Ever wondered how childhood traumas go on to shape our adult lives, beliefs, actions, and business decisions? Join us as our special guest Brad Chandler, the man behind Express Home Buyers and Brad Chandler Coaching, manifests this very premise through his personal journey. Raised under the shadow of an abusive father, Brad’s drive for wealth was an outcome of his childhood experiences. His story is a potent reminder of the deep-seated effects of childhood traumas and their power to influence adult life.
What makes Brad’s narrative even more unique is his transformation from a real estate mogul to a passionate coach. He invites us to explore his life-altering shift in focus from making money to making an impact. In his pursuit of wealth, Brad stumbled upon the significance of systems and people for business success. With a newfound understanding of self-love and fulfillment, he now emphasizes the joy that comes from positively impacting others.
Brad doesn’t stop at recounting the past; he equips us with practical strategies for the present and future. He shares his wisdom on navigating the real estate market in any cycle, maintaining a positive mindset, and adapting to changing conditions. For entrepreneurs grappling with the trials of the business world, Brad offers a lens into his coaching program aimed at helping them find happiness and success. This episode is a treasure trove of insights for all, whether you’re just starting out or are an experienced entrepreneur. Tune in, and let Brad’s journey inspire you to find your true purpose and passion.
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Ever wondered how childhood traumas go on to shape our adult lives, beliefs, actions, and business decisions? Join us as our special guest Brad Chandler, the man behind Express Home Buyers and Brad Chandler Coaching, manifests this very premise through his personal journey. Raised under the shadow of an abusive father, Brad’s drive for wealth was an outcome of his childhood experiences. His story is a potent reminder of the deep-seated effects of childhood traumas and their power to influence adult life.
What makes Brad’s narrative even more unique is his transformation from a real estate mogul to a passionate coach. He invites us to explore his life-altering shift in focus from making money to making an impact. In his pursuit of wealth, Brad stumbled upon the significance of systems and people for business success. With a newfound understanding of self-love and fulfillment, he now emphasizes the joy that comes from positively impacting others.
Brad doesn’t stop at recounting the past; he equips us with practical strategies for the present and future. He shares his wisdom on navigating the real estate market in any cycle, maintaining a positive mindset, and adapting to changing conditions. For entrepreneurs grappling with the trials of the business world, Brad offers a lens into his coaching program aimed at helping them find happiness and success. This episode is a treasure trove of insights for all, whether you’re just starting out or are an experienced entrepreneur. Tune in, and let Brad’s journey inspire you to find your true purpose and passion.
This episode is brought to you by Skilled Property Finders - Home of the 21 Day Close!
We will close on your property in 21 days or less OR we'll pay an additional $5,000.
Visit www.skilledpropertyfinders.com to find out more.
Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of Latinos and Real Estate Investing Podcasts, where individuals just like you come to learn how to create wealth through real estate investing, entrepreneurship and business ownership. And today's guest is Brad Chandler. And Brad first got introduced to real estate when he read a book in the ninth grade on how to buy houses. In the ninth grade, guys, imagine a 14. In 2002, an investor bought his neighbor's house in Vienna, virginia, and, after talking with the investor, he decided to start Express Home Buyers. 20 years later, express Home Buyers has bought and sold 4,000 homes across the country and runs primarily without his involvement. Brad's main focus is making an impact on the team members and the client they serve by providing a customized solution that best addresses the client's individual needs. In early 2021, he went through a major life transformation and form and founded freedom and found freedom and happiness through self-love. In 2022, because of the profound shift, he felt obligated to share his path with others and started Brad Chandler coaching Brad, my brother. Thank you for coming on here. It's my pleasure to have you, my friend. Oh, thanks for having me, my friend. My first question for you is give me one second here. My first question for you is. Can you share with our Latino audience your personal journey from reading a book on real estate in the ninth grade to founding Express Home Buyers and later Brad Chandler coaching, and what inspired you to do something? Wow?
