Red Dress People

Podcast Summary — Red Dress People

What happens when you start changing the way you think… but the people around you haven’t?

In this episode of Yup! I Got You, Tombo Baldwin talks about one of the biggest obstacles to living your Best Reality Now — the people and conversations that quietly pull you back into doubt, negativity, and limiting beliefs.

Using the famous “woman in the red dress” scene from The Matrix, Tombo explores how distractions show up in everyday life. Sometimes they look like casual comments, cultural habits, or well-meaning people who unknowingly speak words that work against the reality you're trying to build.

From adapting to new dentures (and the brain’s incredible ability to adjust) to conversations about abundance, purpose, and living intentionally, this episode dives into how words, beliefs, and agreements shape the reality we experience.

You'll learn how to:

• Recognize “red dress people” and distraction moments
 • Guard your mindset without rejecting people
 • Respond with intentional words instead of reactive ones
 • Stay rooted in gratitude and peace while building a life of meaning and purpose

Because the truth is simple:

Your best reality isn’t waiting in the future.
 It’s created in the words, thoughts, and beliefs you choose right now.

And as always…

Tombo’s got you.

Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:26

Hey all you amazing Yepers out there, those of you that are new to the podcast, I so appreciate you. And if you're listening, it is because you are interested in just becoming awesome, period. You want a life of meaning and purpose, and you are seeking the better things in life. So I welcome you to the Yep I Got You podcast hosted by yours truly Tombo Baldo and right now podcasting in San Carlos, Mexico. We're down here on a vacation slash doing building projects, like non-profit. I mean, we're doing it for free and out of a meaning and purpose in life. The best life now doing things because we have the ability to do so and we're doing that. If I sound a little funny, it's two things. I'm using new podcasting equipment here in Mexico. I don't have my stuff at home. And two, I've recently had a lot of work done at the ditches here in Mexico, including some partial dentures. Oh my gosh, we don't talk about dentures. Well, the reality of life is whatever your circumstances is, whether you took poor care of your teeth, or you have bad teeth, or you're somewhere in the middle. They're a rally of life, and I'm somewhere in the middle of all that. I inherited not the greatest teeth from my mom when I was a teenager. My parents got divorced, and I had braces left on for way, way, way too long. And the oral hygiene habits at times when I'm stressed haven't been the best. All those things have added up to I need these, and you're like, well, I gotta hear how the best moment now is happening with those gentures. Well, I gotta tell you, I found a place of gratitude, and I'm not gonna lie, it was a struggle. I it they went in my mouth and my tongue like freaked out, and it's like, what is going on here? And everybody's like, Tom, did you say something that actually meant to be words? Okay, it wasn't quite that bad. That's totally an exaggeration. But I'll tell you what my place of gratitude is and how I lived in the best moment now because my mouth, for one, no longer hurts, and it did, and I ate very cautiously, and I had missing teeth, and teeth that were loose, and was like the background noise all the time. Are they gonna come out? Is it gonna end up in my apple right here? So I'm eating it in front. All those things that run in the background, and those are now quieted, and so I have this place of gratitude, and I am living in the most amazing moment now after a four-hour desk appointment, having teeth pulled, having these dentures put in my mouth, having my tongue freak out. And what I have learned, I'm a little over a week past having this appliance first installed, and my point of gratitude is my brain is already adjusting. The brain is an amazing thing. I am living in a miracle now, and my body's ability to adapt to this to the point, even after a week, I'm starting not to notice them. Now, I'm still struggling with some words, and as I'm podcasting, you're gonna hear some of that. But I just gotta tell you the best moment now is now, and I'm actually probably gonna talk about this in another podcast, but I just want to mention it here, and I mentioned this before. Two things you've got to get down. Reality is relative to your words and thoughts. You're like, huh? I don't like that. Well, you need words and thoughts that make you say, that's awesome. I love that. And a belief system that loves that, but that is the truth. We've already proved scientifically that time is relative. And I said two things, didn't I? Oh, all of a sudden Tom can't remember the second thing. Alright, so we'll backtrack here a little