Ever felt like you're stuck in a rut, unable to break free from the constraints holding you back? Join us as we converse with Pete Taylor, a growth coach and former pro athlete turned serial entrepreneur. Pete wasn't always this confident; he shares his journey from being a bullied teenager to becoming a pro athlete, thanks to the discipline and consistency he learned at a gym he joined at the tender age of fifteen. This transformation played a pivotal role in shaping his life, enabling him to apply the same discipline and tenacity in his entrepreneurial journey.
Being a man in today's world isn’t always straightforward. Pete delves into the harmonious blend of masculine and feminine energy and its crucial role in emotional regulation. With the guidance of his mentor Yazine, Pete navigated significant growth milestones in his life, even during tumultuous times. We examine what it means to be a man, and how understanding and channeling your emotions could lead to profound confidence.
Finally, we touch upon the essence of purpose and growth in our lives. Pete shares how he transitioned from running an architectural business to leading a men's movement, all while searching for and aligning with his true purpose. We also discuss the vital role of effective communication within relationships, and how it helps in expressing wants and needs. Pete wraps up the conversation by emphasizing his mission to help men find their purpose and how his experiences aid in guiding others on their journey. Listen in, and be inspired to find your purpose, manage your emotions, and communicate effectively. Join Pete on this enlightening journey of personal growth and self-discovery.
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Ever felt like you're stuck in a rut, unable to break free from the constraints holding you back? Join us as we converse with Pete Taylor, a growth coach and former pro athlete turned serial entrepreneur. Pete wasn't always this confident; he shares his journey from being a bullied teenager to becoming a pro athlete, thanks to the discipline and consistency he learned at a gym he joined at the tender age of fifteen. This transformation played a pivotal role in shaping his life, enabling him to apply the same discipline and tenacity in his entrepreneurial journey.
Being a man in today's world isn’t always straightforward. Pete delves into the harmonious blend of masculine and feminine energy and its crucial role in emotional regulation. With the guidance of his mentor Yazine, Pete navigated significant growth milestones in his life, even during tumultuous times. We examine what it means to be a man, and how understanding and channeling your emotions could lead to profound confidence.
Finally, we touch upon the essence of purpose and growth in our lives. Pete shares how he transitioned from running an architectural business to leading a men's movement, all while searching for and aligning with his true purpose. We also discuss the vital role of effective communication within relationships, and how it helps in expressing wants and needs. Pete wraps up the conversation by emphasizing his mission to help men find their purpose and how his experiences aid in guiding others on their journey. Listen in, and be inspired to find your purpose, manage your emotions, and communicate effectively. Join Pete on this enlightening journey of personal growth and self-discovery.
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Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of Latinos and real estate investing podcast, and this is a place where individuals just like you come to learn how to create wealth, the real estate investing, entrepreneurship and business ownership. And today's guest is Pete Taylor. Pete went from being picked on to pro athlete and serial entrepreneur. Pete is a growth coach and a strategic advisor. You might know him as one of the founders of the awakened man project and the boardroom, formerly running his own businesses for the last seven years. He now advises multiple businesses at a board level and assists and grow and the growth of others.
Speaker 1:Pete, my friend, thank you for being here. Thank you for taking the time to show him up here at sharing with me and the audience. I'm excited for this interview. Yes, I'm like I'm good to be here. Thank you, brother. Appreciate you Tell us about. I'm really interested and I'm going to just go right into it. Yeah, used to be a pro athlete. Then you went into entrepreneur. Why don't we start there so we could give people some foundation? Give me some foundational information. Tell us about that journey, how you went from pro athlete to then entrepreneur and then to this prod, to this thing that you're doing with the awakened man project. Tell us about that journey.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know, I was just talking about this earlier today. I had a call. We had over a hundred guys on it and then was like Pete, just say a little bit of your story here. You know that Steve Jobs quote where he's like it's. Only when you look back you can start connecting the dots. Like it's so, like when you really think about that, that's so powerful.
Speaker 2:And I could really think back to when I was 12, 13 years old and my growth as a young boy was three years below what it should have been. So all my buddies are like 13 years old and they're growing at that rate and I looked like a 10 year old. I got the name little Pete and so like, right from a young age, I was peaked on by the boys physically and bullied by the girls verbally and for like the best part of my young teenage years, it was, it was, it was. I mean, it's horrendous, right, it wasn't, it's hard enough being a teenage boy anyway, but like, having that, like working against me, was the start. However, because I was like what can I do? And I joined the gym. I remember I was like reading like men's health magazines all the time I was, I could, I could like to work on myself.
