Believe Like A Boss

Finding Your Non-Negotiables

• Nandi Camille • Season 7 • Episode 9

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As the year moves swiftly, it’s crucial to pause and evaluate what truly matters in your life. In this compelling episode, we explore the concept of non-negotiables—those vital boundaries that define how we navigate our personal and professional arenas. Join Nandi Camille as she invites listeners on a journey of self-reflection to identify essential non-negotiables that ensure alignment with your desired life goals. 

Dive deep into powerful questions that trigger insights about your commitments—what are the hard yeses and no’s in your life? Nandi shares personal experiences illustrating the emotional landscape of balancing achievement and growing pains, showcasing that life’s journey is a blend of high highs and the occasional challenges. 

This episode isn’t just about boundaries; it’s about celebrating your growth. Are your actions aligned with the version of you that already embodies your dreams? Crucial self-care decisions, from daily habits to personal relationships, set the foundation for sustainable success. By journaling your non-negotiables, you’ll solidify your commitment to creating positive change in your life. 

Prepare to take an honest look at how you dedicate your time and energy, examine what needs to shift, and embrace the fact that growth sometimes feels uncomfortable. Don’t miss this enlightening episode that encourages you to reclaim authority over your life with clear, unwavering non-negotiables. For more enriching discussions and effective coaching tips, subscribe to our podcast.


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Speaker 1:

Hi, friends, and welcome to Believe Like a Boss. I'm your host Life Coach, nandi Camille. Join me as I teach you how to smash your goals and expand the possibility of your life through mindset management, spiritual alignment and authentic action. I'll teach you how to create what I like to call a life of thrive, with ease and authenticity. It's time to play with what's possible. Are you ready?

Speaker 2:

Let's go time to play with what's possible. Are you ready? Let's go? Hello, hello, hello and welcome back to another episode of Believe Like a Boss. I am your host life coach, nandi Camille. Welcome back. My friends, this week is going to be short and sweet. I have one question for you, but you know I'm a talker, so we're going to elaborate just a little bit, but I only have one question for you, as we're gonna elaborate just a little bit, but I only have one question for you. As we're walking into this year, it's what? Three months? We're into March. Now this is being recorded in March 2025.

Speaker 2:

It is felt so crazy and I think that we all, most of us, say this every year oh my gosh, the year's flying by, the year's flying by. I remember when I was a kid, I did not feel that way at all, and as a kid, I would actually count down to my birthday, and as a kid, I would actually count down to my birthday, which is in May, and then I would count down to Christmas. I love where my birthday is. My birthday is May 3rd. I am a Taurus, my birthstone is emerald, I love it, and then I would look forward to Christmas. So every single year. That is how I, as a child, those were the two biggest things I look forward to the most, because for me, my childhood dragged. I don't know about anybody else but mine. I just remember as a kid I was like I cannot wait to be an adult. This is taking forever, this kid thing. I'm ready to be an adult, make adult decision, do adult things and then you become an adult and as my best friend and I say, it's ghetto out here. It is ghetto out here in adulting land. It's cray cray and it's not what I imagined as a child. As we all find out, as adults we're like adults can do whatever they want, and that is true. And as an adult, there are responsibilities that you have that you did not have as a child, but you don't know that as a child.

Speaker 2:

Regardless, today's episode is we're moving into this year and I'm thinking about how fast this year has gone for me. I'm like, oh my gosh, january was a blink, february was a blink. February went by so fast and I wanted to hold on to it so much because, as you all know, at the beginning of that month my manifestation, co-creation, came true. I got to model for EverWeave in Los Angeles. And then a week after that, after I got back, I taught my very first twerk shop. So two really big manifestations, two really big check boxes on my bucket list of being able to teach a twerk class and then being a paid model, happened at the beginning of February, and so all of the month I just wanted to savor that, and then also what happened in February, and so all of the month I just wanted to save for that. And then also what happened in February if I'm not being crazy, it might've been January. Again, the year's flying by. Already it was either end of January or it was February Accountability Club ended, so I ran my first run of Accountability Club and that ended. So January, february has been such a whirlwind of emotion I was just going to say such great months, and they were. But there were also some heavy moments in both of those months too.

