1 00:00:00,989 --> 00:00:02,879 Bryan: It's the start of a new year and you know what that 2 00:00:02,879 --> 00:00:03,319 means. 3 00:00:03,450 --> 00:00:05,259 New Year's resolutions. 4 00:00:05,815 --> 00:00:08,605 It's that time when we promise to turn into superheroes 5 00:00:08,615 --> 00:00:09,154 overnight. 6 00:00:09,605 --> 00:00:12,984 By February, our gym cards are just fancy bookmarks, and our 7 00:00:12,984 --> 00:00:16,454 health eating plans, well, less to say the chocolate didn't eat 8 00:00:16,454 --> 00:00:16,975 itself. 9 00:00:17,024 --> 00:00:19,774 But let's face it, if resolutions were that effective, 10 00:00:20,144 --> 00:00:23,175 I'd be a piano playing, novel writing, astronaut, and a 11 00:00:23,175 --> 00:00:23,885 fitness guru. 12 00:00:23,925 --> 00:00:27,344 Instead, I'm still figuring out which is the E chord on the 13 00:00:27,405 --> 00:00:27,815 piano. 14 00:00:28,559 --> 00:00:30,179 This year, let's do something a little bit different. 15 00:00:30,289 --> 00:00:33,149 Let's not set all these big, grand resolutions. 16 00:00:33,149 --> 00:00:36,640 Instead, let's focus on being our best selves, our best 17 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:39,100 husbands, best wives, and with all of our quirks. 18 00:00:39,490 --> 00:00:42,960 After all, being married is about loving and growing old 19 00:00:42,960 --> 00:00:46,039 together, not about who can avoid the cookie jar the 20 00:00:46,039 --> 00:00:46,700 longest. 21 00:01:09,859 --> 00:01:12,250 Natalie: Welcome to another episode of Amplified Marriage. 22 00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:12,920 I'm Natalie. 23 00:01:13,019 --> 00:01:13,650 And I'm Bryan. 24 00:01:13,670 --> 00:01:15,689 Wherever you are, whatever you're doing, as you heard us 25 00:01:15,719 --> 00:01:16,099 say. 26 00:01:16,510 --> 00:01:17,390 countless times. 27 00:01:17,420 --> 00:01:20,200 Grab a tea, grab a coffee, a cookie and a blanket. 28 00:01:20,609 --> 00:01:22,230 Get ready for our chat. 29 00:01:22,349 --> 00:01:26,090 And 1st of January, 2024. 30 00:01:26,250 --> 00:01:27,040 Bryan: Boom. 31 00:01:27,079 --> 00:01:29,129 Are we ready for this new year? 32 00:01:29,159 --> 00:01:30,609 Yes, we are, man. 33 00:01:31,715 --> 00:01:35,034 I am excited to talk about this today, but here's the thing is 34 00:01:35,045 --> 00:01:40,114 that Natalie and I are not huge, uh, resolution people, even 35 00:01:40,114 --> 00:01:43,194 though the opening was all about grand resolutions, we're not 36 00:01:43,204 --> 00:01:45,204 resolution people were actually about setting goals. 37 00:01:45,204 --> 00:01:47,144 And I know people are like, well, what's the difference 38 00:01:47,555 --> 00:01:52,105 there actually is a difference between a resolution in my mind 39 00:01:52,295 --> 00:01:56,075 is oftentimes just a, um, a big idea. 40 00:01:56,775 --> 00:01:57,015 Right. 41 00:01:57,015 --> 00:01:58,055 It's just a big idea. 42 00:01:58,665 --> 00:02:03,534 And so when I look at goals this year, this is how Natalie and I 43 00:02:03,534 --> 00:02:05,314 have broken down this 2024. 44 00:02:05,314 --> 00:02:07,194 And it's something that we, every year we improve upon a 45 00:02:07,194 --> 00:02:09,504 little bit, but it's something that I even do with our, our 46 00:02:09,504 --> 00:02:11,104 team that I lead at, at the church. 47 00:02:12,034 --> 00:02:13,155 Um, it's called smart goals. 48 00:02:13,155 --> 00:02:16,155 And the very first thing about the smart goals is that it, the 49 00:02:16,205 --> 00:02:18,354 S stands for specific. 50 00:02:18,594 --> 00:02:18,895 Right. 51 00:02:18,895 --> 00:02:20,965 And when we're going into our goals, Natalie and I have 52 00:02:20,965 --> 00:02:23,384 specific, say weight loss goals. 53 00:02:23,389 --> 00:02:23,400 Mm-Hmm. 54 00:02:24,104 --> 00:02:25,754 specific finance goals. 55 00:02:25,754 --> 00:02:30,705 Speci specific, specific goals for the children, specific goals 56 00:02:30,705 --> 00:02:31,455 for each other. 57 00:02:31,875 --> 00:02:34,215 Um, all but they're all have to be specific. 58 00:02:34,215 --> 00:02:36,224 And that's the difference I think between a goal and a 59 00:02:36,229 --> 00:02:36,764 resolution. 60 00:02:36,764 --> 00:02:38,835 A resolution is just a, a big idea, right? 61 00:02:38,835 --> 00:02:41,564 I want to lose weight by June 20th. 62 00:02:41,564 --> 00:02:41,925 Exactly. 63 00:02:41,925 --> 00:02:43,719 But there's no strategy on how, but there's no strategy to do 64 00:02:43,719 --> 00:02:44,504 that, how to do that. 65 00:02:44,504 --> 00:02:45,284 And there's no. 66 00:02:45,485 --> 00:02:46,444 There's no way you can do it. 67 00:02:46,444 --> 00:02:48,014 So we just want to, we want to talk to you today. 68 00:02:48,014 --> 00:02:50,405 Just a little bit of the things that we've learned that we've 69 00:02:50,405 --> 00:02:53,685 done over the last 25 years of being together 70 00:02:53,794 --> 00:02:56,935 Natalie: and what we've really implemented in the last nine ish 71 00:02:56,955 --> 00:02:57,324 Bryan: years. 72 00:02:57,474 --> 00:03:01,115 And, and we'll be honest right from the beginning, the truth 73 00:03:01,115 --> 00:03:05,085 about goals is that even what I said in the opening, if goals 74 00:03:05,085 --> 00:03:09,955 were easy and it was easy to achieve a resolution, but if our 75 00:03:09,955 --> 00:03:11,115 goals were easy to do. 76 00:03:11,530 --> 00:03:13,729 Um, everyone will be doing them exactly. 77 00:03:13,740 --> 00:03:16,780 And so there's a reason that you have to have a system. 