From Snowy Sweden to Helmand: Real British Military Life, Family, Rugby & PsyOps Stories

Authentic British military and life stories from the 1970s–2010s: Germany postings, PsyOps/Int, Afghanistan & Iraq prep, plus rugby, skiing, and family—told with humour, heart, and hard-won lessons. Expect true-to-life deployments, Sergeants’ Mess mayhem, and snapshots of real camaraderie. Subscribe for veterans’ stories, training insights, and on-the-ground adventures.

Join us for a powerful chapter of real British military life that spans family, tradition, and deployment prep. Christmas in Sweden brings five generations under one snowy roof—carols, skiing, sauna, and chaotic New Year’s Eve joy—followed by a heartfelt farewell to Olaf and Greta. Then it’s straight back to Chicksands: pre-deployment training, Int & PsyOps briefings, and the admin machine in full roar.

We lift the lid on building modern PsyOps/Int training, sprinting between PJHQ, MOD Main Building, and even Vauxhall Cross—turning raw intel into practical packages for Helmand and Kandahar. By early 2006, Camp Bastionrises from the dust; Lashkar Gah becomes home base; and the British Task Force readies to move. It’s the truth of service: duty and family, grief and laughter, rugby bruises and parade-square pride—the rhythm that keeps soldiers human.

If you love authentic veterans’ stories, Germany postings (’70s–’10s), rugby & skiing, and the nuts-and-bolts reality of PsyOps radio, training, and deployment, this episode is for you.
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Transcript

Christmas morning found five generations of us crammed into the little village church, the pews packed so tightly you’d think we’d staged a regimental reunion. Olaf and Greta sat proudly at the front, with children, grandchildren, and even great-grandchildren fidgeting in rows behind them. Medals and wrinkles, toddlers and teenagers—it was all there, stitched together in one noisy, lopsided family hymn.

The service was simple but beautiful. Candles glowed, voices rose, and the snow outside the stained-glass windows made the whole scene feel like something out of a storybook. Five generations under one roof, singing the same carols, sharing the same glances—it was enough to make even the toughest of us misty-eyed.

Afterwards we spilled out into the snow, a procession of boots and laughter. Little Hanna announced at full volume that she’d seen Santa hiding behind the church, which set the kids off in shrieks while the rest of us tried not to collapse with laughter.

The days that followed were a blur of skiing and sledging, five generations tumbling down the slopes together. Johan charged ahead like a man half his age, only to be overtaken by his grandchildren before the first bend. The little ones squealed with delight, the parents shouted encouragement, and the grandparents chuckled from the safety of the café terrace.

Evenings brought the sauna, the snow roll, and then hot chocolate—or aquavit, depending on your age and nerve. The lodge rang with stories, board games, and laughter spilling across every room.

By the time New Year loomed, we were tired, bruised, and blissfully happy. Five generations together—living proof that no matter how far we’d scattered, we could always come back to one roof, one fire, and one family.

New Year’s Eve at the lodge wasn’t so much a celebration as a full-scale assault on the senses. Five generations under one roof, and every last one determined to see midnight in properly. Stefan had stockpiled enough food to feed a battalion, Sven had brewed a vat of spiced glögg big enough to float a canoe, and the rest of us were armed with fireworks, party hats, and a reckless disregard for volume control.

Dinner was chaos of the best kind—plates passed back and forth, glasses clinking, and a chorus of conversations overlapping so wildly it sounded like a marketplace. Toasts came thick and fast: to absent friends, to present company, to the year gone, and the year ahead. By the third round of snaps, even Grandpa Olaf was on his feet, glass raised, smiling at the mayhem with eyes shining.

At eleven, someone found the board games again, which somehow turned into a generational showdown—grandparents vs. grandkids—with more cheating than a Cold War spy ring. Johan’s “moose” impression made another appearance during charades, and once again half the room collapsed in hysterics.

And then, finally, the countdown. Ten, nine, eight—the whole lodge on its feet, arms around shoulders, voices booming. At midnight, the sky outside exploded in fireworks, colours painting the snow while we roared “Gott Nytt År!” to the mountains. Children squealed, champagne corks flew, and for a moment the world outside the lodge didn’t exist—just us, together, safe, loud, and deliriously happy.

We sang, we danced, we hugged until cheeks hurt. Five generations ringing in the New Year under one snowy roof in Sweden—chaotic, beautiful, unforgettable.

