Turning Pain Into Purpose, Passion And Impact

Embark on a transformative journey with Jessie Tories, whose story of triumph over childhood abuse and marital discord exemplifies the indomitable human spirit. Her path to becoming a top-ranked performance coach and life strategist is not just a tale of success but a guide to turning your deepest struggles into your greatest assets. Jessie invites us to reconsider our understanding of trauma and mindset, revealing how both can intricately shape our personal development.

In our candid conversation with Jessie, we navigate the nuanced waters of emotional intelligence and strategy, uncovering the importance of healing past wounds to foster genuine growth and resilience. Jessie's pivotal encounter with compassion in an unexpected form—a police officer's simple, yet profound words—serves as a beacon for anyone feeling trapped by their past. Her insights remind us of the power inherent in our perspectives and the metamorphosis that can occur when we align our mindset with a healed, emotional foundation.

We round off this episode with a meditation inspired by the show.

Jessie's contact details: https://unshakeablelife.com 

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:38

So hello everybody as promised here is the extra episode this week with our special guest who is soon to be joining me. On the line will be Jessie Tories, and I was looking at Jessie's biography before I came on this show and Jessie, for the last 18 years, has been a performance coach and life strategist and she's coached thousands of people in all walks of life and all parts of the world and helped them to achieve success and fulfillment. And just to add, out of the top 120 coaches on the planet that's on the planet, jesse rants even number one or top three in every measurable category, while working with the top coaching company in the world. Jessie is fueled by a passionate love for humanity, which is why I had her guest on the show, because I've got a passionate love of humanity and she has a burning desire to end suffering.

Speaker 1: 1:40

Jessie will share a bit of her story when she comes on, but she has had a very difficult life and I always find people like this inspiring how she changed that around and just to discover her own potential and limitless opportunities that she could have. She brings all levels of mindset, emotional intelligence, energy and strategy with an authentic way, and Jessie's teachings can help others transform their life from pain, trauma. Her company, I believe, is called Fierce Grace. So everybody, without further ado, please welcome Jessie Torres to the show. Welcome, jessie.

Speaker 2: 2:21

Hello, thank you so much for having me, Jane.

Speaker 1: 2:23

I'm so pleased to have you on the show today and it's such a joy to have you on the show. I've been so excited. I would just like to ask whereabouts in the world, are you joining us today? I am in.

Speaker 2: 2:34

Idaho. Oh wow, idaho yeah, northern part of the United States, and it's beautiful Right now. Spring is in the air and the colors are popping everywhere.

Speaker 1: 2:47

I just love that. I love it when the spring comes to life. You painted a beautiful picture in my mind of what it looks like there, so thank you for that. We've got you on the show today, jessie, because as always, we like to inspire our listeners, and many of our guests have had some kind of dark night of the soul and then they've overcome that and through that quest, they've managed to change their life and inspire others. So I thought what better person to speak to today than turning pain into purpose, passion and impact than yourself. So would you mind sharing a bit about your journey so far and your own life experiences on your path?

Speaker 2: 3:28

Sure, and I'll begin sharing with a preface that says in my story I want to make clear that it isn't to vilify anybody, right? I have forgiveness and nothing but love for every person that's been along my journey at this time. But I do share my experience, because it was my experience and my outcome is to help inspire people to recognize that their dark night of the soul doesn't have to be their end game, that that could actually be the moment of waking up to something deeper and greater inside of you. And so my journey starts with, you know, childhood sexual abuse. It led into a very abusive marriage for 18 and a half years.

Speaker 2: 4:15

So my first 18 years with my father, my next 18 years with my husband, and at the end of that I felt apathetic. I was wanting somebody to blow the red light and take me out, because I just didn't feel that, in the state that I was in, that life was worth living because it was just so hard. And at that point I had lost his sister to suicide and a year later, my brother to murder, and there was just a bunch of compilation of of things that in this state, verbal, mental, emotional abuse had just gotten me to a place where I'm like this is the way life is and I don't want to go anymore. And the only thing that kept me alive was my children and I. I didn't want to do that to them, I didn't want to leave them with something like that, but I was just wishing somebody would do it for me, because, from the lenses of back then, I didn't feel there was another way out. Death was the only way. And so what woke me up is an act of kindness, and so I I share this so much because I want everyone to know that, no matter how dark or how dense it seems that it is in the world, that doesn't mean that we are helpless, that your one act of kindness can wake up another human being and stop them from committing suicide or who knows what else.