Speaker 2:

I'm in a season where I am growing and when we are growing, sometimes, often we go through growing pains. So I'm experiencing growing pains. At the same time I'm experiencing these beautiful things. So, coming back to our theory, life is 50-50. That's 100% true for me in this moment and at all moments. If you don't know what I'm talking about, the theory of 50-50, is that your life is always 50-50. 50% exciting and fun and exuberant and happy and calm and great, and 50% dull and boring and sad and mad, angry, like 50% good and 50% I wouldn't even say bad, just those quote lower level emotions. No matter if you're Oprah or you are a teacher or you're a stay at home mom or you are a marketing specialist for a really big corporation, everybody's life, I follow the theory, is 50-50. And that is 100% been my experience in this year so far. So some really high highs, I wouldn't say low, lows, but there's still the other 50% and, as I'm reflecting on this year so far, one of the things that I'm taking into March now is I want to check in.

Speaker 2:

So here's your question, after that long intro what are your new non-negotiables? This is the only question I'm going to ask you today what are your new non-negotiables? As soon as I said that's the only question I'm going to ask you guys today, my brain's like that's a lie. I asked so many questions, but that's the focal point of our podcast episode today what are your new non-negotiables? Now, when I say what are your new non-negotiables, first we got to check in on what are your non-negotiables, and you may not have ever asked yourself the question in this way.

Speaker 2:

So when I ask what are your non-negotiables, I mean what are your boundaries? What are your hard no's? What are your hard yeses? Right, what are your non-negotiables? And these can be anything from my non-negotiables. I get eight hours of sleep every single night. That is not negotiable. I must get eight hours of sleep every night. Or it might be I must drink a gallon of water every single day. That's a non-negotiable.

Speaker 2:

It might be that when you go on a date, if you're in the dating scene right now, if you go on a date and that gentleman uses a slanderous term towards a specific community, that's non-negotiable for you, right? So what are your non-negotiables? And here's where I want to add, I want you to think about it from your future self, the person, the version of you who has the thing that you already want. Because, as we always do here, we focus on mindfulness, awareness without judgment, being aware of what it is that we want, our goals, our dreams, our desires, being clear on those goals and dreams and desires, remembering that the only reason we want anything is because of how we believe we will feel in the having of it and then practicing, showing up as if it's already done. That's everything that I do, right, wide scope. But as we zoom in, what are my non-negotiables that helps us to focus in on as my best self, as a person who already has $10,000 months, 15 clients, is traveling to Europe next year. What is non-negotiable for that version of me? What is necessary and required to create that reality? What was necessary and required in my habits and my thought patterns and how I showed up in order to create the reality, the goal that I seek, right, if you're.

Speaker 2:

I have some clients that are working towards marathons. I have some runners. I'm like, how do I attract all these runners? I am not a runner at all. I love dance, I love bar, I love pole. I am not a runner, but I have these beautiful queens that are and they run marathons and non-negotiable for them is that they have to stay on their training regimen. They have to, and we could zoom out and say you don't have to do anything. It's kind of like shooting on yourself, but they want to. That when they make it a non-negotiable that I'm going to follow through on this specific training regimen, it sets them up for success. It sets them up so that when it's marathon day they're not struggling, they're struggling a little bit. Running is a struggle period. That's part of the joy of it, I'm told. But it's in alignment, right. That action, that habit, that, non-negotiable, is in alignment with the person I'm becoming and the thing I wish to see in the world.

Speaker 2:

What are your non-negotiables? What is going to be required for you to get to your next level? And I would back up again when I say what is necessary for you to get to your next level? Identify that, first and foremost. What is your next level? Have you stopped and paused on that? We've gone through January. We've gone through February. What worked, what didn't and, as a result, what's next? What really went well? I did a reel on this the other day.

