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Almost Brothers Podcast
Balancing Acts and Burnout Recovery
Have you ever felt the weight of overcommitting and the pressure to say yes to everything? Join us on the Almost Brothers Podcast as we unpack the liberating power of saying no and the art of setting healthy boundaries. Jamie and I share our personal battles with overcommitting in areas like music, ministry, and work, and how it led us down a path toward burnout. Jamie, often my voice of reason, reminds me to reclaim our personal time and prioritize what truly matters—our family. We discuss practical strategies for scheduling and prioritizing commitments that can help you maintain a balanced life.
But that's not all—Richard, Tyler, and I delve into the frustrations of last-minute plans and the joys of structured itineraries, especially when it comes to meals and vacations. We dive into the importance of clear planning versus spontaneity and how knowing event details can save you from unnecessary stress. We also sprinkle in some humor with relatable parenting stories, from small daily oversights to the surprises our kids spring on us. Plus, don't miss our lighthearted debate on the film "Mr. Holland's Opus" and how our differing reactions add a fun twist to the conversation. Tune in for a mix of practical advice and entertaining anecdotes that every parent and busy professional will appreciate!
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Speaker 2:it was good, but it could have been longer.
Speaker 1:That'd be fantastic if it was richard, yours it was okay, it wasn't great you're just taking over our spots yes yes, I don't even know with him anymore.
Speaker 3:I never did, neither does.
Speaker 2:I'm telling you when I need to sleep, I get a little crazy. That's funny. Wow, neither does this one, neither does this one.
Speaker 3:I'm telling you, when I need to sleep, I get a little Delulu, a little crazy, a little Delulu.
Speaker 1:That's funny, delulu lemon. Wow, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up. Everybody, welcome back to a brand new episode of the Almost Brothers Podcast. Thank you for joining us yet again on this episode. We love you. Tyler and Richard in the building, that's me. How are y'all? That is, yes, that's y'all.
Speaker 2:I'm not.
Speaker 1:Richard, that's the point of an introduction.
Speaker 3:We're good, I'm good, I don't know.
Speaker 1:At this point I don't know with me or with y'all at this point, no clue. Yeah Well, on today's episode we're going to be talking about the power of no.
Speaker 2:Yes, clue, yeah, yeah. Well, on today's episode, we're gonna be talking about the power of no, yes, no, yes, we are no, no we're not.
Speaker 1:No, no, that's funny. Yeah, just talking about man. You know how doing anything it's you know music or ministry or a job or anything. You, you kind of say yes to everything just because you want to make a good impression, you want to do a good job.
Speaker 3:You want to do a good job.
Speaker 1:You want to do good and you hope you do good you know, and you kind of say yes to everything, and then you, you know just the power of the, no, the power of the not right now the power of the. You know prioritizing things. So have y'all found that in your life where you kind of have times where you're just yes to everything and and and you just kind of go in on everything and you find yourself kind of burnt out and kind of yeah, doing everything all at once?
Speaker 3:yeah, and it can be a detriment. I mean it really can if it's because, no matter the situation, you, you can't do everything. I mean there are times that you have to be like you know what I really want to do that. Yeah, I just can't.
Speaker 2:Yeah, right yeah, I've obviously been experiencing that recently with like music and leading worship at different places, because I've been asked to fill in at a church and uh, and do worship at this one festival thing and I was like, oh crap, I got something that day and I got something that day and I really can't back out.
Speaker 1:Right, yeah, as much as.
Speaker 2:I want to.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, and I think you know you, you notice, the more that you're able to do that, the more things you actually have going on.
Speaker 1:So it's a good thing, I mean you know it's good to say yes to everything at first, but then it's good to have, you know, a schedule and a priority and like things that, things that you say yes to and things that you say no to, and that's in all aspects of our life, you know, and I think it's also good for the person asking us to know that we, we've got those lines where it's like no, I've just got too much going on, I don't, I don't want to commit to another thing, right, you know, and I know jamie, jamie's kind of my go-to with that. When I, when I commit us to stuff like as a family or as a couple, like hey, babe, this is going on, what do you think? And she's like well, we've got all this. She's kind of the voice of reason, because I kind of jump at everything.