Speaker 2:So join a gym when I was 15 years old, super young, and I got involved really quick and I could see these like physical changes happening. But I could also see these like mental changes happening because it was like in my hands to change the way I looked. And then I started feeling better. I started feeling more confident and I was able to talk to the girls, I was able to stick up for myself a little bit, I wasn't getting bullied on so much and that was really the start of my like self development journey. And I continued that gym going through my teens up into my early twenties. And so I was like, do you know, I want to take this to the next level. And it was a purely vanity. I just wanted to look good. It was purely vanity, it was purely for the girls, girls, man.
Speaker 1:Listen, dude, if you said anything else to me, man to man I'd say you're full of shit. If you said, oh, mate, I was purely guys, I was doing because I wanted to be healthy at 20 years old, I was 21s too I'd say you're full of.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, I wanted a six pack. I wanted the girls to. That was what it was all about, right? So I entered a competition and I was like, if I enter a competition, then I know that my standards are going to have to be really high and there's going to be like I'm going to get the six pack, I'm going to look great. And I paid for a coach and I told all my buddies and they all bought tickets and a week later I was like shit, what the fuck about? What have I done? I'm literally like in six months time I'm going to be on stage in my pants being judged for the way I look. What life, what on earth have I done?
Speaker 2:But because I paid a coach and because my buddies had bought tickets, I just couldn't back out. My ego wouldn't let me back out. And so over the course of the next six months I was at the train twice a day. I had to eat super regimented. I had to do posing practice, which was horrendous. But what it taught me was discipline, and it taught me consistency, and it taught me that I could do something when I put my mind to it, even if I didn't really want to do it, even if, like that voice in my head which I now call like the inner enemy or par X, I could give it a name. Like we're saying Pete, don't do that, Stay in bed, stay in bed. I knew that I, like I could, I could push past that and I did the competition. I didn't win, but it gave me the bug to want to win Right and it and it taught me all these like characteristics and like from a young age.
Speaker 2:So I was in my like early, early times, in my early twenties, early to mid twenties, I was like 25. And I was starting to think a little bit differently from the rest of the guys I was hanging around with Like cause they were all still going out, getting getting pissed and doing doing the party thing and I was doing a bit of that. But I was also thinking, hey, I can actually achieve more here. Like I've just like I've put my body through that, I've done well there, like why can I not apply this to my career? And my career started progressing because I'd like built that, that discipline in the gym. I was applying that into my career and I was feeling I was, I was confident, like like the whole bullying thing is now out the way. Like I was attracting lots of girls, I was building loads of confidence and I was applying that to other areas of my life.
Speaker 2:So I climbed the corporate ladder. I'd done a couple of more competitions and now and now one. So I competed internationally and I got given my pro cards. I actually got given like a pro status, as a, as a fitness model and as like a body breeder. I then competed over in London against all the professionals. It was a fantastic experience and it did teach me that if I really what I went from this like this tiny boy that was getting bullied, and if I put my mind to something, I can get to the highest level there and win. And then I applied that to business.
Speaker 2:I was climbing the corporate ladder and one day my my then boss pulled up in his brand new Porsche. It was a. It was a lovely Porsche, remember. It was a white, white and, you know, like a GT4. It's beautiful. And I thought, hang on a minute, I am not. I'm not gonna be able to get that. I'm not gonna be able to get that car myself sitting in this position. I need to go and sit where he's at. I need to be the boss and that was literally the spark that was. All it took was seeing him pull up in that car and I thought do you know what this is? I need to change this and I started my own business and we built that from living room to three story building in London.
Speaker 2:It was an architecture firm. We used to do architecture, interiors construction. We used to work for homeowners building their dream homes and we used to work for developers building like multi-multi, like big building blocks. Then she went from designing people's garden sheds and front porches all the way to multi-multi, some of the biggest houses in the UK some real big developments. Over the course of six years. I ended up with a team of 20 people. We were winning awards for the work that we were doing and it was a phenomenal experience and a fantastic learning curve on how to build a business and what my capabilities were as a man.
Speaker 1:That is amazing, brother. That is amazing and amazing story, man. So when did this thing, this Awaken Men project? When was that birth and what exactly does the Awaken Men project do?
Speaker 2:So here's the next thing. That story sounds like Pete's doing well. Here Pete's got and that's what it looked like from the exterior. You know, I'm not gonna lie. You know I had a nice car and nice watches and a nice house, and on the external it did look good, but on my internal it wasn't good.
