Kasbh's Rant
Kasbh's Rant
Kasbh's Rant 185 Lifestyle Legacy
The show is all about the legacy we leave. DO we want to be remembered in the lifestyle as someone that everyone is glad to see leaving or someone everyone wishes they would stay, A unique topic and for sure a very unique rant.
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Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Casbo Rants. Holy shit, fuck, are you shitting me? No fucking way, you've lost your fucking mind. Sweet mother of Christ, what's wrong with you? No, fuck, shit, son of a, damn it! Get over it. Un-fucking-believable. Casbah Rants. Let's go. Hey, you crazy motherfuckers. Welcome back to another edition of Casbah's Rant. I'm Cole. I'm part of Casbah the Rants. For those of you following at home, this is Season 6, Episode 185. Before we get started, let's give a quick shout-out to our sponsors. Our newest sponsor, Discreet and Dirty Company, Lifestyle Apparel, Flirty, Funny, Dirty... Fast shipping, custom designs welcome. Check them out today. DiscreteDirtyCEO.com. You'll be glad you did. And don't forget the name you can trust in adult toys, MotorBunny.com. 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Please make sure you check them out. We greatly appreciate it, and they do as well. Okay, so let's get started. You know, this week has been a, as a 52, almost 53-year-old guy, this week has been an interesting week for In terms of looking at your life, and for those of you who don't know, this week has seen icons in industries die. We obviously had Malcolm from Cosby Show died in the drowning to start the week off. Ozzy Osbourne died. died 17 days after his last show with Black Sabbath, and then Hulk Hogan died suddenly just a day ago, two days ago. And I bring this up because obviously when you have folks that are that well-known, that are part of historic or groundbreaking activities, events, whatever, the conversation of legacy comes up. I mean, obviously, we're talking Black Sabbath, Ozzy Osbourne, we're talking Hulkamania, we're talking The Cosby Show, right? These are folks that had a massive impression on people's lives. And so the concept of legacy comes up. And obviously, there's a whole lot that goes with that and legacy. When you talk about that, we all know there's differences and differences their real life versus their professional lives and lots of debate. But what it made me start to think about is the reality is everybody wants to think about legacy. And is there a legacy in the lifestyle? And the reality of it is, yes. It's huge. It's huge. It's absolutely huge. Now, the unique part of legacy in the lifestyle is not so much, a lot of people leave the lifestyle not by death, but by choice. Some people by death, some people all the way through. But why would we even need to talk about legacy in the lifestyle? Well, one, let's talk a little bit about, let's talk about what type of legacies can be left. There's good legacies, there's bad legacies. We all know that at your job, for example, you know there's people that have worked at your company for a long time and they have left a legacy. There's an opinion about them. When people retire, remember Bob, boy, he was really good at this. Bob really made a difference. Bob left a positive legacy. Or there's people who are like, God, that guy was such a dick. He was always an asshole. He liked to steal, whatever. There's negative. Why would we worry about it at work? Work is a huge percentage of our time. Most of us spend countless hours, like a third of our life, at our jobs. So, of course, legacy kicks into effect there because it has such an impact on it. What's the legacy we leave as a parent? What's the legacy we leave as maybe an aunt or an uncle, whatever the case may be, a family, but that relationship because it's a huge chunk of our time. And the thing is, is there are certain clubs, groups, whatever, that people are involved with that become that same sort of situation. Maybe it's scouting. I mean, there are people that were involved with scouting for 50 years. There are people that are involved with rotary clubs or religious organizations or whatever the case may be. Anything that is something that affects people's lives and you put a lot of time is there's a potential for legacy, right? And the lifestyle is exactly the same way, although it may not be as long of a term, just based upon what the lifestyle is. The level of trust, confidence, deep meaning and security, and the areas the lifestyle touches makes it an absolute legacy-leaving lifestyle. You can do more damage in two years or a year in the lifestyle than you can do in your neighborhood in 20 years. I mean, quite literally, if you think about it. And you can also do more good. And the truth is, everyone has a desire in the back of their mind to not be forgotten. That's what legacy is. The legacy is to not be forgotten, to be remembered, that somehow or another, after you are no longer here or part of it or whatever the case may be, that you are remembered. It plays into my world. Obviously, mine's a little bit different in terms of because of the events and the other things we do, but legacy plays into it. I want people long after I'm gone, after Casbah's gone, to people still remember the positive influences of our events, of us, of Casbah. It's important to me. And honestly, this message is about the fact that legacy should be, when it comes to lifestyle, important to all of us because how we are remembered should be important and we should model our behavior