bit, that reality is fluid. And your thoughts, well, we might have to circle, and Tom, you're like, this is an awkward podcast moment. Don't worry, it'll just come to me all of a sudden. Oh, the second thing is what I've already said. There is no time like now. The thing that keeps us from the best reality now is thinking I'll do it later. Well, that just goes against everything. No, your best reality is now. The reality that you think, that you speak, that you have emotions towards that is now. Don't wait, do it now. Because it does take practice, and it is like forming a new habit. So it doesn't just happen overnight. But that is not what I want to talk about today in the podcast. Today I want to talk to you about probably what the one of the biggest obstacles you're gonna run into as you're trying to live your best reality now, and that you're living a life of meeting and purpose, and you're having thoughts and emotions and belief that are way beyond anything that you've done before. And you are gonna run into I everybody probably at this point has seen the movie The Matrix, but you're gonna run into those women in the red dress people. I'm gonna call them red dress people, but it's the woman in the red dress, as you know from the Matrix, the woman in the red dress is a distraction. As the main character is looking, he's being trained, he looks at the woman in the red dress, and he gets distracted and he looks back, and it's an agent with a gun pointed at his head. Pow, he's dead. And what am I saying here? Well, in a sense, we are living in the matrix because as you're becoming a person that's adopting the best reality now, you are realizing there's a quantum field, there's call it the kingdom of heaven, call it the universe, call it whatever you want. There's a quantum field out there that we interact with that is for lack of a better word, source. I would call it divine, that interacts into our life, brings things into our life. People use such words as manifest. I'm using the best reality now, because I feel some of those other words have been overused a bit. I I still think they their meaning is appropriate that you manifest things in your life by your thoughts, your beliefs, your emotions, your words, your determination, your intent. There's a whole host of things. But there are people out there, and if they're not like you, if they're not awake and they're asleep, and they are living in the systems of our culture that's around us, which tends to be very negative, tends to be Murphy Law focused, tends to be critical, tends to be very rational, very scientific, although I think as we're finding the quantum realm, the kingdom of heaven realm is the real science, and it is it's almost it's super science, it's above science, it's like the science, it it is the source, and that the scientific realm, the scientific method, is the realm of the prison in the sense that it can't be, therefore it isn't. Instead of like Einstein proved time is relative, how can time be relative? Because we all experience a minute, but yet he proved that it is relative to circumstances. And so when we are living the best reality now, we are living in the super above science realm. We are living in the creative realm, and with our divine hardware, we are equipped to live in that realm. We have what we need, it's just the tools haven't been accessed. And as we wake up, those tools awaken, and as we use them, we knock off the dirt and we start using them, and they get flexible and they get pliable and they become sensitive, and they can uh they become fine-tuned and they and they begin to work very well. But those that are for lack of a better wording, asleep or in the matrix, still plugged in, they haven't been unplugged. They are as dangerous to your best reality now as nothing else is. And I bet it was just traumatic. I know I hate going to the dentist. There are all kinds of agreements there, potential, that are being launched there. And some people are even bolder just because we're trained in this culture, not because they're out to get you, just because it is what they know is, you know, they end that with right, or isn't the dentist awful? And I hate dentist appointments, don't you? I want to live my best reality now in every moment, even when I go to a dentist. And so you have to say, no, it was amazing, it was an amazing visit. I this dentist is incredible. And so these people, they come in subtly like that, or they can even come in bold, and some and people often, even people that are waking up unintentionally, because we have habits, and I'm not saying that we kick these people out of our life. If they're waking up and they're in your life, we want to nurture those relationships and we want to help sharpen each other as we move into this new type of living, and so we don't want to like in the matrix, you know, everybody is an enemy. Now, there are some people that are absolutely not awake and they are like