Energetic "Traps to Avoid" and Solutions!

In this episode, Tom and Teresa discuss the importance of setting boundaries to avoid energetic traps. They emphasize how being clear with personal loyalties and priorities affects others in a positive way. They also explore the concept of psychic sensitivity and how it relates to personal growth vs. being caught up in the "woo woo" aspects. 

Each goes on to share personal insights on working with their spiritual gifts and  gift order.  They speak about the blocks to your awareness and ways to unfold more of it.  Through examples they  highlight the importance of recognizing concepts holding you back so as to accelerate spiritual growth.  You can transform your experiences, whether positive, or not so positive, in to wisdom.  The episode concludes with a reminder to share with others as that stimulates growth for them as well as yourself.  

Here are key topics shared in this episode.

• Boundaries are a Spiritual Priority 
• Perspectives on Loyalties
• Everything is Energy - Spiritual Reflected through the Material 
• My Purpose of My Psychic Sensitivity
• Why I Avoid A Saving Vibration - What is
• A Sign My Boundaries Are Not Clear 
• Superpowers: The Four Spiritual Gifts 
• True Spirituality vs "Woo Woo"
• We Are All Going to Make It! 
• Firing On All (Psychic) Cylinders
• How Spiritual Guidance Works With Us
• How Teresa Relates to Her First Gift - Intuition How Concepts Block My Full Awareness
• As We Share, We Stimulate "A HA" Moments For Each Other

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Transcript

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Energetically getting trapped in what other people are playing out and boundaries is where I want to take this episode today, Tom. Welcome to another podcast of enthusiastically spiritual with what's going on spiritually with Tom and Teresa. Hello everybody. So let's dive into this boundaries because I've seen so many people doing classes on it, doing sharings on it, especially on social media. And so...

It's been coming up big time for me lately as I'm interacting with other people and recognizing how I need to know what my boundaries are energetically, especially, and how I interact with other people's boundaries and how they affect me. So let's, let's talk a little bit that about that today, Tom, I'd like you to just share with me, you know, what is your perspective on that? Well, it's important to have boundaries. To me that.

What that means is I have self -respect, you know, so that I respect what am I really feeling and what am I really thinking and moving in balance in the world. Because if I have no boundaries, I'm all over the place. You know, I can be what I refer to as out of balance feeling, where I'm just feeling everything and I'm giving all my energy away without any direction. 

So for me being organized, or working with my intellect is knowing what my priorities are. And from a spiritual perspective, my first priority is to remain relaxed, aware, competent, feeling happy and free and moving, you know, from a, that solid kind of inner pivot point. Hmm. Interesting you say that because the first thing that pops in my mind is how, how we do our cleansing technique every single day. 

And actually a couple of times a day, 'cause it, it helps really ground me and it helps me connect with my with my my own energy as well as my guys and coming close whenever I cleanse. And so working with this with any type of technique that you have that that works for you, because I mean, this may not resonate with everybody. But for us, we use this cleansing technique all the time. And so knowing that if I have that in my pocket, I can pull it out any time, cleanse and be able to then go, OK, so.

I'm feeling my energy and so I'm feeling other energies that I'm moving in and out of and how to really work with those energies in a way that is supported for me because that's what it's really about everyone. It's about, you know, your journey. I don't care what anyone says about, oh, it's all about you and you know, really it is about you. It really is about the fact that knowing, you know, how to take care of your energy, how to take care of who you are as a soul and what you're here to do is really a priority.

Well, it always strikes me that, you know, my first loyalty has got to be to myself, my state of consciousness. My second loyalty, you know, is going to move from there. And it's not about, and my third loyalty, et cetera, et cetera. You know, so I move from me being happy and free, clear, directed, honest with myself and what, what am I truly feeling versus my reactions.

And then, you know, next is probably a priority is my physical body and my health. And the next priority is the people that I'm working with, my close family and friends. My next priority, you know, moves out there to the bigger pictures or the bigger environments say, you know, your society, your culture, your country, those kinds of things. So, you know, often people misinterpret that that I'm here for me first as.