Speaker 2: 5:39

Because when you're in that depth of apathy, it's a short circuit. I call it short circuit moments. When somebody treats you kind, when you're in your lowest, low, it short circuits the brain. I don't understand this. What do you mean? You're doing this for no reason. You don't want anything from me. I don't understand. My father had taught me that everyone wants to get in your pants, so don't trust anybody. My ex had told me people subconsciously want to break up a good marriage, so don't talk about our marriage to anyone. And so I lived hypervigilant, I lived hidden, I looked down at the ground. I didn't look, make eye contact because it caused me in my mind trouble. So when these people behaved kindly to me, I didn't even know to call it kindness, I just knew something changed, something happened. I said I don't even know what this feeling is, but if this feeling's available, then life is worth living. And I knew there I felt alive and I went home. I felt dead.

Speaker 1: 6:39

So that gave me the courage and the strength to get out of that situation and then created an insatiable hunger to understand human beings, and that's what got me here wow, jesse, that's, that's an amazing and I and thank you for being so honest about your story and your journey and, and I'm positive, despite any number of them, things are difficult, but the accumulation of them and I just I don't know. In fact, someone was kind that helped to wake you up out of this like spiral, which which obviously from what, what had happened to you in that. What was the act of kindness? Do you mind me asking?

Speaker 2: 7:18

Well, it was something. It's very simple and that's why I love it even more. Right, no-transcript. I was going to be an EMT because he was a police officer, and so I went on many ride-alongs and you know, I lived life behind the yellow tape, but I knew I was not going to be throwing anybody up against the wall. So I actually considered firefighting at one point because I'm like, oh, I can help people and my daughter's. Like mom, you're going to see a hurt kid and you're going to start crying and I'm like, well, if I'm equipped to help them, I think I can manage.

Speaker 2: 8:13

So I started by taking an emergency medicine course and throughout this time my ex wanted to take it with me to hover right, but it didn't work out in our schedules and so while I was there, my ex broke his legs, and I was anyway. That that's a separate story. The point is is that as I was going through, I ended up flunking because he broke his legs. I was in the hospital with him. I just I ended up flunking and it was a devastation to me. Devastation Cause it was the first thing I'd ever done for me. And, um, the teacher knew something was going on, so he asked me what's going on, because this isn't like you. And I explained and he gave me an offer and he said I'll give you an incomplete instead of a fail If you promise to take the course again next semester. And I jumped on it. So what he allowed me to do is he allowed me to audit the class and he, so I would come in and half of audit the class and he, so I would come in and half of it was lecture and then the other half was scenarios. So I started to be the patient for these 911, mock 911 calls. So he would put me on stairwells, he would put me under trees and they had to come answer the 911 call. And so the students were very pleased and they're pulling leaves out of my hair and they're like thank you so much, you're helping us learn. And at the end of it, I was kind of a computer geek, so I took pictures along the way and this is back in 2003.

Speaker 2: 9:33

So making videos was not as easy, but I made a compilation of their journey in the class and I showed it to them at the end. And what they did is they? They pulled together money and bought me a Best Buy card, which is a you know tech store, and that was it. That was it. It was them pulling leaves out of my hair, thanking me. It was them getting me this gift just because and for me I'm just showing up.

Speaker 2: 10:01

I'm grateful to be here. I'm still learning, you know, and that act of kindness I was just like I don't know, something's come alive in me. You guys are just being so nice to me, why. That's how low I had gotten into that. I didn't co-relate with people, I didn't connect with people because I was very kept. And so to expand and feel that kind of love and connection, just purely to honor me for the simple act, it short circuited my brain. And I still hope that on one of these podcasts, whoever was in that class will hear this, because I would love to thank them, because they'll never know who they woke up.

Speaker 1: 11:33

That's beautiful, jessie, that's absolutely beautiful, and I really hope they hear the message on this podcast and other podcasts that how the act of kindness helped wake you up out of this difficult situation. That's a beautiful story and the leaves out your hair and that that's really kind of them, really really kind of them. So, from this amazing knowledge that you have, how can you turn pain into purpose, passion and impact.

Speaker 2: 11:59

What tips would you give our listeners? Absolutely such a great question. I think that I know that sometimes, when we're hurt, and we're hurt bad it's hard to see beyond the weeds of the pain. And so, if I believe that everything happens in divine order and for our highest and greatest good, right, even the suck right and for some people that's hard to hear because they're like what do you mean? I was raped, do you mean I asked for it? Like how could you say that was a good thing? I'm not saying it was a good thing, but what I'm saying is there's a beautiful soul that got back up.