78 00:03:16,780 --> 00:03:20,210 The things you put in place, um, like parameter, uh, parameters 79 00:03:20,250 --> 00:03:22,110 and boundaries for each goal. 80 00:03:22,509 --> 00:03:25,039 And one of the things that I haven't written down further 81 00:03:25,039 --> 00:03:26,199 down, but I'm actually going to read it right now. 82 00:03:26,199 --> 00:03:29,030 This is what Habakkuk, uh, chapter two versus two and three 83 00:03:29,030 --> 00:03:30,000 says, is right, right. 84 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:30,439 The vision. 85 00:03:31,139 --> 00:03:34,960 Make it plain on tablets so he may run who reads it. 86 00:03:35,590 --> 00:03:38,159 All this means is that when you have a vision and a goal, 87 00:03:38,159 --> 00:03:40,840 Natalie and I have started putting our goals down regularly 88 00:03:40,879 --> 00:03:41,629 onto paper. 89 00:03:41,629 --> 00:03:42,759 So we have them written out. 90 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:44,740 Sometimes we forget where we put the paper. 91 00:03:44,740 --> 00:03:47,789 So now we do digitally because we're in 2024. 92 00:03:47,810 --> 00:03:49,960 Ooh, we're in 2024. 93 00:03:50,664 --> 00:03:50,685 Yeah. 94 00:03:50,775 --> 00:03:51,085 Right. 95 00:03:51,094 --> 00:03:54,784 But we want to have specific things that we want to do with 96 00:03:54,784 --> 00:03:55,705 our family this year. 97 00:03:55,705 --> 00:03:58,314 What we want to accomplish personally and all has to be 98 00:03:58,314 --> 00:04:00,324 specific and then written down on the system. 99 00:04:00,365 --> 00:04:00,745 Natalie: That's right. 100 00:04:00,745 --> 00:04:04,615 Because I don't know about you, but I forget, well, yeah, I 101 00:04:04,615 --> 00:04:07,384 forget things that I have written and writing them on 102 00:04:07,384 --> 00:04:08,675 paper gives you a reference point. 103 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:12,469 Um, for those times when you're like, I don't want to do this, I 104 00:04:12,469 --> 00:04:13,500 don't want to do this. 105 00:04:13,550 --> 00:04:15,379 And then you can reflect back on it. 106 00:04:15,389 --> 00:04:16,269 Or that's the hope. 107 00:04:16,269 --> 00:04:19,269 Anyways, we're not always perfect at reflecting back until 108 00:04:19,269 --> 00:04:22,829 the end of the year, but I'm really trying to get into the 109 00:04:22,829 --> 00:04:26,350 habit of doing that self reflection, that goal 110 00:04:26,379 --> 00:04:31,189 reflection, even throughout the year of like, where are, how on 111 00:04:31,189 --> 00:04:32,110 track are we? 112 00:04:32,324 --> 00:04:34,694 And not just waiting till the end of the year to reflect on 113 00:04:34,694 --> 00:04:36,855 whether or not we were or weren't on track. 114 00:04:37,254 --> 00:04:40,894 Bryan: Well, and, and I would say to like, um, I say this to 115 00:04:40,894 --> 00:04:43,064 people when they first start going to the gym, because I, at 116 00:04:43,064 --> 00:04:45,004 this point I built a fairly good discipline. 117 00:04:45,004 --> 00:04:49,035 I go frequently on a, on a schedule that we've determined. 118 00:04:50,295 --> 00:04:54,165 And I say this to new people, as soon as they start, I said, um, 119 00:04:54,925 --> 00:04:57,365 it's, it's not about the frequency. 120 00:04:57,375 --> 00:04:58,545 It's about the consistency. 121 00:04:58,555 --> 00:04:58,745 Yeah. 122 00:04:58,964 --> 00:05:02,435 So I will tell you straight up that I would say 95 percent of 123 00:05:02,435 --> 00:05:05,785 the time that I go to the gym and I do a 35, 45 minute 124 00:05:05,785 --> 00:05:06,295 workout. 125 00:05:07,035 --> 00:05:07,964 I honestly. 126 00:05:08,430 --> 00:05:13,220 Most of the time I'm not motivated and I don't really 127 00:05:13,220 --> 00:05:14,379 feel like going to the gym. 128 00:05:14,389 --> 00:05:16,959 Like after Christmas, we're going, we're going, we're going 129 00:05:16,959 --> 00:05:17,600 after this podcast. 130 00:05:17,600 --> 00:05:19,430 As soon as we finished recording this, we're heading over to the 131 00:05:19,430 --> 00:05:19,769 gym. 132 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:24,110 I don't really want to go now, but the thing is, is that when 133 00:05:24,110 --> 00:05:26,519 you begin putting things into a system. 134 00:05:26,995 --> 00:05:28,435 And so this is specific. 135 00:05:28,444 --> 00:05:30,074 You start writing out what you want to do. 136 00:05:30,324 --> 00:05:32,634 You turn that motivation into a discipline. 137 00:05:32,634 --> 00:05:35,925 So what happens is, is that the discipline becomes part of what 138 00:05:35,925 --> 00:05:36,415 you do. 139 00:05:36,435 --> 00:05:36,845 That's right. 140 00:05:36,954 --> 00:05:39,694 Part of what you do every day, part of your morning or part of 141 00:05:39,694 --> 00:05:42,134 your afternoon, wherever you choose to add the discipline 142 00:05:42,435 --> 00:05:43,144 that that's about. 143 00:05:43,144 --> 00:05:46,355 I'm using the gym as well, working out as an example 144 00:05:46,355 --> 00:05:48,154 because I've had to fight with this one for a long time. 145 00:05:48,214 --> 00:05:48,514 Right. 146 00:05:48,675 --> 00:05:50,324 But it becomes easier. 147 00:05:50,384 --> 00:05:52,149 It becomes, it becomes easy. 148 00:05:52,610 --> 00:05:54,230 Easier to go and do it. 149 00:05:54,240 --> 00:05:54,920 That's what I mean. 150 00:05:55,449 --> 00:05:58,160 Because you're disciplined, but the motivation, this is the 151 00:05:58,160 --> 00:05:58,439 thing. 152 00:05:58,459 --> 00:06:00,829 Are we always going to be motivated for anything? 153 00:06:00,850 --> 00:06:01,170 No. 154 00:06:01,490 --> 00:06:01,889 Right. 