Speaker 2:I didn't feel great, like I had alienated myself. I actually got very, very lonely and like the closest people to me were my team and like, just as a guy, I had my own shit going on and I didn't really have anyone to talk to about it. And so what I just did what most guys do I'd suppressed all those emotions, I suppressed everything that I was feeling, and then every now and again it would explode and it would come out and it was just going in a direction like mentally, for me that wasn't right, like I was moving into depressive states and I was gaining lots of anxiety as my team got bigger and the problems got bigger and I had to do something about it. And what I was seeing during that I didn't see it then, but I can see it now is that like my nice guy tendencies, like I prided myself on being a good guy, like even when I was young, I was like the nice guys, I'm always gonna finish. I know I'm gonna finish first, like I'm finishing last. Now all the girls and the boys, like you know they aren't the bad boys, but soon they're gonna. You know they're like the nice guy, which is me. I am the nice guy and I pride myself on that. But what I soon came to realize is that no, the nice guys would finish last and the nice guys will get walked over. And that was me all over and in my business. All I would, we'd done well there. It was at no way near the potential that it could have been, because I didn't have any boundaries and I would say yes to everything. And I was walked over and probably like passively bullied without really realizing until like now I can look back and go oh God, I can actually see where there was so many mess ups there is because I wasn't asserting myself as a guy. I was just letting things happen and being nice about it, until one day it was like the straw that brought the camels back.
Speaker 2:The memory was a Saturday morning, it was in October, and one of my team members texted me. It was my no, it's nothing. He just texted me with a little problem. It was absolutely nothing. And I was like, right, screw this, that's it. Do you know what? I just had enough, I'm out, I'm just gonna leave, I'm gonna exit my business as soon as I can.
Speaker 2:And like in the background, my then mentor, who is now my business partner, yazine. He was mentoring me and coaching me. And now, yazine, he'd been doing his PhD in positive psychology for men and he's a training psychotherapist. He'd also built a humongous nine figure business and had loads of success there. So he's in his second era of life where he's done all the money things and now he's more about the helping.
Speaker 2:And a few months before that, like he knew what was going on with me and I'm like, dude, I think something's gotta change. And he was like Pete, you're not the only guy, you're not the only guy in your situation where you're doing okay, but you're probably playing at level two on your potential and you're also not stepping into like who you know that you can be as a man, or even what it even means to be a man. Right, because I didn't really understand why I was predominantly raised by my mother. My parents split when I was 13, and from 13 to 23, I lived with my mom. My mom is ultra feminine, fantastic upbringing is amazing. But up until, like my early thirties, I was, she babied you.
Speaker 1:Let's call it a day. She coddled you. She babied you, dude. I had that issue with my wife and my boys, especially with all this. She coddled them and I have. That's what women do, it's in their nature. I had to constantly be like, no, I gotta teach this boy to be a man. No, it's a constant balance of ultra feminine sweet nurture. You didn't have the other side of that.
Speaker 2:No, a boy coming into a man. He needs both. Yes, he does. He needs that comfort and that love and that flow and that energy from his mother. He needs that feminine side, but he also needs that warrior side, that protector side, that strong masculine, so he can bring both energies to the party.
Speaker 2:And I was missing that for a long time and, like, when I got to my early 30s, I know I was just like a boy in an adult's body.
Speaker 2:I hadn't really, I hadn't really truly grown up and throughout my late 20s I'd started to get some masculine role models where I started to learn from. But Yusina spotted this and he was like Pete, this is a problem and you're not the only man. And like why don't we set up a group, set up a community for what you need, Like you've to be around other guys and who are gonna work on understanding their own psychology and unpack what's going on and only just to grow up and to get from like a us playing at level two on our potential scale to getting up to three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine and 10. And so I quit my business and went full time with the Awaken man project to really not be in there sitting on my high horse saying, hey, I've achieved these things. It was more hey, I'm side by side with you guys, Like I'm going through all this and I'm learning with you. And that project has grown and now we have quite literally thousands of people in our groups, we have hundreds of clients.
Speaker 1:I got a question for you. What do you find in today's world is the biggest challenge with men that they face in our community and in our culture? With men today, based on your group and how many men you got in your group?
Speaker 2:There is such a multitude of challenges that I see what's the one that keeps coming up, like, you see, consistently that comes up like more frequent than any other, not knowing how to be a man or not even knowing what it is to be a man, just like being confused about what that means to be a man.
Speaker 1:That is so powerful man, so powerful what you just said. Let's talk to that guy right now. Let's talk to that man right now. Let's talk to that young guy right now. We have a big listenership of young men. Let's talk to those guys. And ladies pay attention.