I'm selfish, you know? Well, what I'm talking about is selfish is when it's about me first, me second, and me third, when really it's got to be about me first. You have to know, I have to know where I begin and end with things. Otherwise I can't be of service to anyone else. I'm not truly living my purpose. I'm not really in my thrust because when I'm living my purpose and I'm in my thrust, no matter what I'm doing, you know, whether whatever that job is, whatever that opportunity is, I can be a healing influence. 

Yeah. And so with that healing influence and back to boundaries and understanding how, like Tom is saying, you know, and I've said to like, you know, you have to take care of yourself first. So it's kind of also back to that scenario of like, say in an airplane, what do they tell you whenever they're doing the, um, the oxygen mask? They say, put your mask on first.

Then help other people. So it's that way also with, you know, who you are as a soul and your energy. So you have to really, I shouldn't say have to, here's an opportunity listeners, that you can move into understanding yourself, your energy, your boundaries at a whole different level. If you can first off start with yourself and start with, you know, like I said, you know, a cleansing technique or whatever works for you to, to definitely, you know, ground yourself and definitely you know give you that beautiful buffer around you which is you know what we're talking about boundaries and buffering just in just having that security of who you are before you interact with others and honestly Tom and I do this every single day so even though we're spiritual and we you know do our thing right we also have stuff that we are going through personally and because you know we're personal souls personal beings and so I have to take care of my stuff.

Tom has to take care of his stuff. And so then when we interact with one another, I've got my stuff in order and he has his stuff, so to speak. And if we don't, we work through things. And that's the difference between having a partner who is spiritual and who understands what I'm going through, which I didn't have before. That makes such a difference. Anything you'd like to share about that, Tom? Yes. 

The thing I'd like to touch on is that everything's energy. So the spiritual side of life, what that means to me is that that's being aware of that energy side of life. And you know, we call it spiritual. So spiritual seems like, you know, we equate that with unseen, with not as obvious in a physical sense. And the more that I tune into that spiritual side of myself, the more obvious it really becomes, you know, that it's a part, it's reflected through the material. 

What do you think about that? Well, it's funny because I was just thinking about a post I did, I think last week about, about spirituality and because that's a lot what I post about and energy and I put in there something about the fact that, that I need to know my, my energy and, and oh, that everyone's psychic, right? That was what it was about. It's about being psychic that, you know, for a long time, I didn't think I was psychic. 

I didn't think I was sensitive. And, you know, I didn't really know what to even call it back. And, you know, when I was in my teens and twenties and early thirties, right, until I started kind of understanding more about the lingo they use and what it's all about, the unseen part of me and how. And in this post, I said something like, you know, and actually every single one of us is psychic because we're all a soul and a physical body. And I said something like, you know, and most people won't raise their hand and go, yeah, me too because that is also saying yeah well I'm psychic. 

You know it brings up a different kind of feeling in a lot of people when you know folks this is just part of the mind body spirit aspect of us. This is why honestly Tom and I are so passionate about sharing this this really reality with people because of the fact that we are all living this every single day.

No matter if you call yourself whatever it is, I'm psychic, I'm sensitive, I'm an empath, I'm Claire, Clairaudient, Claire-sentient, Clairvoyant, whatever you do or don't call yourself, we all have this within us. So it's owning it to whatever degree you want to own it. Because for myself, obviously, this is what I'm here to share about. So I'm really owning it. And, you know, a long time ago, I didn't I didn't even really, you know, didn't think much about it. Or I was like, no, I'm not quite psychic. But yes, I am. So.

Well, we're all here for a purpose is what feels right to me. You know, that feels true. And that purpose is for me to evolve spiritually. So I'm learning about my spiritual side, my energy side. And, you know, we work through for spiritual gifts, we call it, you know, when it comes to your psychic sensitivity. So, you know, we've turned them in, if I talk in my gift order, vision, intuition, feeling and prophecy. Another way of saying that is clairvoyance, clairaudience, clair sentient sentient and claircognizant. And I was thinking about that, you know, so the Claire's that people are aware of that's those psychic abilities. 

But it's only part of the story because those gifts that I have also, uh, say a lot about how I communicate and perceive communication from others. So it's got a place in the spiritual world where I receive impressions. And it also has a place in the material world and how I perceive things and communicate with others and work effectively as a team. 