155 00:06:02,079 --> 00:06:06,259 If you have kids in your house from zero to 25 years old and 156 00:06:06,259 --> 00:06:08,610 they're living with you, you're not motivated every night to 157 00:06:08,610 --> 00:06:08,980 make dinner. 158 00:06:09,459 --> 00:06:09,839 Nope. 159 00:06:10,009 --> 00:06:10,300 Right. 160 00:06:10,319 --> 00:06:12,689 And there's, and you're not motivated every day to do 161 00:06:12,689 --> 00:06:14,430 laundry or every day that you have to do. 162 00:06:14,639 --> 00:06:18,649 So the motivation, if you base your whole future, if you base 163 00:06:18,660 --> 00:06:22,079 2024 off the motivation to do it, your motivation is going to 164 00:06:22,079 --> 00:06:22,500 fail. 165 00:06:22,540 --> 00:06:23,019 That's right. 166 00:06:23,579 --> 00:06:27,050 Natalie: But I think, I think creating habits and making them 167 00:06:28,029 --> 00:06:30,519 like, you know, in, in principles and things like that, 168 00:06:30,519 --> 00:06:32,040 we're all like baby steps, baby steps. 169 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:38,240 If you have a giant goal, you have to have baby steps in order 170 00:06:38,240 --> 00:06:40,569 to get there because the moment that you. 171 00:06:41,990 --> 00:06:48,670 Miss fire or you, um, try to jump ahead and you fall. 172 00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:52,350 Figuratively speaking, you're going to get discouraged. 173 00:06:52,949 --> 00:06:58,399 And so yes, you know, um, being on a routine, I think that's the 174 00:06:58,399 --> 00:07:03,720 key is setting a routine that is manageable in small increments. 175 00:07:03,730 --> 00:07:07,209 And then as you, as you can fulfill the routine or fulfill 176 00:07:07,209 --> 00:07:10,689 the habit, then you can increase the frequency and you can 177 00:07:10,709 --> 00:07:14,620 increase all of that once it becomes ingrained, so to speak. 178 00:07:14,620 --> 00:07:17,449 So for us, like you're, even though. 179 00:07:17,845 --> 00:07:19,524 I hate going to the gym. 180 00:07:20,154 --> 00:07:22,625 It does not bring me joy whatsoever. 181 00:07:22,725 --> 00:07:26,725 I always feel the joy of having gone after the fact. 182 00:07:27,365 --> 00:07:31,725 So if I can remember that after this, I will be so thankful that 183 00:07:31,725 --> 00:07:32,235 I went. 184 00:07:32,365 --> 00:07:36,324 And then as I start to see like the pounds drop off or the 185 00:07:36,375 --> 00:07:39,495 ounces drop off or I start to feel just better where I'm not 186 00:07:39,495 --> 00:07:39,634 so. 187 00:07:41,019 --> 00:07:41,519 tired. 188 00:07:41,550 --> 00:07:46,180 I find myself making better eating choices and, and all like 189 00:07:46,180 --> 00:07:49,930 it's a, it's a domino effect in either direction. 190 00:07:50,029 --> 00:07:50,139 You 191 00:07:50,139 --> 00:07:53,379 Bryan: know, there's a, a writer that I have read his book now 192 00:07:53,379 --> 00:07:55,699 twice called atomic habits by James clear. 193 00:07:55,699 --> 00:07:58,860 And he says something in the book that has stuck with me that 194 00:07:58,860 --> 00:08:01,129 I use with our team that I probably have said on this 195 00:08:01,139 --> 00:08:02,819 podcast before he said, you don't. 196 00:08:03,444 --> 00:08:05,314 Uh, rise to the level of your goals. 197 00:08:05,314 --> 00:08:08,545 You fall to the level of your systems, right? 198 00:08:08,564 --> 00:08:14,084 And so much of what we do is a series of small steps, small 199 00:08:14,084 --> 00:08:16,995 decisions, small things that take us to the lead. 200 00:08:16,995 --> 00:08:20,745 Like when you're, you're doing like Bible study or you're doing 201 00:08:20,745 --> 00:08:23,285 school study, you're setting yourself with knowledge that 202 00:08:23,285 --> 00:08:25,884 will benefit you five years after school is finished. 203 00:08:25,884 --> 00:08:26,824 When you finally found that job. 204 00:08:27,139 --> 00:08:28,800 And actually implement the things that you've learned, 205 00:08:29,279 --> 00:08:29,610 right? 206 00:08:29,620 --> 00:08:32,419 The physical aspect of your job or eating differently and 207 00:08:32,419 --> 00:08:34,210 getting the sugar out of your system if that's what you're 208 00:08:34,210 --> 00:08:38,100 doing or stopping caffeine or quitting smoking or what any one 209 00:08:38,100 --> 00:08:40,970 of these things, all of them take steps and things with a 210 00:08:40,970 --> 00:08:43,710 goal in mind, but also with a system and how we're going to 211 00:08:43,710 --> 00:08:43,909 get there. 212 00:08:43,909 --> 00:08:44,409 I remember. 213 00:08:44,794 --> 00:08:49,205 Uh, listening to a podcast, um, I can't remember the name of the 214 00:08:49,205 --> 00:08:51,784 podcast, but he, he, he said in there, he said, there's a 215 00:08:51,794 --> 00:08:55,664 gentleman that he was coaching, um, new year hit. 216 00:08:55,705 --> 00:08:57,065 And he's like, I need to lose some weight. 217 00:08:57,065 --> 00:08:58,355 I'm 150 pounds overweight. 218 00:08:58,355 --> 00:08:58,955 He was a big guy. 219 00:09:00,014 --> 00:09:04,485 And the guy said, I didn't know how I was going to do this, but 220 00:09:04,485 --> 00:09:07,625 what he started doing every day is that he got in his car and he 221 00:09:07,625 --> 00:09:10,794 drove to the gym and he said, and he said, remember I told you 222 00:09:10,794 --> 00:09:13,544 this, he sat outside for five minutes and then he went home 223 00:09:14,394 --> 00:09:17,184 and he did that day after day for like two weeks. 224 00:09:17,595 --> 00:09:20,815 And then he started going to the gym, um, the, the next week a 225 00:09:20,815 --> 00:09:21,365 little bit longer. 226 00:09:21,365 --> 00:09:22,184 So it was 10 minutes. 