accordingly. It's a huge part of this, of who we are. Again, because the lifestyle, the intensity level of the ability to help or harm someone is so much stronger in the lifestyle because of its feelings, its emotions, its sexuality. The rewards or the damage can be so much more intense and so much quicker. We need to think in terms of how we're remembered. Do we want to be remembered as a homewrecker? Do we want to be remembered as... a creep or a dirtbag, a piece of shit as selfish? Do we want to be remembered as people that are great to hang out with, people that truly were welcoming and accepting and growing? Do we want to be remembered as somebody that we hope, do we want to be remembered as someone that people hope to forget? That's a very real part of it in the lifestyle. You know people, you know people that you have met if you've been in a live show a length of time, or if you are in it any length of time, you will meet people that you will hope to forget. Maybe it's via a horrible hookup, maybe it's via a bad interaction, whatever the case may be, but we have to think about that. Is that what we want? Is that what we want our legacy to be? Because how we behave in every situation Absolutely dictates that. The really unique part is so many similarities here when you look at people like Ozzy and you look at people like Hulk Hogan, for example, those two, where years of positives were stained by singular events. Some were overcome, some weren't. And that made me really, again, think more about the lifestyle. The fact that, I'll give an example of the Ozzy Osbourne. Obviously, for those of you who don't know or any history about Ozzy, in the 80s, Ozzy was on tour in San Antonio, drunk, fucked up, whatever, pissed on the Alamo at night when it was closed. I mean, there were arrest warrants. It was bad. I mean, you talk about a negative blemish, right? Now, as years went through, it was like sometime in the 90s, maybe a little later than that, you know, as Ozzy looked back, he reached out to the Alamo, made public apologies to the Alamo, reached out to learn more about it, whatever, enough so that on his passing, the Alamo put out a remembrance of Ozzy, a positive thing. But I use that as an example how One thing instantly altered the perception, right, of someone and how much it took years and work to overcome that one incident. And obviously, there's lots of those with Hulk Hogan. We're not going to go into those. But again, how one or two instances can the amount of damage or the amount of change to a legacy that can happen how does this apply to the lifestyle okay great let's put it this way you've always been someone great great great you by the rules and all of a sudden one time you fuck up non-consent touch somebody without consent everything you've done up to that point instantly loses a lot of its luster because now it's based upon the most current reality that's the truth And again, the lifestyle, because of the intensity of the feelings and the emotions, it absolutely magnifies. Look, you have the ability with one poor decision to cause someone else to completely leave the lifestyle, to have a situation blasted to literally hundreds, if not more, thousands of people about what you did. And that's just being in the lifestyle. That's not being necessarily a public figure in the lifestyle or anything else. So the power of your actions and the legacy you leave are amazing. And I can tell you, doing something like touching someone without consent... It's way more powerful and has way more consequences than pissing on the Alamo. Just saying. But that's the mindset that we have to understand. It's okay to make mistakes. We're not saying you have to be perfect. Mistakes are one thing, but choices are such another. It's okay to accidentally not notice somebody and not include them. It's not okay to purposely block them out. You see the difference there? That's the difference between the type of legacies that you leave and create. Now understand, with anything, with any person, famous or not famous, there is always going to be a degree of humanity in that equation. What do I mean by that? The degree of humanity is that there are just some people that, you know what, we just oil and water, don't mix. Don't mix. It doesn't matter how nice you think you are or how nice they think they are. You know what? Personalities just don't mix. They collide. They don't get along. It's just kind of a degree of fucking fuck you, fuck you type thing, you know? It's one of those things. There's also always going to be a degree of humanity with perception. That's the truth of the situation. There's always going to be perception, right? And most of the perception, whether you're famous or not famous, it comes from what people hear and how it was told to them. The reality is most situations that define people, that define us and our legacies, are not ones that are witnessed by everyone. They're witnessed by some people, and it's how those people share that information. And obviously, anytime people share information, go play the whisper game. Mom said be home by 10 and you have 10 people and everybody whispers at each other's ear. By the end of the whisper, it gets to, you know, the kangaroo fucks rabbits. What? I mean, it's just that fucking bizarre. So there's always going to be that factor in it. So a positive legacy is not about every single person loving you and finding nothing wrong with you. It doesn't work that way. But it's about the vast majority. It's a pattern of how you do things. Positive