Believe Like A Boss

Leadership Lessons | Part 2: Self-Trust

• Nandi Camille • Season 7 • Episode 11

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Trust is the invisible foundation upon which all effective leadership is built. In this deeply reflective episode, we explore how trust functions as a muscle in our lives—one that strengthens with consistent use and atrophies when neglected.

Did you know we're actually born with innate self-trust? Watch any baby fearlessly exploring their world—touching, tasting, climbing without hesitation. This natural confidence doesn't vanish overnight but erodes through subtle messages we receive throughout our lives. When I shared my childhood dreams of becoming a choreographer or singer-songwriter, I was immediately redirected toward "practical" careers like medicine or law. The unstated message? My judgment couldn't be trusted.

These accumulated experiences create a leadership challenge: when you don't fully trust yourself, others sense it. Your team picks up on subtle hesitation in your delegation. Potential clients detect uncertainty behind your sales pitch. The question becomes not just "Do you trust yourself?" but "What might be possible if you trusted yourself more deeply?"

Through powerful reflective questions, we explore what messages undermined your self-trust and how to reconnect with your inner knowing. I invite you to visualize your future self who fully trusts their decisions and leadership abilities—this vision provides the roadmap for your growth work.

This episode marks part one of our trust exploration in leadership. Join me next week when we'll expand our focus to building trust with your team and wider community. The journey toward authentic leadership begins with trusting yourself first.

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Speaker 1:

Hi, friends, and welcome to Believe Like a Boss. I'm your host Life Coach, nandi Camille. Join me as I teach you how to smash your goals and expand the possibility of your life through mindset management, spiritual alignment and authentic action. I'll teach you how to create what I like to call a life of thrive, with ease and authenticity. It's time to play with what's possible. Are you ready? Let's go.

Speaker 2:

Hello, hello, hello and welcome back to another episode of Believe Like a Boss. I am your host life coach, Nadia Camille. Welcome back, my friends, welcome to another week. We are midway through March. I had to make sure, as I was saying that out loud, that that was correct. We are midway through March.

Speaker 2:

As I sprinkled in a few weeks ago, my brain is just thinking about my birthday. It's not until May, but around this time of the year my brain starts thinking about what do I want to do? Where do I want to go? Do I want to go horseback riding? Do I want to plan a dinner? Do I want to have a birthday party? I'm not normally a birthday party girl. I try. Every time I host a party. I regret it afterwards. I have to say I'm a great host. It's just the hosting part. You're on Um and people mess your house up, not gonna lie Just like people would be bringing people over in large quantities where they're going to get loose and enjoy themselves. It's fabulous until you have to clean up and that's not fun for me. So I'm probably not having a party, unless it's, you know, reservations at a restaurant and somebody else gets to clean up after us, which I am so grateful for, which is neither here nor there, because this week on the podcast, we're talking about the second part of our leadership lessons.

Speaker 2:

I don't know how many parts I'm going to have, but I'm on a leadership kick right now and really truly have wanted to just bring this to the forefront of. What does it mean to be a leader? I feel like so many of us, especially when you're an ambitious woman or you're in an executive role, or you are an entrepreneur, you're in a position of leadership. So all the women that I'm working with are leaders. They may not call themselves that first and foremost, but as a result of being somebody who does work in the world that heavily, heavily excuse me influences other people. You are a leader as a by-product, right? And I would say to everybody, no matter what position you're in, whether you are part of the janitorial crew or you are the head of school, or you are a lawyer, or you are a housekeeper or whatever you are the head of school, or you are a lawyer, or you are a housekeeper or whatever you are. I don't know why my brain is going between like cleaning and like executive roles. There's many roles in between, and regardless of what role you have, or if you don't have any specific corporate or work role at all. Your role is being a mother, a husband, an aunt, whatever it is.

Speaker 2:

I believe that we all have the opportunity to be a leader, to step into leadership, and that is being knowledgeable about how you show up and how you influence others, when you delegate to others, when you ask things from other people, the way you show up and you model leadership. All of it is involved when I'm talking about leadership. But this week, specifically last week, we talked about self-awareness. This week, we're talking about trusting yourself and your team. Trusting yourself and your team, as I was again meditating on.

Speaker 2:

Every single week I meditate on what it is that I'd like to bring to you all. And again, when I say meditate, I sincerely just sit and think about my clients. I sit and think about who I am, as an ambitious woman, as a leader, as an entrepreneur, and the things that I struggle with, the things that my clients struggle with and what might be helpful. And what I've found again and again is that trust is this muscle, and I truly believe it's a muscle, because when we think about working out, working our bodies out that's exactly how our bodies work and our muscles work. When you're working it out, when you're actively using your muscles, you build them and you fortify them. When you're stretching, you're lengthening your ligaments and there's tearing in those muscles and those ligaments that allows you to get stronger. And so, truly, when I'm thinking about trust, it feels truly like a muscle. If you don't use it, you lose it. If you're not working it out, it's not going to get stronger. Trust is one of those things where I really truly wish it was just, you know, magically given to us and to an effect, I would say it is right.

