, when are big government loans, otherwise, we're never going to survive. something for our clients right now that's going to be of virtual, we recorded over 100 online training videos for our with our clients in that way and retrain our team to do things in Point happened, and to a place where initially we were in panic come back severely jet lagged, and then try and sort of spend it's been a transformation that I feel so. So delighted by. And couple of companies in similar industry, who just they weren't the story in a mindset around it that was enabling us to

Murielle Machiels: 31:28

Yeah, that's, that's wonderful. think okay, no problem. This is what we're going to do. So I'm

Unknown: 32:05

Yeah, so it's a good question. So for me, I I really stand for as a human being? How

Murielle Machiels: 32:26

were you feeling first?

Unknown: 32:28

Oh, how was that? How was I feeling? I think, thought was, I need to let the team know that this will be will look after everybody in the time being and that the company to get myself to a state of getting rid of any of the stress I can see the future, the see see it the way I want it to this. And so I would then come out of that and plan my day, I that out and taking it one step at a time. And then dealing with piece too. And make sure that the company was okay that mind. So it had to start from me, and then go out to the

Murielle Machiels: 34:48

Yeah. Great, nice. And when you say you had want to give up or it's not going to work.

Unknown: 35:13

Yeah, I think I think the hardest moments were when we deal with that situation and all of the difficult situations that And so it was very much outward focused on what is it that I, coming back to and I wasn't perfect about it during the look back, and there's certain things that, you know, I would side of it. But you know, it's true to say, and it's said a you stay with it, if you stay in the pain, sometimes these

Murielle Machiels: 37:07

Yeah, no, True. True. And I think the and connections with others and those impacts also.

Unknown: 37:31

Yes, I believe. Yeah, yeah, absolutely.

Murielle Machiels: 37:36

Okay, so that was really interesting. And you

Unknown: 37:46

Well, if people want to find us, then if they go to UK, LinkedIn. So I'm Richard Newman from Body Talk on LinkedIn. And

Murielle Machiels: 38:15

Great. Well, thank you very much. It was

Unknown: 38:20

Thank you. It's been great talking to

Murielle Machiels: 38:25

ya you finished another episode of great week you rebel leader with a hearts