Speaker 2:Let's do it.
Speaker 1:All right, all right, yeah, so do y'all have that? Or are y'all good at that, like cause I'm? I mean, I'm telling you I'll say yes to everything, that's me too.
Speaker 3:I have, that is to roll it back in yeah, be like hey, I know you want to do all that, but you know we need to spend time with the kids. We need to. We need to get something else going, we need to. You know, yeah, there are other things that need to be done. And it you hit the nail on the head when you, when you introduce this subject, it's prioritizing yeah you have to prioritize your time because you can't do everything.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and the problem is, the things that matter the most tend to get left behind, right?
Speaker 1:yeah, yeah, we move those to replace it with something else. You know we well, okay, I could we planned on hanging out with the kids tonight, but we could do that another night. Let's say yes to that, right. Yeah, definitely, I've been guilty of that too yeah, it's just.
Speaker 3:You know, it's just one night a week. We can do that. Well, now it turns into well, it's just two nights a week. It's just three nights. Eventually, you're doing something every night of the week and it's like I haven't been home in a week.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and that's exhausting, yeah, for sure.
Speaker 1:And again Jamie's kind of she'll check me on that, Like, hey, we planned on this and you done, and it's fine, but you did it again and right, you know so, I know she's, she's really good at that, mostly because she just likes getting on me, you know so, uh, there's that, but I mean that could be a good thing. Sure, you know, thanks, babe, doing her part, doing, you know, doing your thing have. Have you ever had to say no to something because you, you said yes to something else and you wish you didn't to that. You know what I'm saying. Like right, like something comes up and you're like, ah, I wish I wouldn't have jumped at something else to say yes to that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, that tend to happens, but it's.
Speaker 2:It's important to to stick to commitments oh, man, that was, that was gonna be the next thing, yeah, yeah that's good, that's yeah yeah I've done that before with uh, different music stuff but or with um, or people like uh, booking people to like uh, and someone was like, yeah, I might be able to let me check and then start season closer to time. I'm still checking. I'm like, okay, well, I just need to go ahead and have this other guy, um, both great musicians, right, uh, but kind of almost like I want, just want this person, um, and it's like they'd be like, oh, not really sure, and then I'd call the other guy hey, you still in?
Speaker 2:yeah, okay, let's do it and then like a week before, the other guy's like yeah, I'm good, right. Well, yeah, it's like sorry, I couldn't have. Yeah, as much as like maybe next time yeah because I don't want to be, I don't be that person that that just because there's a better opportunity, I'm not going to leave whoever or whatever it is.
Speaker 3:I'm right, I committed to first just leave it in the dirt right yeah, we've known people like that that commit to something yep, I'll be there 100. And then the week before it's like oh man, this other thing came up yeah, yeah, like what you were already committed to.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because I, I try my best to. Anytime I ask somebody something to do it a good while ahead of time, you know, and I get like emergencies come up. But it's like, oh yeah, you know, say if I was booking something right now, hey, in November, in the middle of November, I've got this thing on a Friday night, like you think you could do it.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'll, I'll, I'll be there right barring. Hey, an emergency came up right like a a. Hey, I can't make it two nights before because I've got to work that day right that's, that's not acceptable like you've known far enough ahead to be able to make those plans. Yeah, to now be able to make it, because now I've got to scramble around, I look stupid and it and it makes you not want to ask that person the next time.
Speaker 3:So, okay, you know what, I just won't ask you again right and it's frustrating and that's completely and totally okay on your side if you can't depend on somebody yeah I mean stop asking them yeah, yeah and and I have, I've stopped asking, especially when it came to putting on events.
