A Fight Worth Fighting: A Marriage and Family Podcast

😳Do you have a Back-Up Plan?

April 05, 2023 A Marriage and Family Podcast By Amanda Borrego
A Fight Worth Fighting: A Marriage and Family Podcast
😳Do you have a Back-Up Plan?
Show Notes

Time to Throw Away Your Back-up Plan 

Our guest this week shares that being married young was only the beginning of the obstacles they faced.  For her, she always felt as though she needed a “back-up plan.”

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I recorded our first episode in the middle of what could have turned into a big, ugly fight over a cardboard box. Yes. Really. 

I am not here to give you advice because trust me- I do not have it all figured out! There have been many days where we have wondered if our marriage is going to make it. 

On this podcast we will seek the advice from husbands and wives whose marriages have stood the test of time and I ask them one question: Was there ever a time you wanted to call it quits, separate, or get a divorce? If so, how did you make it through it?

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It wasn’t until about 10 years into their marriage that she had to give it all to the Lord and confront her back-up plan. From then on, her entire mindset around her marriage changed. 

The thing is, for anyone who comes from divorced parents, there tends to be this idea that they need a back-up plan. A safety net, if you will. A way to not get hurt. 


The motivator for this is almost always to protect themself from hurt. But the reality is, you will never ensure complete protection from pain. Your greatest form of protection comes from the Lord. 


"Your back-up plan is hurting you and your spouse."


In this week’s episode I interview Melody Jacobs. A mother of five who is passionate about her marriage, her kids, and seeing women find their potential. We talk all things marriage and what having a “back-up plan” is actually doing to you.


Married for 25 years, Melody and her husband are overflowing with wisdom to share. High school sweethearts, they got married at a young age. When I asked Melody if there was ever a time in her marriage when she didn’t think it’d work out, she replied “yes!” 

This week I encourage you to check yourself, do you have a back-up plan for your marriage? Does your spouse? Sometimes the reality is that this back-up plan is in the subconscious. There’s a subconscious need to protect and, until you confront it, your marriage will never reach its full potential. 


God is big enough to change your heart, your spouse’s heart, and your marriage. The best thing you can do is align yourself with who the Lord wants you to be. If you do this, when trouble comes in – which it will – you will be centered and unshakeable. 


By making it clear you do not have a back-up plan you are bringing stability to your marriage, your household, and even you.