Believe Like A Boss

Your Confidence Toolkit: Five Powerful Ways to Feel Empowered Every Day

• Nandi Camille • Season 7 • Episode 13

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Ever feel like your confidence was solid until life threw you a curveball? That's because confidence isn't a destination—it's an ongoing practice that requires maintenance and occasional rebuilding.

The secret recipe for unshakable confidence comes down to a simple formula: trust times consistency. When you trust yourself to take action and follow through consistently, your confidence naturally grows. But what happens when major life changes shake your foundation?

This episode unpacks five practical tools to immediately boost your confidence and build lasting self-trust. From power poses that physically signal strength to your brain, to creating the ultimate confidence playlist that shifts your energy within seconds. We explore how personalized affirmations—not generic statements, but the actual thoughts your confident self thinks—create neural pathways for authentic confidence.

Physical movement proves especially powerful, not just for the endorphins but because each workout becomes evidence of your follow-through ability. When you say you'll attend that class and actually go, you're building self-trust with every rep. Meanwhile, surrounding yourself with people who truly see and celebrate you provides external reinforcement for your internal confidence work.

Whether you're navigating a career transition, relationship changes, or simply feeling stuck, these tools provide immediate relief and long-term solutions. The confident version of you already exists—they speak up in meetings, pursue their passions, and trust themselves deeply. What would your most confident self do today?

Ready to transform your relationship with confidence? Connect with me on Instagram or book a discovery call. The journey to your most confident self starts with one small, consistent action.

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Speaker 1:

Hi, friends, and welcome to Believe Like a Boss. I'm your host Life Coach, nandu Camille. Join me as I teach you how to smash your goals and expand the possibility of your life through mindset management, spiritual alignment and authentic action. I'll teach you how to create what I like to call a life of thrive, with ease and authenticity. It's time to play with what's possible. Are you ready? Let's go.

Speaker 2:

Hello, hello, hello and welcome back to another episode of Believe Like a Boss. I am your host life coach, Nandi Camille. Welcome back, my friends. This week we are unpacking confidence. This is not the first time we've talked about confidence on the podcast.

Speaker 2:

My personal recipe for confidence is trust times consistency. I've sprinkled that throughout this entire podcast over several years. Today, though, I want to unpack a little bit deeper. I'm going to bring in some of those tools. You're going to hear trust times consistency. You're going to hear some of the tools that I've talked about before when it comes to confidence, but hopefully you're going to hear some new tools as well when it comes to confidence, because cultivating confidence, I found, is not something that stops right. You might get to a place where you have cultivated great confidence. You feel like you are a woman of high self-esteem, you feel really good about who you are, how you show up in the world, how you respond to people, what you're doing in the world. You feel really good about all of that, and you can be in a really strong season. And then, all of a sudden, we find and it's really truly not all of the sudden, right, it might be that we stopped doing something that really serves us. It might be that something that serves us no longer serves us, but something in life changes as it does, because this is life and when that shift happens, sometimes that can shake up our identity. Sometimes that can shake up our confidence. Today we're going to unpack specifically confidence. I feel like confidence does definitely feed into identity, but these are different topics. Today we're talking about confidence and how we can continue to build confidence in a practical way.

Speaker 2:

I'm a mindfulness-based life coach for creative entrepreneurs and high-achieving women, women that are going after their dreams, going big, and are tired of playing small. Often, these women are navigating anxiety, depression, heavy feelings, fear that is getting in their way from doing the thing that they so deeply feel called to do. And it is my job to help you get organized, get rid of limiting beliefs, start to take action the way you want to take action and understand what that means. Often when I'm asking friends, okay, well, what's next? I get a blank stare. And it's not because you don't know what to do, it's because you haven't taken the time to think about it. So, as a mindfulness-based life coach, as an awareness-based life coach, I want you to be aware of your thoughts, aware of your feelings, and from there we will make aligned decisions. That's what I do and that's what we talk about on the podcast.

