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252. The Body Remembers: Healing Your Nervous System
This week is a solo where I talk about dating and relationships and using them as mirrors for your inner work.
In this episode, I talk about:
- Sagittarius Full Moon
- The subconscious
- Relationship as mirrors
- Jupiter in Cancer
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Welcome to the Rochelle Christiane Podcast, formerly the Emotional Mastery Podcast. I'm Rochelle, your host. I'm here to help you come back to your body, take charge of your emotions and live life on your terms. This podcast is a space for raw, real conversations about what it means to trust yourself, lean into your power and create a life that feels aligned and alive. We'll explore human design, astrology and other tools to help you understand your unique energy. More importantly, though, we're going to talk about what it means to actually live and embody these aspects. So each week, I'm going to share stories, lessons, guidance to help you navigate life's challenges and really own your magic. So if you're ready to step up, take control and show up as the most authentic version of you, let's begin. Welcome back to another week, another episode on the podcast.
Speaker 1:I'm recording this today on the full moon in Sagittarius. I totally messed up the dates on all my social media posts. I put the 12th, but it is the 11th. When this episode comes out, it's the 12th and the full moon will happen yesterday, but I have been feeling so energized with this moon and I the last two nights I've not been able to sleep like at all, and that's not normal for me. I'm usually pretty good about sleep. In general. I actually sleep really, really great. Actually, yesterday I slept until 1122 in the morning, which is unheard of. But I was like tossing and turning all night and then last night, literally around the full moon, I could not sleep. And then I checked my chart and the full moon was at 20 degrees of Sagittarius. My Uranus is at 21 degrees of Sagittarius and Uranus is shock. It is the nervous system, it is the electrical system in the body. So it is like makes sense that I could not sleep. But yeah, this moon has just felt really supportive. And the thing with Sagittarius, specifically when it comes to like a Sag moon or emotional experience with Sagittarius, because it is ruled by Jupiter, it can be very much like onto the next type energy, not necessarily wanting to sit with the discomfort of what's going on right, not necessarily wanting to sit with the discomfort of the emotional experience. So it's kind of optimistic, annoyingly so a little bit in that way. And yeah, it's just felt this little cycle here has felt very sad moon.
Speaker 1:I got my nose pierced and I was thinking, was that due to like the sad moon? But then I realized mars is moving over my moon and my ascendant. Your ascendant is like how people perceive you, how people see you. It's your appearances, is your physical body. So this actually makes more sense. When it comes to mars, on my ascendant, and I'm actually not sure the exact degree that mars is at currently, but that is a really quick fix. I can check that out right now because it would make sense if Mars was literally at no. Mars is at 26 degrees of Leo, so it's actually not even close to my ascendant. I'm at 12 degrees.
Speaker 1:But anyway, total side note, jupiter did move into cancer, so this is starting a new cycle. If you look back to what it was doing, 2013 to 2014, that is the last cycle that Jupiter was in cancer. Jupiter takes about 12 years to circle the sun, so these are 12 year cycles. So, if you journal or if you just remember what was happening around that time, for me it was really interesting because that was the time I moved to Italy, got divorced and moved back to the US. So that was really a lot of relational stuff. And you know, jupiter rules Sagittarius.
Speaker 1:Sagittarius, for me, is in the fifth house and it's also the traditional ruler of Pisces. Pisces, for me, is in the eighth house, which is sort of like merging souls, it's sexuality, things like that, and I do remember at that time was when I first read that like Hold 50 Shades of Grey series, and I was like, well, my relationship is even close to like the intensity of this. Granted, I was in my 20s and young and had no idea about much and my life has completely changed since then. But if you look back to that cycle and just look where cancer is in your chart, I have cancer in the 12th house and so this is things unseen is spirituality. This is losing myself and others. Of course there's an element of addiction when it comes to Pisces, that sort of energy of losing yourself and others, because it can be really hard to like be in this 3d.
Speaker 1:And what I noticed a lot of times reflecting over the last few weeks my kids haven't been here and I have noticed myself drinking a little bit more. My kids haven't been here and I have noticed myself drinking a little bit more just really kind of reflecting a lot on my emotional experience, which I do a lot clearly because I'm highly emotional, and I was talking to a friend about medication, about antidepressants, anxiety medication, all the things, and I've never taken them before, but there have been quite a few points in my life where I've wondered if I should and I've done a lot of work around self-acceptance. I've done a lot of work around who I am, loving myself, self-awareness, self-worth, like all of that stuff. And I have my moon square Pluto in the 12th house. So my moon is in Leo, but it's in the 12th house, in Placidus.
