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Embracing Life's 50-50 Balance

• Nandi Camille • Season 7 • Episode 21

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Ever found yourself wondering why you can't achieve perpetual happiness? You're certainly not alone. This fundamental question lies at the heart of our latest episode where we explore the transformative "50-50" concept – the liberating truth that life naturally consists of half positive emotions and half challenging ones.

The idea sounds deceptively simple, yet its implications are profound. When we release the exhausting pursuit of constant happiness, something remarkable happens: we experience freedom. By acknowledging that every human being – from celebrities to CEOs to your seemingly perfect neighbor – navigates this same balance of emotions, we can finally stop believing something is fundamentally wrong when we face difficult moments.

This episode arrives at a personal crossroads as I share my reflections on burnout, boundaries, and what's next for the podcast. As a high-achieving entrepreneur juggling multiple passions, I've been confronting these very questions myself – what stays on my plate, what goes, and how do I honor my energy while pursuing what lights me up? These vulnerable explorations connect directly to our 50-50 discussion, illustrating how embracing life's natural balance helps us make clearer decisions.

The beautiful paradox of accepting life's 50-50 nature is that it actually enhances our capacity for joy. When we stop fighting against inevitable challenges, we create space to fully appreciate the positive aspects we might otherwise overlook. As I often say, "Where your focus goes, your energy flows" – and recognizing life's natural equilibrium allows us to direct our attention more intentionally.

Ready to release the crushing pressure of trying to be happy all the time? This episode offers practical wisdom for embracing your whole human experience. Share your thoughts on social media or leave a review – I'd love to hear how this concept resonates with you!

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Speaker 1:

Hi, friends, and welcome to Believe Like a Boss. I'm your host Life Coach, nandi Camille. Join me as I teach you how to smash your goals and expand the possibility of your life through mindset management, spiritual alignment and authentic action. I'll teach you how to create what I like to call a life of thrive, with ease and authenticity. It's time to play with what's possible. Are you ready? Let's go time to play with what's possible.

Speaker 2:

Are you ready? Let's go. Hello, hello, hello. Welcome back to another episode of Believe Like a Boss. I'm your host, life coach, nandi Camille. All right, my friends, I'm fighting up a little bit. It feels like a head cold. We were in Montana to visit family and as we were heading back in, like the morning before we headed back, I woke up and I felt it in my throat and I felt it in my nose, and so I've been taking my vitamins, but I'm still fighting it off. So I sound a little bit under the weather today, but bear with me. There's going to be the last episode for season seven, my friends. I'll be back for season eight.

Speaker 2:

Tentatively, I will admit, I'm on the fence about coming back for season eight. There's a part of me that's like, oh my gosh, but we're going to have so much more to share, going after, going through the summer and all the things that I'm working on, like, oh my gosh, of course we're going to have so much to share. And there's another part of me that recognizes that I'm in a season of putting more on my plate right now. And if you've been following me on social media, I've been talking in my stories about burnout, how I've been experiencing burnout and how I am navigating that. Just being really honest about it. As a high achieving woman, as an executive and an entrepreneur, I have a lot on my plate, and I put that on my plate on purpose, not to prove to anybody, not to like be better than anybody. I just truly love all of the things that I do, and I love so many more things that I just don't even have time to do. And so now I'm in the season of navigating. What I want to take off my plate, what I want to keep on my plate, what boundaries do I need to set in order to feel my best? And so that is one of the things that I'm thinking about is okay, what does the podcast look like in the future? What does Donny Camille Life Coaching look like in the future as I continue to branch out as an entrepreneur in the various ways? Right? So this is the last episode of season seven, but I am anticipating coming back for season eight. As always, my friends, send me an email, hello at nandikamilcom.

Speaker 2:

If you ever have questions about any of the concepts here, go back. Catch up on the podcast, listen to some old episodes. There's a lot here for you and as I was looking back on the episodes, a concept that we're the concept we're talking about today is the concept of 50-50. And I know I've talked about it before, but when I was searching back through all of the episodes that I've ever done, which is well over 200 at this point 200 and something but as I was looking through all of them, I don't have one episode, at least I don't see. If you are an avid listener and you know better than I do, if you see it and I didn't see it where there's an episode specific to 50-50, let me know. But as I was looking through, I did not see an episode that was specific to what we're talking about today. So that's why we're going to talk about 50-50.

Speaker 2:

So the concept of 50-50, I originally got from one of my favorite coaches. Her name is Brooke Castillo. Brooke Castillo runs the Life Coach School out of Texas. I want to say that she is in Austin, but she's in Texas and she was one of my coaches, or has continued to be, rather, one of my coaches as I continue to grow. She's someone that I regularly learn from and love and she presented this concept to me for the first time the concept of 50-50. Now it is what it sounds like half and half, half and half of what, though? The concept has a life that is 50-50, meaning half of their lives are exciting, expansive, exhilarating, happy, calm, joyful, positive feeling emotions. And then you have 50% where it's negative feeling emotions right, bored, upset, angry, depressed, anxious and the concept goes that, no matter who you are, no matter what season you are in your life, your life is also 50-50. Your day is also 50-50. Now we might go through seasons where it feels more like oh, the bad side is more 70. The good side is more 30. I would agree with that, but on average, I found this concept to be very true in my life and the lives of my clients that life is 50-50. The reason why I love this concept and why I'm bringing it to you all today is not to. I think that originally, when friends hear it, they're like oh, that's actually kind of sad, like that, my life is going to be half sad and half happy. That is a sad concept, but what I love about it is it's really grounding.