Speaker 2:Do you have a couple hours? So yeah, I read a book in ninth grade and I think what was drawn, what drew me to real estate, was reading the book. It talked about how much money you could make and I wanted to make a lot of money and I'll address that in a couple of minutes why I wanted to make a lot of money. I found out why in the last couple of years. So I started down this path of real estate and I went to Virginia Tech and got a degree in real estate and came out and worked for a national REIT. But my dad was an entrepreneur, he was an attorney, owned his own law firm and I just wasn't the corporate guy. So when this investor showed up and bought my neighbor's house and I talked to him and he said, yeah, I buy houses below market, I fix them up on a, resell them. I'm like, wow, it's been so long since I read that book, I forgot that's what you could do. So I decided to make real estate my career. I was already in real estate, but I wanted to make real estate my thing, my own business. So that was about November or December of 2021 and I'm like I'm going to do this, I'm going to start buying houses. And so I started showing up to the investment club meetings and the reas and whatnot and started pounding we buy houses signs and hand addressing hundreds of envelopes and leaving door hangers on certain people's doors and, man, every week that went by I wasn't getting a deal. And week after week went by and month after month went by, martin, but I kept showing up to these REIA meetings and people were holding up their checks. I was like if they can do it, I can do it. So in December or, excuse me, so I started out in December, november, in July I bought my first house In July and August of 2003,. I bought six houses, had a little bit of money in the bank because I started with a negative 80,000 net worth. Came to my boss in October of 2003 and said I quit. Went home, told my wife at the time I quit, I was starting Express Homebuyer. She's like are you crazy? We have a newborn son and I have two kids we got to take care of. Like what do you think? And I was like it's going to be fine. And here we are 4,000 houses later and we're not still married. But it's been fine, it's been amazing.
Speaker 1:That's awesome, man. So Express Homebuyers bought and sold over 4,000 homes across the country. What's the key to your company's success and how did it evolve over the years? How did you get it to function with little involvement from your side? How did you evolve to that, from putting bandit signs in the streets so?
Speaker 2:Systems and people, systems and people those are the two most important things. What has really changed in the last couple of years is I went to a major life transformation about a year and a half two years ago, where I went back to my childhood and found the stories that I told myself around childhood programming and stress, and why I was trying to make money as the ninth grader was because I lacked safety and security and, to some degree, love in my childhood and I thought that money would bring me those three things safety, security and love and happiness. And I found out that they don't. And so when I found out that they don't and that I was enough all along and that it was my dad's issues that made me feel not enough, my whole life changed. And one of the big things that changed, martin, was I stopped trying to make money to change my state and to be happy and to prove my worth, and I shifted to trying to make an impact. So now I don't wake up every day saying, what new market do I have to open and how do I have to push my salespeople and what else do I have to? What new product in my car? That's all I used to do constantly, constantly open new markets. How do I make more money? And that cost me nine million. I made five business mistakes in the first 17 years. That cost myself and my partner $9 million. So when you shift from trying to make money to find happiness and worthiness to making an impact, you can actually. So entrepreneurs start businesses. Most of us start businesses because we think the same thing we're going to make a bunch of money, it's going to bring us happiness and fulfillment. You can actually do the work like I did. I did a little late but you, knowing what I do, you can now take my mistakes, my experience. You can go get the state that you think $10 million, 10 years, some now is going to bring you. You can get that state today and being in that state today will give you the opportunity and the chance to make that money more than ever before. But then during the whole journey you get to be making money and have happiness. That's true success to me.
Speaker 1:When you say state, can you be more specific? What do you mean by state? Yeah, changing states. How do you access to change states?