Speaker 1:What is, in your opinion, what is it to be a man? Because there is a lot of confusion and I know part of the reason why these young guys there's a lot of confusion as to there's no sex bullshit. You're either a man or you're a woman, like yeah, that's where I'm at with it guys. So either a man or you're a woman and as a male, being born a male sex of a male, there's certain things that God put inside us to protect and provide in that warrior part. And then there's that gentle side, that loving and that deep love that men have God put. Just put that inside of us. And if there's a lot of confusion outside and no one's telling you what it is right and no one's telling you how to harness that and how to be a man, please explain to us what is the meaning that you guys give to being a man.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like this is a massive, massive subject, and like in today's world with and I'm not discriminating against any of these guys, I'm not- discriminating either brother, I love that, yeah, yeah, but you're either a man or you're either a woman.
Speaker 1:There's no logic to I can, you can. Oh yes, I'm the lamp here Today. I'm identifying as the computer. See, talk to me as a computer. Look at the ladder here, bro. Like that's foolishness.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, I know, I like when we think about, like, what it is to be a man and you know there's loads of facets to this and it's important that for a guy, like I said earlier, to understand about feminine energy and feminine traits, and the same with masculine, and to be able to use both right, like feminine energy is abundance and it is flow right, and for a guy to be able to tap into that at certain elements, like that is that there becomes a powerful man when he's able to tap into that. The other side of the spectrum is guys being ultramascaling, just like warrior mode all the time. Yes, all the bomb, bomb, bomb, on, on, on, on, on, and it's great, like us guys really need that, especially for grand businesses. However, like to be in that mode all the time.
Speaker 2:It is too much, and then what we end up doing because we're on all the time all the time, all the time is that we do like I did suppress everything, like oh, I'm feeling a little bit angry now and I won't do anything with that. Like I won't do anything with that energy that's coming up or it will go from anger to aggression and then the worst case, violence, right and so for, like, a guy to be able to like use emotional regulation and be able to understand his emotions, like, okay, this emotion is coming up, what do I do with that? That there holds a powerful man right but that? But to be able to do that takes work right. It takes a lot of. It takes deep work to go in and go right. I need to start understanding, like, how my psychology works. That takes fucking work.
Speaker 1:Let's unpack that a little bit. Right, if there's a listener we have a listener right now out there, pete, and they are like, yeah, man, I can relate to that. This guy's giving some truth, you know, sharing some truth. Bombs here. And what can I do to be able to have that to? To tap on both sides. Right, if there's a young man listening and he's like yeah, this sounds really good, but when? When do I? When do I tap in my feminine energy and what does that? What does? Here's a good question for you. What does feminine energy look like in a masculine man?
Speaker 2:It's a great question Feminine energy looks like a masculine man. This is actually. I have a, a client, and he's a really good example of this. He does this way better than than I do it and he's because he's done. He's done the work here and I spent some time with him a few weeks back in Ibiza. So he's a DJ in Ibiza and we went out dancing, we went out to a club and I'm all rigid, right, I'm, I'm, I'm stiff and I'm rigid and I'm looking at, I'm looking at my buddy who's a, is a client and he's a DJ. So he's not DJing.
Speaker 2:We're just out having a, having a party, and he's in real flow. He's got some great shapes he's got. He's just really in flow there and you can just like, you could just people are drawing to the guy and it's not like he's not like popping some like robot shapes or anything like that, no, he's just like the music's going and he's really in B and he's just full flow. His arms are going everywhere, looks great, doesn't it? Doesn't care, doesn't care like what he looks, what he's looking like there. He's just in the moment, right and and.
Speaker 2:Then the next morning we're setting up a boxing ring to go and get five guys and and and do a bit, do a bit of sparring right, and he and and he's facilitating that and and I was just like, ah, this sounds like a real polar polar there from like the guy is very, very in touch with just going out and having having a dance and going in energy there all the way through to right, he's all. He's also got the skill set to stick up for himself and and and he knows how to fight and defend himself and protect him and his and his loved ones. Um, and he's out doing a bit of boxing the following morning. So it's very like polar opposites and I thought that was a great. That's probably a nice little example there of being able to embody both.
Speaker 1:So but that you know, I call that I. I I think of that as being in tune with yourself, right, like that's confidence, right? That is being so clear, so crystal clear on who you are, right On who you are and what your purpose is, that you can tap, you can tap into it. Didn't matter what anyone thinks, I don't care what you think, I don't care what she thinks or he thinks, because I know what I think and I know what I want and I know where I'm going and, yes, moment, I'm just being me and having a good time in this moment. Yes, that's all that matters.