Speaker 2:

If you follow me, at naughtycamille, I was talking about how, in January and February, as you look at your time management, how do you feel about the way you spent your time? We're coming into February, it's the third month, we're wrapping up the first quarter of the year. How do you feel about how you've spent the first part of this year? Being aware, without judgment, I feel really good about how I spent my time. I would like to spend a little bit more time with my mom. I'd like to spend a little bit more time calling my dad and a little bit more time with quiet time, but overall, I feel like I worked on the hobbies and the goals that I wanted to work on. I spent quality time with my partner. I dot dot dot. Check in for yourself. How do you feel about the way you spent your time? And is the way you spent your time and is the way you spent your time and the way you spent your energy in alignment with the goals that you have with the person you say that you want to become?

Speaker 2:

That next level you are declaring what are your new non-negotiables? My offer for you this week for growth work is to break out your journal, get out your notebook, maybe the notes app in your phone, and title it new non-negotiables. What is it that you're not going to allow anymore? And it might be things that think about it like a boundary as well, or it might be things as you have to set a boundary with you. It is non-negotiable that I'm I'm not going to speak to myself the way that I've been speaking to myself.

Speaker 2:

I caught myself I'm going to call myself out right now doing this recently caught myself being unkind, speaking poorly to myself, because, like I said, I'm in a season where there are definitely growing pains and I'm learning new things as a part of this new season. And when I'm learning especially as an adult, when you're learning new things we often feel dumb when we're learning new things because somehow, when we become adults, we're supposed to know all the things already in the world. Isn't that funny the way our brain tells us that it's not true. And so as I'm going through these growing pains and I'm feeling uncomfortable, learning new things, I'm noticing my brain saying things to me like how come you don't know that You're so dumb? Just judgey, just judgey.

Speaker 2:

So one of my new non-negotiables is I will not allow that speak and when I notice it, when it does crop up or pop up in my brain something unkind, to notice it, to pause and to say something kind immediately afterwards, immediately, or to interrupt the thought if I can Remind myself that I am doing my best. Truly, I will pause when I notice myself getting tense, when I notice myself being mean to myself mentally, hand on my heart. It is a non-negotiable I am not negotiating with my negative self. I will be kind to myself. Period, I am learning, I am growing, and it is okay that I'm confused sometimes. It is okay that sometimes I feel a little bit overwhelmed in this process. It is okay that sometimes I feel sad because I don't know all the things already. It is okay, I'm doing my best and then I give myself a nice compliment You're a bad bitch girl. You're doing it. Look at you doing it, look at you showing up. Look at you putting in. Look at you showing up, look at you putting in the work. So that's one of my non-negotiables. What are yours? Break out your notebook, get out that notes app.

Speaker 2:

New non-negotiables what is it that I'm no longer going to allow and what is it that is going to be necessary? Those are two different questions. What is it that I'm no longer going to be allowed? Remember, that's like a boundary. But then what is it that's necessary? Maybe that's a new habit, maybe that's a new affirmation. That's a non-negotiable.

Speaker 2:

I'm going to say this affirmation that's non-negotiable. I will affirm that I can do this. That's non-negotiable. Anymore. I'm not going to negotiate whether or not I can do this, whether or not I'm capable. I'm determining right now and deciding, choosing that I am capable and I can do it. I'm not going to negotiate whether or not I can. I'm choosing and deciding that I can today. Maybe that's your non-negotiable. You get to decide. As always, my friends take what sticks to you, leave the rest. I'll see you next week. If you give us a five-star rating, share it with your friends. If you're interested in one-on-one coaching, if this podcast resonates with you and you're ready for some one-on-one support support for you and your journey go ahead to nandikamilcom to learn more or head over to nandikamilasme to sign up for your free discovery call.