an enemy, but I think for the most part, these red dress moments or these red dress situations are people that have just developed bad habits, and the ones that are waking up don't even really mean to do it. And this happened even between Adrian and I when I was struggling with my words, and we were just kind of talking about a game plan with the dentist, and I was really convinced because you listened to this podcast, that my speech is getting better even now. And so when it was then, it was getting better even then. And I was talking to Adrian, she's like, you know, we we should think about contacting a speech therapist when we get back to help you. And I said, No, my speech is getting better now. It is so subtle, and she didn't mean anything harmful by no means, because she's waking up just like I'm waking up, just like you're waking up, and we have habits, and they're difficult. I catch myself all the time getting ready to say something, and I'm like, no, I'm thinking of someone who had a baby, and I'm just like, oh, what if what if there's the for me, or what if there's this? And I catch myself saying, no, but the best reality now is that baby is wonderful, and that baby is doing so well. We have lived in a world where our response can really be a trap and setting up a trap and setting up agreements because words are legally binding, and even thoughts are legally binding, and so we're always thinking, and I think it's a good thing in our minds, we're always thinking towards a solution, and our brains are always trying to think towards a solution, and it's part of how we're wired, but I think we become overwired because we have lost touch with our divine hardware that is designed to create that best reality now. The realities that aren't necessarily what we consider every moment is a beach moment, and I love beach moments, and I post a lot of videos of beach moments because I'm down here because I believe that's what most people believe their best reality now is sitting on a beach and drinking a cocktail. But really, the challenging and some of the things that we struggle with help create the contrast that we're when we're in those really sweet moments, we really truly can enjoy those. And so I do have a lot of beach moment, but the reality is our best moments are a diverse flavor palette, like a good meal. There's multiple flavors, some are sour, some are sweet, some are a little bitter, and they all come together to make just this amazing experience, this best reality now, because our words are accurate and spoken with intention, the intention of meaning and purpose, the intention of connecting with the divine realm. Our desire is to see something above the scientific, the that that realm where this reality is shifted, and we're not plotting and planning it. We're using our divine hardware to live in it, and then it's there. And that divine hardware, we've talked about this a lot, is activated through gratitude, which leads to a place of peace. When you're at a place of peace, man, the chalkboard is clear and the creative juices can start flowing, or the the canvas is clean and ready, and it can just be the paints are set up and the colors can begin to flow to write that best reality now. And so if you have those red dress people in your life, and there are some people, it feels like that is their profession, and they are just what if this, what if that, and life is so hard, right? Boy, how we we can't afford to live in this economy. Inflation is so high, it it's really difficult, if not impossible, make a living, right? Wow. I feel dark about telling your kid, you that that can be cancer. You should go to the doctor, right? You should leave now or you're gonna be late, right? Oh, I wouldn't hesitate. I I I would do that now or something bad's gonna happen, right? It's endless. It just it it never stops, and there are some people and they're often they can be close to us, or we can interact with them, and it can make it really difficult. You have to be an amazing dodger, dancer with words. Your vocabulary has to become incredible because our our goal is to live a life of meaning and purpose, and it's also to help those around us find the same thing. And if they're asleep and they're constantly bound by the words they speak, they they can't have that. And because of who we are, we want them to have that. Our just our innate nature as being people that want meaning and purpose is to share that. We want everybody to have the satisfaction of meaning and purpose, and we want them to have the best reality now. And if we don't, you have no business pursuing this, and chances are you're gonna have a reality that may be full of nice things and stuff, but I'm chances are very good that you're gonna be lacking the true meaning and purpose, the things, the intangibles of like being here in Mexico and doing work for free that brings satisfaction beyond driving a Ferrari or flying in my private jet.