Speaker 2:Yes, moment to moment to moment. Right. And what you just said there a man having purpose, powerful man. A man that lacks purpose is a lost man and a man. I just know him what he wants. That question there, what do you want? Like that you ask a man, what do you want? It's a lot of guys will struggle to truly answer that like deep down to their core they might say I want a Porsche, whatever it looks like. But for a guy to really know what he wants and to know what purpose he has, there holds a powerful man.
Speaker 1:That's your power. Your power is in your purpose, I think to your point of feminine energy in a masculine man. That's it. He'll know when to be soft, when to be gentle, when to when. He'll know because it wouldn't matter because of listen.
Speaker 1:But there's a time like, like, you have sons, right, you have sons, and I'm gonna, if you was a boy, I have sons, right. And there was that we were in the kitchen table the other day and my sons, they're young men, right? And as the older parent, it's my job to tell my sons, right, hey, if you go down this road, there's danger. Okay, if you go down this road, you may think is a joke today, but 20 years from now, you're gonna have to answer to your sons. And what are you gonna say, right?
Speaker 1:So the topic came up of hey, what was it they were saying? They were saying something about faucy, in other words, how feminine is art? This very same topic came up and there is this rapper, spanish rapper, I don't know if you know him Bad Bunny, that was on the cover of a magazine in a dress, right? And they, my boys, started talking hey, would you wear a dress for $200,000? They were joking. And I said and they put it in a cover magazine or something. And they were like, yeah, I'll do it. I'll do it and I said son. I said sons because it was two of them. My third one wasn't there.
Speaker 1:I said okay, so you are telling me that you will wear a dress for money? Where are your values aligned? You're telling me you want to wear a dress because you want to, very different than doing it for money. Oh well, yeah, I could use $200,000, who cares? Right? I said, okay, fine, who cares?
Speaker 1:I'm gonna take you 20 years now, 20 years out now, and now you have a 10 year old son that you're raising and you have your own family and your son runs into this picture of their daddy in a dress and your sons ask you dad, why are you wearing a dress? What are you gonna say? Oh, I'll joke around. I said no, you won't. No, you won't. I'm telling you you won't because if you asked me if the reverse, if the roles were reversed, and you asked me and you saw a picture of me in a dress from when I was in my 20s, you would ask me why am I wearing a dress? And whatever story I gave you, you would question my masculinity. You would question it, whether you admit it or not, whether you want to tell a lie or not, and they both stood very quiet.
Speaker 1:So my point is that we live in a society right now and I'm not discriminating against men that wear a dress. You want to wear a dress, bro, do you? I'm just saying I'm not gonna wear a dress, it's just not my thing. I'm not gonna call the magazine and nor do I want to teach my sons if they're not doing it because they want to. My point was a value thing with teaching them values. What are your value as a man? What do you stand for? And if you stand for being a man, the man that wears dresses and that's in your value system, go, but if that's not in your value system, there will be a price to pay for you as a man later in life, whether you see it or not. Totally agree. What are your thoughts on?
Speaker 2:that, yeah, yeah, I totally agree, and this is the thing I was gonna raise a minute ago is that in today's society, especially young guys, a lot of them are looking for leadership. A lot of them are looking for someone to follow, which is why guys like Andrew Tate part of the reason why he's great at marketing, but he's also blown up because he's very, very outspoken for men. It's also, you know, it's why guys like Joe Rogan and Jordan Peterson, like they have strong male followings, because a lot of guys are looking for some form of Rommel or leader to follow, because they are confused and they've not necessarily had a father figure in their own lives to follow. A lot, just like me, brought up by my mom.
Speaker 1:Yeah. So what are you telling these young men? Maybe we have a young man listening to us right now, pete, that is, you know, kind of confused and kind of doesn't know where to start. And how do I be? You know, how do I find myself as a man, how do I find my purpose as an individual, how do I get to that point of having confidence? And, by the way, guys, I will give you a hint, if you're listening.
Speaker 1:It's not about the money, it's not just about the money. That happens to be a byproduct of your purpose. That just happens to be when you become confident, you become confident and you commit. If you want bodybuilding, you commit, you're stuck with it. Over the long term or long time, you get results. But the question I have for you, sir, is what advice are you giving a young man to help him find? Maybe he's in a single family household, maybe he's got a bunch of sisters and a mom and that's what they got. And maybe they don't have a strong male figure at home and maybe the male figure that they have is very, very passive and very feminine per se feminine and, again, nothing wrong with that. But they're looking to find themselves and how to have that balance. What advice are you telling them when, where they can start and what they can do to find that and get better? Are there any books, any exercises that you would recommend? What are you telling that young guy?