Speaker 1:And I have done so much work to love and to be in awe sometimes of my emotional experience and the way that I experience the world. It doesn't always feel good, it's not always pleasant, but it is such a huge part of who I am and my fear, I suppose my thought process around taking antidepressants of any sort is would it dull or would it take away that part of myself? And it's this interesting duality where I wonder what it would be to show up in the world and feel neutral, not feel charged emotionally all the time. And also I just love the way that I view the world sometimes. Nothing is ever just what it is, right. A sunset isn't just a sunset. A sunset can make me cry. It could be so beautiful, right? Even just watching bees on a flower get me in the right mood and it's the most beautiful thing you've ever seen. So I do really really appreciate that part of my emotional experience, although it can be incredibly challenging, incredibly challenging.
Speaker 1:But since it is the Sag moon, I kind of wanted to talk a little bit about dating relationships. So last week on the podcast I had Krista Williams, so we talked about dating in our 30s and kind of what it was like, what the experience is like, and, yeah, I wanted to sort of elaborate on that a little bit as far as what I've learned over the last nearly eight years of being single and dating. And of course there have been moments where I'm kind of over it, like I just want to find my person. And also I think that you know, sometimes some of us have longer journeys than others, whether it's in business, whether it's in relationship, whether it's whatever, sometimes we just have a longer process, we have a longer journey and when I look back to all the significant people and the way that I've reacted and responded and things that I've moved through and the work that I've done on myself, every single person has taught me something new about myself. It's been a reflection to where I'm at in my life and this is not to say like you can't do it in a committed relationship, because of course you can. We're always evolving, we're always growing Like.
Speaker 1:To think that you would get in a relationship with someone and that be the person that you experience for however long you're in that relationship is crazy, because we're always changing. Just think about, you know, human design. Like every single cell in our body changes every seven years. So you're literally have the potential to be a completely new human being seven years later. And I did an interview with Ken Close years ago on the podcast and he was saying every single second, there's something like that hundreds of thousands of new cells in your body that are waiting to be written. And we know that 97% of our being right is subconscious, is unconscious, and so 97% of those cells are waiting to be written. That's huge. So if you're doing the work, if you're actively doing the work and if you're actively meeting yourself in these places, you have the potential to be a radically different person. I mean tomorrow, in five minutes, right, like? I do believe that it can happen that quickly. And I do believe that it can happen that quickly and I do believe that sometimes it takes a lot of work, because the subconscious beliefs that we have can be sneaky, can be really hidden from us, and so it's again, it's just a matter of being with it and meeting it and meeting yourself. Where you're at I with Jupiter moving into Cancer.
Speaker 1:What I keep thinking is, for me, cancer is in my 12th house and this is all things hidden. This is, this is the subconscious, it's. Also, when we talk about the 12th house, we talk about like hidden enemies, and I can't remember what. What the author is the 12 houses. I think it's Stephen. No, I could be wrong about that, I'm not gonna. I'm not gonna quote who the author is. I apologize, I don't remember, but the book the Twelve Houses. He talks about the 12th house and this idea of like hidden enemies, and it's more so like the enemies inside of ourselves, like our own inner hidden enemies, and so we know Cancer rules the fourth house. It's about family, it's about nurturing. So this is sort of this double potential.
Speaker 1:My words are not coming to me, but Jupiter is giving us the opportunity. Of course, jupiter is expansion, it's luck, right, it's abundance, it's all these like optimism, all these sort of things, and so Jupiter is giving us the opportunity not only to nurture those around us who we see in our inner circle, our family and things like that, but it's also to like dive in and do that inner work, the inner parent, the reparenting inner child work, ancestral work, all that really kind of deep work. It's a water house, right. So of course there's an element of that for me personally. I have this in my 12th house, and so this is really not only doing that work but then adding in. So, of course, check in your chart where cancer is, and that house will have a huge impact on the work that you are able to do during this time, like that extra nuance of like how you might experience it.
Speaker 1:So the 12th house for me, like again things that I can't necessarily see every single cancer season just feels a little like disconnected for me, right, because it's like I can't always see it. We don't always see the 12th house energy until it's out of the 12th house. So, like with Saturn, we might be able to see the lessons of Saturn now, more so that it's in Aries than when it was in Pisces, right. So the lessons of Saturn in Pisces we might be experiencing more now that it's out than when it was in it and so checking where all of that is in your chart. But yeah, I think that when we can approach dating relationships in a way of it being a mirror and, of course, having regulation techniques, always because it can be really challenging, it can be really confronting, it can be really uncomfortable, it can be really scary, it can be really vulnerable, like all of the things that we don't always want to be experiencing and to be in. But I think if you have an ability to sort of zoom out and see it for what it is and see the potential of how it can change you and shift you.