Speaker 1:It it's like okay, look, because I look bad. Now when I tell, you know, when I tell the person I'm doing it, or the church I'm doing it, for, hey, I've got, I've got the crew set up, and then now all of a sudden, no crew. Oh, we've got most of them, but we have to kind of not do that, because I don't have this person they don't look at.
Speaker 1:Oh okay, well, who was that person? I will make sure I don't. They'll look at me and go well, he doesn't have his stuff together and I try to help people out. That I love, that I've done it with, that I'm friends with, so that makes it even that much worse when it's like, oh, come on, man, when you commit to something, when you say yes, fall through with it, follow through with it, make sure that that you do your thing and make it happen Right.
Speaker 1:That's just that's worse than a no. I'd rather hear a no from that person.
Speaker 2:You know, hey, I don't think I can't do it. I don't think I'd be able to commit to it.
Speaker 1:Right okay, that's 100% fine. You can't do it, I'll catch you on the next one. Just don't pull a, julie. I don't know, we'll see, we'll see. Please just make a yes or no, please. I love her so much. I was down in Malden a week ago a couple weeks ago, whatever. And hey, what do you want to eat tonight? Oh, I don't, we'll figure it out. Okay, that afternoon, hey, you know, figure out what you want to eat. I don't know. I don't know. It's like four hours from now.
Speaker 3:Right.
Speaker 1:Hour beforehand. Hey, do you want to run to the store and get stuff for dinner? No, it's 7 o'clock now. I kind of don't want to eat. Make up your mind, please. I'll just grab a sandwich or something. Yeah, I'm like oh my goodness gracious, Just don't leave people hanging. If you think you can do it, work things out, figure it out, but don't leave them on that maybe.
Speaker 3:Oh, you best believe if I'm around you you're going to figure out some dinner.
Speaker 1:That's so funny. That's what I needed, I needed. I'll ask you every 30 minutes.
Speaker 2:What's so dear? You don't feed Richard. He's going to eat that ficus over in the corner.
Speaker 1:Well, and Richard wants to know, like nine hours ahead of time, like when you wake up, he wants to know what we're eating tomorrow. I want to know ahead of time what the plan is.
Speaker 3:It's not even necessarily about the eating. Yeah, I want to know the plan. Richard, I don't like. I don't like not having a plan. Yeah, it drives me okay.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's eight o'clock on sunday night. What are we eating on tuesday for lunch? I have to know this.
Speaker 3:It's a good question, like when we go on vacation. He needs to know the itinerary for sure, yes, I do, I mean and that's a good thing.
Speaker 1:That's just the way I am, to a certain extent.
Speaker 2:I hate when people are like oh, you can't plan for these things. So I'm like yeah, maybe you can, but you can try and do the Just like to me not. Planning is not an option.
Speaker 1:You have to have.
Speaker 2:You have to at least attempt.
Speaker 1:At least an outline, something. Jamie gets mad at me because I do that, like we'll go on vacation. I'm like, okay, here's kind of what I want to do, not like okay, eight o'clock we're doing this, we're doing this, and then one o'clock, we're doing this, but just like, hey, here's an idea of what we throughout the three days, or plan for something like that.
Speaker 2:Plan to not make a plan, pick one day and be like. You know what we're just going to do. We're just going to fly by the whatever seat, whatever we choose to do, yeah, fly by the seat of your pants. Yes.
Speaker 1:Fly by the whatever seat it's like what Rock and roll?
Speaker 3:I'm still not, thank you.
Speaker 2:My mind is still buffering rock and roll.
Speaker 3:I'm still not, thank you, I'm still.
Speaker 1:My mind is still buffering oh yeah, yeah, well, and with as many kids as we have, it's we can't do. Fly by the sea. Yeah, that's, I mean we have to financially.
Speaker 3:You know, we got to figure out what we got to have.
Speaker 1:It's like it's supposed to be relaxing. I'm like it's relaxing to me to at least know what we're doing today somewhat you know, are we going here, are we going to do this, but oh my goodness with her and mom, they'll, they'll just.