Speaker 2:

So for today, when we're talking about confidence, confidence goes into everything, right. Confidence goes into the way you speak about yourself, the way you carry yourself, the way you walk around and, like I said, there are times in life where we just get hit by things and when those things hit us, it can knock us off, it can make us question our confidence. So I want to give you some tools to help you build your confidence back. As I started with trust times, consistency is just my secret recipe. It's not even a secret. It's just the recipe I've come up with for building confidence. If I want to be a more confident person, I have to trust the action that's been placed in my heart, or the things that I want to do, and I have to work on them consistently. So, in the example of fitness, if you want to feel more confident in your body, you might have the idea I really want to take pole classes, or I really would like to start rowing, or I'd really like to start playing pickleball. What I'd offer is you trust that part of you that has spoken up about whatever it is that you want to do. And then, as you consistently go to pickleball, you consistently go to that dance class, you consistently take rowing classes, your confidence will naturally increase, right?

Speaker 2:

So, trust times, consistency what is it that you're not trusting yourself to do? How might you do it? In a really small way, right? If what you're wanting to do is wake up every day at 5am and have a fitness routine, or you want to trust yourself to be able to do that, what is the first step? Maybe it's not waking up at 5am, having your clothes out and doing the workout. If you're not already waking up at 5am, let's start there, right? If you're waking up at 8am and you want to get to 5am, how about we start at 7.30 am? For some friends it's incremental, for some friends it's ripping off the band-aid, but it's taking action, trusting yourself to take the action, and then doing so consistently. But again, I want to offer you do so at incremental steps, trust yourself to take action. But if the action you're thinking about, like I said, is waking up at 5 am seven days a week, and right now you're waking up at eight, how might you break that down. Is it waking up at 730 instead of 5am, just 30 minutes earlier? Right? Break it down to make it doable. That's the first one, all right. So now that we're we unpacked the baseline of confidence, I'm going to give you some tools, some ways to feel your most confident in a moment and that, if you do these things consistently over time, will again naturally help your confidence increase.

Speaker 2:

First one power poses. Again, we've talked about this on the podcast when I've talked about the book Presence by Amy Cuddy. It's one of my favorite books. I talk about it all the time. Presence talks about so many things, but one of the things she talks about in particular is this idea of starfish up. It's spreading out your arms, spreading your legs and standing like a starfish, so to speak.

Speaker 2:

Right, but what studies and research has shown is that in doing this we actually do feel better. Right, if you're slouching throughout the day, if you're sitting at a desk and you're slouching over, that kind of caved body language does relate, does intertwine with your mood. So if you're hunched over, you're less likely to feel good. If you're sitting up shoulders are back, chest is proud, like we like to say in yoga, yoga you're more likely to feel better, truly, your body is in alignment with your mood. So by doing power poses and this could be starfish up, this could be standing like a superhero in the mirror whatever feels powerful to you or empowering to you, I would offer it leaves you. Your chest is going to be proud, right. There's no power pose that leaves you like with your head down and you're looking sad. That's not powerful. A power pose leaves you feeling powerful, right.

Speaker 2:

And in doing this again, you signal to your brain that you are feeling good. You can signal to your brain to start cueing better emotions by moving your physical body in a way that represents that you are happier. That represents power or joy or empowerment. In the same way, let's say you can't stand up in your office right now, or you're in a busy space, or it feels uncomfortable to do so Literally smiling when and it's going to sound and feel a little bit crazy, because when you're in a moment where you're feeling frustrated or annoyed, the last thing you want to do is smile and that's why it makes you feel crazy. But what that does is, if, in a moment, you want to feel better, that sends a signal to your brain that you are feeling better, right? So if you want new hormones better feeling hormones to be introduced to your body, one of the ways you can do that that, then, will help you to increase your confidence and feeling good is those power poses, or just literally smiling. Just smile and see what happens.

Speaker 2:

The next tip or tool that I have for you is a power playlist. This is so much fun. I don't even need to dive into this one. This one's so straightforward, but I think it's a friendly reminder that often, when we're feeling off, we're feeling frustrated, we're feeling less confident. A really good power playlist can snap us back into place. Right, listening to a little bit of Megan Thee Stallion, if that's your vibe, whoever it is, if that's your vibe. I also love Queen Herbie. Beyonce hit here and there and Adele ballad here and there. Who is it that when you listen to them, you feel their power or you feel empowered? Who is it when you listen to them? And it doesn't even need to be in the lyrics, right, it could just be.

