Hey there , in this week's Coaching Insights , we unpack what it means to truly own your worth without performing it , proving it or apologizing for it . Let's dive in . We're in service of delivering the story . That's what people are hiring us for . We think that we are there to show how good we are and they're there to tell us how good we're not , which is totally not true , but right , totally how it feels . So it would be natural that you would go in there and say , yeah , badass is good , and um , and people tell me I'm a badass , so I'm gonna be the badass , without just realizing I am a badass and I am sensitive and I am .
Speaker 1These are all parts of you , right , it's the parts of you that make you valuable , not only as a human being , but in your profession , like really so much so . And I think it's that putting on a hat . I can wear this hat , you could . You could wear gazillion hats , but can you be ? Can you tap into that part of you ? That is that . Do you know what I mean ?
Speaker 1And then there's the other overarching thing , which is that when you're standing there , it's a difference between confidence and cockiness , and the confidence is internal . It has
nothing to do with what people say about you . That doesn't make you confident . What makes you confident I mean confidence is a result . Confidence is a result of going through difficult things and realizing that you are totally competent and right things , and realizing that you are totally competent and right . So when you think about where you are in your career now , it's not resting on your laurels , it's not bragging if you've done it and it's written on your resume . So you don't need to say it , but you do . You need to believe it . You don't need to prove it . So instead of saying to them I don't know what's the matter with me , just remind yourself owning it but not owning it to don't know what's the matter with me , just remind yourself owning it but not owning it to prove it . That's the distinction .
Speaker 1I think we all think that owning it means I like this shirt . I don't care if you don't like teddy bears , I'm wearing this shirt and I look good , versus just wearing the shirt . I'm wearing this shirt , I'm not worried what you think wearing the shirt . I'm wearing the shirt , I'm not worried what you think about the shirt . Do you know what I mean ? Like ? It's such a big distinction because it's that impulse and isn't that we come by it naturally , like we do . So don't kick yourself . Just , in fact , these trip ups , these things that happen , these negative things , these stories , whatever , they're all teachers too ,
and so when they come up , we can welcome them and invite them in , and invite the monsters in and say , hey , maybe we should sit down and have a dialogue and figure out why are you here ? You know what I mean . Like what's going on and we did that right , even with the gremlin right . It's like why are you here ? It's interesting that you're showing up . It just gives us more choice .