Speaker 2:

When we're born, when children come into the world the children that I noticed, nine times out of 10, there's always, you know, a child that does not necessarily fall into this category, but I'd say nine times out of 10, we are born with self-trust. We are born trusting ourselves, knowing that we are trustworthy. That's why you see babies climbing onto things they shouldn't be onto, putting things in their mouths that they shouldn't be putting into their mouths, because their level of trust for themselves and the world and their ability to be safe and their ability to be okay is just out of this world right. It's almost too much trust and that's why they become unsafe and that's why we have to baby-proof things is because they almost trust themselves too much. Right, and so I do believe that we are born with this inherent trust in ourselves, this belief in ourselves. But then as we get older and we're told different things you can't do this or you can't do that, or boys can't do this and girls can't do that, or success only looks like X, y and Z and not what you think it looks like. When we're told these messages again and again, it starts to break down our own trust with ourselves.

Speaker 2:

Again, my example is I wanted to be a singer-songwriter. I wanted to be a singer songwriter. I wanted to be a cosmetologist, I wanted to be a choreographer. Those were the first things that I really expressed wanting to be and go after, and I was very blatantly told no, you will be successful as a doctor, a lawyer or an engineer. Those are your options. That's what I was told. So again, I trusted and I believe deeply that I could be successful as a choreographer, as a creative in the world. Clearly I still deeply that I could be successful as a choreographer, as a creative in the world. Clearly I still believe that. That's why I do this podcast, why I'm a life coach, that's why I work with creative entrepreneurs and high achieving women.

Speaker 2:

But at a time when I was a child in my home, I was told that is not how you become successful. That is not the recipe to success. You must be a doctor, lawyer, engineer. So automatically, then immediately, we're docking a little bit of my own trust. I am now being told subliminally you cannot trust what you think success looks like in the world. You need to trust what these adults are telling you success looks like. Their opinion is more important than yours. It is more important to trust their opinion than it is to trust your own opinion. Notice that. Is that true for you? Did you pick that message up? Any point of the way, at any time?

Speaker 2:

I almost feel like this trust one needs to be broken up into its own two parts. Right, but check in for yourself. Do you trust yourself? I think that it is so important. As a leader, as you're delegating, as you're giving people information, as you're communicating, do you trust yourself? Because if you don't, it's going to be very difficult for your team or your community to trust you. So let's just start there.

Speaker 2:

I am going to break this down into two different podcast episodes of trust within the leadership lessons. We're breaking it real down with your team, but I really want to focus in on what would it look like to trust yourself a little bit more this week and what were the messages that you received about trusting yourself and again, it's not going to be a blatant you can't trust yourself to do that right. My parents never told me you can't trust yourself to be a choreographer. They just said you can't be a choreographer. You need to be a doctor, lawyer, engineer. What were the messages that you received that, over your lifetime, have docked your own trust with yourself, that have led you to believe that you are not a trustworthy person, that have led you to believe that you need to trust in other people's opinions more than you trust in your own? I want you to focus on that and that alone this week. Rewind this podcast. If you need to Listen to those questions again, get out your notebook, pause for a second.

Speaker 2:

Do you trust yourself? What is the proof that you trust yourself? And what would it look like to trust yourself a little bit more Because to be in a place of leadership again, where you are delegating, where you are communicating, where you are giving orders, so to speak. And when I say orders, it's just maybe you're in charge of a team and you have a new marketing campaign, right, you're delegating to this staff that you need them to work on Canva. You're delegating to the other staff that they need to contact your social media influencers right, you're delegating. You're sending out orders. Do you trust yourself as you're sending out those orders?

Speaker 2:

Because if you do not trust yourself, it will be very difficult for your team to trust you. It will be very difficult for people in the world, when you're selling on Instagram, to trust you, to buy from you. If you don't trust yourself, why would a stranger on Instagram, on TikTok, on Etsy, trust you? And here's the thing there are lots of people out in the world that are doing this half-ass, that are kind of trusting themselves. Honestly, great job to you for showing up, right?

Speaker 2:

What might happen if you just trusted yourself a little bit more? How might that influence how you show up as a leader, as a salesperson, as an entrepreneur, as an executive? What might it look like to trust yourself just a little bit more? We're going to pause there this week, my friends. This one's going to be short and sweet because there's so much there.

Speaker 2:

If you really truly slow down and understand three steps ahead from now and those three steps can be whatever it means to you, right? Maybe that's three years from now, maybe that is literally when I take this step. This step and this step go to the future version of you. I'm throwing a lot of questions at you all today, but it's because this is what's coming up and all of it's useful. Go to the future version of yourself, three steps from now, three years from now, whatever that means to you.

Speaker 2:

Who does trust themselves? What is different about how they show up versus how you're showing up now? The version of you that truly fully trust themselves. Trust themselves to lead, trust themselves to delegate, trust themselves to sell, trust themselves, to show up online, trust themselves to be seen. How does that version of you think and show up differently than you're thinking and showing up now? That is your work, as always, my friends, take what sticks to you, leave the rest. We're going to do part two of trusting yourself, but next week, we're going to talk about trusting others, building trust with your team, building trust with your community. Next week, take what sticks to you. Leave the rest I'll see you next week.

Speaker 3:

Take what sticks to you leave the rest, I'll see you next week. Hey friend, if you like this podcast, I would love it. If you give us a five star rating, share it with your friends. If you're interested in one-on-one coaching, if this podcast resonates with you and you're ready for some one-on-one support support for you and your journey go ahead to nandikamilcom to learn more, or head over to nandikamilasme to sign up for your free discovery call.