Speaker 1:Like there's one person who I've cycled that's a terrible term cycled but who I had a really, really hard time getting over and I think it was just more so. The energy of the like, what if? Like it was very much what's's the word? There wasn't like closure, there was kind of like, always that question of like. I don't think that we gave it a fair shot, all those things, but when I look back at that I'll say relationship.
Speaker 1:I always felt rejected in a sense, and so I can appreciate that so much because it taught me to like, love myself and to give myself what I needed, because that person was not going to meet me where I was at, they were not going to be able to fill those things in me, so I really had to give them to myself. Like there would be nights where I and it really helped me get over my people pleasing because I have that has been a big lesson for me in my life is the people pleasing. But there were weekends where I was like hoping to be asked to do something, so I would like clear the evening in the hopes that it would be filled. And then when obviously the disappointment came in because I wasn't asked to do anything, I would just be like, what do I need in this moment? Like why do I want to go out with this person? Maybe it's to get out of the house, to just like whatever, and I would do that for myself. So it really really really taught me radical self-love. It showed me if I don't love myself, like I am the one who will show people how to care for me, and if I don't know how to do that for myself, how can anybody step up and do that? And there are still lessons that I'm learning.
Speaker 1:I'm realizing how dismissive I can be in relationships and so if you know of attachment styles, there have been, I think, a couple episodes on the podcast around attachment style, sarah Cohen. You can just Google attachment style and or not Google. You can type it into the search bar in the podcast and you'll see which episodes. But Sarah Cohen was on about attachment styles and I am fearful avoidant attachment style. But I noticed I lean way more towards dismissive, avoidant, because even like in a recent situation, I realized how much I sort of leave things for whoever I'm dating or interested in to show up rather than me showing up.
Speaker 1:There's a part of it where it's like I want to be my feminine, I want to be cared for, I want to be desired Like, I love feeling like that, and where it's like I want to be my feminine, I want to be cared for, I want to be desired Like I love feeling like that. And also it's always a mirror. I'm reading the Dark Side of Light Chasers and that's what she says. It's like anything that triggers you in someone else. You have to look at yourself and if you don't have those qualities, do you have the potential to have those qualities? We're not triggered by things unless we hold them in ourselves. And so when I get upset that maybe somebody isn't texting me, then I have to ask, like, am I texting that? Maybe they want me to text them and I'm playing like hard to get, or I'm putting more on them to energetically show up, and I'm just like sitting back and being like, well, fine, whatever.
Speaker 1:So it is like just noticing and that's, I think, the fun thing about it, even though it's really challenging sometimes. The fun thing about it is that every person is reflecting a part of you back and it gives you the opportunity to do the work around it. And so if you're a single, even if you're in a relationship, just notice those things right. Take some time to journal around. This is a practice that I did for a while and I still do. Now it's more so like brain dumping, but really notice when in your day you're triggered by something right and just really take the time. Be intentional about sitting and reflecting on that at night.
Speaker 1:Like what came up for me? How did it make me feel? Where in my body did I feel it? What does it look like? Like, get as detailed as you can about the thing that the, the, the energy inside of you, do something to move it, whether it's just take a few deep breaths, like just be with it. And yeah, you know, the body keeps the score.
Speaker 1:We've all heard of the book Most of us have, at least and it's so true and, as I was, this is like a silly example, but it was really. For me, little examples are always big, big lessons, I think they're they like reinforce big lessons. But when I was going to get my nose pierced so I've had multiple piercings in my life I've had, I mean, I have tattoos, I've had kids, like the whole thing, like I have a pretty high pain tolerance and I know this, I know this, but for some reason, so I, when I moved to Dubai, I was about seven years old, eight years old, and we had to go and get like over 10 shots and I remember like the doctors had to hold me down, I was screaming, I was crying. It was a whole big ordeal. And ever since then I've been terrified of needles. Yes, tattoos are needles, but there are many of them. They're small and they vibrate and you can't see them, and so that's just a whole different thing. It's the long, the long needles that really really get me, like every time I get my blood drawn, I get anxious, it's a whole thing and it doesn't even hurt that bad Right.