Speaker 2: 12:41

So how do we start to look for the light in the darkest moments? So, even when you're in that dark, there is light somewhere. Right, it's like Napoleon Hill. He wrote this amazing book called Outwitting the Devil, and my favorite quote from it is with every bit of adversity, there is a seed planted of unborn opportunity or its exact advantage. Right. And from that, in the moments where you're in despair, in the moments where you feel pain, feel it, because it's true In our human experience. We will feel pain, we will be disappointed, we will be hurt. Feel the feelings, but then ask what is the gift in this? How could this betrayal or whatever, be the greatest thing that ever happened to me? I know those are tough questions, but when you ask it it starts the brain to seek for the light, because God doesn't waste the pain. I believe we do if we choose to. So in those moments of darkness, start to seek what else could be true.

Speaker 2: 13:43

And I'll give you this quick example. My brother was murdered a year ago and my older brother was murdered 30 years ago. So I have these two stories and this recent one really uppercutted, like I was not expecting it was really a shock. I mean, both were, but at this stage of the game I thought I had seen my darkest days. The difference between the two is that over here I abandoned faith, god, anything. I was so angry. I was like I don't even know if you exist, god. I don't know what you are, but if you do exist, I hate you for taking my brother.

Speaker 2: 14:20

At this phase I was connected so deeply and so profoundly that I was able to dig my heels deeper into love and I was able to find light. I was able to find beauty in my deepest moments of sorrow. I was able to see his daughters connect. They hadn't met before three of them from different mothers mothers and they acted like they hadn't known each other forever. My family showed up in ways that I couldn't even I didn't even know was there, and people were posting beautiful things about him. So there's always light to be found. We just have to seek it that's.

Speaker 1: 14:51

That's very helpful and and deeply inspiring.

Speaker 1: 14:53

I'm really sorry for your loss, but I can see that you're a really strong, inspiring person and as you're speaking to me, it makes me think about like a pearl in an oyster and like kind of like finding, finding that within these things, because some people can go through some really difficult circumstances and I think what I pick up from you and correct me if I'm wrong is that it's kind of, we can choose to be a, a victim and this is not to belittle any horrible ordeal, because we have these, if anything's horrible happen. Of course we've got to process and go through those feelings, but it's just anything that it's finding the gem within that, even if it's something really horrible, but it's, it's a way to kind of navigate through it. I would, I would have said so, uh, deeply and wonderfully. Thank you for sharing that. I can, I could feel that, as you, as you were saying that to me. So what is a common myth about trauma? That there's quite a few common myths and what is, as they say, the truth of the triumph within that?

Speaker 2: 16:04

sure. So trauma oftentimes people interpret that as something grand, like a rape or, you know, sexual abuse or being beaten, which that is. But trauma is what the child made meaning of in the moment of an experience, right? So we don't know, we're just humaning. We get born and we don't have a manual, right?

Speaker 2: 16:30

But if you have a child that is shopping with his mother at the grocery store and is playing with toys in the aisle and the mom goes to the end of the aisle to grab something, she can see him but he can't see her. He lifts up his head and screams mommy, where are you? And she's like I'm right here. But in those 30 seconds he anchored abandonment. For that moment that that fear riddled his body of like I was left alone in his perception. Now, next time he goes to the grocery store, he's more clingy with mom. He doesn't want her to leave his sight, right. Or when she leaves to go to work, he doesn't want her to go because she's afraid she won't come back, right. And again, we don't know it, it's just the unconscious conditioning. Now he's 35, wondering why he can't keep a relationship, because he's very controlling, he's very possessive, he's very jealous and insecure because he's afraid that she will leave him and so we don't know, right.

Speaker 2: 17:25

So trauma the myth about it is that every single one of us experiences. The myth about it is that you have no trauma because people think it has to be this big, grandiose thing. It doesn't have to be. It's whatever the child made meaning of in the moment of an experience where it went hypervigilant and lost safety from that place. Now it becomes an unconscious conditioning we may not even be aware of. Sometimes, when I talk to, when I coach people, you know they'll say, well, yeah, this happened. My father left when I was five, but I forgave him. We have a great relationship, we're all good, you know, and they say all these things, but yet they find themselves limited in life. They find themselves in fear of of public speaking or whatever it is, or that they won't achieve the thing, and they don't realize that it's tied back to a moment that they thought they healed but hadn't really discovered ah, that makes sense.

