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Life's Challenges and the Humor in Aging
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Reflecting on a childhood marked by resilience and street smarts, we explore the profound insights that emerge from life's toughest lessons. Join us as we share how navigating through challenging environments not only builds self-reliance but also fosters a wisdom that formal education often misses. We emphasize the value of embracing life’s hurdles with an open mind and a positive outlook, reminding ourselves that wisdom is a journey without a final destination. Rather than seeing ourselves as victims, it's about celebrating the never-ending quest for growth and understanding, fueled by dedication and resilience.
As we age, we find humor in the simple truths of growing older, from the fatigue of late-night gaming sessions to noticing the first gray hairs. Our priorities have shifted, and we discuss how these changes have molded our hobbies and lifestyle choices. We share the joys of planning personal time amidst busy work schedules, upcoming family trips, and concerts, all while appreciating the small milestones, like our son's impending 12th birthday. With a focus on balancing work, family, and personal interests, we delve into the importance of maintaining social connections and cherishing moments with loved ones, inviting you to listen to a heartfelt episode filled with relatable anecdotes and genuine warmth.
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Speaker 2I can't wait till you get your own room, where this can go in.
Speaker 1You're probably right. Well, yeah, you think I can't wait for that. Finally, be video. Yeah, we've been working on for a while.
Speaker 2Right Same, it's a prayer.
Speaker 1Well, yeah, it's a prayer. Yeah, I'd say so. What's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up, what's up. Everybody, welcome back to a brand new episode of the Almost Brothers podcast with my wife.
Speaker 2Yellow.
Speaker 1No Almost Brothers today, just me and you.
Speaker 2Yeah, the better one.
Speaker 1Oh yeah, the better host there you go. Okay, my favorite host, if that makes a difference.
Speaker 2You have to say that.
Speaker 1I don't have to say that at all.
Speaker 2I mean, I could not say that.
Speaker 1And on today's episode we're going to be talking about wisdom, how to gain it, how to keep it, how to receive it and how it just never stops, or shouldn't never stop.
Speaker 2Correct.
Speaker 1Well, go ahead, babe, open up, share some wisdom.
Speaker 2You know, I forget sometimes how old I am. That's not good wisdom.
Speaker 1What? No, I think, talking about wisdom. I think wisdom comes a lot from, from you know. Of course you could learn it. There's a lot of things that you could learn and grow and read um, you know, because leaders are readers, which is a cool saying, because it rhymes um. But I think a lot of wisdom comes from experience yes like things that you go through.
Speaker 1you know, sometimes we wonder why, why we go through certain things and and really a lot of times, it's to gain wisdom. You know you gain wisdom from going through those hardships and the tough times and even the good times, but you earn a lot of wisdom going through those things.
Speaker 2Yeah, and I think growing up in kind of like a situation I grew up in it made me grow up faster.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2So I gained a lot of street smart really early on.
Speaker 1Yeah, because you said you were doing clothes. At what age?
Speaker 2Like eight.
Speaker 1Right, and most people don't have that type of how to work a washer dryer. Yeah.
Speaker 2You know how to get your clothes ready for school. We it was like we were on our own right with parents in the house, but we were really on our own, like how to start a bath? How to you know wash?
Speaker 1how to you know they only had a what, how to wash, wash wash, okay, oh my goodness, okay, sorry the country accent yeah, it's pretty thick, uh, but yeah, you, yeah, and you learn the things that that people either, I won't say never learn, but it takes them later on in life to learn. So, by the time they're learning, these things you've already are are rooted in how to get those things done, how to take it Well, even just making sure you, you know, have something to eat on days where your parents don't make anything.
Speaker 1And then you kind of have to fend for yourself.
Speaker 2A lot of processed food.
Speaker 1Right, well, yeah, but but you know, you, you earn wisdom in that and even now you're able to use that for our kids. You've, because you've had, you've learned that you know. So that that's something. Yeah, that's something that making a bad situation, learning something from that bad situation, you know, um, I know we always say it in like the sports context, but you learn a lot more from a loss than a win. You learn what not to do, how, what not to do, how to change things, what you can work on. So I think a lot of the situations we're put in, if we take the time we could pull good things out of a bad situation.
Speaker 1Have you ever been in those situations where you just see I?
Speaker 2can't learn anything from this. Sometimes, I think that, but I think the only reason why I think that is because my brain gets lazy.
Speaker 1Right.
Speaker 2And I say I cannot learn this when I know I can Right. If I just put in the effort.
Speaker 1Yeah, and that's what I was going to get to is I don't think there's any situation we get put in that you can't learn something from.
Speaker 2Right.