227 00:09:22,504 --> 00:09:23,845 He did that for a couple more weeks. 228 00:09:23,904 --> 00:09:27,445 And then after that for four weeks later, he started going 229 00:09:27,455 --> 00:09:29,764 into the gym, stepping into the front door, sitting on the 230 00:09:29,774 --> 00:09:31,184 bench, talking with the person at the front. 231 00:09:31,465 --> 00:09:33,115 And then he would go in his car and he would drive home. 232 00:09:33,414 --> 00:09:36,065 And I think I can't remember the exact length of time, but it 233 00:09:36,065 --> 00:09:36,365 took like. 234 00:09:36,735 --> 00:09:39,465 Six weeks or eight weeks before he stepped and stayed into the 235 00:09:39,465 --> 00:09:41,674 gym and then he got onto the treadmill, right? 236 00:09:41,735 --> 00:09:44,585 And then it was like six or eight months later He had lost 237 00:09:44,585 --> 00:09:49,174 like 20 pounds or 15 pounds of weight and he was going towards 238 00:09:49,174 --> 00:09:51,884 his goals because he did everything in small incremental 239 00:09:51,884 --> 00:09:55,384 steps To get to where you want to go celebrating the wins along 240 00:09:55,384 --> 00:09:58,434 the way celebrating the highs and then taking the lows What 241 00:09:58,434 --> 00:09:59,534 can you learn from it and moving on? 242 00:09:59,980 --> 00:10:02,679 Natalie: So I think that's a great segue into here are some 243 00:10:02,679 --> 00:10:05,950 of the things that we implement and we have done and we just did 244 00:10:05,950 --> 00:10:11,259 today actually, uh, which hopefully will be sort of like. 245 00:10:11,315 --> 00:10:15,934 Uh, small baby steps that if you are starting from square one or 246 00:10:15,934 --> 00:10:18,205 if, if what you've currently been doing isn't working, 247 00:10:18,205 --> 00:10:21,695 perhaps this method, uh, might be useful. 248 00:10:22,394 --> 00:10:27,075 Bryan: So my mom about, Oh, nine years ago, nine years ago, 249 00:10:27,105 --> 00:10:31,105 started doing something with me and her, or sorry, me and 250 00:10:31,105 --> 00:10:32,424 Natalie, my brother. 251 00:10:32,605 --> 00:10:36,085 And sister in law, or wow, I'm screwing this up, my brother in 252 00:10:36,085 --> 00:10:40,184 law and my sister, uh, Katie and Jeremy and Natalie and I, and my 253 00:10:40,184 --> 00:10:43,625 mom would sit down and we would write down, um, the highs and 254 00:10:43,625 --> 00:10:46,815 lows of the year that we were in and then the goals for the next 255 00:10:46,815 --> 00:10:47,085 year. 256 00:10:47,284 --> 00:10:50,465 And so for the last nine years, the day after we've rarely 257 00:10:50,465 --> 00:10:54,225 missed that the day after new year, January 1st, January 1st, 258 00:10:54,245 --> 00:10:57,284 we get together and we discuss the highs and lows of the last 259 00:10:57,284 --> 00:10:57,625 year. 260 00:10:58,034 --> 00:10:59,605 Um, and then we. 261 00:10:59,825 --> 00:11:01,894 We talked to each other about the goals that we have set for 262 00:11:01,894 --> 00:11:03,965 this, this next year coming up. 263 00:11:03,995 --> 00:11:04,205 Natalie: Yeah. 264 00:11:04,445 --> 00:11:08,585 And we share, we share with each other because there have been 265 00:11:08,585 --> 00:11:11,715 years that have been really good and we've, we've shared in the 266 00:11:11,715 --> 00:11:12,745 joy of that year. 267 00:11:12,764 --> 00:11:16,014 And there have been other years that have been absolute crap. 268 00:11:16,595 --> 00:11:21,340 And Um, feeling incredibly low and discouraged and just 269 00:11:23,250 --> 00:11:27,669 vocalizing the discontent feeling and whatnot. 270 00:11:27,700 --> 00:11:32,710 They have been such a, um, a voice of encouragement or, or 271 00:11:32,710 --> 00:11:34,539 another perspective to speak into. 272 00:11:34,539 --> 00:11:37,440 It has been so valuable to me. 273 00:11:37,809 --> 00:11:39,960 Bryan: Well, and, and I think even today, even with some of 274 00:11:39,960 --> 00:11:42,789 the notes that we have for today is that where, where, where are 275 00:11:42,789 --> 00:11:44,000 your main focuses? 276 00:11:44,289 --> 00:11:47,450 And I think when we, it's easy, like any other goal. 277 00:11:47,950 --> 00:11:51,139 Um, that when you are in the middle of life to get wrapped up 278 00:11:51,139 --> 00:11:53,110 into and forget what the main focus is. 279 00:11:53,110 --> 00:11:56,600 And I think even today kind of reset us and it showed us where 280 00:11:56,639 --> 00:11:58,279 our main focuses was for last year. 281 00:11:58,279 --> 00:11:59,519 And we were happy with most of them. 282 00:12:00,059 --> 00:12:01,909 Um, but there's a, some that we're going to do is do a 283 00:12:01,919 --> 00:12:04,850 realignment and change their perspective and we're going to 284 00:12:04,850 --> 00:12:08,379 shift where we want to go, um, with the family, with the kids. 285 00:12:08,379 --> 00:12:09,279 Where's our next trip? 286 00:12:09,289 --> 00:12:10,899 Where's the next goal spiritually? 287 00:12:10,899 --> 00:12:11,690 Where do we want the kids? 288 00:12:11,690 --> 00:12:12,269 That kind of thing. 289 00:12:12,389 --> 00:12:12,929 You know what I mean? 290 00:12:12,940 --> 00:12:13,309 And like when you're 291 00:12:13,309 --> 00:12:14,929 Natalie: talking about the highs of the year. 292 00:12:14,940 --> 00:12:14,960 Yeah. 293 00:12:15,365 --> 00:12:17,355 People might be like, what are you even talking about? 294 00:12:17,394 --> 00:12:21,335 But like, what are the things that were awesome? 295 00:12:21,345 --> 00:12:26,745 What, what of your children's accomplishments, um, were you 296 00:12:26,764 --> 00:12:27,455 celebrating? 