Speaker 2:Yeah, why do people drink? Why do people use drugs? Why do people overeat? Why do they have anxiety? Depression? It's a state, it's how they feel about themselves. The only single problem in your life is a thinking problem, and that thinking problem you were not born with it. You were not born with addiction. You were not born with depression or anxiety. You were born this perfect soul. Through imperfect parenting, you were led to believe you weren't enough, or at least that's what your brain told you. So how do you change the state? You change your thinking. How do you change your thinking? You become aware of when in your life did you start telling yourself these untruths about yourself that are likely buried deeply deep in your subconscious mind? That's it. You come up with that and then you start telling yourself a different story. And our brains, which are so amazing, have literally have the ability to regrow new neural pathways so that you can start thinking differently. And if you start thinking differently, guess what? You start acting radically different.
Speaker 1:How do you find those stories of when you first learned, or whatever story you're telling yourself, like you mentioned a moment ago. How does one go about finding that, brad, discovering that?
Speaker 2:Yeah, I use hypnosis, but you don't need hypnosis. It's not like if you don't have hypnosis, there's no way you can fix yourself. Actually, I catch myself by saying fixing no one has to be fixed, you don't have to be fixed. What you have to do is you have to be returned to your essence of who you were as a child before you came up with these. So how do you do it? You can meditate, you can sit in relaxation, you can go for walks. Just get really, really relaxed and think about all the times in your childhood where you had this feeling of loneliness, despair, sadness, rejection, all of the negative emotions, and then think what did I tell my? What was that little five-year-old boy probably telling himself? In my case, I'm getting hit with a belt by my dad. What am I saying? My dad is supposed to be loving me and taking care of me. He's not supposed to be inflicting physical harm and shame on me. So my dad is my hero. Like every kid, I must be bad, and here's the thing, martin. It's your brain's way of giving you hope for better tomorrow. If I'm bad, all I have to do is be good and my dad will start loving me. So it works really, really good as a six-year-old. When you're 47 years old and your subconscious mind is telling you you're bad and you're no good and it's saying go out and buy. And your conscious mind then it says well, I'm going to go buy a 42-foot boat. I've never owned a boat, I don't know any, I don't even can't read a chart, and I'm going to take that boat to the Bahamas to prove my worth. And you don't even know why you're doing it. It doesn't work so good. It doesn't work well in relationships. I had two marriages that didn't work out. It calls me to use weed and alcohol. It calls me $9 million of business mistakes. So your brain has to be reprogrammed and that's how you do it.
Speaker 1:So tell us Link for the listeners and myself how is changing, how does changing your story right and uncovering those things give you success in relationships, in business and allow someone like yourself right? Because I had a therapist once said to me and it's always stuck with me, brad and she said to me we're all fallen people in the fallen planet. We're all trying to figure it out. We're all fallen people in the fallen planet. So how do you take we're all fallen people, imperfect people, in the fallen planet. How does it two connect? How does success right because we need money real estate is a business podcast. Right in a mindset podcast, real estate is a means to an end. But how do these two things connect? If I take care of my childhood traumas, if I work on my mindset and I work on myself, how does this now become easier the business side of thing and then how do they come together and how do people do that so that they can have a successful, meaningful, fulfilled life?