Speaker 1And I think that's exactly on point is we get lazy and we don't want to see the good and that bad thing. We don't want to think, man, I was able to learn something out of that. Because we either it hurts too much or we do. We get lazy and we just want to say oh it it's, and we play kind of play the victim, you know, instead of instead of saying, no, there was things I could take out of this and learn and grow from.
Speaker 2Yeah, because I was reading something the other day and it said you know, you have to fall. Whatever it is you're learning, whatever it is that you're striving for, you have to fall in love with the process. And that is something that we just do not want to do. We don't want to go through the process of anything, because you know the way that the generation is now. We just want it right now.
Speaker 2We want it right then yeah and we don't want to go through the process. It's just us being either lazy, or we already look at ourselves as failures, or we know we're gonna fail, or we say I can't, and so you, you really have to. Just no matter what it is, even if you fail, you have to fall in love with the process and then pick yourself back up.
Speaker 1That's so good. I can't remember who it was, but he was talking about that. He said I am the what did he say? Or how did he put it. He said I am the longest overnight success. Yes, Because he said it took me 30 years to become an overnight success. Because that's how people think. They think things just happen and so-and-so has 5 million followers on YouTube or whatever, and they think it happened overnight, when it took years to get to that point. Or they see a great musician or a great speaker and they think that it just happened overnight and it's like you don't understand the process that it took to get to that point. You know, he said people think because now they know me that I'm an overnight success. It took me 30 years to get here. Right, you know 30 years of things that you haven't seen. You know and that and that. That is that's gathering a lot of wisdom over a lot of years to be able to get to the point where they're at now. You know I like to think of um.
Speaker 2You know I like to think of joseph in the bible. You know, he had to go literally into the pit yeah and then he was positioned, all these you know places that he went through, all this hardship he went through to actually get to the palace yeah so he was getting in position every time and he could have thought, you know, he could have quit in between yeah, or he could have just gave up years of of going through that process, yeah and so he just, time and time again, kept getting up you know not complaining, you know just going through the process so he can be positioned, and I just always think of that, yeah, and that's good, and that you know just going through the process so he can be positioned, and I just always think of that.
Speaker 1Yeah, and that's good, and that you know learning how to go through that and still come out trusting in God you know, trusting in his process and his timing and his will, you know, and and that that does.
Speaker 1That takes a huge level of learning how to take the good out of the bad and and develop wisdom, because wisdom isn't something that just comes it. It it's something, it's a learned thing, right? We're not just like, oh, I'm super wise, it's something you have to learn and you have to look for those things that you could take and build on and and, like you said, I think in the culture now, we like to, we like to cry and whine and and give every excuse for why, why, why, instead of oh, I can grow from this.
Speaker 2Right, and even now I think back to to me. You know being 38,.
Speaker 1I think. I'm at 29. Yeah, right, right, right, yeah, okay, I think you know I'm at 29. Yeah, right, right, right.
Speaker 2Yeah, okay, I think you know we're still like this. You know it's not that we're oh okay. Well, we got it all together. We know what we're doing.
Speaker 2No, like, there are days where I know I should get up and at least put in the effort to maybe exercise or maybe eat better or maybe read my Bible more, and there are some days where I'm just like I do not want to do this, I'm exhausted, like, and I know I can better serve myself if I do this every day. But you know, it's just a. I'm just not there yet every day and I don't think we ever will be. But you know, I know better and we can get better.
Speaker 1Yeah, and every one of us have a certain area in our life where it's like I really need to get better here. Yeah, that's what me and Richard talked about a couple weeks ago. We were talking about like I can do good at my diet when it comes to food, but then I get lazy when it comes to exercise. I'm like I need to really focus more on exercising. I'm actually getting up, I want to be active, I want to be able to play with my grandkids. When that happens, you know, I don't want to just be torn apart. I know I've got back problems, I've got this, but I wonder how much my lack of exercise has contributed to that. So it's like, man, I've got areas in my life I need to apply some wisdom to also and get better at.
Speaker 2Yeah, I have to. And I don't want to just think, oh my gosh, like she knows it all, or she's just so full of wisdom. It's like, no, I'm still learning. I'm still, you know, taking apart. You know, when I study a story in the Bible or I have questions about, I'm still taking this apart, I'm still diving in, even though I've heard the story a million times, because we can get to that point where I've heard it. Oh, I've heard it a billion times.