Of course, we didn’t know then that it would be our last New Year with Olaf and Greta. Just before Easter, they both passed peacefully in their sleep—within days of each other, as if even in death they couldn’t bear to be apart. The news hit us like a silent avalanche, sudden and heavy, leaving the lodge in our memories brighter than ever and achingly out of reach.

But there was beauty in the farewell. The entire family made it back to Sweden, gathering in the same village where so many of our stories had begun. Beneath a low winter sun, we walked together to the little church, four generations side by side, to honour the two people who had held us all together for so long.

The service was heartfelt and deeply moving. Tales were told—of love, of resilience, of endless hospitality. Laughter threaded through the tears, because it was impossible to speak of them without remembering the warmth, the stubbornness, and the way they made every visitor feel like family.

And so we said goodbye—with music, with stories, and with more hugs than handshakes. Two of the kindest souls the world had known were laid to rest together, leaving us not empty, but full—of memories, of gratitude, and of the knowledge that they would never be forgotten.

After the service, we returned to the lodge—the place that had been their kingdom for so many years. The snow lay heavy on the roof, smoke curled from the chimney, and stepping inside felt like stepping straight into their embrace. Tables were laden with food, as if the kitchen itself had remembered their touch and knew what was needed.

We crowded in—four generations once again—filling every chair, every corner. Plates passed hand to hand, mugs clinked, and the air was thick with stories. Some were funny, some brought tears, but all of them painted the same picture: two lives lived fully, generously, and with more love than most of us could dream of.

Laughter broke through the grief, as it always does. Someone remembered Greta’s way of scolding with a smile, someone else told of Olaf’s stubborn streak with the firewood, and before long the whole room was chuckling through damp eyes.

It was emotional, heartfelt, and exactly what they would have wanted—family together, food shared, love spoken aloud. They were gone, yes, but the lodge still echoed with them. In every story, every smile, every hug that night, Olaf and Greta lived on.

Back at Chicksands, sentimentality was quickly replaced by the usual military machine. The moment our boots hit camp, it was back to relentless pre-deployment training, endless courses, and briefings that spawned more briefings like particularly aggressive rabbits. The schedule was so packed you needed two diaries, a wall chart, and a mild sedative just to keep track.

New faces kept arriving, each one needing to be trained, integrated, and somehow convinced that PowerPoint could be a weapon. The machine never slowed, never paused, never cared that some of us were still carrying the weight of loss. It just churned on—and so did we.

Amid all that, real life still had to be lived. Families needed us, laundry piled up like sandbags, and somewhere in the background lurked gym memberships that had long since expired. It was a juggling act—helmets in one hand, home life in the other—and God help you if you dropped either.

But that was the rhythm of it. Duty and family, chaos and quiet, back and forth like the tide. We learned to hold both—grief and laughter, work and love—because that’s what kept us human, even as the machine demanded more.

With our contracts set to expire at the end of September, our focus naturally began to shift to the future. Plans were forming, ideas tossed around over late-night coffees and slightly burnt toast—track days, family time, maybe even a business venture or two. For once, it felt like we were easing off the throttle.

But just as we started to look ahead, Afghanistan reared back onto the radar with a vengeance. We’d taken our eye off the ball slightly—blame it on birthday hangovers, funeral fatigue, or maybe just the lure of a quieter life. Thankfully, the Int Cell hadn’t blinked. My team and Marlin’s were sharper than a Gurkha’s kukri, and it was them who spotted the storm gathering.

The CO didn’t waste a second. We were summoned to his office, where he gave us that look—the one that said, this is either going to be interesting or very expensive. Within the hour, we were bundled into a pool car, pointed first toward PJHQ and then MOD Main Building, with orders to dig into the current situation and report back.

So much for winding down. Our so-called exit plan was suddenly looking more like a wind-up—and Afghanistan, as ever, promised to be nothing if not complicated.

A few days later, after tearing through maps, satellite imagery, intercepted chatter, and a suspicious number of biscuits, we finally had a clear picture of what was brewing in Kandahar and Helmand. The Taliban were flexing their muscles—and not in a gym sort of way. They were actively probing NATO forces, mostly American units, with the odd British SAS team stirring up dust behind enemy lines.

This wasn’t just another patch of desert, either. This was the poppy heartland of Afghanistan. Where the poppies grow, the heroin flows—and from there, straight into a tangled web of global chaos. It wasn’t just firefights and ambushes we were looking at. It was an economy of war, funding networks that stretched from Kabul to Europe’s streets.