So just getting back to, you know, being a spiritual being evolving, if I'm, doing more than my 50%. I will be short circuiting other people's opportunity to grow and mature spiritually. Now for me, what 50 % means is just doing my part. Now, if I'm working with somebody that says, say has a handicap, right? Well, they're 50 % from a material perspective is different than my 50%. 

You know, if we're both trying to move a table together and one person has a disability of some type, my 50 % or let's say it's an older person that, you know, can't lift as much. My 50 % is more than that person's 50%. So it's all about realizing that, you know, there's a balance between, uh, how I'm feeling and how I'm thinking.

And I find that I innately know, you know, what my opportunity is. But if I, if I cut that, let's say that disability, the person with a disability, if I cut them off from having the opportunity to help, you know, now they don't get a chance to feel the fulfillment of doing their part. What do you think about that? Well, that's interesting because this kind of goes back to where we started with, you know, feeling energetically trapped in what other people are playing out around us. 

And if I am do more than my 50%, which honestly in the past I have, I didn't understand about the fact that people have to do their part too. We know, and we're working in a team with people and it's everywhere. Like, you know, you can cut, you can come into a store and go, Oh, you know, I need to get this. Well, someone in the store needs to come up and assist you with, you know, the other part of that, because you don't really know where to go. That's just a scenario I'm kind of putting out there, but.

Well, that's one you've lived. Yeah, exactly. And so when you do more than 50%, you can get trapped in what other people are experiencing. And I've noticed that firsthand for myself. So like if my boundaries are out of, you know, not clear, and if I'm not cleansed, when I'm going to interact, say with my mom or say with someone else or even Tom, you know, I and they're going through their stuff. 

Well, I may get trapped or I may get pulled into what they're going in, what they're going through because I'm doing more than my 50%. I'm going over the top with my energy, not keeping myself really energy. Um, I'm going to say energy efficient. That's a, that's a great way to put it. Energy efficient is knowing what's me, what's not me. And so we go back to our superpowers where our four spiritual gifts is another way of saying the same thing, but it's that ability, you know, that we think is magical and mystical, or many people do less and less. I mean, there's more and more out there that it's an accepted fact that we all have that psychic sensitivity or that intuition, you know, and to follow it. That's true.

Absolutely. And an understanding, you know, how you roll with your gift order, like we've talked about before, is it really it helps support who you are and what you're here to do. And that's something that, you know, Tom offers consultations where he can check in with spirit. You know, your your spiritual helpers, his spiritual helpers, and how he gets the information. And he can share with you what is your specific gift order.

And you know there's a lot of different ways out there that people you know share with you a lot a lot of people do share with with just giving you their insights. Let me tell you what it's about for you and what you know and what they're picking up from spirit. But this is different because this is really working with your spiritual helpers know exactly what you're here to do who you are what your makeup is and then they'll share with Tom that will then share with you and then see how you relate to it.

So back to Tom saying earlier about things being mystical or weird or whatever, right? Like, and I, you know, I'm so, I'm so beyond that. I'm so tired of the woo woo stuff. Like people, this is real. This is part of who we are. Every single moment we're in these physical bodies. We have this spiritual aspect to us. And so, you know, I want to say throwing out all those, you know, um, words, mystical, uh, metaphysical, woo woo, weird, strange. 

It's like, no,  and recognizing, especially when you understand how you are created and how you work with your gifts this lifetime can be such a game changer. And I mean, I know that's kind of cliche to say, but it was in my life. It was when I recognized that my first gift is Clare Audient and that I'm what we call an intuitive in this scenario of the four gifts. I mean, it gave me, it opened up my eyes completely because I go, yes.

Because as part of being a clear audience or a intuitive, I'm a born leader. I can be frank, honest and direct. I just need the facts. I don't need all the other, you know, miscellaneous stuff. Just give me all that first, because that's how I that's the power I have with this. My superpower, like Tom said. So, you know, recognizing this this ability within myself just opened me up to OK, yeah, that is why I'm granted. I'm a Leo, too.

