In today's episode we talk about the importance to continuing to try new things as we age. How our reactions and expectations as adults to new learning are far different than those we have as children and how to fight it.
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In today's episode we talk about the importance to continuing to try new things as we age. How our reactions and expectations as adults to new learning are far different than those we have as children and how to fight it.
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Strive Seek Find on Chancewhitmore.com
Hello there friends both old and new. It's been a while since we've last visited Welcome to strive seek fine podcast, I'm your host chance with strive seek find podcasts is home to bite sized lifestyle advice from a fellow traveler on the road to a better life. Brought to you by longtime educator, writer, parent, and outdoor enthusiast, because our future is set not just through our choices, but our willingness to explore and find a better way. So this week, it's the first episode of season three. Admittedly, it's been a long time coming. I did a few bonus episodes in July. But other than that, it's been kind of dark around here. I sat back with most of this time, and followed a little of my own advice. I was present with my family, I traveled a little bit. The month of July, I was gone as much as I was at home, between a family vacation, which you will hear something about in the next few weeks to helping a friend move to helping a family member. It was go go go for a while, while I was doing it. When I wasn't at work, I was trying some new things, and then came back around to some old ones. I'm looking at you writing, I focused on getting my mind right, and tried to find cool things to do. And because this whole process was restorative, it got my creative juices flowing again. Which leads me to the first question of our new season. Do you still like to try new things? Or is it all just variations on what you're already comfortable with? And is it getting harder to want to try something new? Now let's get started. While you're growing up, there is a expectation to try new things, call it cultural, calling it eventually they want you to be as productive member of society, call it anything you'd like. Obviously, part of this is because everything is new to a child. And there is so much to try to learn that as we get older, with our broad range of experience, things naturally begin to funnel towards things we perceive that we are either good at, or at least like and we begin to shy away from other things because of the negative perceptions we have of them. So back to that expectation. As kid you're expected to learn and develop skills constantly. And thanks to high neuroplasticity, it makes learning relatively easy. Relatively because when you're going through it, it still feels harder than hell. Think back to that time in your life. Can you imagine being allowed to try something once and being done with it forever? I know what happens. But I think it's the exception rather than the rule. I mean, it's not the norm, to have a kid go out to one athletic practice and decide he's done with the sport forever. Because he can't dunk like LeBron right out of the gate. Or did not learn to read because she didn't recognize the word dog right out of the gate. So pack it up and figure out that someone will always need to read for you. With children. We would consider this behavior ludicrous because we expect learning to be an incremental process for kids to fail on the first attempt. Because we keep in mind that eventually you're going to get better, maybe not be great, but get better. As we get older, and honestly more insecure. It changes whether it's wanting to stay in our own lane and focus our time and attention on things to make us feel successful. Or not wanting to feel shame or insecurity for not being great at something. Many of us just stop trying. Or we quit after one attempt declaring to the world it isn't what we're good at. Either way as we age, we are more likely to start throwing up barriers to new experiences. closed doors on opportunity East and generally start staying in the comfort of the straight ahead interstate lane that we've created for ourselves. And that's a damn shame. There's an aphorism out there that comfort can make us all cowards. And like anyone else, I do like to be comfortable. But missed opportunities and closed doors, in my opinion, lead to real negative outcomes. And forgive me while I while I pull out my best, I play a doctor on TV. Side effects may include regret, regret for the chances not taken and the experience you missed as you move into a time of your life, where you can't try them for 100 different reasons. And possibly more importantly, in my mind, as we get older, we naturally become more rigid. And one of the greatest ways to avoid that is to continue to try new things to keep learning keep growing. Otherwise you get rigid, and rigid things tend to shatter. Either way, the cure is much better than the disease that comes out of not trying. I don't feel like I'm alone in saying that this is something that I need to really work at. Because comfort zones are all too appealing. I hope you'll join me in striving to be more like our kids willing to try learn, to fail and to get better. Because it's only going through that that we have the ability to drink life to the lease as Tennyson put it, and keep seeking our own best life. How about you? What do you think? As we grow older? Are we more likely to grow rigid? Or are you still excited to seek out new opportunities? Please reach out let me know your opinion. Either on the Facebook group, or my emails in the show notes. Well, friends, that's it for episode 113 of strife seek fine. Thanks so much for tuning in. If you have episodes, suggestions or feedback, or just want to chat, join in on the strife seek find fete group on Facebook, and I'd love to have you join us there. 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