Speaker 1: 18:21

Wow, and so if they can find or they're made aware of that, then they can kind of triumph over it, because then it won't have the same effect on them if they're completely brilliant. That makes sense, oh cool, because yeah, it can.

Speaker 1: 18:37

Kind of people sort of do think it has to be like big traumas and like, but sometimes some of the smaller things can like impact us we, like you said, we might not necessarily kind of know as an adult ways we kind of made a decision as a child that that's how something was and it necessarily wasn't that way. I find it so fascinating. But also trying to untangle it all can be a bit of a bit of a task as well, as I guess that's where someone like yourself can help somebody along the way, absolutely.

Speaker 2: 19:08

it's not therapy.

Speaker 2: 19:09

We're not going back to sit in it or re-injure by any means.

Speaker 2: 19:13

We're going back almost like in a cosmic I call it the cosmic seat which is just you're hovering over the scene so that you can be witnessed to it from a different set of lenses, from the powerful you that you are today, from from a parental set of lenses, like you know. Now you go back and you're witness to your child going through it, but you're also witness to the child that cried itself to sleep but got back up and still decided to be kind at school, still decided to get good grades, still decided, like you, start to see that beauty in the midst of the darkness, and my invitation is that you grab that versus the pain, because, to your point, we have a very victimized society and it's very easy to get seduced into only seeing the victim. But every time somebody shares their deep, deep, deep dark secrets with me and their pain, all I see is a hero, all I see is a champion. All I see is, if your depth of darkness was that dark, then your light is that much more brilliant.

Speaker 1: 20:18

So that's amazing. So you get, so you help your clients kind of see the from a different angle, like so kind of like I see like it's a movie being shot and they're kind of seeing it from this way, but you see, like the kind of beauty from the other side. I like that a lot. That's, that's a great help and to whoever, whoever needs it, brilliant, thank you, jesse. So one um, something in the line of your um work and your research is um on the power of mindset and which is it is a thing that I would, let's, use quite often these days, but I, I I'm quite passionate about how, when we change our mindset, we can kind of change uh world. When you were looking into all this, what was the one thing about the mindset that you were taken back? You weren't expecting it to be that way. Working on the power of our mindset and and you're looking, looking back you didn kind of thought, oh, that was a kind of ah moment, it was a different. Does that make sense? Or?

Speaker 2: 21:21

um, I think so. So I think in moments, um, first of all, I didn't know that I was living with shame, right? So I knew nothing of personal development. I did not know anything about mindset. I believed that the life I was living was all there was. And, um, in fact, it was a police officer at one stage where my, my husband was making death threats after I said I wanted a divorce, that I got interviewed and because I had to ID somebody, and he leaned into the car as I was sitting there terrified and he, all he said was you know, you don't have to live this way. And I was like, again, another short circuit moment. I'm like what do you mean? Like this is all I know. What do you mean? It doesn't have to be this way. So I had not conditioned a mindset that I was consciously aware of. I didn't know that I was adopting all these belief systems from my past, from all. You know, even my own upbringing, even to my new current space. You know even my own upbringing, even to my new current space. So mindset to me is hyper powerful.

Speaker 2: 22:29

But here's the caveat we cannot mindset our way out of healing, right? So what's happening is with a lot of personal development. Now you got coaches popping up all over the place, which I think is great because we need more right. And when we're constantly giving the tools to move away from our trauma, we're installing new software on an old operating system, hoping it doesn't glitch, and then it does, because we haven't upgraded the program of our trauma, we haven't healed it, and so we're trying to stack, you know, shift it, you know, change your mindset, you know. Do affirmations, do all these things, and it's great, it works to a point. But when you start to get to this point and then you find yourself limited again, guess what happens? You have a bigger invitation to shame yourself because, well, now you read the books, you went to the seminars, you're doing all the thing, but why are you still stuck? Because we have not upgraded the program to match the new software. Does that make sense?

Speaker 1: 23:30

That makes perfect sense and that would explain a lot of things actually. Yeah, so people can come bullying themselves, thinking, oh, why is this not working? I'm a failure or maybe I'm not being positive enough, and sometimes people say be positive and that's kind of pushing things out of the way that haven't kind of been dealt with. So from your program you teach people to kind of upgrade the software so that when they do go and try and change things they've got more chance of succeeding. Absolutely.