Speaker 1And I think that's, that's the exact opposite of having, that's lack of wisdom thinking that you've got it all together and you know, you know, I think the most wise people you can talk to are usually the ones going. Yeah, I don't really know as much as you would think.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1And really understand that they need to be in a room where they're constantly learning and growing and being pushed and stretched, you know? That's why they say you know, if you're the smartest person in the room, you're in the wrong room. Right, you need to be with people that are going to pull you and stretch you and teach you. There's nothing better than being with someone that tells you something you had no idea. It's like, oh wow, I didn't know that and you learn something. So now you leave the day, you leave the conversation, knowing something that you didn't know, going into it. There's nothing better than that, because that means you're constantly learning.
Speaker 1I feel like a lot of people, especially in ministry and in church circles, they, they think they get to a point to where, no, I got it, I got it, I got it. And it's like I don't want to be around those people. I want to be around the people that are constantly questioning, constantly wanting to learn, learn more, constantly wanting to further themselves and learn from people. And that's what's so cool about just talking with people and being like hey, what's your story?
Speaker 2Right.
Speaker 1Because you can teach me something that I didn't know about you or that I didn't know by by just listening to your story.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1And it's like oh, okay, I feel like, man, now I could better serve you because I've learned something from you.
Speaker 2Yeah, and it's all walks of life is. Is that I want to, and that's the great thing about being in ministry is you literally run into all walks of life, no matter where you are, and you can learn and take from every single person, no matter what position you're in, no matter what title you have. Like you can learn and hear their story and cause we we all live different lives.
Speaker 1Right.
Speaker 2And I just love hearing like, especially testimonies, like it's like my favorite.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, cause again you learn. You see what people have been through and it's like, oh my goodness, like it's awesome that you're here.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1That's good. Let's talk about your B-Day. Let's not Speaking of wisdom. Wisdom comes by the years, and you've got 38 of them under your belt. See what I did there. I did, I did, I did, I did, I did, I did, I did.
Speaker 2I did, I did, I did I with the transition.
Speaker 1So how does it feel?
Speaker 2it feels not good you said.
Speaker 1You said the other day like I feel a year older okay.
Speaker 2So it was like we went to dinner, we went nate mexican and we went to like some stores and we stayed up a little bit later than normal right, not even crazy late, right, just sitting at the house after we ate, yeah and I literally felt like I aged 10 years yeah, we had a basketball tournament the next day yeah, and it wasn't even like oh, we stayed up till five and we had to get up at eight.
Speaker 2We were like up till one no, I wouldn't even say that it was like maybe 12, 11 right, yeah. And then it was like I couldn't wait to get home and take a nap yeah, I felt like.
Speaker 1It felt like death the next day. Oh my gosh, we're so tired I can't, I can't do it yeah, it's crazy like I can't stay up, like and I miss the nights of just staying up and playing video games you're crazy, I love sleep that's what I learned in my 30s oh, that's the wisdom you got
Speaker 1yes I do too, but I remember me and cody. We stayed up one night I can't remember if it was a video game or a tv show, it was one or the other and I remember our, our alarms for work went off yes, I remember that so we like, pulled an all-nighter of just hanging out watching tv or playing video games and then went to work yeah, there's no way I could do that right now.
Speaker 2And you're not even going to like a factory Like you're right, Like I couldn't do it.
Speaker 1I would be just like like dying. I would just be like foaming at the mouth, Just like no way.
Speaker 2Yes.
Speaker 1So with each passing year does it get like earlier and earlier you need to go to bed.
Speaker 2Oh, 100% Like you have me on here late right now.
Speaker 1Oh, oh, okay. Like, what are we getting done with this? I'm ready for bed.
Speaker 2I might fall asleep sitting here. I'm just kidding.
Speaker 1That's not good.
Speaker 2I'm just kidding.
Speaker 1Well, if anything, it's just one more year I get to love you yeah and drive me crazy and drive you crazy. Yeah, and one more gray hair coming in don't say that what I'm I'm sorry did I thought we were in the circle of trust. What happened?
Speaker 2yeah, the gray hair in your beard, darn darn, did he turn turn? Why is that still on here?
Speaker 1take it off why you gotta talk about the gray in my beard. I mean, that's a low, that's a low blow. That's listeners. Do you? Do you hear this abuse that I'm having to take right now? It's okay.
Speaker 2You can dye it.
Speaker 1I'm not dyeing my beard, I'm just letting it happen.
Speaker 2And for everyone. I actually don't mind it. I love the gray coming in.
Speaker 1And my beard, yeah you're my old man. Don't do that.
Speaker 2You're six months older than me. Don't do that. So you're about to turn 39.
Speaker 1Let's hear it that's six months from now. We don't need to talk about that it's coming up it's not coming up. We're talking about your birthday.