Speaker 2:I'm always telling that young guy to go and do hard stuff, as in, go and get in shape, go to the gym, go and work on yourself and, like, typically, when you go in those sorts of environments, you will find other guys that are also working on themselves. It's a great, it's such an easy environment to go into. It is a gym where there are other men in there that are working on their physiques and working on themselves and they're doing something difficult. Right, that's. It's always a great starting point. And then the second blade, like it, is to seek out groups. There are now plenty of men's groups. There's I mean, there's lots of men's groups that own different ends of the spectrums. There's the guys that are in the woods doing yoga and they're in their hot pants and beating on drums and hey, and that's all good stuff. Right, it's all good stuff. There's the other side of the spectrum where there's guys with their tops off, beating their chests and doing the SAS stuff, and that's also great stuff. And it's like about figuring out what aligns with you as a guy and like, deep in your core, like we know, we know deep down, like our conscious listen to your conscious, listen to your gut, like is this? Is this going? Do you know what? This is a bit too fucking much for me and actually this isn't. Yeah, no, oh, does this feel right and start to follow that For me and my purpose per se?
Speaker 2:It took me ages to figure. It took me ages to really get to a point where I'm like, do you know? I'm really quite clear on that. But I went through stages where I had different sorts of purposes. You know, when I was running my architectural business like it was really just about growing the business and producing these amazing homes for people, like I was very, very driven to do that and that was like that was my mini-purpose at the time. Right then I began a family and things changed for me. Then I started leading this men's movement and I really started to go. Actually, the purpose for me now is to consistently work on myself, to consistently like heal all the stuff that I've been through and then help others off the back of what I learned. That's and that's it. It's just super simple. That's my purpose.
Speaker 1:That's awesome, man. That's awesome. You know what I found, man, Pete? That as people find their purpose, human beings, when they find their purpose. It's one consistent thing I found when people truly find their purpose, Human beings, we feel that we're most complete when we're helping others, when we're doing something for others. So when I hear that, when I hear people tell me their purpose so if you were to tell me today, right with what I know now and the studies I've done and how much work I've done and I still have a lot of work to do on myself still, so, not beating myself part of my chest here, I have a lot of growing to do myself, there's always room for improvement Is that when I hear?
Speaker 1:If you were to tell me, hey, Maaren, I'm going to, my purpose is to build a humongous architectural firm right and make gazillions of dollars, I know that that's temporary and that's not a fulfilling purpose. I know that because the people that I have come across that have the full filled life. Consistently, their purpose involves helping others. Their purpose involves making things better. Their purpose involves making the world better, making other people better, helping people heal, helping people just doing, making things better. Hence, this is why I have this podcast, man, the part of my purpose, the purpose of my life, is to empower others to be better versions of themselves, as well as myself maybe coming in better version of myself. That's why I take a whole Friday every week to interview people like yourself, to bring value to others, to empower them to become better, as well as me becoming better along the way, learning.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and being brutally transparent. When I was building my architectural business, I was very much I'm here for the money, right. That was also my purpose at the time. Is that, yeah, I'm an absolute big driver. I'm like I need to get my money right. I need to get my money right, that's that. And, to be honest, I am still going through those stages. I'm still like, okay, I've got to a level, but I still wanna get more money right. Right, I'm still going through.
Speaker 1:There's always another level, I mean that's your I know the base of level. There's another level, right, I do so. That's part of your masculine energy, right, we talk about energy. So I met a young lady that with a friend of mine. He bought her, he was coaching her, and they went to one of my properties and I took her to, I took him to like three of my properties. It took her to a fire property I just bought and it was like fire. Then my contractors were there and then from there we went to another property that I bought that was condemned and she saw that it was 12 apartments and she goes Martin, I got a question for you and I was like what she was like, what is it gonna be enough? And I smiled, right, and I smiled and I said there's always gonna be another level for me. You understand what I mean. Like there's always gonna be another level.
Speaker 1:My next level is development. My next level is to be doing business. Now we talk about business, right Is to learn how to develop. That's why I have this 12 unit, because I'm redeveloping, I'm learning a ton here with this one. That's my next level. So there's always and then after that, when I master that, there's gonna be another level. I know that because it's just is. That is who I am. There's always gonna be something I'm conquering. There's always gonna be something I'm gonna be doing better. That's because the great book says without vision, the people perish. Right, you don't have vision for your life If you're not working on something to become better. Tony Robbins says if you're not growing, you're dying, and that's totally.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm a massive, massive believer in that. And that's like and this is the growing's a fantastic word for that or, if you are consistently making comfortable decisions, you're dying, you're stepping backwards every time you make an easy and a comfortable decision. For us to grow as humans, it's, and for us to thrive the thrive is the word. For us to thrive as humans, we consistently need to step into the uncomfort and the uncomfortable decisions and the harder decisions.