Speaker 2:

I love Afro beats. For me, afro beats are 100% on my power playlist, because if you play Afro beats, I'm moving, I'm twerking, my body is shaking Me. Just thinking about it gets me moving and that movement. Again, we're trying to hack our brain, so to speak. Right In one thought, confidence is a very conscious effort. In another thought, we can subconsciously influence good feeling emotions by doing these other physical things right, without even saying to yourself I'm a confident person. You can start to feel that way by doing power poses or by having a power playlist.

Speaker 2:

So if you don't already have a power playlist, I would encourage you to just start a playlist of songs that, when those songs play, they leave you feeling good, empowered, they make you want to dance, they remind you who you are. They have, maybe, if you are a lyricist, if you're a person that listens to lyrics and likes those, those lyrics are also empowering. Right, there's one song in particular. It's by an artist's name, I think it's Teni T-E-N-I and she has a song that's called Billionaire and I love that song. Right, when I want to be in high energy, money vibe, but like still kind of chill, I love that song. It gets me in a vibe, it gets me in the energy of wealth and of abundance and it makes me happy. So if you don't already have that power playlist, my friend, I highly encourage you to put one together.

Speaker 2:

My next tool for you is affirmations. Again, very straightforward, I'm giving you a review of different tools that you can use to empower your confidence. But again, remember, your baseline is trust. Times, consistency, right. You have to trust yourself to do these power poses consistently. You have to trust yourself to listen to your power playlist consistently. And now, with affirmations, you have to trust what you're saying to yourself and you have to say it consistently, right? None of these tools work unless you're using them consistently.

Speaker 2:

And when I say consistently, I want you to define what that means for you. For some people, that means on a daily basis. For some people, that means on a weekly basis. I would offer that if you're in a place where you've been struggling, you feel stuck, you feel behind, you feel annoyed, you feel overwhelmed, you feel depressed, you feel anxious if those are the loudest emotions that you are feeling, I would offer to do this daily. Pick one of these things. You don't have to do all of them. Pick one of these things and do it daily and notice how it makes you feel. Maybe pick two, right? So affirmation is the next one, affirming what you want to affirm about yourself. That's all I'm saying with affirmation. What is it that you want to affirm about yourself?

Speaker 2:

Now, again, we're talking within the context of confidence. So, when you think about your most confident self as they're walking around in the world, what are they thinking and feeling? Now, this question, I think when you first ask it, my brain initially goes to something simple like I'm so confident, right, that's what confident people are thinking. I'm so confident. Goes to something simple like I'm so confident, right, that's what confident people are thinking. I'm so confident.

Speaker 2:

The reality is is that in my most confident seasons, I'm not necessarily thinking that sentence per se, right? I'm thinking things like I love my skin, or I feel really good today, or, ooh, my clothes look good on me, right. When I'm my most confident self, those are the thoughts that are playing through my brain. I'm feeling good about who I am, I'm feeling good about how I look, I'm feeling good about the work that I'm doing in the world, and so what are the thoughts that go along with those themes? That's what's true for me, what is true for you? When you think about your most confident self, what are they doing in the world? Is your most confident self A mom who's also a blogger? Is your most confident self, you in the work that you're doing right now.

Speaker 2:

But you speak up a little bit more in meetings. Who is your most confident self and what are they thinking from that place? That's where we get our affirmations, and then from there, you affirm ahead of time. I am great in meetings. I do speak up and ask for what I need. When I need it right, you affirm it consistently.

Speaker 2:

The next tool I have for you is working out. This one is again. All of these are very straightforward refreshers for you. So my goal is not to blow your minds today, but to give you a handful of tools to remind you of. Hey, being your most confident self is not that far away and it's not that far out of reach. If you've been feeling unconfident, working out is a great way to feel you're most confident.

Speaker 2:

There's so many things that go into working out. Let's say you're going to a class outside of your home. I, in particular, love bar and I love yoga and I love pole classes. So in order to sign up for a pole class, so to speak or not, so to speak in order to sign up for a pole class, I have to go in the app. I have to sign up for it. I have to get in my car, I have to drive there, I have to find parking because it's in a more downtown urban area. After I find parking, I have to find a spot for my pole. Once we get in there, we're basically butt naked. We're not naked, but like we're wearing very little clothing right and we're moving sexually. There's so many elements of that that build my confidence right. When I get in my car and I go to the place that I say I'm going to go, I build my trust with myself, and that's all confidence really is. Is you consistently trusting yourself? So I've signed up for the class. I'm now in my car, I'm driving, I'm building my confidence before I've even started the class, because I followed through on the thing I said I was going to do.