297 00:12:27,465 --> 00:12:28,345 That's a high. 298 00:12:28,804 --> 00:12:31,674 Um, some of the goals that you had set for the previous year, 299 00:12:31,674 --> 00:12:34,195 looking back, okay, yes, I was able to do that. 300 00:12:34,205 --> 00:12:36,804 Like I balanced my, my budget. 301 00:12:36,845 --> 00:12:38,125 Like that was huge. 302 00:12:38,215 --> 00:12:39,445 That's a win, right? 303 00:12:39,475 --> 00:12:40,075 That's a high. 304 00:12:40,075 --> 00:12:44,034 What are, what are your things that you set out for yourself? 305 00:12:44,754 --> 00:12:50,184 Um, in self reflecting that were incredible, right? 306 00:12:50,215 --> 00:12:53,475 Like what in your marriage, Hey, I want to be a better 307 00:12:53,475 --> 00:12:54,184 communicator. 308 00:12:54,610 --> 00:12:54,750 Bryan: Yeah. 309 00:12:54,750 --> 00:12:57,629 Well, like it's one of the goals that we had last year was we 310 00:12:57,639 --> 00:12:58,649 wanted to date more. 311 00:12:59,149 --> 00:12:59,179 Yes. 312 00:12:59,360 --> 00:13:01,460 One of the goals, I think we both put it on separately and 313 00:13:01,460 --> 00:13:04,000 then we discussed it after like we want to, we want to have more 314 00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:04,340 dates. 315 00:13:04,710 --> 00:13:07,669 And so we have learned that the kids are at this age where they 316 00:13:07,669 --> 00:13:10,330 can either stay at home or when they're out doing things, Nat 317 00:13:10,330 --> 00:13:13,909 and I will just go literally for an hour, go have an ice cream 318 00:13:13,909 --> 00:13:16,340 from McDonald's or we'll go for a coffee and we'll sit in a 319 00:13:16,370 --> 00:13:19,070 Starbucks or Tim Hortons and we'll just chat for an hour, 320 00:13:19,070 --> 00:13:20,909 hour and a half and then, and then go home. 321 00:13:21,220 --> 00:13:22,659 But to have more of those dates. 322 00:13:23,245 --> 00:13:24,225 It actually makes a difference. 323 00:13:24,235 --> 00:13:26,365 And so we looked at that this year and we're like, Oh man, we 324 00:13:26,365 --> 00:13:27,085 actually did that. 325 00:13:27,095 --> 00:13:30,274 That was something we fought for, for the whole year and it 326 00:13:30,274 --> 00:13:31,235 was a, it was a win. 327 00:13:31,325 --> 00:13:31,544 And 328 00:13:31,544 --> 00:13:33,394 Natalie: now it's a goal for next year. 329 00:13:34,184 --> 00:13:38,304 And it's really exciting that we piggyback off of what, what 330 00:13:38,315 --> 00:13:43,115 worked this year and we then can, um, Together, work towards 331 00:13:43,115 --> 00:13:46,325 making that more often, more 332 00:13:46,335 --> 00:13:49,315 Bryan: frequent and more part of our, of our core values as a 333 00:13:49,315 --> 00:13:51,644 husband and wife that we want to like, here's the thing, our kids 334 00:13:51,644 --> 00:13:53,855 are getting to the age now, I won't say too much because 335 00:13:53,855 --> 00:13:56,414 Natalie might start crying, which has happened in the last 336 00:13:56,414 --> 00:13:58,394 few weeks, but our kids are getting at the age where within 337 00:13:58,394 --> 00:14:02,815 the next 10, eight years, seven to six to eight years, probably 338 00:14:02,845 --> 00:14:04,215 all of the kids will be out of the house. 339 00:14:05,144 --> 00:14:05,945 Our goal. 340 00:14:06,184 --> 00:14:09,475 And all of this is so that when the kids are gone, that I still 341 00:14:09,475 --> 00:14:10,945 love her and she still loves me. 342 00:14:11,024 --> 00:14:11,375 Exactly. 343 00:14:11,394 --> 00:14:14,845 She still knows me and I still know her so many times. 344 00:14:15,195 --> 00:14:17,205 Maybe this is you if you're listening, whatever country 345 00:14:17,205 --> 00:14:18,164 you're listening from. 346 00:14:18,565 --> 00:14:21,485 Maybe this is you, but you are so focused on your kids that you 347 00:14:21,485 --> 00:14:23,125 don't remember who your spouse was. 348 00:14:23,205 --> 00:14:23,524 Yeah. 349 00:14:23,625 --> 00:14:25,294 And that is, is actually sad. 350 00:14:25,914 --> 00:14:28,284 It's sad because you get to the age where all of a sudden. 351 00:14:28,695 --> 00:14:31,144 Now that the kids are out of the house, you don't know each other 352 00:14:31,164 --> 00:14:34,184 and then you actually start fighting and then divorces 353 00:14:34,195 --> 00:14:36,875 happen because now your whole focus is on your kids. 354 00:14:36,875 --> 00:14:40,144 Can I tell you a simple, simple truth that our culture would 355 00:14:40,154 --> 00:14:43,174 have you deny is that your kids are not your whole world. 356 00:14:44,934 --> 00:14:45,745 Mic drop. 357 00:14:46,054 --> 00:14:47,174 I wish I would've had the. 358 00:14:47,269 --> 00:14:47,500 thing though. 359 00:14:48,350 --> 00:14:48,960 Natalie: Exactly. 360 00:14:48,970 --> 00:14:52,360 But Hey, we set that standard, um, because you know what? 361 00:14:52,360 --> 00:14:52,919 Let's face it. 362 00:14:52,929 --> 00:14:56,470 My husband was here before my children were, my husband needs 363 00:14:56,470 --> 00:14:57,659 to remain a priority in my 364 00:14:57,659 --> 00:14:57,970 Bryan: life. 365 00:14:57,970 --> 00:15:00,600 And so in all of these things that we're saying on the highs 366 00:15:00,659 --> 00:15:02,960 and talking about the, the thing about, we didn't talk about the 367 00:15:02,960 --> 00:15:06,909 lows was the lows actually help you determine it. 368 00:15:06,929 --> 00:15:10,549 Was it, and here's the thing I preached yesterday at church or 369 00:15:10,580 --> 00:15:11,179 this last Sunday. 