Speaker 1:Yeah, consistently, consistently, consistently. Last question for you, my friend. So young men out here, right that are, you know a lot of young men right now are struggling with mental health issues. There is an epidemic, with a lot of young men struggling with mental health issues. You know there is. This is another whole other topic where you know women are a lot. They're more masculine from our era, right, growing up women in our era, teaching their daughters to be you don't need a man. And even we're guilty as men, as fathers I have a daughter as well teaching our daughters you don't need a man, and it's, it's wrongdoing. That's not the language we should be using. No, women needs a man, but a lot of young guys are struggling right now, as we speak, with mental health issues.
Speaker 1:Because in order for a man to feel loved ladies, take note of your list in order for a man to feel love, they need to feel needed, wanted and respected. And when a woman tells a man, I don't need you, right, he doesn't feel any of the above. He doesn't feel needed, wanted or respected. Right, when women ladies if you're listening to me, those ladies that are listening to me, I'm gonna give you a real good clue here. Whenever your man tells you your man ever tells you whatever action you're doing is disrespectful, that should be a red flag, because if, when a man is telling you he doesn't feel respected, that means he doesn't feel loved and is serious. So pay attention to that word. When a man uses the word respected you're not, he doesn't feel respected should be a red flag. Am I right, or am I right?
Speaker 2:no, you must be right. Yeah, it's, it's respect for a man, it's especially his relationship, is it's mission critical? It's, it's here's. Here's one of the big problems, and I I can speak to this because I did this right like I am going through a divorce now, and one area that me and my wife messed up on was that we'd never truly expressed our needs and our wants to each other. It was always just like assumptions rather than being really, really vocal on.
Speaker 2:Do I do? Like these are my needs and my wants as a man, like these are actually mice. These are some of my desires, these are some of my like, intimate desires, and these are the things that I require, just as a guy. And what is it? What it? What? What is it for you as well? I like, like if, for man and a woman to really have those deep and intimate conversations about what they really want and I see this a lot with a lot of the guys that we work with I wasn't, I'm not the only guy who's done this is that they can't just ignore those conversations or don't ever talk about those conversations, and then it's too late.
Speaker 1:Yeah 100% man. I can tell you from experience I've been married 21 years successfully, be successfully and happily married. We've been together for 26 years now, my wife and I. We've been together since we were kids and it was until we started having those conversations that our marriage and our relationship got got real. It was it was until the guard you were down and it was like, okay, here's where I'm at and here's what I need. Like just totally transparent, just totally here's what I need, here's where I'm at, here's what. And we've and I'm not saying it's been perfect, it has not been perfect by far. It's been perfect, nowhere near being perfect that we have. We've had a lot of issues where we've been out of the house for a month at a time in these 25, 26 years. Okay, so it's not perfect. But, however, what we figured out is how to communicate to each other. We figured that out. I figured out what she needs, she figured out what I need, and we give it to each other consistently.
Speaker 2:Yeah let's see what you just said there. The guys don't talk about that stuff, man, rather than they don't say you know what it's been, it's been different. Marriage is difficult, right?
Speaker 1:this is freaking hard brother, next lady fucking us, next to raising. I think raising kids is the hardest. Then marriage is the second hardest. It's harder than building a business, and I've built businesses. It's harder than building a business because you're constantly. Let me tell you, man, I have, I have a journal that I that every morning it's.
Speaker 1:My mentor created this journal. Actually he sells it on Amazon and in this journal, the three things you write every morning is three things you're grateful for three your top three goals for the year. Three things are grateful for top three goals every every morning peak, top, yeah things. Your top three goals for the year keeps you focused. And then the top three things that you have to do every day today to get you closer to those top three things. So every day you know three things to get you closer to those three things and it's just constant, constant, constant. And in this journal I have you have quarterly goals. So you have. You have what do we call them milestones? So the 715, 730, so it's by quarter, the journals for quarters.
Speaker 1:And one of my milestones okay, and I'm gonna give it away here one of my secrets to a successful marriage is I am and my wife at first. I'll share this with you. At first she got mad when she saw it, because one of my, as a man you can relate to this as a man, as a man, as an achiever. Right, we're working and we're just hustling, going, going, going, going. We want to win. Hey, I'm, I'm building this business to provide for the family and I'm just going. So, whatever it takes that warrior takes on and whatever it takes. So at times I would forget about the family, the wife, I just neglected. But when I got this journal right and I started doing the work and I started doing the work on me all right, pete, I started doing the work on me. I started attending events, I started reading books, I started going to therapy, I got a coach right and I started doing the work on me and I got this journal.