Speaker 3:I will see tomorrow because if you show up to somewhere and well, especially when we go to like events and stuff, it's like people think we're jerks about it, but it's like is is food provided is child care provided.
Speaker 1:We have to know these things right, because we, because we have to prepare our, our crew, our people for that yes, you know, and it's, and there's nothing worse than that is is getting to somewhere not knowing what this is going to look like, where I'm supposed to go, what's supposed to happen, you know. So, getting those things lined up and understanding that people around you need to know these things, yeah, like, come on, get it together, man.
Speaker 3:Just give it a shot, see how it goes Well.
Speaker 1:It's like you rarely go to see a movie that you have no idea what it is. Right, you would look at a preview. You would kind of get some expectations of what you're going to go see. You know like kind of get some expectations of what you're going to go see. You know like I don't want to know everything about it, but I at least need to know is this a scary movie? Is a funny movie? Who's in it?
Speaker 3:like I gotta see a preview or something come on now, speaking of you, don't take movie recommendations lightly no, no, especially from you, like your movie recommendations.
Speaker 1:Let me tell you something are getting questionable no, no, no.
Speaker 3:I stand by all my movie choices, every single one I can't which mr holland's opus.
Speaker 1:that was really good. I remember when I finally sit down to watch it with you and you, you kind of looked at me at the end and I'm just like, I'm just kind of staring and I'm how do I articulate how I feel about this movie? And then you're just like so you didn't like it and like you were so let down Because it is a great movie. He was just like really, because you know, we carved aside time to watch this movie and he's like, oh, you didn't like it, did you?
Speaker 1:And he's just like mm.
Speaker 2:Because it's like oh, you didn't like it, did you? And he's just like mm.
Speaker 1:Because it's like one of his favorite movies and I'm like that was a fantastic movie, like it was just so. Have you ever seen it?
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 1:It is so you would like it too. It's music and teaching. He didn't get back into teaching.
Speaker 3:Oh no, I'm just kidding, I'm just kidding.
Speaker 1:Look at his face just kidding. Hey, no, there you go, there you go I feel powerful.
Speaker 3:That's okay. Um, it was, it was touching, it was moving, it was. It was really really good. It's an older movie, richard dreyfus yeah, it's a really good. It's a fantastic movie.
Speaker 1:There's definitely flaws in it. Just kind of without warning just goes from like one decade to the next and you're just like oh, okay, you look at the clothes that people are wearing. That's how they show you One warning, before that happens.
Speaker 3:That's kind of a. That's the point of the movie. I swear it's just like oh okay.
Speaker 1:Well, we're in a different decade here, different era.
Speaker 3:We're watching Terminator.
Speaker 1:Right, but it's just like oh, okay, Well it's fantastic it is.
Speaker 3:It was really good. It is a good movie, really good movie.
Speaker 1:Sorry to get off on that tangent.
Speaker 3:I do not recommend Beetlejuice. I don't care, and when you see it you'll agree I don't care I don't know, we'll have a conversation about this another episode yeah, the new one. Yeah, it's terrible, it's it's.
Speaker 1:It seems to be doing good in theater, yeah well, that's not the no, I'm not.
Speaker 3:I know that but I'm just saying so we'll see I paid to go see it too, and I wish I hadn't.
Speaker 1:yeah, yeah, I don't know, I don't know. We'll see Because, again, there's been movies that me and Jamie absolutely love, that Richard's like oh my gosh, this is terrible.
Speaker 3:Yeah, Les Mis, that was. Oh, I could have punched you after I watched even part of that movie.
Speaker 1:So what's something that, just moving on, that's how they do in that movie Closure change, just moving on, that's how they're doing that movie closure change. See, look that we told you um, so what is something that your wives will ask you to do that you're just that, you're really just like no, no, I'm not gonna do that.
