Hey there , when was the last time that you did something that you knew you shouldn't , but you did it anyway ? Think about it . We've all got something . I'm sure you know . There's a kind of tipping point where , even though you know better , you decide to go ahead and participate in that activity anyway . Sometimes throwing caution to the wind can feel empowering in the moment , in the sense that the rules don't apply , makes you feel like you are in control . It might be having that extra drink , staying up late , binge-watching a show or having another slice of pizza . Whatever it is late binge watching a show or having another slice of pizza , whatever it is . Even though you knew you shouldn't do it , you did it anyways . Maybe you went out with a group of people that don't have your best interests in mind . Or maybe you said yes to something that you don't actually have the bandwidth for . Whatever it is , you went ahead and did it anyway . Or maybe you didn't even stop long enough to even consider whether you should or shouldn't and instead just acted impulsively and then , in retrospect , you felt the shame shower pour over you .
Speaker 1Knowing that something isn't good for you and then doing it anyway is not only common , but it's a kind of self-sabotage . When we do things for immediate gratification , the inevitable regret and shame , the personal berating , the oh my God , what did I do ? Why , why , why did I do that ? Instead of connecting with your higher purpose and your deeper why , you are mired in asking yourself over and over again why on earth did I do that ? Did I do that ? So not only did the thing cause regret and shame , but now it's taking up time in your head . It's making it difficult to get back on track . What you thought was going with the flow was actually more like drifting down the river like a free-riding stick that ends up at the bottom of the river on a bank , drenched , waterlogged , exhausted and wondering where the hell you are . It becomes so much harder now to get back to where you were in order to actually continue moving forward toward the dreams and goals that you have .
Speaker 1So listen , guys if this is you , you're not alone . But there's an antidote to this , and you've heard me say it before You've got to slow down . Slow down before you make your decisions . Slow down and check in with yourself . This shame and regret that you feel afterward is simply a reminder that you have values , and it's not that you're weak , it's that you're going too fast . You're just going too fast . You're just going too fast . So I encourage you when you're feeling good because this usually happens when you're feeling pretty good when you're feeling good slow it down a little bit .
Speaker 1Before you make any quick decisions , check in with your values , ask yourself does this align with my values ? And if it does , well then you've got choices . You can think about the external things . You can think about the aftermath . You can connect with all of those things and you can handle them , especially if what you chose to do was connected to your value . If you were to wake up the next morning feeling really tired because you stayed up too late doing something that was of great value to you , the tiredness is not going to go away , but the knowing that it was worth it , because it was something that was of great value to you , makes it handleable . But if you wake up the next morning and you feel simply mired in those whys like that stick way downstream on the side of the bank , all waterlogged and lost , well then you know Slow down , take your time . You guys , you've got this . You're not weak , you're just going too fast . This , you're not weak , you're just going too fast . I'm Lisa Hopkins . Thanks so much for listening . No-transcript .