We pulled it all together—slides, maps, a few carefully chosen words—and briefed the CO, the Ops team, and the team leaders. Everyone listened, nodded, and did that serious military face thing that says, “Right. This is getting interesting.”

The mood shifted immediately. What had begun as another round of background noise was suddenly front and centre. Afghanistan wasn’t just back on the radar—it was blinking red.

Two days later, we were summoned back to the CO’s office—always a bit like being called to the headmaster, only with better tailoring and worse coffee. He gave us that look, the one that mixed exhaustion with hope, and came straight out with it:

“Right. I want you four to stay on. I’m offering a new five-year contract—run the Training and Int Cell, full rein, carte blanche. You’re too valuable to lose.”

I raised a diplomatic eyebrow and asked, “Can we talk it over, sir?” He didn’t even flinch. In fact, he was clearly prepared for it. With a small wave towards the sofas, he said, “Use my office. Call me back in when you’ve decided.” Then, to our surprise, he walked out of his own office—probably muttering about consultants and their outrageous negotiating power.

So there we were—four veterans perched on the CO’s leather sofas, staring at each other like teenagers caught cheating on an exam, only this time the question was bigger: five more years. Afghanistan on the horizon. Families waiting at home. Futures hanging in the balance.

We were 48, heading for 49 by Christmas, and—though we’d never admit it out loud—still lean, mean, and deceptively fast up a set of stairs. We’d been around the block more times than a pizza delivery van, but the thought of going back to Afghanistan? That still stirred something.

We all agreed quickly enough: Afghanistan, yes. Iraq, absolutely not. We’d done our time in the sandbox and weren’t going back to chase shadows round Basra. There’s only so much heat, dust, and déjà vu a body can take.

So, we called the CO back into his own office. He grinned like he’d known our answer all along, nodded once, and promised to get the paperwork rolling. “In the meantime?” he said. “Start planning. We need answers, and we need training packages—fast.”

Back in our own office, we armed ourselves with mugs of strong coffee and a whiteboard that had seen things it would never recover from. Pens squeaked, ideas flew, and we kicked off a proper brainstorming session. By the end of the day, our initial concept of operations was sketched out in bright colours and bad handwriting—the first step on yet another road none of us had quite expected to walk again.

First things first: we needed fresh intel from boots that had just come off the ground. So, we made a couple of calls to Hereford—where the phone’s never answered with a name, just a grunt—and arranged a visit to sit down with some of the lads who’d just rotated out of Helmand.

Going back to Hereford was like stepping into a time capsule—same smell of boot polish and cordite, only with better security gates and more cameras watching your every move. We bumped into a few familiar faces—some looking older and harder, some still inexplicably youthful, as if the years had forgotten them. The handshakes were firm, the humour dark, and the stories raw.

For three days straight, we lived on brews and briefing notes, debriefing and listening, scribbling furiously, and absorbing everything we could about the terrain, the enemy, and the new rhythm of the fight. No fluff, no PowerPoint—just blunt truths from blokes who’d been there last week.

By the end of it, we had what we came for: a brutally clear, ground-level view of Helmand, and a sharpened sense of exactly what we were walking back into. It wasn’t pretty, it wasn’t polished, but it was real—and that was all we needed.

Next stop on our Magical Mystery Tour of High-Security Briefing Rooms was PJHQ, followed swiftly by the MOD Main Building, and—because apparently someone was ticking boxes—we even ended up at the Foreign and Commonwealth Office. By some miracle, our Strap-level clearances were still intact, and we hadn’t lost our passes—no small victory, considering how often our lot misplaced car keys.

The doors opened, the folders slid across the tables, and suddenly we were swimming in the latest intelligence and inner-circle gossip. It was cloak-and-dagger theatre at its finest—maps, whispers, and acronyms piled so high you needed a glossary to keep up. Just when we thought it couldn’t get any more surreal, an invitation landed for Vauxhall Cross. Yes—that Vauxhall Cross. MI6 headquarters.

Now, forget the Bond films—there were no gadgets, no Aston Martins, and not a tuxedo in sight. But there was an eerily polite man named “Charles” who may or may not have been timing our blinks. The tea was decent though—better than MOD standard, which is saying something.

Armed with all this shiny new intel, we marched back to Chicksands, locked ourselves in the office, and set to work. Coffee on drip feed, whiteboards at the ready, we began crafting a brand-new brief and training package for those about to deploy to Helmand or Kandahar. Think of it as Afghanistan: The Director’s Cut—Extended Edition with Bonus Features.