Speaker 2:This may be a touchy subject, but my wife will ask me if she can like do my makeup yeah or practice or paint mine. No, not practice just because she wants to. Oh, she wants to see how I look. Oh, I'm like are you?
Speaker 1:no, are you she's like? There's no one she's like there's no one here.
Speaker 2:We're in our own home, like I'm here, no and she would take a picture.
Speaker 3:She, yeah, yeah, yes, she will, for sure, and that's and that's reason number two why I won't.
Speaker 2:Because I know she'll try and get evidence.
Speaker 1:Yeah, because who was doing your sissy was doing your hair one night. Yeah, she's like combing it and like we got a picture from that.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, that's. That's one thing, but yeah, we do.
Speaker 3:I think we do strange things for children, that's funny.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and it's zaley. Yeah, I'm not putting on no eyelashers and lipstick for my wife yeah now crazy.
Speaker 1:So just know straight now, I feel, powerful no, uh, my wife is perfect, so okay, so I'm gonna be the only real one on here and talk about an actual I've got.
Speaker 3:Yeah, okay, I was like, do you really? Just gonna so pass we have uh we've talked about this on here before, I think, but maybe not. But the animal thing? Yeah it's just a non-stop roller coaster, with my wife and getting not in a fun way and not in a fun way, not that there is a fun roller coaster, but man, it's a plane ride for him.
Speaker 3:Yeah, but so I'm constantly having to know we're not getting any more animals and she's finally accepted that, because I think she's tired of the animals too. You know, they tear up everything and it's just Okay, Now name us for our listeners.
Speaker 1:All the animals you have currently.
Speaker 3:Currently we have like names.
Speaker 1:No, just go go, okay, by breed of animal we got a guinea pig four dogs, two cats. Okay, all right, say it again guinea pig four dogs, two cats okay, today's sponsor coming to you, the richard family zoo.
Speaker 3:I thought you're gonna say petco co aspca four cats, four dogs, four dogs, two cats, two cats and a guinea pig and a guinea pig yeah used to be an actual pig there was a pig at one point now, now, now will burr the pig because we're clever with names.
Speaker 1:I told y'all the name of bacon. Y'all remember. Y'all remember seeing that uh, that old.
Speaker 2:It was like a random news post or or thing about a pig named chris p like middle initial p bacon and the, the news anchor was trying to like report the story on it, but he couldn't. He could not hold it together after reading chris p bacon, that's a good name.
Speaker 3:I like it, but yeah, that's, I mean it, and it can be anywhere as simple as no dogs or no, I'm not going to hobby lobby for the 18th time yeah yeah, I mean, but that's kind of what we do on like date nights we'll go to hobby lobby or goodwill or whatever, because that's what she likes to do. So sometimes I just don't want to go.
Speaker 1:Right, I'm going to give one for me that I tell Jamie and one that she does to me often, because you get to that point to where you're complaining about a thing and they keep doing the thing, and then they ask you to do something that pertains to the thing that you hate. So it's like no, no, I'm not doing that anymore that was a lot of you know.
Speaker 3:I'm saying are you with me okay?
Speaker 1:so, uh, for me, one thing that I begin I've begun to say no to jimmy, you listening? No, I'm not putting gas in the car, just gonna let her run out. I'm so fed up with the no gas in the car now you have to tell the story of the school line, because our, our listeners, oh my goodness. Yes okay, which she's done better since then. Okay, I think that might have been kind of a a turning point.
Speaker 2:I don't even think I know the story okay oh it, it's great.
Speaker 1:So for our kids, buckle up. It's an hour and 15 minutes a trip to pick them up from school because Sissy's school is across town. Bubby's school is on the opposite side of town. Okay, so you leave and you have to go sit in Sissy's line for a good 40 minutes, get her go back across town, wait in line at Bubby's school. So one day I'm sitting here. What was I doing? I was doing something.