But you know, I'm strong, I'm assertive, but I can also be out of balance. I can also be a control freak. And I have been many times in my life wanting to control everything. Tom laughs now because because honestly, I've done it with him too. But it's but it's gotten better and better because I recognize in myself that part of me and and how to stay in balance versus not be in balance and trying to control everything around me, which that's not that's not how I really roll when I'm when I'm actually in balance.

Yeah. So when, you know, when you're operating or when I operate out of just my intellect, I might find myself doing more than my 50%. If, um, I'm operating just out of my feelings, I might be more doing more than my 50 % or not doing my 50%, you know, I mean, it's one of those things. So if I work with my sensitivity, now here's a funny thing.

You know, I begin to recognize and I can just tell, you know, you might just know, you might get a picture. You might hear, uh, get into a better understanding or hear something or feel it. You know, when you're doing your 50 % and, uh, to what extent you need to do that. So, you know, the, it's more of a religious concept that we're here to save people. A spiritual concept is, or for me, what feels truer,

is we're all going to make it over time or what we perceive as time. It's all going to be okay. And in fact, we're already successful as souls. We're here. We made it. We organized ourselves to be on this planet at this particular time for these learning and growing experiences. But one thing I wanted to get into was that, you know, there's times that.

Well, you might say, why do I need to know my gift order? I get these prophetic dreams that come true, you know, and, oh, I feel this and I work with feeling, but you have four separate gifts. So you can work with more than just what you feel. If your first gift is feeling, of course, that would be your primary way. But as you work through your gift order, the impressions become more clear. So one of the things I was going to share about was that, you know, I've.

I've sometimes found myself in opportunities that didn't, especially when I was younger, uh, that, but it, they didn't turn out to be what I saw it to be. 'Cause my first gift is vision, you know? So I see it. I have this picture in my mind and what I realized over time was that, you know, my next gift is the intuitive part. So that's where I need to get the facts and I have a clear understanding. My next gift is the feeling part. My next gift is that prophetic part.

So as I move through my gift order, I get the full, you know, benefit of all my sensitivity. And then I come back to my visionary part or the picture, and then I can move through that again. So many times, you know, spirit will give us hints. You know, they never tell us directly, do this, do that. If you're tuning into something that does that, that's not your spiritual helpers. Here's the kicker. They respect you too much to do that for you because they know you have what it takes to evolve to where they're at. 

They're like a bit ahead of us and you the universe is a very benevolent place really that's the funny thing spiritually because they are willing to back us and help us evolve to their level and beyond. How does that feel? Oh that feels really good hello.

And the thing that comes to mind as you're talking about all of that is, you know, understanding and this really goes for any perspective or any thing that resonates with you listeners as far as, you know, maybe you delve into Tarot or maybe you go to get readings or you, you know, do any kind of other work out there on yourself, on your, you know, your soul essence. So that can be like anything, right? Whatever it is, as long as it's something that gives you a new perspective that then enables you to  be more relaxed with who you are. 

And that's what I want to share about, you know, understanding my gift order and understand this reality of who I am. Well, for one, if you guys can't tell already, you know, I'm obviously I like things simple. You know, these these this podcast I call many more. So I'm not a big elaborate. Let's talk for three hours thing. A lot of people are. I like it simple. I like it short. I like it. Let's get this effectively get completed. 

So when I recognize that in myself and how to work with that energy of who I am, I can stay more relaxed with that. I'm like, yeah, that's how I roll. I'm not one to talk for 20 ,000 hours about something. I need to get it done. I need to move on and boom. And like Tom, the way he rolls is with his vision. He's got to get that picture. So whatever that looks like. And we just went through that recently with something and in the house, we intended, Oh, how about that? Pun intended. Yeah, we were doing something in the house recently. 