Speaker 2:

How many times have we said I'm going to go to the class, I'm going to sign up for the thing I'm going to do, dot, dot, dot, and then we don't do it? Right, the opposite is true. When we don't work towards what we say we're going to work towards, when we say we're going to do something and we don't do it, we break our trust. And then, when we consistently break our trust, we're breaking our own confidence. So then when you go to say I want to start blank, your brain goes, huh, I don't know about that because you haven't been following through with the other things that you've said you wanted to do. Now, that's okay, we're not going to blame and shame you for it. But now the next time you say you're going to sign up for that class, write it down in your planner, follow through with it. Or be honest, I keep saying I want to sign up for this class and I don't actually want to go. That builds your confidence as well. Being honest builds your confidence.

Speaker 2:

Getting back to working out Once you get into the fitness class, right, there's so many feel good hormones that are released from moving your body. And then when you consistently move your body and you start to see these little changes in your body, with your strength, with your tone in your body, with how you can move a little bit more, with how you can lift your kids a little bit higher, right, these are all going to build your confidence, just because you took the time to move your body consistently. What I'll also add is that with fitness, it's also really great for stress. Now on a point blank period level. It's a great outlet for stress, but what is also really lovely about it is that when we get used to raising our heart rate, right when you're working out, you normally have to raise your heart rate.

Speaker 2:

What that does is it gets you regulated in a way that now when you're out in the world, if something excites you, raises your heart rate, you're less likely to be panicked, because your body knows what it's like to have an elevated heart rate and be okay, right, because you've worked out, because you did that cycling class or you did that hot yoga class where you had an elevated heart rate. And even with an elevated heart rate, you knew you were safe. Now and outside in the world, let's say, you hear a car accident or your boss speaks to you somewhere, and now you have an elevated heart rate. Instead of fight, flight or freeze being immediately activated, you now have some space to notice oh, I have an elevated heart rate. Am I safe right now? What do I need to do right now? It helps your mindfulness so much, working out raising that heart rate regularly. So that way again I'm saying it for the third time when you're in the world, it doesn't impact you the same way.

Speaker 2:

Working out is such a great tool for so many things, but, in particular, confidence. All right, my last one for you is having a strong community. Having a strong community of people that see you, value you, understand you, I feel is very important and very helpful to having strong confidence. When you have a group of people that truly like love who you are, love what you do, celebrate you for who you are, it's almost impossible to not feel confident in that moment, right when you're out with a group of friends and you're all complimenting each other on how hard you're working or how great your hair looks, or oh girl, those shoes are so cute. Whatever it is that feeds your cup, that feeds my cup. As always, I want you to take what's six to you, leave the rest, but I found that having a strong community is a great asset and a great tool when it comes to being your most confident self.

Speaker 2:

Power poses, power playlists, affirmations, working out, strong community what else do you think adds to your confidence? I'd love to open up the conversation. You can always send me an email. Hello at nandikamilcom. How are you building your confidence these days? Do you need help building your confidence.

Speaker 2:

Maybe there's a tool that I haven't mentioned on here that's been really helpful for you. Maybe for you it's journaling Like me, sitting down and getting my thoughts out about myself and my life on a daily basis and then getting my thoughts out about who I want to be and what's coming next. That builds my confidence and true story. That's another great confidence tool Getting out your journal on a daily basis who am I, what do I want? And just doing that check-in. Am who am I, what do I want? And just doing that check-in. Am I doing the things that I say that I want? Am I being the person that I say I want to be? And if I'm not, it makes sense why I'm not feeling that confident these days.

Speaker 2:

If you want support on being your most confident self, come and book a discovery. Call nandikamilasme. All of this is in the show notes. If you just go to the description of this podcast, there's lots of information about how you can follow me on Instagram. I have 20% off of an app where I give confidence lessons, actually in the Marigold app or you can come coach with me one-on-one. As always, my friends, take what sticks to you. Leave the rest podcast. I would love it. If you give us a five-star rating, share it with your friends. If you're interested in one-on-one coaching, if this podcast resonates with you and you're ready for some one-on-one support support for you and your journey go ahead to nandikamilcom to learn more, or head over to nandikamilasme to sign up for your free discovery call.