Speaker 1:One of my personal milestones and goals is my wife. I literally my marriage. My marriage is one of those things that I'm intentional with every single day, every single week, every single. So my wife runs into it one day and she's like why are you writing, spend alone time with my wife, like on my to-do list, like right on my journal. She's like why are you, why do you.
Speaker 1:She felt offended by that. She felt offended Like why are you writing? Spend time, spend focus, alone time with my wife. I was like, babe, you always complain that I don't listen, that I don't care, that I'm too busy, that I'm too this. This is how I focus my brain to stop and pay attention and invest in my marriage. You understand what I'm saying? Like this is so every week, every week, I'm taking her out on a date. Every week I'm doing something with her and she gets what she needs. She loves that she gets what she needs. But when I'm out here doing what I'm doing, she knows Martin is, he's out there slaying, he's out there doing and she knows that when I get to, when it's me and her, it's me and her.
Speaker 2:That's gold mate, that there, if every man does that, I'm telling you, your relationship will improve Just by yeah, I'll do something very similar. Yeah, absolutely, guys, we should be writing those things down, we should be like, put it in our calendar. It's as stupid and as logical and as analytical as that may sound, but it gets done that way. You don't get to the end of the week and think, shit, what happened? I didn't book date night, I didn't. Oh no, sorry, love, I forgot again. And he'd do that 10 times. And she's like he doesn't even think about me. That's correct. His word means shit. Yeah, he doesn't even keep his promises.
Speaker 1:Yeah, his promises, his word. God bless my wife because for a year she dealt with that with me and she put up with it and finally I figured out my system for me to make it work. I mean, I'm down to the point, pete, where I have it to. I got to plan a quarterly trip with my wife. I got it down to by the 7.15,. I got to have picked a location. It's a mile marker.
Speaker 1:On July 15th I have to have picked a location where I'm going. By July 30th I have to have purchased a ticket to the flight. I have to have purchased a ticket and gotten the thing by this date. I have mile marker. If I don't do it that way, it doesn't get done for me because then it becomes too much. I got to find a place, I got to buy the ticket, so I do it in pieces. Anyways, pete man, thank you so much for being here today. Really, really appreciate you, brother. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and all of you knowledge. We're going to go into the untitled round of an actual series of questions. You don't have to think you'll have to justify one word answers.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, let's play.
Speaker 1:Perfect, Okay.
Speaker 2:entrepreneurship is the best thing that you could ever do for your personal growth. Love it. I've always wanted to travel too. I was going to say Indonesia, but I've already been there. But Indonesia again, I absolutely love Dali. A million dollars is not that much money.
Speaker 1:People coming to Reading England should try Going to the festival there. My advice to young people is.
Speaker 2:I have two pieces of advice for young people Take risks, take bold risks and stop giving a fuck about what other people think. I love that Mindset is the key to unlocking mastery.
Speaker 1:Family or business, family Wine or beer, neither Skill or popularity. Skill Words or actions, actions, passion or stability, passion Cats or dog Dogs all day. Angry client or angry coworker, angry coworker. And lastly, be a successful entrepreneur or a successful bodybuilder.
Speaker 1:Oh, successful one, Thank you brother, thank you for playing full out, thank you for being such a great sport, thank you for coming out and sharing with the audience and me. If folks wanted to get connect with you, how do they find you? Where do they connect with you? How do they get into your groups, your masterminds? Talk to me.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'd go the two ways. On Instagram, my handle is p underscore Taylor. I'm very active on there and you'll find links to the Awaken man project, which is the men's project. The other thing is check out innerenemycom. There is a podcast a secret podcast on there for guys that goes into self-sabotage for men. We do it, why we do it and the tools to get through it. So that's innerenemycom. I'll check that out.
Speaker 1:Innerenemycom. Make sure you guys check that out, pete. Thank you, brother. Thank you for being here, man. I appreciate what you're doing for the human race and, more specifically, for men, helping men out, because, being a man, being one, I know the struggle that it is to figure out your purpose and figure out what you want in life. Those are heavy questions, man. Those are heavy questions that require some thinking and they really push us to our limit. So thank you for doing that. Thank you for what you're doing, brother. I'm really grateful for you doing what you're doing and making the world a better place by taking what you've learned and now sharing it with others. Appreciate you, brother. Thank you, my man. Appreciate you saying that, no?
Speaker 2:man, appreciate it, I'd love it. I'm so kind to take it that one's worth a name. Just sit, Sit down, sit down, yes, sir.