Strive Seek Find

It Takes a Tribe

May 10, 2021 Chance Whitmore Season 1 Episode 48
Strive Seek Find
It Takes a Tribe
Show Notes Transcript

Welcome to the Strive Seek Find podcast I’m Chance Whitmore.  As I record this, its Mother’s Day. So I’ll start out with gratitude to my mother and my wife. Both of whom have had to put up with me for much longer than anyone should.  

That being said, sometimes on days like these we  get trapped in narrow definitions and forget how many people truly help us raise our kids.   Hillary Clinton threw out that it “it takes a village” to raise a family.   I don’t truly think  you can even argue.   But today I wanted to acknowledge it

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Before I get started today, I want to ask a favor as you listen. If you like what you hear, please leave a review and share the episode. If you want to discuss anything from this episode, or any other, you can reach out on the strive seek fame page on Facebook, or @chancewhitmore5 on Twitter. Thanks. When someone is helping, do titles really matter? Welcome to strive seek find podcast five chance Whitmore. As I record this, it's Mother's Day. So I'll start out with gratitude for my mother and my wife. Both of them had put up with me for much longer than anyone should have had to. That being said, sometimes on days like these, we get trapped in narrow definitions and forget how many people truly helped us raise our kids, Hillary Clinton back in 96. Throughout the, it takes a village line that almost everyone quotes at one time or another to raise a family. I don't think you can even argue with this. But today, I want to acknowledge it. So let's get started. Today on the book of face in my memories, I came across one of my spring adventures from last year. One of many, I missed them not only because they were great fodder for episodes, because at the time, they were the only way my family had to see our support structure face to face. Well, at least in the back of truck to the back of the truck, while masked let you get the point. But other than that many of our support structures, large swaths of our family and friends were swept away and replaced by pixels on a screen. Now, as we start to get back to the people, and those structures are more available, it's more important than ever to acknowledge those people who make up your village. Because doing without made the job of raising a family even more complex and isolating. I'm going to start out with family. For most of us, this is the obvious loss out the front. For instance, grandparents, grandparents are on hand to laugh when parents want to yell or cry. Possibly This is how the human race has prevented himself from eating our young. Losing that for a year was tough on families. My daughters would cry and ask for Nana or grandma or one of the poppers. And we'd let him talk to him. But it's not the same, those relational pieces we're lacking. And those interactions, because the way you interact with grandma is completely different than how you interact with sister, brother, Mom and Dad. And that's kind of a stress relief. And without it, many kids let the pressure start to build within them. And you can't regain that time. But I will say the reunion at the end has been amazing. And obviously you've got your cousins. Oftentimes, there's some of the first friends you have. They're older than you, they're trail breakers for you. Younger, they look up to you, relationships like no other. And then we have the family you choose column, the tribe, the support structure, the pod, friends, whatever, it doesn't matter, the roles remain the same. These are the people who our kids turn to when they want to talk about things that mom and dad might be uncomfortable with. with at least one of my daughters, and not the one you're probably thinking the subject was voice. Because in my house, I have taught every girl to sing voice have words, boys have words, boys have words, and they're contagious. So they learned at an early age that this was something I had firm opinions are. So she was more comfortable talking to a family friend about it. It was easier than admitting to mom and dad that she had had those thoughts. And I'm kind of grateful for it because at least she's communicating with someone. Though admittedly, I could have waited until she was 30. But I think that's every dad have daughters everywhere. Lisa, the Finder of odd books, the stuff that won't be in your house, but probably exists in theirs. So they're only odd in your house, but it gives probably the best way to put this is the opportunity for your kids to expand their horizons in ways that you wouldn't have even thought of role models and fields that you're playing. Parents don't belong to whether it is, in my case, people outside of education, whether it's people in finance or business owners, or lawyers, or just about anything else. So they can see that other people live in different ways. And talk to them about it comfortably. There are people to adventure with, and test themselves with outside of the eyes of their parents. Because mom and dad are slowing down for the younger kids. You can rush ahead on a hike with another set of safe grownups. And what happens, you get to find out whether or not you can handle it without mom or dad hanging over your shoulder, asking if you can handle it. And that's powerful. That's a big part of growing independence with the scaffolding of a safe person nearby, these are the people who will drop everything and make the time to help our kids with sports, with homework with life problems. So functionally, you end up doubling the number of role models and helpers that you have with this family, outside the genetic family. It's pretty incredible. I'll be honest, the last year has made it abundantly clear how important both sides of this equation are. Because of that, I mentally turned both groups family. Because without a doubt, I have three girls who are better people because of all of them. I myself learning and growing from exposures and lessons learned. I have other people providing perspectives to keep me balanced when things feel off off kilter, people providing them with different points of view, so they can consider and grow as individuals. I have a daughter better coached in sports sports I'd never played because the time our friends and family give to our kids. So to all of you out there, and you know who you are. Thank you and to the rest of you. Thank your people. Make sure you didn't lose those relationships during lockdown. Make sure they have an a trophy. Reach out, keep your tribe together. Because ultimately, we all need it. Shout outs. Today's shout out is twofold. First up is sticker mule, who did an amazing job on the stripe seek find stickers they ordered. I'll be giving them away soon. And they look amazing. If you've seen the pictures on Twitter or Facebook, you know what I mean? And I can't wait to share it in person. Second up, I want to thank Mike Cummings of the running educator for reviewing last week's episode. Mike, I appreciate the support. worth mentioning. Unlike my Star Wars flag fly today, the bad patch the sequel series to the Clone Wars, premiered last week on Disney plus, taking place in the dark days of the founding of the Empire and focused on the defective clones of clone force 99. It's dark. It deals with people question their ideals from the very beginning, even the face of tremendous change. It seems very timely right now. And most definitely worth watching. You can find the bad batch on Disney plus with new episodes dropping for every Friday. Rounding out towards a full year. Last May, I decided to start this podcast. And it went through several revisions iterations before it became strive seek find. And as we get close to that 52nd episode, I plan to use that one year marker. As the end of season one of Strive Seek Find There will be a season two launching within a few weeks afterwards. But in the meantime, I'm thinking about the goals I set and some of them I've made so I've got it's been a grand adventure. My question for you today is if there's any feature you'd like to see added to the podcast. to please reach out, let me know DM me on Twitter, reach out on strive, seek find on Facebook, or email me because I've enjoyed this and I want it to continue into the future. And I hope you come along with me. That's it for this week's episode of strive seek fine. Thanks for listening. If you enjoyed the episode, please leave a review. It really helps. If you had feedback or ideas please reach out on strive seek fanpage on Facebook, or to @chancewhitmore5 on Twitter. Until next time, keep seeking your own brilliant future. Have a great day.