Speaker 2:

When I first started this podcast, one of the very first concepts and topics we talked about is that there's no such thing as 100% happiness. 100% happiness, 100% of the time, and that often a lot of our sadness, anxiety, depression, frustration comes from us chasing 100% happiness comes from us believing that there is a place in the world, in the ether, that you can exist and be 100% happy 100% of the time. Now again, in a moment, can you be 100% happy, absolutely, when I'm eating some ice cream on a Sunday afternoon and I'm outside and my husband and I are playing Frisbee in the park? Yes, in the moment, I am 100% happy.

Speaker 2:

This concept, though, rather, is about zooming out just a little bit more than just like moment to moment, thinking about your life, looking at your life, that if you're a person that feels like your life is supposed to be 100% happy 100% of the time, it makes sense that when minor disturbances, when things that fall outside of your realm of expectation, when disturbances happen that it can really cripple us that, all of a sudden, we feel like we're a failure because something has gone wrong, that we're bad because we've experienced a failure, that we're somehow separate from other people, because we're not 100% happy 100% of the time. Right, that's the person that's walking around looking at me like how come they're happy. How come they're happy? How come they're happy? How come they're happy? How come they're happy? I'm not happy. Right With the reality is this is where the concept serves you.

Speaker 2:

Your life is 50-50 and every single person you come across, every person on the news, every person in a TV show, movies, whatever it is, flying first class out on an island, living on a yacht, whatever it is, living in a yurt in a field, living off the land, right, whoever they are, their life is 50-50. And that, when we can digest this concept, when we can really marinate in it, absorb it, take it in and truly believe it. I believe it only take what's next to you, leave the rest, my friends. But when I lean into that, when I recognize the truth of that, it takes the pressure off. It takes the pressure off of those moments where I feel frustrated. It takes the pressure off of those moments where I do make a mistake or I do fail, or I do feel just sad or just not as happy as I did, maybe a moment ago or in a different season.

Speaker 2:

When I remember that my life is 50-50,. I remember that this moment of boring frustration, upsetness, will pass. I love the phrase. This too shall pass right when we lean into. Sometimes my life is good and sometimes my life isn't. Again, the point is it takes the pressure off of needing to be happy all of the time, needing to prove that you're okay, everything is fine. Everything is fine all of the time. You're checking out and you ask them. They're like hey, how are you?

Speaker 2:

today and I say I'm doing well, or I'll tell them oh, I'm tired. I actually like to answer that question honestly when people ask me how are you? I don't go into all my details, but if I'm not having a good day, I'll say I'm doing all right. I'm a little tired, but I'm doing okay. I'm honest. My favorite people, though, are the ones where I ask them how are you today? They literally tell me you know, this is going really well. I'm almost done with my shift. I have four hours left till I'm done with the day. I'm a little tired. I've been on my feet all day, but, like you know, I'm just not really feeling like it's going that well. But you know, I'm going to go see my friend on Friday night, right, and they just tell me all these things that are going on.

Speaker 2:

Those are my favorite humans, because, for me, they have totally absorbed and are in the sentiment of yes, life is 50-50. Life is exciting. Life is frustrating, and just because I'm here at this job right now in the second, and I'm feeling maybe overworked and my feet hurt right now, it doesn't mean that I'm wrong or I'm bad or anything is going wrong. I'm looking forward to seeing my friend in a couple of days and I'm looking forward to this. Right, when we lean into, it's okay that right now isn't perfect, it helps us to zoom out. It's like when we were talking a few weeks ago about our fight, flight, freeze response. It gets us out of our oh, I always flip these too. You have your parasympathetic and your sympathetic nervous system right, so it gets you out of your fight, flight or freeze response and into your prefrontal cortex. When we recognize and lean into, life is 50-50. As always, my friends, take what sticks to you, leave the rest. Maybe you just marinate on this this week, maybe you just sit in this, maybe you observe your life. I'm like is Nadia right? Is this really true? Is my life really 50-50? I have just as much good in my life and I'm just not paying attention to it as all the quote bad in my life that I'm giving a lot more attention. To Remember that phrase where your focus goes, your energy flows right.

Speaker 2:

So if you're focusing on being 100% happy 100% of the time, it makes sense that you're upset when you have a moment of upsetness and, conversely, right where your focus goes, your energy flows. If you're always focused on what's going wrong, what's going wrong. What's going wrong, it makes sense why you're feeling upset. Focus on what's going right, not all the time, but just for a moment right now. Could you switch? Switch the train track in your brain what's going right, what is going well, right, where am I expanding, where am I exceeding? Just as much as we notice where we're failing or refreshing or behind, I want you to notice what's going well, like we talked about last week. How are you already successful right now?

Speaker 2:

Remember that your life is 50-50. There's nothing wrong with you. There's something wrong going on in your life and when I say quote wrong, it's just something that we didn't expect. Right. So check your expectations. When something goes quote wrong, it's usually something that we just didn't expect. I didn't expect that variable, I didn't expect that to not go the way I wanted it to Doesn't mean that you're bad, wrong or behind. Just means that it didn't fall in alignment with the expectation that you had. So maybe we shift your expectation. Don't lower your expectation. Shift your expectation. You get to have what you want, but maybe it comes in a different form than you anticipated. Right, take what's six. You leave the rest.

Speaker 2:

Your life is 50-50. You're doing really well. Keep flowing with life. Stop going upstream. Flow with the current of your life, Bloom where you're planted. My friends, I'm throwing all the metaphors at you. End of season seven. I'll see you in season eight. Hey friend, if you like this podcast, I would love it if you give us a five-star rating. Share it with your friends. If you're interested in one-on-one coaching if this podcast, I would love it if you give us a five-star rating. Share it with your friends If you're interested in one-on-one coaching. If this podcast resonates with you and you're ready for some one-on-one support support for you and your journey go ahead to nandikamilcom to learn more or head over to nandikamilasme to sign up for your free discovery call.