Speaker 2: 24:04

Absolutely, Absolutely. Because I do tell my clients mindset is forever. It's forever. It's not just a right now, one and done. We have to condition our mindsets because our life is going to have challenges. It just is. It's part of life. We don't know light without dark. The question is, who are you going to be in the face of the adversity? Are you going to allow the new challenge to trigger the old pain and then respond from a heightened emotional state, or are you going to be sovereign in your center, knowing you've healed that and when a new challenge comes in, you're able to go oh okay, this is a challenge I asked for. What muscle am I being called to build in this moment? How is this the best thing for my expansion?

Speaker 1: 24:47

so that being in the sovereignty. I remember it sounds really powerful by saying that being in your sovereignty, because if things are always going to come and happen, so why not be in this kind of better place to deal with it, rather than kind of slipping into patterns that aren't going to serve us? So what a way to go forward. So Fierce Grace is the program that you have to offer, and would you mind explaining that to our listeners and to myself as well, of course, how that works and the history behind it.

Speaker 2: 25:21

Absolutely, and you know I want to take a second and just say thank you for allowing me to have this conversation and to speak to your audience, fierce Grace. My whole outcome is to spread a veil of love on the planet. Now, how do I do that? By awakening each human being and helping us come back to the innocence that we had when we were a child. In the innocence of a child, there's no wrong, right. You don't look at a little kid bouncing around as dumb or stupid or silly or whatever. It's just like. They're just beautiful. They go to the playground, they see a friend and they're like hey, want to play, yeah, let's go. There's no inhibitions, there's no fear of judgment. There's just this beauty. And I think that we all have that still within us.

Speaker 2: 26:05

But we've built armor around our hearts so much because we've been hurt, that we behave as a version of us right and we've lost our way the part of us that will take a stand for a wrongdoing and the parts of us that just open with love, because we are love innately and that's where we want to come home to. But we're afraid, we're hypervigilant, we're ready for the fight because, well, we've been hurt, we've been vulnerable. We've opened our hearts and it's been stomped on and so we start to build this armor and we lose balance, proved, you know, fought so hard to prove that we could do it all that now we have an exhausted society, right, and women are like exhausted and they're burnt out and it's just like I know that we can do it, but do we want to? And we've emasculated our men. Now they're unsure. Should I help you carry your groceries or will I be insulting you? Can you tell me where I fit into this Right? And it's not for blame, it's for understanding.

Speaker 2: 27:08

The reason we did that is because we've been hurt and we've lost our sense of safety. So we had to, in essence, man up, step into our masculine and lead, which is great, but it's not our congruent home. So fierce grace is the balance of both. It's coming back, allowing our men to be our warriors from a protected, heart-centered leadership, not from inauthentic masculine of control, because that's also wounding, but from a warrior stance of I've got you, I've got your back and I'm going to lead us into safety. And I'm going to hold space for you, the feminine, to be safe and I'm going to lead us into safety and I'm going to hold space for you, the feminine, to be safe. And all of that happens when we're able to heal our inner wounds, our traumas, our pain, and we can start to turn that into not only passion.

Speaker 1: 27:55

But I love being able to come back to purpose and power and, ultimately, impact, because when we get to a state of falling in love with ourselves so profoundly, all we want to do is give yeah, that's beautiful, it is, but and and what a gift to do is then to give, because the more we heal ourselves, then we can kind of show other people and they'll show other people that become this like um knock on domino effect, where everyone's kind of and that that's, that's the best place for the world and for each and every human being. So if I'm, if I'm a listener and I'm not based in the states you work for people internationally, like because I do the world, yeah, brilliant. And if our listeners would like to connect with you, what's the best way to do so?

Speaker 2: 28:46

Absolutely. You can go to unshakablelifecom and that's where you can schedule a call with me. It would be my honor to support you it's a free call and just to be able to see you will walk away with you know what could be limiting you. You will walk away with powerful ways to deal with it and you know it would just be my honor. And you can read a little bit more about my journey, my path. But I'd be excited to have that conversation and I also have a free giveaway for your listeners too.

Speaker 2: 29:14

It's a 10 step guide to freedom and it's basically like you asked earlier in the conversation so brilliantly. You know what can someone do right now? Right, what can they do right now? Sometimes, when we're in our situation like me, I didn't see a way out, I didn't see an opportunity, that death was the only way. So just know that, whatever your situation is right now, this 10 step guide will give you different avenues of what you can do in this moment, you know, to help you come back to yourself, your strength, your power and your sovereignty.

Speaker 1: 29:49

Oh, that's great, so what you can do in this moment. So, dear listeners, I'll put notes in the show notes how you can find the website, but do check out to get the free guide. So, jessie, I'm mindful of the time. I've really enjoyed talking to you. I'd just like to ask is there anything that you wish to cover that I haven't asked Because, you know, sometimes you get into the conversation.