Speaker 2:I was busy working because usually I pick them up At a meeting or something.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I was in a meeting yeah, and so she went to pick them up. She's like I'll go get them. Okay, cool, she knew that morning I had this going on, so she left to get them. When it was time to pick them up, calls me in Bubby's line. Hey, um, I'm about to run out of gas. And I'm like well, where are you? I'm in Bubby's line and I'm stuck in line. I'm about to run out of gas and I'm like did you? You knew this morning that you needed to pick them up. Why didn't you put gas in the car? And she's like well, I, whatever, whatever she said.
Speaker 1:And I'm just like okay, so now I'm gonna have to leave to make a 30 minute trip to go and pick him up so that she can get out of line to go get gas yep classic, so I had to leave the meeting, go across town to pick bubby up because she was going to run out of gas and she was 20 feet from his building in line yeah, it's a strange problem to have.
Speaker 3:That's tough it is it is.
Speaker 1:It was tough that day In line. Yeah, it's a strange problem to have. That's tough it is, it is.
Speaker 2:It was tough that day. I bet it was real tough. The closest thing Liv does to that is like she'll use the car and it'll be low on gas.
Speaker 1:Like it tells you it's low and then it tells you it's like it's low.
Speaker 2:It don't tell you how many miles you got left. It's low. It don't tell you how many miles you got left. It's low. She'll get there and it'll be the one time she doesn't put gas in the car and I'm in a hurry to go get somewhere low.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's just like oh. I'm in a hurry, but I'll take five minutes to go put gas in the car.
Speaker 3:Yep, oh my goodness man. We have to be more careful with our gas now, because the little town we live in has a gas station. But it's like 30 cents more a gallon than it is anywhere else.
Speaker 1:That's rough.
Speaker 3:So we will not get gas there.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, just kind of a last resort. Yes, so that drives me nuts, but on the opposite side, there's many things that I do that drive her nuts and I've noticed that she's now stopping contributing to my delinquency oh, do tell so let's see what I have picked.
Speaker 1:Pick from one thing, oh so, I know, I know. One is just like finding something. You know where? I'm like, I, I'm the one that moved it or put it somewhere. And I'm like babe, I know I put this somewhere. Do you know where I put it? She'll just start, not, nope nope, will you help me?
Speaker 1:nah, nah, keep up with yourself, because I do, I'll sit stuff. I'll sit stuff, random spots. It's because I'm doing something else and I've got to get better at it. Because I do. I'm like I put that, what I put that, I put it somewhere. I know I put it somewhere. Where did I laid it down? And I'll find it. I mean, I'll random play. I've had a. I've had my wallet in the fridge.
Speaker 1:I've had oh yeah, just cause, like I've had it in my hand and my keys and put it down to grab a water and then went back. I'm like I got my keys, oh, look, oh, I put it down to get the water. It down to get the water, like okay, um, so I know that's one like um picking up my stuff. I'll take my shoes off by the couch and they get pushed underneath and I'm like, babe, will you go grab my shoes for me? And she's like, nope, you left them in there. Now they're under the couch. It's like, oh, you right, you right, I need to do better at that.
Speaker 3:I'm sure that I have stuff that drives Jennifer crazy.
Speaker 1:I'm sure she'll tell you. I'm sure that doesn't. Yeah, yeah, I know Perfect.
Speaker 3:Yeah, fiction, it's tough being Tyler.
Speaker 2:It is, that's fine.
Speaker 1:Yeah, or or like even with the kids, you know when, when they're planning to ask you something and you know they're planning to ask you, you just wait. And they didn't listen to you today. So they make your plans and they come to you. Hey, can I? Nope, no, you can't. It's the power of no baby.
Speaker 3:I do that to Adriana Cause every time she wants to ask me something that she is pretty sure I'm gonna say no to she'll say dad, I have a question right, so I just started saying no when she says dad.