And, he had, I told him one time and he didn't get it and get nice. So, honey, what, what do I need to do? It's that way. You'll, you'll understand this aspect. And he's like a picture. So I had to write it out. And so he had a literally a picture of what I was trying to, to get across to him. So, you know, it's, that's, that's it too, is really understanding how to work with yourself and then how to work with others. That's really a gift and understanding the, the gift order that we've been talking about. Yeah. And, um, you know, you also wrote,

the book, a soul quakes, the soul quake survival guide, which helps people begin to unfold better their sensitivity. So that's a place that you can go to. Yeah. It's also has the, um, the, the cleansing techniques that I would talked about earlier in it. It's got three different ones and, um, and it talks more about the different gifts. So it gives you like a bigger, a bigger mini port, mini morsel picture of you took the gifts and, and how,

you know, I related to them and then how you can relate to them in your life. Starting making this sensitivity, you know, practical by finding solutions. So the other day when we, I talked about that incident that Teresa mentioned the other day in the, uh, my previous podcast that we just released, uh, recently, uh, and there's more the spiritual businessman last week. And, uh, I was saying to Teresa, you know, we listened to,

Um, you know, some very wise folks who've been very successful in the, the spiritual or coaching fields, but I bet you they go through those kinds of experiences like we had where they have that little bit of miscommunication. So that to me is spiritual growth is where do I get stuck? So there's times when we all feel wonderful and happy and free and you know, you're like, you're achieving your heart's desire and you're in the right place at the right time. Where do we get stuck?

And one way is becoming more aware is realizing, you know, as I said earlier, you know, kind of coming back to that a little bit is that I would get a picture. What I thought was a picture, but I didn't really get the full in depth, you know, I didn't work through my gift order, not that it's hard. I just didn't, I just stopped at a concept that I had in my intellect of what I wanted the picture to be instead of working with my sensitivity. So.

That's why it's good to know all four gifts and it's, it's good to know where do I get stuck? What am I not getting the facts, which is my second gift. You know, did I leave out a fact? Am I not bothering get a feeling? Am I not rechecking now by doing that cleansing technique, which is kind of coming full circle to what you were sharing. I'm beginning to tune back into what's me and what's not me. I'm back into my truer feelings rather than in my emotions or my concepts. 

And one of the things I find about spiritual growth is I don't always know that I have a concept. I'm not conscious of it sometimes. It's not until I go through an experience or a few times, and you might say hit my head against the wall spiritually, that I go, oh, I have an aha moment where I go, oh, I'm actually...

I actually, you know, and thinking a certain concept, I have a concept that just kicks in. It's like an automatic thought that, um, and you can recognize those because they put pressure, you feel pressure, you know, uh, would be one way of sharing it. How do you feel about that? Yeah. Um, well said Thomas is what I'll say to that. Okay, great. And I, you know, I guess we'll, we'll end this with, um, just saying a little bit about how,

Obviously you know Tom and I share quite often about some of the things that we go through and and making you know this part of us the spiritual unseen part of this practical and understandable and also digestible because you know some people like oh you know they might take a bite of that it's like oh that doesn't feel good no we want it to feel good we want you to be able to feel the fact that you know you're a soul in a physical body having this extraordinary amazing experience while you're here.

And, you know, and of course, you know, in the book I wrote the Soul Quake Survival Guide. I mean, we oftentimes don't have those kind of, you know, we have things that shake us up inside and we have moments of like, oh, what the hell is this all about? But, but really we wanted to share today just about, you know, understanding more about who you are as a soul. Like I said, with those four gifts and Tom does offer that consultation and we'll make sure we have information in the show notes. If you're, if this is intriguing to you or you might want to find out more about your gift order, you can definitely connect with him.

And also the SoulQuake Survival Guide will be on the link will be in the show notes also. So if you want to get a copy for yourself or a copy for someone else, you can definitely do that. And that's on Amazon .com. But just wanted to really kind of, you know, end this with just saying that, you know, the things we talked about today, these are just ways that you can really, really understand more about yourself, your boundaries, so you don't get trapped in what other people are playing out around you.

Yeah, and that spiritual growth is a self -discovery process. And we're talking about a way of life so that I can improve, you might say, my experience of the material. It's reflected through the material. Absolutely, Thomas. I love it. High five to that buddy. High five. So thank you all for listening into another episode of Enthusiastically Spiritual. Tom and I love sharing, and we're so glad you joined us today.

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So we'll be back again soon. So just remember that. Life is too short to not be enthusiastic about your unique journey.