SPEAKER_01 19:19

And I hope you know see Tom is even struggling. I see this. I have a private jet.

SPEAKER_00 19:38

You're like, Tom, do you? Yeah, this is a good moment. You guys can see me a little challenger because that's one of the things that I've been trying to wrap my head around it, and I do I am experiencing the emotions, the feeling, the sensations, the relief, the joy of not going through GSA and walking in to my private jet and flying privately on my private jet, sharing my private jet with my friends and family, and taking trips together on my private jet. And so I have my private jet. I have yet to observe it, but I have it. Does that make sense? It it it it is one of the biggest struggles other than fighting against those those words that come at us and those thoughts that come at us that that causes the doubt and is just getting our heads around having a reality that has not yet fully formed. We are there and I you hear me struggle with their words, and let's just be honest, in this podcast I'm figuring out, this is a podcast not about all the amazing things that Tom knows. This is about all the amazing things that Tom has learned and is learning and is sharing. And I do that because I really do care about people. This podcast is growing and uh and I love that, and I love that the message is getting out there and that my wealth comes in, not necessarily through the podcast, but I have wealth and I have abundance. I am a wealthy person. I guess I say all that because I don't do this for the money, even though I have money and it's it's not through the podcast. I believe there will be a day where the blessings will come through the podcast, but that's not why I do it. It it is a side benefit, and it is even happening now in This best moment now, and you guys are living in this best moment now with me. And I want you to live in this best moment now. I want you to have the very best and the most meaningful life. And so it's one of the reasons this podcast today, some of those people that in your life that are those red dress people, they they become like an enemy to your reality, and you have to address it like an enemy where you have to have your defense up and and it's even more so because in The Matrix they just kill those people, but we can't do that, and we don't want to do that because we really do love those people and we want them to have a life of meaning and purpose. So we have to become exquisite with our words and our deflecting of say if someone says, Wow, life is so hard, I'll say something, yeah. Well, I I won't even say, see, it's my default, I'm learning and I'm I'm getting a lot better. My response would be life can be challenging, but I found it just to be incredibly fun, and I'm enjoying every minute of it. Or boy, this economy is so crazy and prices are so high. How can anyone afford to live? And I was like, I'm finding that I just have more opportunities and more abundance as the days go by. And it opens up opportunity to share and share a little bit about your perspective and how you view things. And really, when we want to spread this, when we want to spread this life of meaning and purpose, we have to do it through little small snippets, and they often come, what do you mean? And I would say something like, Well, I know things can be challenging, but I'm always gonna err on the side of abundance and positivity. And I found that I have abundance and prosperity when I do that. Can you tell me more? Or well, that doesn't work for me, and that's okay. And if people want to, well, that just worked for you, you say, Yeah, take it. Take it, take the positive agreement. Well, that works for you, it doesn't work for me, and you're like, Well, I don't think that's true, but yeah, it does work for me, and I'm really blessed. And I'm like, Yeah, you're really blessed. They're giving you a gift, take it. They are adding onto you. And if they add on to you, take it, but if they take away from you or they try to take away from it, you've got to guard it like a treasure, but you've got to value them like a precious jewel. And you can't just go off and say, get thee behind me, you evil person, you cursor of words, you speller, you speaking of spells and binding my reality and causing me to live in this false reality. Words are like spells. And there is, I think it has more to do with the quantum realm and how it's set up than witchcraft. But it doesn't really matter that you can be bound by your words, and even the ancient scriptures, the Bible talk about that the enemy of our souls has handwritings against us, legally finding things that are written. Chances are those are words that we have spoken. And if you haven't listened to Poison Agreements, you need to listen to that. But this podcast is really about how to reflect those words and how important it is to your reality now. Because if you're like most of us, including myself, we're working really hard to listen to best reality now, and we're pouring a lot of energy into gratitude, getting to a place of peace, holding those emotions, holding that belief and that faith for that best reality now that's manifesting that life. But we live that increased better reality because we're always stepping up. It's like we're going up the staircase. Our best reality now, this step is great, but then we get our divine hardware working a little better, we get a little more used to it, and we step up, and we step up, and we step up, and we step up. You hear me talking about things, and they're happening, and they're in the realm, and I am beginning to observe them, and they are wonderful, and they are more than what I've known, but they are still part of this best reality now. So, what do you do if you have those