Speaker 2:What an awesome question, thank you for asking. So you did say relationships, you said business, so I'm going to try to intertwine these. If you have problems in your relationship right now and you're with your spouse or your life partner, I promise you they have nothing to do with the actual relationship between the two. It has all to do with the individual relationships you each have with each other yourselves. That's the problem. Your relationship problem with yourself is the problem in your marriage. So by fixing yourself and your connection to yourself, you're going to fix your marriage. It's going to get better. How does it help in business If you are trying to make money for the sake of making money, to prove your worth or to change your state? I didn't have a lot of passion and purpose around real estate. It was a vehicle to make money and it's turned out. It's been a very good one for me and I wouldn't change anything in my life. But with Brad Chandler coaching that I formed a couple years ago, this is my purpose. This is why God put me here to help people who are suffering and struggling, overcome their childhood programming and the limiting beliefs so that they can live the life of their dreams. I wake up every single morning now, passionate about what I'm doing. I cannot. I've got, I want to gab or metase 500 page books in my hand. Right now I could go and read books like this, sit on a beach in Tampa, like we were talking about, and put my little umbrella up and get a bunch of water Eight hours a day. For the rest of my life I could read this. I just started. So I don't have a lot of money to show for this business and I don't want to have a lot of money to show for it. But I bet you, if we have this conversation, in a couple years I'm going to have made more money in this business than I ever did in real estate. Why? Because I'm so passionate about it. It's not about the money, it's about changing people's lives. So how do you become successful in business? You figure out what you're really good at doing and what you're passionate and purpose about, and then you go do that one thing and you become really, really good at it. And if you're saying, well, I'm 47 or I'm 60 and I'm listening to this and I have no idea what my passion and purpose is, you know why Because of the childhood programming you are in fight or flight most of your life and you've got to proverbial lion chasing you. How in the world can you come up with your purpose when the lion's chasing you? What I do is I help my clients kill that lion so they can take a couple deep breaths, look around and be like, oh, this is why I was put here.
Speaker 1:So what do you say to someone? Because you mentioned money not being the most important thing. And so what do you say to someone that's struggling financially is hearing you and they can logically hear what you're saying. And they're hearing you and they're saying Brad, I'm barely paying my bills, I'm barely making ends meet. That lion is chasing me. I got to get out there, I got to grind, I got to hustle, I hear you. Man, this all sounds beautiful in theory. What do you say to that person? How do they figure it out? How do they get out of that trap? Right, we got student loan debt. We got credit card debt. We got car payments. We got inflation. We got real life issues here. Not everyone is as fortunate as you and I that we've done the work and we've been able to walk through that and kind of get out of that part of the rat race. But what advice you give to that listener that's like this is great, brad. How do I do that? I got $50 left over at the end of the month. Where do I get started? How do I do that? Where do I start?
Speaker 2:Another phenomenal question, thank you. So, first of all, all change begins with awareness. If we would have had this conversation three years ago and you just said did you have any issues from your childhood? Do you love yourself, do you care what other people think? I'd be like heck. No, no real issues other than most kids. And no, I love myself, I have high self-esteem and I don't care what other people think. But it was all a lie. It was just a lie. I was living because I didn't feel good about myself. So I created this 12-question, three-minute quiz at bradchannelcom forward slash quiz. Take that and it's going to tell you if you have childhood programming. If you have childhood programming issues, it could be the reason that you are in the situation that you're in. And let me tell you why. If you look at the IQ difference between a Fortune 500 CEO and, like a mid-level manager a Fortune 500 CEO I don't know what the average pay is, I'm going to make this up $3 million, $2 million a year and the mid-level manager, walmart, which is maybe 75 grand a year their IQ difference is so miniscule. It's incredible, right? Why is the difference? It's because belief the CEO has a little bit more belief. Why? Maybe it has because of their childhood or their limiting beliefs. So, number one, become aware of where you're at. Number two is you mentioned the word hustle. I'm not saying that you go and find self-love and just sit on the couch. Let's do this together, to buy together and run in parallel. Let's continue to do the things that you need to do and make the good decisions, but also look back at your childhood. And, by the way, it's really hard to stay disciplined and do the right things and be healthy and eat the right things when you have this childhood programming. So I would say, just awareness, start with awareness. Figure out what got you into the situation that you're in so you don't stay in the situation and then, every day, as you develop more self-love by shedding yourself of these unwanted unlimited beliefs, these limiting beliefs, that you start to move in the direction that you were put here for. It's to make a massive effort, impact on this earth and do the things that really bring you joy.