By late 2005, our freshly sharpened training programme was paying off, and we had a team primed to deploy as soon as operations kicked off. We weren’t slotted into the team proper, but we made it clear we intended to get out there early—boots on the ground, eyes open. You can only squeeze so much truth out of a PowerPoint slide, after all.

So, we threw ourselves into the pre-deployment package alongside 4 2 Commando. Now, that was humbling. Those lads moved like greyhounds with hand grenades—fast, precise, deadly. We… well, we moved more like people rediscovering knee cartilage and making peace with ibuprofen.

Still, we kept up. Just about. Enough that by the end of the week we’d earned ourselves a sliver of respect—or possibly just pity. Either way, it counted. They stopped looking at us like the “leaflet fairies” and started seeing us as part of the machine.

And that was the point. If we were going to send people into Helmand with our training rattling in their heads, then we needed to prove we could hack it alongside them. Respect is never given in units like that—it’s sweated for.

Remembrance that year hit us harder than usual. It was our first without Greta and Olaf. Their absence was like a silence that lingered behind the bugles, the parades, and the salutes—a gap only we could truly feel. Standing there in our Number Twos, medals catching the November light, it was impossible not to think of them and the years they’d been part of this rhythm.

We made the hard decision not to travel to Sweden that Christmas. Instead, we asked the Swedish side of the family to come to us. It felt right: a noisy house full of grandchildren, meatballs, and awkward cross-cultural board games was exactly the tonic we all needed. The laughter would patch the silence, if only for a little while.

And if we were honest, there was another reason. We didn’t quite know when the call to deploy would come. Bags were half-packed, passports tucked in ready, and even as the tree went up, rucksacks sat in the corner—waiting. It was Christmas, yes, but the shadow of Afghanistan was already in the room with us.

By early 2006, Camp Bastion was rising out of the Helmand dust like some steel-and-canvas mirage. Kandahar Air Base was already a hive, and the British Task Force—3,300 troops strong—was gearing up for its grand arrival. The headquarters element would anchor itself at Lashkar Gah, the dusty jewel in Helmand’s questionable crown. That’s where our team was slated to work—prime real estate, if you enjoy incoming fire and plumbing that sounds like it’s plotting against you.

For us, it was all waiting games. Bags sat by the door, boots polished for about five minutes before the dust got them, and passports checked so often you’d think we were heading on holiday rather than into Helmand. Every ring of the phone felt like it could be the call.

And then, finally, in April 2006, it came. Wheels up from Brize Norton, squeezed in with part of 4 2 Commando. Bahrain was a blur of sweat and briefings, then onto a C-17 for the final hop.

As we approached Bastion, the desert spread beneath us like the surface of Mars—hostile, endless, and whispering its own brand of welcome. Welcome back.

Flying into Camp Bastion in daylight was like watching a war movie still being built. From the air it looked as though someone had dropped a giant Lego set in the middle of the desert and shouted, “Right lads, figure it out!” The runway was fully functional—thank God, since we needed it—but the rest of the camp looked like a very determined, slightly overwhelmed DIY project.

Tents were sprouting everywhere. Massive canvas beasts for galleys and cookhouses. Dinky ones for accommodation. Medium-sized ones for offices, stores, and the indecisive who couldn’t pick a side. Our accommodation was the latest modular design—like sand-coloured Nissen huts going through an identity crisis.

Still, they had linings and—miracle of miracles—air conditioning. The larger structures looked like something a sandworm might crawl out of, but step inside and it was blissfully cool. Luxury, Afghan-style.

From above it looked chaotic, but on the ground you could feel the rhythm—Bastion was alive, growing by the day. It wasn’t pretty, but it worked. And for the next few months, it was home.

Helmand itself was a different world altogether. Outside the dusty sprawl of Lashkar Gah, it was like stepping into a biblical landscape—only with more Kalashnikovs and satellite dishes. Everything felt ancient and improvised all at once.

Every building seemed cut from the same cloth: compacted mud. Villages huddled behind thick ten-foot walls that gave them the look of medieval fortresses—if medieval fortresses had goats, satellite TV, and the odd motorbike buzzing past. It was timeless and surreal in equal measure.

Our headquarters had claimed a couple of abandoned compounds, lashed together with the ingenuity only military engineers and a lot of sandbags could conjure. It wasn’t glamorous, but it held.

At least it didn’t collapse during a dust storm—which was more than we could say for our first attempt at a tea station. The urn went over, the sugar disappeared into the sand, and we spent a week drinking something that tasted like dishwater with grit. A harsh introduction, but very Afghan.