370 00:15:11,865 --> 00:15:14,575 And I said, there's two things that you, you see in scripture 371 00:15:14,575 --> 00:15:18,245 when the Bible talks in Matthew about being, uh, those of you 372 00:15:18,254 --> 00:15:22,605 who are burdened and heavy laden are, there's what happens is 373 00:15:22,605 --> 00:15:24,735 that there's one you put on yourself. 374 00:15:24,845 --> 00:15:27,205 Like these are burdens that you put on yourself and then the 375 00:15:27,215 --> 00:15:29,695 heavy laden is people that things that other people put on 376 00:15:29,695 --> 00:15:29,884 you. 377 00:15:30,544 --> 00:15:31,924 And so in our relationship. 378 00:15:32,269 --> 00:15:34,440 What is the pressure that you're putting on yourself? 379 00:15:34,610 --> 00:15:37,629 And I would say that needs to go against is, um, is that a 380 00:15:37,629 --> 00:15:38,629 realistic pressure? 381 00:15:38,990 --> 00:15:40,490 Is that an abnormal pressure? 382 00:15:40,509 --> 00:15:41,950 Is it something you can even reach? 383 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:43,370 Is it a standard that you can meet? 384 00:15:43,759 --> 00:15:46,629 And then you look at your lows through the lens of, Hey, I can 385 00:15:46,629 --> 00:15:47,230 accomplish this. 386 00:15:47,240 --> 00:15:50,240 This year was tough and we came close, but it was a mess. 387 00:15:50,549 --> 00:15:52,690 But how can we make that better going into the next year? 388 00:15:52,750 --> 00:15:53,429 Natalie: Exactly. 389 00:15:53,490 --> 00:15:59,000 And like what, here's the thing of being able to do a spiritual 390 00:15:59,059 --> 00:16:04,330 audit and doing a spiritual reflection of like, where. 391 00:16:04,524 --> 00:16:08,534 Has my walk with the Lord, where has that been on a scale of one 392 00:16:08,534 --> 00:16:09,904 to 10 for me this past year? 393 00:16:10,695 --> 00:16:12,335 Um, is that a priority for me? 394 00:16:12,424 --> 00:16:13,174 Absolutely. 395 00:16:13,554 --> 00:16:14,764 What, what do I want? 396 00:16:15,315 --> 00:16:19,054 Um, for, for that element of it, do I want to be doing more 397 00:16:19,054 --> 00:16:19,524 devotions? 398 00:16:19,534 --> 00:16:23,034 Do I want to be more intentional during my prayer time? 399 00:16:23,034 --> 00:16:25,815 Do I want to be more intentional in reading the Bible? 400 00:16:25,985 --> 00:16:26,815 Whatever it might be. 401 00:16:27,254 --> 00:16:32,524 That also plays a thing because listen, for me, a huge gauge of 402 00:16:32,524 --> 00:16:33,625 my emotional. 403 00:16:34,350 --> 00:16:39,529 And, um, physical wellbeing, if I find myself super snappy and 404 00:16:39,529 --> 00:16:40,919 whatever, it's one of two things. 405 00:16:40,919 --> 00:16:44,279 One, I need to connect with my husband or you're hungry while, 406 00:16:44,299 --> 00:16:46,065 or maybe three things, but. 407 00:16:46,674 --> 00:16:50,445 I can definitely tell when I've made the Lord a priority and 408 00:16:50,445 --> 00:16:53,595 when I have sort of had other things come in the way. 409 00:16:53,595 --> 00:16:57,605 So doing a spiritual audit is also incredibly important as far 410 00:16:57,605 --> 00:17:02,705 as it being a low, but that's not a bad, like having a low 411 00:17:02,705 --> 00:17:04,394 doesn't mean that you're failing. 412 00:17:04,664 --> 00:17:05,115 No, 413 00:17:05,595 --> 00:17:05,924 Bryan: no. 414 00:17:05,924 --> 00:17:06,815 And I think sometimes like 415 00:17:06,845 --> 00:17:09,605 Natalie: things happen and death happens in family or the death 416 00:17:09,605 --> 00:17:15,005 of a friendship or, or, um, a tragedy of some sort or, you 417 00:17:15,005 --> 00:17:19,634 know, uh, An unmet expectation can be a low, right? 418 00:17:19,674 --> 00:17:23,394 So I think it's a really good indicator for me. 419 00:17:23,815 --> 00:17:26,755 Where is my emotional level at? 420 00:17:26,755 --> 00:17:28,644 Where's my mental health at? 421 00:17:28,664 --> 00:17:32,474 Where's my, um, where's my heart? 422 00:17:32,545 --> 00:17:33,125 Bryan: Right. 423 00:17:33,825 --> 00:17:34,505 Absolutely. 424 00:17:34,654 --> 00:17:39,319 And I think, um, Even our next application was a goal setting, 425 00:17:39,319 --> 00:17:40,059 not resolutions. 426 00:17:40,059 --> 00:17:42,279 And I think we kind of, we've covered that all the way through 427 00:17:42,940 --> 00:17:46,609 is that we are more about setting the goals with steps to 428 00:17:46,609 --> 00:17:47,640 reach those goals. 429 00:17:48,019 --> 00:17:52,059 So you, and have it written down and work on it as a couple and 430 00:17:52,059 --> 00:17:54,750 know each other and help each other be accountable to each 431 00:17:54,750 --> 00:17:58,319 other to make it, make it work, um, to, to build yourself up 432 00:17:58,319 --> 00:18:00,839 into a place where you're disciplined to be able to move, 433 00:18:00,920 --> 00:18:01,799 move forward. 434 00:18:01,954 --> 00:18:03,505 And whatever your goals are, exactly. 435 00:18:03,535 --> 00:18:05,515 Natalie: And yes, you have, we have goals as a couple, but when 436 00:18:05,515 --> 00:18:09,174 we do this whole new year's thing with our family, it is a 437 00:18:09,174 --> 00:18:11,325 very individual basis. 438 00:18:11,625 --> 00:18:11,924 Right. 439 00:18:11,944 --> 00:18:16,375 And so we're all writing in our own, we have books that we write 440 00:18:16,375 --> 00:18:16,605 in. 441 00:18:16,914 --> 00:18:18,325 So we're all doing that. 442 00:18:19,490 --> 00:18:19,509 Yeah. 443 00:18:19,519 --> 00:18:20,160 Individually. 444 00:18:20,180 --> 00:18:20,420 Yeah. 445 00:18:20,789 --> 00:18:21,069 Right. 446 00:18:21,099 --> 00:18:24,740 And what we choose to bring out into the open to discuss is up 447 00:18:24,740 --> 00:18:30,119 to us, but, um, I mean, for the most part we're pretty open, 448 00:18:30,119 --> 00:18:30,380 right? 