Hey there . This week's Insight started with a conversation about writing , but quickly became about something much deeper . In this moment from a recent coaching session , we explore how easily we can lose ourselves in the expectations of others and how , anchoring into our why , our purpose can shift everything . If you've ever felt the pressure to show up a certain way because it's what others expect , or even what you expect of yourself , this is your reminder that your best is allowed to look different every day . Let's dive in .
Speaker 2I would have said the same thing , but not about writing , but about living . I mean , just think about what you just said and think about life and think about right Living , based on the notes that you get from others about the way they think you should be living , because they care about you or they care about the story , or blah , blah , blah , yeah . And if you forget your why , or if you don't have your why or haven't stopped long enough to understand that you deserve a why and we all have one , right ? You
know , um , and it's it's ever evolving , so it's not like suddenly you're going to clear the decks and oh , there it is .
Speaker 2You know , there are a lot of people who are like I don't know , I don't have a purpose , and then they get freaked out and then the goal becomes I have to have a purpose as opposed to right . You know what I mean as opposed to . You know what I mean as opposed to actually , like you know , exploring and , and , and , and finding , finding what , what lights you up , and so on and so forth . So I just want to say what you said was like textbook about life .
Speaker 3Oh , I love that . I mean , that makes sense , because it's it's always about the why .
Speaker 1Always .
Speaker 3Why is anchor ?
Speaker 2in everything , because if you have the why , then you can go about the how there we go .
Speaker 3Oh , I love that . I love that .
Speaker 2The how depends on the why yeah , because and and the how is is just where you actually . You know you get practical , you make choices and you know you figure it out . But if you're connected to your why , then the how reveals itself and it's easier to choose , because there's an infinite ways of how to do things . How you would do it would be different than me . How you would do it today is going to be different than how you
would do it tomorrow , next month , exactly . You know it's so contextual and you know , I think we as humans , we are contextual , like , yes , we are in different contexts , but we are also ourselves different in every moment , and I think that's so important to know .
Speaker 3Completely . Every relationship , every circumstance , every setting like . We're different , but we . That doesn't mean we're any less of who we are . It's just like you , Correct ?
Speaker 2And we're also different in the same circumstances , we're still different . This is work I do . My dream is to work with creative teams going on a project , right , Like . Imagine going into a movie set , say , and everybody could have a language where they could speak and connect to how they're going to be the most effective that day , that hour , in this scene , as opposed to always being expected by self and by others .
Speaker 2You were hired to do this . This is what you're good at . You need to do it now , but you're contextualized right , so you'll be able to pull it out because , yes , you can do that , but your best is not going to look the same today as it did yesterday . Necessarily , it might , but it's always going to be slightly different . Now we overshadow
ourselves with our strengths because , A people expect us to show up that way and B we like showing up that way because it works Right way , and B we like showing up that way because it's you know it works . But what about all the other aspects of us that when , when , it's more difficult to to do that , you know ? And so my dream is that we all have a language that we can speak , where it takes something as intangible as perception and make it tangible so that you can identify whether you're choosing it consciously or by default because you're used to it . That is fascinating , Right yeah .