legacy is left by the fact that the majority of people go... They hear something negative and go, that just doesn't sound like them. That's the truth of it. And I'm sure a lot of your listeners are going, I don't understand. What does this actually have to do with swinging? Why does it matter? It matters... Because if the lifestyle, a big part of the lifestyle is about reacting and living in the moment. When you're talking to somebody who likes to sport fuck, that absolutely. It's about living in the moment. But even when we live in the moment, we have to think further out than that. That's just in life. You're driving a car. You're driving down the road. You have to be focused on the ride here right now, but you still have to be conscious of the stoplight up ahead, right? You still have to, you're driving down the road and you see up ahead there's kids playing. You still have to, you're in the moment because you can't not know what's going on. You're still conscious of it. You wreck your car, but you have to be ready so in case they make some move, right? It's the same type of thing in the lifestyle. You have to live in the moment because if you just live for, Down the road, you're missing the point of the lifestyle, but you still have to have that in the back of your mind. You have to understand the consequences, and you have to plan accordingly and act accordingly. Excuse me. You have to understand that you are leaving a trail. You are leaving a history. And sometimes legacy is the wrong word because sometimes people look at legacy and they go, well, that's conceited. You know what? Here's the deal. If you feel that anybody who wants to leave a legacy is conceited, great. You know what? The amount of people in this world that can say with complete honesty that they are totally 100% okay and mean it to live, live life, and then be forgotten the day after they die and they're completely okay with it, I'm sure there's a few, but they're very rare. It's not human nature. It's just not. And the lifestyle is the same way. Even if you're only in it for X amount of time, when you leave, let me ask you this, when you leave the lifestyle, whether that be after six months, six years, 60 years, do you want people to be glad to see you leave? There's the question. Or do you want people to wish you were still there or wish you stayed? Because that's ultimately what legacy is. And that's the reality of the situation. How you behave at an event. How you behave in being groups. How you interact with people. How you include or don't include. How you follow the rules of consent and confidentiality. How you hold and carry yourself. Do you want people to be glad when you leave, or do you want people to wish you were still a part of it? It's really funny. A lot of times people will take breaks from the lifestyle for whatever reason. Take a break from the lifestyle, and when they make the decision to come back into the lifestyle, and I see this again being on all the pages that I'm on. I mean, I'm only on like, I don't know, Fucking 40 Facebook pages, God knows Twitter, you know, the whole nine yards. It's so interesting when you see after people have taken hiatus, whether it be for a short-term couple of months or there's people that have taken a couple of years, raised kids, off, whatever. It is so interesting when you see them talk about hiatus Their experiences as they come back into the lifestyle. It speaks volumes. I don't have to know the people. I don't have to know anything about them to know based upon how they talk about their experiences coming back into the lifestyle what type of people they were. It was so great. We've been, you know, we got out of lifestyle for like 10 years and we really, you know, we finally, it's like we miss this. We wanted to come back. It was so awesome. There were so many new people, a lot of people that didn't know us, but people that did, that were excited or what we'd known briefly that we had, it was like we picked up right where we left off. Well, what's that tell you about them? It tells you they'd left a positive legacy at that point in time. And then there's people that Say, well, we took six months a year to come off. We come back and people that we thought were our friends didn't even act like they knew us. We felt so alone. No one would talk to us. Well, what does that tell you? Yes, there could be the fact that some of the people are just assholes. Okay. But if no one was excited to see you back, well, what is the problem like quite possibly? It speaks volumes. So the question of my rant today, or my question of, not question, or my how to do something, whatever, I don't know what the fuck it is, end note, is again the question I posed before. Do you want people to be glad you're leaving or left, or do you want people to wish you were staying? What's your legacy going to be? Don't confuse the fact that no one else sets it, by the way. FYI, I got to throw this in, or else it just popped in my brain. No one else sets it. Before you sit there and go, well, my legacy was great, but this person talks shit. No, you know what? That's not it. That's not it. If you have a reputation as a homewrecker, it's because you wrecked homes. If you have a reputation as an asshole, it's because you're an asshole. You can't blame that on somebody else. How do you want people to remember you? Are they glad you left or wish you were staying? You control your legacy. Make it what you want it to be. You've heard me say it before, you'll hear me say it again. This rant's over.