Speaker 1:I have a question yeah, like you did you. You wanted to act a fool earlier. The answer is no, any question, nope nope, doesn't matter what you want to do, the answer is no and you'll see them kind of especially like if we go to church or we go somewhere where their friends are at. They'll be all over there talking and then here they come.
Speaker 2:It's just like you know, yeah, you know bubby.
Speaker 1:Hey dad, nope, no, they can't come over, oh you wanted to. You want to act.
Speaker 3:The fullest one of getting ready what I like, because emily's bad about this one. I'll have one of her friends, mom or dad or whoever yeah, come up and be like so.
Speaker 2:Emily said that so-and-so's spending the night at your house oh, oh dang like I don't know how's them toes like how's them toes being stepped on man?
Speaker 1:like I have no idea if that's happening or not, because nobody's asked me so here's a question I'll ask for both y'all, because both of y'all are are Tyler, y'all are fostering, richard, you're fostering and you have kids. Um, I never understood. Okay, which I've talked. I've talked to mom about this. I've never understood. Like hey, can Kyle come and spend the night at the house? It's like Friday night. You know nothing. Great Grades are good Everything's why not?
Speaker 3:I did, I don't do that, like, like.
Speaker 1:Why not like? There's not, there's, you know, and I was always like mom. Why like? Is there a reason? Why right?
Speaker 3:or is it just no, just because I hate that and I do it and I hate it all at the same time because I said so.
Speaker 1:I absolutely despise that answer so we try to encourage that with our kids, like if it's friday, even saturday, they're gonna go to church with us and and you've got your rooms clean, grades are good, you haven't been a crazy lunatic person. Today we hardly say no, I mean if we got like plans like family, family night, something like that.
Speaker 3:But yeah, so we will lightly encourage our children to go to other people's house yeah and it's number one because our house is pretty full. And number two, it is it is. And number two it gives them a break from us you know, to get away from from the chaos.
Speaker 1:That is the randall your house slightly full with the four dogs and two cats and guinea pig let's just let it go.
Speaker 3:I'm just, I'm just trying to. It's for our listeners that's funny have you ran into that yet I haven't.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I haven't can't also spend the night, yeah, with that which they just started school yeah, yeah so, so I've got to make some some good relationships. First yeah yeah, it's tough you.
Speaker 3:You always want your kids to experience everything that they can experience. You know you want them to be able to do stuff and and, like you said, as long as you're not acting stupid.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, there's no reason not to. And we'll like encourage, like, sleep over, like hey, can three of my friends come over? Yeah?
Speaker 3:That, yeah, that sounds like a an absolute blast. Sounds like you have fun doing you will play games with them.
Speaker 1:I've done that. That's yeah, oh, we've, we've had it to where multiple tvs set up in one room. Well, because I know that I enjoyed those things right.
Speaker 1:So it's like yeah, absolutely, or sissy, hey, can my friend come over and let's do nails and hair yeah you know, as long as it, as long as we didn't have something planned, as long as we haven't had kids over for the past eight days, you know, journey got to that where he was asking every single day and it's like, look, just give us a break today, please. It's been five days in a row. Just give us a little bit of a break, love you yeah, you need a break.
Speaker 3:Yeah, because you do need the power of no right.
Speaker 1:No, we need a break. We need to prioritize, just kind of hanging out Yep, what else y'all got in your heart? That's about it. No, go ahead.
Speaker 3:My bad, I didn't mean that Very aggressive no, it was.
Speaker 1:It kind of hurt my spirit. Oh my gosh, it happened this morning, okay, so you hurt your spirit well, no, no, when, no, no. When I was waiting to talk to duane and tim, they turned around and tim's like oh, you want me. I was like no, and then I went to talk to duane. I'm like I'm sorry that no sounded really aggressive. I didn't mean it like that.
Speaker 2:He's like a hard pass it was so funny because tim's just like no, I mean that. Thank you yeah.
Speaker 1:Yeah Well, I love y'all. Love you more. We're awesome. Just remember people, if you're listening, it's okay to say no, no.
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