Speaker 1:Earlier, you mentioned a few things you said, and this is I'm listening to what you're saying You've mentioned multiple times start with awareness. So how does one start with awareness? So we have a listener like you and I have been, we've traveled in the same circles and we've been to a lot of the same trainings and things like that. You know those things cost money, right? They're not cheap. We both know that they're not cheap, right? You got travel. You got to spend thousands of dollars in tickets. So let's give our listeners something for them to take away and go home with. You said you have a list of questions to help them with their childhood trauma, and I'm going to, by all means, encourage the listeners to go and download that. Definitely, I'm really big on working on yourself and everything else will work itself out. But when you say awareness you mentioned you've mentioned it multiple times You've mentioned meditation. You've mentioned different things. What are some of the things? So you know, you say awareness and we all think that meditation. I started meditating in 2016. And we all think that meditation is this thing you start doing and it just wallah. Nah, it doesn't happen that way. It's, it's compound. It's a compound effect over time that starts to give you awareness. What can people do? Or what is a strategy, a more tangible in addition to Maybe you can give people that they can do to create that level of awareness, or a question they can ask themselves to find that child, those childhood traumas, or or something they can do in the mornings or the evenings, in addition to something like meditation, because a lot of people may be listening and that's who or a meditation is not my thing. I can't keep my mind quiet. Let's give people something tangible, maybe, that they can do.
Speaker 2:Oh man, I'll give, I'm gonna give him a lot here. I created this page literally just a couple days ago. Brad Chandler comm forward slash start S, t, a, s, t a r? T. And it's got morning meditations on there for you. It's got a Bedtime meditation. It's got the self-love quiz that has those 12 questions. And then, probably the most important tool in your life is this, this thing that I created called the joy regenerator. So it's a tool to use to improve the relationship with yourself and your spouse or significant other. It's anytime you feel a negative emotion you are in fight or flight, which means your body and your brain is saying, hey, there's danger, even though there's not. It saying there's danger. When there's danger, what is your brain do? Your subconscious mind goes to when in the past that I face this similar danger, so I know how to handle it, so I can survive. So anytime you feel something negative that someone's done or said that's causing this negative emotion, your brain goes in a fight or flight. It goes back to your childhood and it brings in a meaning to that current situation. So no argument that you ever have with your spouse is ever about the actual argument. It's always your brain doing its job, going back to a time. So you take a couple of deep breaths, four seconds in pause for four seconds, four second exhale. That will bring you to present and then you identify the emotion that you're feeling. By identifying the emotion, you're kicking your brain out of fight or flight because you've got to think. Then you give yourself compassion for the emotion, because as children, most of us didn't get compassion for our emotions. So I feel sad, martin, by what you just said. It's okay, brad, you feel sad. Where did it come from? Well, when my dad would hit me, I would feel sad because I thought he didn't love me. What Martin just said Did the same thing to me and it made me think that I wasn't loved as a child. But Martin didn't really just say something. He doesn't not love me. That's just my interpretation. So I'm not a six-year-old child. Boom, I can snap right back out of it. You can use the same tool with your spouse. You can say hey, gina, what you just said made me feel sad. It's not your fault at all. Could we process this together so I can heal and we can become deeper connected as a couple? So all of that stuff is on that. What on that site that's that that would be the best thing? And then just look at their relationships like are they in bad relationships? Do they get mad all the time? Do they drink too much, eat too much? Are they? Do they take things personally? Do they always have to be right? Those are all signs that you've been affected by childhood programming.
Speaker 1:What's the correlation? Give me and give, give the listeners an example, because in America and in many parts of the world we have an obesity issue and I've heard this said and Before I've heard this in the past, being said that You're eating disorders or your obesity is from a trauma of some sort. You're changing your state. You're because we smoking is also a state change because, like you said, breathe for smoking is just breathing you. You just here, is breathing here, but you're breathing something that's toxic for your body. If you could just replace that with it, it would an intentional breathing, just suggesting that you may be quit. You might be able to quit smoking with it. Right, but give us an example of what you mean by when, like obesity could be something from your childhood, a story or trauma. It was an example of that.