Speaker 1That just passed, not what I've got going on it was full of basketball games uh yeah, and I've already got the kids calling me old anyway, so I don't need your help. You be quiet, so I don't need that. So switching into the next segment is that's what's up. So this is where we talk about what we're watching, what we're listening to a TV show, a movie, something you're looking forward to, a video game on something from this week, or something that you'd like to watch or listen to.
Speaker 2Do I have to participate in that?
Speaker 1Yes.
Speaker 2Um, I really need to get a hobby.
Speaker 1You really do, you really, yeah, work.
Speaker 2Church. You did say that the other day.
Speaker 1I need a hobby.
Speaker 2That's about it. I mean, what's the last movie we watched?
Speaker 1Oh, we watched that one horrible movie, Juror no 2.
Speaker 2Okay, yeah, that was pretty bad. That was bad.
Speaker 1Yeah, that was pretty bad. What did we watch with Tyler and Liv the other night?
Speaker 2Oh like.
Speaker 1Speak no Evil. It wasn't terrible. It wasn't terrible, it was a good kind of psychological thriller. It was pretty good.
Speaker 2Yeah, that's a good one. I love the movies. That kind of work my brain yeah.
Speaker 1Yeah, like the who Did it.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1I love the detective.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1The scruffy detective trying to figure out who did it that those are good yeah, yeah I'm looking forward to hopefully owning a ps5 sometime in the near future.
Speaker 1And don't breathe hard. It's at your age, you shouldn't be stressed out, so breathe a little bit. No, but I'm really going to try my best. You know, this was one of our challenges that we did me, tyler and Richard. Oh yeah, yeah, I'm really going to start trying to take my Mondays to kind of unplug and hang out and do you know things that I love doing? Yeah, so video games is one of that, one of those things I can kind of shut my brains off and my brains, my brain off and and just kind of hang out.
Speaker 2So there's a few games YouTube off. That's so true. Yeah, that's your resting time.
Speaker 1You put on.
Speaker 2YouTube and you put on like a news channel.
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, that's true, but hopefully do that and play some. Play some good games, catch up on some games I've been wanting to play for a while does overcooked count?
Speaker 1no, overcooked and dr mario, that doesn't count, I know that, but those aren't. That's not how I've got to focus on dr mario. I can't let you beat me, okay, so my brain doesn't shut off for that. I've gotta I've gotta focus. But I know that this weekend we look forward to that we're gonna be in branson. That's gonna be really fun, yeah, so we look forward to that. And and we're gonna play some video games with the family. We got some games that we play all together, so that's gonna be fun.
Speaker 1I'm really really looking forward to that, like more than usual yeah, it's gonna be a good time to see, alia, that's gonna be great, yeah, and just spending some, some good time sitting by a fireplace drinking coffee yeah come on. So what would you like to see in this this year? 38 years moving into 39, one step closer to 40? I know we kind of talked about this on what we'd like out of the year. But just you personally, it doesn't have to be anything with me or the family. You personally, what do you want to see this year?
Speaker 2More trips Duh.
Speaker 1Oh, we know that we talked about that, Duh. Yeah.
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Speaker 2No, I would like to take more time away. I do tend to work a lot and even though, just like any other job, you get vacation, but actually taking it to enjoy, because I think the last year I just spent so much time focused on, you know, moving and maybe a little bit around Christmas time just to shop, but I never really actually got to take like a full week.
Speaker 1Yeah, you would take days off and we'd kind of be just around. You'd take the day off to just get to hang out around the house, you know, instead of doing something. Yeah, that's a good one. Yeah, so vacation, um, yeah, I know we've got a few things that you know, especially early on in the year, that we're going to be doing.
Speaker 1We're going to branson, we're going to tyler hilton concert yeah, um, I got a lot of things to look forward to, yeah I've got a few few places I'll be speaking at, so the next month and a half is going to be, you know, kind of go, go, go. So it's going to be good yeah, and I always love.
Speaker 2Uh, I've realized these past 38 years that there was a time, of course, where I loved staying home and loving a whole body, but I love like just getting out. Yeah, because going from like being in an office and working and then working from home, you don't get that interaction with people yeah and like that's what I loved like and see, and and what's crazy?
Speaker 1now, especially with me being in the ministry it's the exact opposite, like I'm ready to come home because I've been out just around people all day.
Speaker 2It's time for me to get home and lock the door and stay in my bubble and I'm like I just want to go home.
Speaker 1I haven't been, so that that's a hard balance too, which we'll talk about. That that'd be a good episode is balancing each other out when our jobs are very polar opposite. You're here by yourself in the office and I'm out with people all day, yeah. So then your time off, you want to be out with people and my time off I want to be at home, you know.