Speaker 1:But when I went to get this nose piercing yesterday, I was a little bit anxious. So I was like maybe it's my body telling me, no, but I've been sitting on, I've been wanting to do this for years and I haven't rushed it. So I was like okay, the fact that it keeps coming up with me and my emotional authority, it's a yes. So I was like okay, so I went and I'm I filled out the paperwork. I'm still like kind of anxious, sweating a little bit. I paid for it and in my head I'm just like wait, like I know there's no refunds. It says clearly in the paper no refunds. And I'm like okay, I'll just, I'll just bite it, it's fine, it's whatever, give it a good shot, whatever. And I'm sitting there and I'm like just sit it. So it's like it's always like the next best or the like what is the next nose? And I'm like freaking out. And she's like you have like two full sleeves. Why are you like so anxious? And I was like I don't know, it's good, like my mind had me convinced that this was going to be the worst pain of my life, even though everyone I've talked to is like, no, no, it doesn't even hurt at all. I was convinced this was going to be excruciating, and so it comes, comes time she's like, okay, lay down. And I lay down and I'm like you know what? I think I'm gonna check it out, I don't think I'm gonna do this, and my friend's like Rochelle, it's gonna be fine, I promise. I'm like no, no, no, I don't, I don't think I can do this.
Speaker 1:Literally acting like a child, like I was a little bit embarrassed afterwards for how anxious I was. And so I'm sitting there like gripping onto my friend, and she does it, and I was like it literally felt like the tiniest pinch. I was like that's it. And she's like, yeah, so, but you know that fear that my body held from that experience of the needles, like I blew it up, like my mind and my body got on board to create this experience where I literally my mind like I don't know I guess I thought I was going to die from this needle going through my nose and I had to like I had to breathe and I had to like look around and be like how many people in the world have their nose pierced. If it was that bad, people would not do it Right. And so I had to like, just like. Come back to myself and just like, okay, just do it, just do it. One, two, three go Right. And so I finally told the woman, because she was like I'm not gonna do anything till you tell me. I was like, just do it, just do it.
Speaker 1:But it is that like, whether the example is getting your nose pierced or whether the example is showing up to do something new or getting a new job or having a hard conversation, whatever it is that we hold, like our body will. Literally, our body holds the score, our body keeps the score, our body remembers these memories, even if we don't, and so it's. You know, we have all of these emotional experiences and then when we're triggered by something, it activates these emotional experiences. This is why nervous system regulation is so, so important, because the root of everything is in the body. Like the mind catches up real quick. The mind will attach to that and then it'll loop on these narratives of whatever was happening for us during that time. So it's like finding a way to regulate your nervous system, finding a way to like, and I know it's easier said than done Like I want to say, clear out your mind, which is not possible, but kind of just to call bullshit and to know that whatever narrative you have looping in your mind is not true.
Speaker 1:And I tell my daughter this all the time. She's dealing with a lot of anxiety and I try and tell her, like, the things that your mind is telling you are not accurate, they're not real, right, like, yes, it's not to invalidate your experience, because your experience is very real. The emotional, mental experience that you're having in this moment is very real, is real, right, but the narrative, the story that you're telling yourself is not real. And so the nervous system regulation piece is so important. Can you come in your body and just be with the physical sensations? Because that's how they are, it's just physical sensations in your body.
Speaker 1:Now, if you're in a situation, obviously, where you're not safe, then that's a whole other thing, right, but we get so stressed and we get so anxious and it's our mind thinks that we're not safe anymore. But it's like yesterday, sitting in that the piercing place, like I'm completely safe, nobody's chasing me, nobody's coming after me, I had food in my belly, I have a roof over my head, like I'm physically safe, and so that's when you know like right, this is like a looping narrative, this is a trauma response. This is something that happened before that is creeping up in sneaky ways now that wants to sabotage. So really getting into your body and understanding what your body is telling you. So I have a new program coming out. It's all about the emotional experience. It's going to be a six week container where we're going to go through the experience. It's going to be a six-week container where we're going to go through the wave. We're going to go through the solar plexus. We're going to go through what an actual emotional experience is, right Tools to self-regulate. We're going to go through the body, the PHS system in human design, about the body, just like coming into your body and really getting familiar with the sensations and rewriting those narratives that come up and like really supporting you in moving through that, because I think it is game changing when you actually can be in that space and support yourself and do that work. And so this program is starting July 8th.
Speaker 1:I will leave the link in the show notes if you want to join us. I also made the first module of holistic human design academy. So it's human design, astrology basics, transit, how to track the transits. That's all in one little mini course. I guess that you can purchase separate from holistic human design if you don't want to do the whole program Self-paced on your own. That is now available. I will also leave that in the show notes and, of course, one-on-one sessions are always available. Follow me on Instagram and TikTok at Rochelle Christian. That's R-O-C-H-E-L-L-E, dot C-H-R-I-S-T-I-A-N-E, and website is RochelleChristiancom. You can see all the offers on there. And YouTube Podcast is on YouTube. So if you'd like to watch it, you can head over to YouTube. And, yeah, come visit me on social media. If you're not there, follow me and I will talk to you next week. I hope this episode was supportive and I'm so grateful for listening. Whether it's your first time, whether you've listened to it, you know 100 episodes, 10 episodes, whatever. I'm just so grateful that you're here.