449 00:18:30,430 --> 00:18:33,809 So the things that are on my goal list, you know, oftentimes 450 00:18:33,809 --> 00:18:35,319 line up with the things on your goal list. 451 00:18:35,470 --> 00:18:35,789 Yeah. 452 00:18:35,910 --> 00:18:36,170 Right. 453 00:18:36,170 --> 00:18:37,910 And we've not prediscussed this or whatever. 454 00:18:37,960 --> 00:18:38,180 I have 455 00:18:38,180 --> 00:18:40,630 Bryan: some other ones like riding motorcycle and that's not 456 00:18:40,630 --> 00:18:40,980 on yours. 457 00:18:40,980 --> 00:18:41,480 That's not on 458 00:18:41,480 --> 00:18:41,670 Natalie: mine. 459 00:18:41,980 --> 00:18:42,279 Right. 460 00:18:42,289 --> 00:18:45,400 But I think, you know, now that we have a goal, what is this, 461 00:18:45,440 --> 00:18:47,289 what are some of the strategies that we can do? 462 00:18:47,289 --> 00:18:50,799 And, and right there, I just said, writing it down in a book, 463 00:18:50,819 --> 00:18:54,710 in a journal, um, having something to reference when, and 464 00:18:54,710 --> 00:18:55,839 go back to it regularly. 465 00:18:55,849 --> 00:18:56,769 Exactly. 466 00:18:56,769 --> 00:19:01,259 Like our, my mom in law keeps all of our books, um, and she 467 00:19:01,259 --> 00:19:01,900 lives downstairs. 468 00:19:01,900 --> 00:19:04,420 So I mean, I could just go, mom, can I have my book? 469 00:19:04,450 --> 00:19:05,200 I really need. 470 00:19:05,529 --> 00:19:06,250 A reset. 471 00:19:06,869 --> 00:19:07,200 Can we? 472 00:19:07,210 --> 00:19:07,440 Yeah. 473 00:19:07,539 --> 00:19:07,930 Right. 474 00:19:07,960 --> 00:19:09,930 And any one of us could, right? 475 00:19:09,930 --> 00:19:10,559 Just mum holds on. 476 00:19:10,569 --> 00:19:10,700 We 477 00:19:10,700 --> 00:19:11,470 Bryan: have it written down. 478 00:19:11,480 --> 00:19:14,190 The ones that we want to keep on our, our, we have a list. 479 00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:16,190 Otherwise, these are the goals that we're going for. 480 00:19:16,500 --> 00:19:20,420 This is the stuff that we're doing there, there, and this is 481 00:19:20,420 --> 00:19:22,670 the thing, like even when you're looking at any one of these 482 00:19:22,680 --> 00:19:23,079 things. 483 00:19:23,819 --> 00:19:28,099 It's really hard to, to maintain, not some people can do 484 00:19:28,099 --> 00:19:31,970 it, but it's hard to maintain the discipline of the goal on 485 00:19:31,970 --> 00:19:32,279 your own. 486 00:19:32,410 --> 00:19:33,259 Exactly. 487 00:19:33,299 --> 00:19:36,740 So it's so important that you actually engage your, your 488 00:19:36,740 --> 00:19:40,440 spouse or a really close friend or someone who's going to push 489 00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:40,930 you. 490 00:19:41,569 --> 00:19:44,609 Like it's a one say one of you goes to the gym, but the other 491 00:19:44,609 --> 00:19:47,960 one doesn't yeah, right Then you find someone who is gonna 492 00:19:47,960 --> 00:19:50,740 challenge you and say hey This is where you got to go say like 493 00:19:50,740 --> 00:19:54,109 I have I have a series of men in my life that challenged me in 494 00:19:54,150 --> 00:19:57,000 Just in life Yeah right that they look at the things I'm 495 00:19:57,000 --> 00:19:59,410 doing or saying or how I'm moving or the things that I'm 496 00:19:59,410 --> 00:20:03,265 teaching and just be like Bryan, you can't say that, or that was 497 00:20:03,265 --> 00:20:03,775 really good. 498 00:20:03,775 --> 00:20:05,545 Or what did you mean by this or challenge? 499 00:20:05,585 --> 00:20:06,515 No, that's not right. 500 00:20:06,944 --> 00:20:08,295 You have to have those people in your life. 501 00:20:08,295 --> 00:20:10,095 You can't just have a bunch of yes people around you. 502 00:20:10,115 --> 00:20:10,545 No. 503 00:20:10,605 --> 00:20:10,934 And 504 00:20:10,934 --> 00:20:13,904 Natalie: like for me, my sister in law, like she was so great, 505 00:20:14,375 --> 00:20:17,565 uh, lean like over this Christmas season of like really 506 00:20:17,565 --> 00:20:18,755 maintaining a gym schedule. 507 00:20:18,755 --> 00:20:23,045 And I was not, but I was like, ah, gosh, I should, I should get 508 00:20:23,045 --> 00:20:26,414 on this because not that it's, and it's not a competition 509 00:20:26,414 --> 00:20:29,914 because we all have the same goal of being right. 510 00:20:30,180 --> 00:20:30,210 Right. 511 00:20:30,220 --> 00:20:35,230 Like the best selves for moving forward physically, right? 512 00:20:35,259 --> 00:20:38,660 Because if we're, if I'm healthy physically, my emotional health 513 00:20:38,759 --> 00:20:39,609 benefits from it. 514 00:20:39,849 --> 00:20:42,160 My mental health benefits from it. 515 00:20:42,170 --> 00:20:43,670 My spiritual health benefits from it. 516 00:20:43,700 --> 00:20:46,869 So I'm of like motivating, right? 517 00:20:47,339 --> 00:20:47,569 Right. 518 00:20:47,569 --> 00:20:49,690 Where she's like, you know, if it wasn't for her, we would not 519 00:20:49,690 --> 00:20:53,359 have done the ninja parkour a course that we did and we paid 520 00:20:53,369 --> 00:20:57,349 for it, but it was like quality time that we could invest with 521 00:20:57,349 --> 00:20:57,599 Bryan: our kids. 522 00:20:57,609 --> 00:21:00,599 When Natalie says we paid for it, not only do we pay for it 523 00:21:00,599 --> 00:21:05,029 with finances, which it was just a small fee, but we paid for it 524 00:21:05,029 --> 00:21:08,690 physically for several days afterwards because I am not a 525 00:21:08,690 --> 00:21:11,210 young and or speedy or agile like I used to 526 00:21:11,210 --> 00:21:11,410 Natalie: be. 527 00:21:11,480 --> 00:21:12,099 Exactly. 