people in your life? Well, a couple things. You can try to limit your exposure, and if they're in your friend group and you're around them all the time, and they just can't help themselves, and you feel like you're always deflecting words, and it's a lot of work, you've got to realize that your personal meaning and purpose, your meaning and purpose needs to get out there, and it needs to be felt by the people around you. And if they are a hindrance to you by their words, their thoughts, their input into your life, what's causing you not to live that life of meaning and purpose, not that life of faith, not that life of miracles, that you are a living miracle because you're living in this best reality now, and things that shouldn't happen do happen because you're in your best reality now, and you believe they should happen, and so they do happen. But outside observers view them as a miracle, you observe them and live them and experience them as a norm. That is more important than maintaining that relationship. You owe it to the world to become who you were meant to be, and who you want to be. You want to be a person of meaning and purpose, and so then you've got to limit your exposure and maybe cut it off. And if there are people in your life that are waking up, you just need to have audience conversations and say something to the fact, you know, when you said that, it goes against what I believe my best reality is now. Can you agree with me now for my best reality now? Can we take a moment and have some gratitude together? Can we get to a state of peace together? Can we be in agreement and can we have a moment together? That's a beautiful thing, a moment together with peace and gratitude with somebody that's significant in your life. Amazing if it's your spouse, maybe a son, a daughter, a brother, a friend. You get to a place where you can have that moment of meaning and purpose. And as you discuss, because you're trying to get to the same place, we want to live a life of meaning and purpose. We don't want to be self-interked. And if you do, again, I'll just say you're in the wrong place. That's not what this podcast is about. That's not where I'm going with this podcast. I don't want to teach you how to be a rich, selfish, narcissistic jerk. I want to go with you on the journey to be a person of meaning and purpose and changing the world around us and the reality around us to manifest a best reality now. A canvas that is being painted beautifully and changing dynamically, moment to moment, has all the flavors. It has bitterness, it has sweetness, it has struggle, it has perseverance, it has triumph, it has victory, and they all come together because they flavor each other in their experiences, and you're enjoying each one as I enjoyed the dentist, as I was out today, this morning, we went to one of my becoming one of my favorite restaurants here in San Carlos called Burger Ray, which translates Burger King, but it's not like the Burger King we know. It is right by the ocean, and today the wind wasn't bad, so the doors were open, and we were gosh, 200 yards from the ocean, up a little higher. Great view of the beach and the ocean, the bay, and having breakfast. I had amazing pancake, eggs, and bacon with a breakfast beer, yes, a stout, which was wonderful, and Adrian had eggs benedict, which was amazing, and that was an amazing moment, and we just enjoyed it. We had a good conversation, as we do, when we go out. Part of our conversation was just trying to reconnect since I've had my dentures. I haven't been talking as much, and this is probably the most I've talked in a long time, just because it's challenging, and I'm up for the challenge, but sometimes I get a little tired, and I tend to be a little bit of an introvert, and so the season maybe has caused me to be a little more introspective that way. But then we uh ran a couple errands, came home, and I was out working in the very warm sun here, sweating, also having a wonderful moment, realizing, gosh, I get to do this, I get to help out here. So grateful I can help out, and the work I was doing, turning out great, looks great, have satisfaction, joy, and pride over what I've done. Living the best moment now, seasoned with dentist work, with fun with friends, with challenging conversations. Your best life is right now, and if you have those challenging people in your life, you're gonna find if you can limit your exposure to them, and the ones that are close to you have those conversations and get on the same page, you're really, really gonna help yourself out by having allies and taking the obstacles out of the way because this is a real mental exercise, and it is challenging, but it is true. The reality is fluid, and the time to live your best reality is now, which is the beauty and the challenge and the struggle altogether. So if you have those, and I like the analogy of the woman in the red death, because in the movie she's an iconic bombshell, right? You're like, whoa. So these people often come into our lives, and our perception is, and we're talking the full-blown ones that are that are really aggressive, not not the ones that are waking up and have just some bad habits that just need to change. We're talking the full-blown ones. We tend to fall for them, hook, line, and sinker. And so we've got to open our eyes. And so, one of the things I'll just say to you, you are gonna start to see those people, you are gonna become aware of them, you're gonna notice them, you are gonna have the words to say, and so your best reality now can come out and shine. All right, my friends, I'm gonna wrap this up for now. It's been an amazing day. Thank you for putting it up with my dentures, and uh, hey, I love you, and as always.