Speaker 2:So there's an enormous study that was started by Kaiser, I think, many years ago, called ace, and it stands for Adverse childhood experiences and it's on a scale of zero to ten. If you had no, no Adverse child experiences, you've got a zero. If you had a ton of them, you had a ten. And there's anywhere between zero and ten. The higher the number goes, the more likelihood you are to have been Sexually assaulted as an adult, the more likelihood you are to have have obesity, cancer, just all drug become a drug addict. And here's the interesting thing, martin why did this study start? This study started because there was a weight loss doctor in California that was having phenomenal success with these women, but they were all dropping out of the program. So he pulled them back and he goes. Can I ask you why you're? You're dropping out? Because if I lose a bunch of weight, I might open myself back up to that person who abused me. They were using food as a protection mechanism when you're a child and something bad and stressful happens to you. You can't jump in the car and go to the bar and have a pitcher of beer to blow off your, but what can you do? What is in most refrigerators in all of the United States Food. So we often, as children, use that as a coping mechanism and then just continue to do that as an adult.
Speaker 1:Wow, that is a really, really good insight on people's mindset, so I want to bring it. I want to switch over into business a little bit here. Brad, you've been in, you've been buying and selling real estate since 2002. We're in a weird place in the economy right now and you've seen, you came in right around the time of the dot com bubble Right, I remember the time, right, I just started my career. We're both around the same age, we're really young men and we we came in around. You know, you came in into real estate around that time in 02. And you saw, you saw interest rates at that time went up, right, and then they started coming down in 03 or 203. You actually came in when they started coming down and then we saw you live through the bus of 08 and 09. And now you've lived through this crazy bull market. We've seen. Tell us what similarities do you see and what's happening today, if any? But I want you to tie the two together. What is Brad, as a real estate investor today, right, doing? To navigate mentally we talk about mindset, because we've been talking about mindset in this podcast mentally to navigate and chart and navigate these uncharted waters that word, because this is very different than anything you've you've experienced in your career, just economically and everything. How are you navigating it? Emotionally, right, mentally, mindset, spiritually, to stay grounded and manage your team, and what are you doing to, on the business side, right To navigate these crazy interest rates?
Speaker 2:So we're doing what we always do we adapt right. That's all we can do. No matter where you are in a real estate cycle, there's always opportunities. You and I were talking a couple minutes before the show about looking at properties in Tampa and you told me some stuff I had no idea that you could, you know, possibly assume a VA, which is a Veterans Administration loan. You know, some of these loans are 2.8%. So I'm thinking holy moly. I even told you. I said listen, if you find opportunities that you don't like, call me, because if I can find a house and you told me that some of these houses in Florida have gone down 30%, which I've been waiting for for five years If I can find a house at 30% off the peak, that I can get a mortgage at 2.8%, I told you maybe we should be buying a handful of these things. So there's always opportunities. From Express Homebuyers point of view, we're doing really well. We're sharpening, we're just trying to get better every single day. We're trying to create better marketing messages to stand above our competition, because I think we really do stand above most of our competition. We're not hiding behind any signs or, you know, texting people and cold calling, and not that that's wrong, but some of it's elite. We don't do any of that stuff. We do outbound marketing and the sellers call us so just constantly trying to get better at what we do. If you would have told me a year ago that we would have been able to have these amazing months with interest rates twice or almost triple what they were, I would have said you're absolutely crazy. But look, in the DC market, people are still buying and prices are not going down in the DC market yet. They went down a little bit in last quarter of last year, but their solidice can be. We're getting multiple offer situations. So I think the answer is just ride the wave. If it's a big wave, you're going to go up high. If it's a small wave, you're going to have a small ride. Right, but constantly adapt and don't say woe is me, because, look, if the economy completely collapses in this next year which there's a chance in real estate too. What does that mean? It means opportunity. Like, do I wish I could go back now, knowing what I know about real estate and buy houses at prices that were around in 2010? Yeah, Will they ever get back to 2010? I doubt it. Will they get back to 2015, 16, 17? Maybe, so there's opportunity. So just focus on not what could go wrong but what could go right, and just continue to take steps to become a better person. Investor, business person.