528 00:21:12,200 --> 00:21:12,980 So like. 529 00:21:13,194 --> 00:21:16,535 Encouraging each other, like come on, we are on, we might be 530 00:21:16,535 --> 00:21:20,575 in different lanes as far as our physical health goes, but 531 00:21:20,575 --> 00:21:22,845 motivating each other to keep going. 532 00:21:22,894 --> 00:21:26,835 Bryan: And I would say, um, don't reflect just once a year 533 00:21:26,865 --> 00:21:31,440 on Christmas Eve like we do, we reflect Regularly throughout the 534 00:21:31,440 --> 00:21:31,579 year. 535 00:21:31,579 --> 00:21:32,569 And we have just, we 536 00:21:32,569 --> 00:21:33,480 Natalie: have like weekly 537 00:21:34,210 --> 00:21:36,430 Bryan: debriefs where we just sit and we'll chat about the 538 00:21:36,430 --> 00:21:38,630 week and when things are going and work the calendars out and 539 00:21:38,630 --> 00:21:39,289 things like that. 540 00:21:39,789 --> 00:21:42,509 And it's, these are just some of the things that we do. 541 00:21:42,509 --> 00:21:45,000 We hope that it all makes, makes sense. 542 00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:49,000 We also didn't want to be so broad that it didn't make, it 543 00:21:49,089 --> 00:21:52,589 didn't land, but also there's just so many. 544 00:21:53,190 --> 00:21:55,390 The thing is, is that this is a new year. 545 00:21:55,390 --> 00:21:57,869 You're going to start seeing content from every influencer on 546 00:21:57,869 --> 00:22:00,799 the planet coming up with a, here's your five step strategy 547 00:22:00,799 --> 00:22:01,670 in order to lose weight. 548 00:22:01,670 --> 00:22:04,890 Here's your final, the seven steps to financial freedom. 549 00:22:04,890 --> 00:22:08,000 Here's the, the eight steps you need for pride, for the best 550 00:22:08,000 --> 00:22:09,690 mental health, like all of these things, you're going to start 551 00:22:09,700 --> 00:22:11,480 getting bombarded by these things. 552 00:22:12,039 --> 00:22:13,519 And we. 553 00:22:14,184 --> 00:22:18,194 Because we're, we're believers, these things are based in 554 00:22:18,194 --> 00:22:20,934 scripture, like that scripture, right? 555 00:22:20,934 --> 00:22:22,144 These things make them plain, right? 556 00:22:22,144 --> 00:22:22,704 I'm on tablets. 557 00:22:22,704 --> 00:22:23,345 Make it plain. 558 00:22:23,505 --> 00:22:23,934 Simple. 559 00:22:24,005 --> 00:22:24,714 It's simple. 560 00:22:24,924 --> 00:22:25,994 Doesn't mean it's easy. 561 00:22:26,005 --> 00:22:27,085 It just means it's simple. 562 00:22:27,234 --> 00:22:30,184 And the, the, this is the, the system you make doesn't need to 563 00:22:30,204 --> 00:22:31,075 be so complex. 564 00:22:31,144 --> 00:22:31,575 Natalie: No. 565 00:22:31,605 --> 00:22:35,115 And I think my final thought would be making sure that you 566 00:22:35,115 --> 00:22:36,154 find some community. 567 00:22:36,765 --> 00:22:37,025 Right. 568 00:22:37,065 --> 00:22:39,565 So whether that's a church group, uh, you know, putting 569 00:22:39,565 --> 00:22:44,085 your kids in youth group or some kind of, um, after school 570 00:22:44,085 --> 00:22:48,944 program or whatnot where they, um, can learn and grow. 571 00:22:49,095 --> 00:22:49,734 Absolutely. 572 00:22:49,835 --> 00:22:52,255 Um, we weren't meant to do life alone. 573 00:22:52,714 --> 00:22:56,394 And so oftentimes if we're struggling, uh, we have a 574 00:22:56,394 --> 00:22:58,454 community and I don't know what we could do without it. 575 00:22:58,605 --> 00:22:58,934 Right. 576 00:22:59,265 --> 00:23:01,434 Bryan: I don't know where we would be, our kids would be if 577 00:23:01,434 --> 00:23:04,515 we didn't have our church community around us, our friends 578 00:23:04,515 --> 00:23:07,144 and our family, the, the, the friends that had become family 579 00:23:07,625 --> 00:23:11,005 because of, of the relationships that we've built through the 580 00:23:11,005 --> 00:23:12,914 church over these last many years. 581 00:23:12,914 --> 00:23:13,375 And so. 582 00:23:13,765 --> 00:23:15,994 There's so many different options where you can find 583 00:23:15,994 --> 00:23:16,424 community. 584 00:23:16,424 --> 00:23:18,164 I know sometimes it's really tough, especially if you're a 585 00:23:18,164 --> 00:23:20,075 bit more introverted, but there's people out there. 586 00:23:20,075 --> 00:23:22,545 There's good churches wherever you're listening to find a good 587 00:23:22,545 --> 00:23:22,974 church. 588 00:23:23,355 --> 00:23:25,555 We can't, I can't honestly, it's one of those things I can't talk 589 00:23:25,565 --> 00:23:28,634 about church enough because I think it's so incredibly 590 00:23:28,634 --> 00:23:29,305 valuable. 591 00:23:29,755 --> 00:23:30,250 And 592 00:23:30,250 --> 00:23:31,242 Natalie: it's such 593 00:23:31,242 --> 00:23:34,855 Bryan: an important part of our life, but also of, of the 594 00:23:35,154 --> 00:23:38,424 development and spiritual growth and mental health and just being 595 00:23:38,424 --> 00:23:39,055 around people. 596 00:23:39,075 --> 00:23:42,005 So there's one thing I wanted to ask all of you that are 597 00:23:42,005 --> 00:23:45,105 listening to this, um, we know that you live in the podcast 598 00:23:45,105 --> 00:23:47,265 cause you keep listening to it, but if you have a. 599 00:23:47,690 --> 00:23:53,089 Tip or a trick or a hack or a something that you want to share 600 00:23:53,089 --> 00:23:56,720 specifically about keeping track of your progress or how do you 601 00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:59,289 discipline yourself to, to, to grow? 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