Speaker 2: 30:14

Yeah, you know. If anything, your questions were amazing and again, thank you for having me. And if there's one thing I can say to your listeners that I wish I would have had someone tell me you're doing a great job. You're doing a great job. It's like don't be so hard on yourself that. Know that whatever situation you're in right now, you're doing the best you can. And if you're listening to Jane's podcast, you're a seeker and you're wanting more. You're wanting a deeper expansion, and that, in and of itself, is something to celebrate. So honor yourself for every step and know that you are more powerful and more courageous than you know right now.

Speaker 1: 30:52

I would like to thank you. It's such a grace to have someone as special as you on the show and for you to share your story and your bravery and how you're helping people. So thank you, and I hope to have you on the show again in the future, and I'll be looking up, looking up. I've seen how you get normal things. But, dear listeners, the one and only Jessie Torres, do stay tuned. Dear listeners, as always, there's a meditation inspired by today's show, but thank you so much, jessie.

Speaker 2: 31:23

Thank you, I appreciate you. Thank you, but thank you so much, jesse, thank you.

Speaker 1: 31:27

I appreciate you, thank you so much and thank you for stepping out and doing this as promised. Here is your meditation, inspired by today's show. Top tips for the meditation is either sit nice and cross-legged on the floor with a nice, straight back always nice to sit on a block or a cushion or that's not available for you you sit in a chair with the back nice and straight. The important thing is you're not slouching, and if you're doing something that requires your concentration, all you need to do is just pause this and you can reconvene the meditation at a time that is good for you. If you're doing the meditation, let's begin, and for this meditation, I would suggest that you do it facing a mirror. So begin to take some slow, deep breath in and out through the nostrils. Begin to look at yourself in the mirror, and I invite you to do that from a sense of presence, because many of us may not like looking in the mirror. Your mind may bring you to places of faults or what you perceive is wrong with you.

Speaker 1: 33:05

My suggestion is to look in the mirror in a whole brand new, different way, as you observe and take your being in. As you look at yourself, see the reflection of a wonderful person. Maybe me using the words wonderful doesn't resonate with you, but that's why we're doing this meditation together to remind you that you are a sovereign, divine person, meaning that everyone has a place upon this planet and you are unique, but also connected with everybody else. And as you observe yourself in the mirror, can you allow that wondrous being that you are to just simply be, without judgment of how you wish to look? Instead, just look into your eyes, look into your eyes in the mirror and see the sparkle that you are, the joy that you are, and remind that reflection, that reflection of you, that no matter what, you are already lovable.

Speaker 1: 34:24

You are already perfect. You are already lovable, you are already perfect, you are already great, you are already wonderful. And just repeat these words after me as you look into that mirror I am love, I am love, I am love, I am love, I am enough, I am enough, I am more than enough, I am more than enough, I am absolutely fantastic. And I'd just like to add, even if you don't feel these things yet, just repeat after me I am absolutely fantastic, I am absolutely great. And as you look into the mirror, just think about one thing that you like about yourself. It can be a part of your personality. Maybe you're kind, maybe you're calm, whatever comes into your head. So one trait that you have what do you love? The one thing of yourself, one possibility of the many things that are great about you, but just label one, and that will be personal to you, but whatever it is, as you look into the mirror, remind yourself of that I am. And then, whatever the word was and you can do this daily. If this helps a lot, which I'm sure it will and do this daily, just remind yourself, remind yourself, remind yourself, remind yourself, remind yourself. You can do it several times a day, every time you go and look in the mirror, remind yourself For that which we imagine becomes.

Speaker 1: 36:54

And for the second part of the meditation, think of a particular goal that you have in life, something that you wish to achieve Just for today. The first thing that pops into your head, that again will be the individual to your needs and what you wish to achieve. And then you change the mantra to I have the goal of, and then you fill in the blanks I am working towards this goal, I am enjoying the journey, but I also love myself completely, as I am right this moment. And allow yourself to really feel that. And again, you can repeat that affirmation every day if you wish, or more often. And finally, just to kind of cement it all in, just picture your future self as you wish them to be, future self as you wish them to be. Whatever your goal is, allow, allow, allow and thank your present self for being fantastic and thank the lessons from your past self which made you who you are today. So, thank you. Take a nice deep inhalation, a nice deep exhalation, and then slowly, slowly, come back into the room.