Speaker 1:What about on the spiritual side? Right? So a lot of uncertainty. You have a lot of responsibility with your team and your company, right, and your partners. What do you do to maintain a sane mindset? And because you know, we both know this, that part of finding opportunities, as you just mentioned, and every adversity, napoleon Hill says, and every adversity lies in equal to or better opportunity, in his thinking, roe rich. Okay, there is adversity in the market right now. There's a lot of bad news we got. We got there's a lot of things to be upset and sad about, and I want to talk about that Because let's give people some strategies and some something to navigate. We got a war. Israel, hamas is just ugly. What's happening there right now. We have Ukraine and Russia also another nasty thing happening and you have all this negative news in the news and in the financial about everything that's happening. What can we tell people to manage that and stay sane and, in the midst of chaos, think, and what question can they ask themselves to find the opportunity? Does as, as Tony Robin says. He says that the quality of your life is dependent on the quality of the questions you ask yourself, right? So what questions can people, can you give to folks right now to ask themselves, to think and to attract those ideas that present opportunities for them, even as we are in this high interest rate environment and all of this chaos happening around the world and instability?
Speaker 2:Number one stop watching the news. I one of the better decisions I ever made, and I used to be an absolute news buff. I love focusing on negative stories. I'd love to go play golf and tell all the negative stories I could. Looking back I'm like, oh my gosh, what was I thinking? I stop watching the news. There's studies that say that people who watch the news regularly have higher anxiety and depression rates. So I don't know what the hell is going on in the world and I don't want to know because I just stay in my little happy bubble, right. So that's number one. The questions to ask yourself is what do you really need to be happy? And the answer is, if you answer that truthfully, you don't need anything else besides what you have to be happy. So the more high, high vibration that you can live in, the more positivity, the more that opportunities are going to present themselves. If you are a super negative, depressed guy and you walk into a bar trying to pick up a girl, do you think any woman is going to approach you? If you walk into the bar full of energy, you're walking around high-fiving people with a huge smile on your face. Do you think that that you meeting a girl that night will go up exponentially. Yeah, so I think that's a question I'd ask what is missing from my life that I think is going to bring me happiness? And the truth is it's nothing outside of yourself. That's it. And and how do and how do I stay spiritually like strong? I meditate. Now this week I've been meditating twice, twice a day, once in the morning before getting out of bed and once at night. I work out six days a week. I don't drink alcohol. I don't smoke weed anymore. I don't. I barely ever eat sugar Once every couple months. I focus on all the things I can control. I cannot control the war in Israel or Ukraine right now, but what I can control is how I interact with the person at the gym, how I interact with you, how I treat my kids and my girlfriend and my business partners. Just control what you can control. And the number one thing you really can't control and everything you give. You get control In this world by giving up control. But there is one thing you can control in this world and it's your thinking. And if you control your thoughts, that's the most powerful thing you could ever do in your life.
Speaker 1:One, two, three steps people can do to control their thoughts, to improve their thinking, as what's his name used to say stinking thinking, jim roll and used to say you got to get rid of your stinking thinking, the late general. So what would you say? One, two, three things that a person can do To improve their thinking? Because a lot of people look at people like you and I and take all your woo, woo, blah, blah, blah and I can't. I can't do that. You know the negative thinkers, but let's give people some real strategies, right, let's give people some real, real strategies. What can I do to improve my thinking?