Speaker 2So that's a hard balance of figuring out how we want to do this and and yeah, that's good yeah, because I when I was in the office and I had you tons of friends and I was training people and and I just loved that interaction story and I would get to witness to people and you know, let them hear my story and hear and it just I, you don't know, it's awesome until it's gone.
Speaker 1Yeah.
Speaker 2And then you're sitting there in an office by yourself, a house alone.
Speaker 1It's like I miss people.
Speaker 2And I'll message them. I'll be like I miss you and they probably think I'm weird.
Speaker 1That's funny.
Speaker 2And I'm sure they probably don't even listen to this, but I do. I'll message them. I'll be like I just miss you Big Kurt listens. Yeah, but she's not in the office.
Speaker 1Oh yeah, that's true.
Speaker 2I forgot about that, yeah I still message her and say I miss you.
Speaker 1Yeah yeah, that's so true. Yeah, well, and even you know we're closer to home, but we're still, we're not down the street right you know.
Speaker 1So even even seeing those people is a is a little bit of a joy. I mean, even going to see mom. It's like we have to plan that night out. Yeah, because it's like, okay, we get off work and then we drive down and then we have to get back so we only have very much time. Man, I know I've been able to spend a lot of time with dad. That's been, that's been amazing, you know, getting to sit with him and micah and and really get to just have good quality time, and we've about every other week we've got to sit together and have dinner. It's been amazing.
Speaker 2Being closer to family right.
Speaker 1Right, but sometimes it is. It's a little bit cumbersome to be able to go and see people you know, so you kind of have to plan those things out, especially right now with the kids and school and basketball and all that.
Speaker 2But yeah, that's definitely it's a busy life, but I know that eventually, you know we won't have this anymore.
Speaker 1Right now.
Speaker 2So I enjoy it.
Speaker 1I'm going to see Hunter's baby tomorrow, nice, while I'm out to see Hunter's baby tomorrow nice while I'm out. Yep, talk to him tonight. I'm about to come by and see my nephew. Yeah, he's a chunker yeah so I look forward to that. Speaking of getting out and seeing people, gotta do it yes, how'd you think today went? How do you think service went?
Speaker 2it went amazing. That was awesome.
Speaker 1You're awesome oh, thank you. What? Yes, how'd you think today went? How do you think service went? It went amazing, that was awesome, you're awesome. Oh, thank you. What I wasn't ready for that Like what, thank you.
Speaker 2Thank you. Well, you're awesome and it's been. Do I not say that enough? I threw you off.
Speaker 1I wasn't ready for it.
Speaker 2That's for sure, babe, you're awesome. Oh, thank you. Thank you, I'll tell you more okay, it's fine, you could.
Speaker 1Yeah, that's thank you. You're awesome and the 38 years do you justice you.
Speaker 2You look great really I love you absolutely you don't think I have more wrinkles I love every wrinkle that you do oh, so I have them.
Speaker 1You just love I'm not saying that you do have wrinkles. I'm saying. I'm saying if you think that you have wrinkles, I love them, whatever you think. I'm scared right now to answer. The question is what I'm saying I'm just kidding okay, I'm in danger that that meme. So now we've got you, we're about to have a 12-year-old son.
Speaker 2Yes, how does that make you feel? That breaks my heart.
Speaker 1Breaks your heart.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Or like makes your heart happy.
Speaker 2No, it breaks my heart.
Speaker 1Oh gosh.
Speaker 2Because I want him to be two again. Yeah, he's With the chubby cheeks. Yeah.
Speaker 1Dad do, yeah, dad do yeah dad, do you see me dance?
Speaker 2oh, no more of that, I know that hurts now, he's as tall as you are I know, yeah, and he keeps switching rooms. Every time I go into one, I'm going in the other room.
Speaker 1I'm like all right, I'm out, I'm gonna head in here I'm.
Speaker 2I walk in the other room where he's in. He's like I'll go in the other room. I'm like what?
Speaker 1Yeah, yeah, that's funny.
Speaker 2Yeah.
Speaker 1Well, I love you. You got anything else on your heart or mind, mind or heart?
Speaker 2Nope.
Speaker 1Well, happy birthday.
Speaker 2Thanks, babe, it's over now.
Speaker 1My birthday. Thanks, babe, it's over now my birthday's over.
Speaker 2You said you get a birthday month. Don't change it now, but I feel like I age. Every time someone tells me happy birthday, I'm like oh gosh.
Speaker 1Oh, it is, isn't it? That's what. That's what happens when you're 38. Hey, listeners, we just want to thank you for your continued support for the Almost Brothers podcast.
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