Speaker 2:Literally this. I promise you this isn't self-serving. Go take the quiz. Go to Brad, show comfort. So start take the quiz. If you have extreme self-love, your life is probably amazing on all levels. If you don't, you're probably struggling on all levels. Now you have awareness. Number two take some time. This is the most important thing you can do in your life. Take some time, meditate, go for a walk, turn everything off and just take hours and just think about your childhood, think about those times, think about the stories that you told yourself. Number three start using the jewelry regenerator that's on that same webpage. Start processing the pain that you had as a child. How do you process that? It's mostly going to come up in your intimate relationships. So, if you have a tool to process it and heal in intimate relationship, those are the things are going to change your, your, your thinking. Awareness, more awareness, and then practice and change. I believe that there's three critical components to changing anyone's mental state and, martin, I believe you you're big enough as you can verify this they're missing from 90% of every therapist, every life coaching, every Psychiatrist. You name it. Number one is the is the realization. You've got to have an awareness of what's driving your, your, your. What's driving the behavior that you want to change? What are those thoughts? I do that through hypnosis. Most therapists focus on a conscious level and they never even get there. The number two is the rewire, the neuroplasticity. Have you ever been to a therapist where they tell you to, hey, take home this recording and listen to her for two months? No, you can change your mind. The third is reconnection. You reconnect by using the joy generator, living in a state of curiosity, getting in a community of like-minded people who are on the journey. If you don't have those three things, it's nearly impossible to change.
Speaker 1:I I love it, brad, this is, this is really good stuff, man. I'm really, really, really grateful you came on here, my friend. Thank you so much. We're about to go into the untitled Round, brad, where we're gonna ask you a series of questions. You don't have to think, you don't have to justify, although you good if you want to. They're just for fun for people to get to know you. You ready to play? Hell, yeah, a million dollars is.
Speaker 2:Just a number.
Speaker 1:I've always wanted to go to Valley.
Speaker 2:My advice to young people is live in the truth that you are enough.
Speaker 1:Never underestimate the power of your thoughts. The market right now is Interesting. I think the president right now is Demented. Family or business, family or business, family or business. You just want me to say something about it. I just pick one or whatever. Whatever comes to mind family or business.
Speaker 2:Yeah, business, brad Chandler coaching. You don't need to struggle or suffer. If you think your life was set up to struggle or suffer, it's. It's not the truth. And if you think there's something wrong with you or you're not capable, or you are a bright, shining light that was put here for a massive mission and your light may be dimmed by your caretakers and your imperfect parents, but it's not their fault, it's not your fault. And what's ahead of you Today could be. Is it day one or one day? Make it day one of a new life for you by taking this first step and forever changing your life and having the life that you deserve, beautiful passion or stability.
Speaker 1:Passion book smart or street smart, street smart. Skill or popularity, skill, more time or more money. More time and, lastly, success or happiness happiness.
Speaker 2:What was in?
Speaker 1:doubt if both wanted to connect with you, brad, and they wanted to sign up with you on your coaching program. They wanted to Go do the questionnaire you mentioned earlier in the podcast where. How can they find you? Where are you on social? How can people follow you? Where can they get with you, brad?
Speaker 2:Yeah, this, this the what I gave out earlier is not something that you can even find on my website. It's hidden. So if you go to Brad Chandler comm forward, slash start, it's packed with stuff and I put out amazing social Well, I think they're amazing messages were regarding this at Brad Chandler comm forward. Slash Contact is where you can find me. And the last thing is, if you like this contact Content, I should say I have this amazing podcast called how to be happier for entrepreneurs. So just search up on iTunes or any of the major platforms how to be happier for entrepreneurs and there is some amazing content and people and guests on that show awesome, awesome brother.
Speaker 1:Thank you so much. It was my pleasure, my honor, having you here, brad. It was such a treat, man. It's always a treat to have folks like yourself come and share and now you were very helpful to me, a lot of Reminders for me too. So thank you for that, my friend, and I'm sure that the listeners found a lot of value in the content you shared. And to all of the listeners Go check him out. This Brad is the real deal. We go check out his his stuff. Go to his website. Go to go check out his things. Everything he mentioned is Really good stuff that will empower you and make you better. My brother, thank you so much for being nice brother.