Death, Tears, Mistakes, and Going There with Tripp Lanier"

I had such a great conversation with Tripp Lanier, who has this gift for cutting through all the self-help nonsense with refreshing honesty. We got into the whole armoring thing that men do—you know, that exhausting performance where we pretend we've got everything figured out while secretly running from anything that might actually challenge us. Tripp's journey perfectly illustrates how we convince ourselves we can hack our way out of life's uncomfortable realities, only to discover that the escape hatch we're desperately seeking doesn't actually exist. What I loved about our chat was his insight into authentic men's work—the difference between advice-giving (which nobody wants) and the art of asking questions that help guys discover their own truths. We talked about responsibility, power, and why so many successful men are secretly miserable despite checking all the cultural boxes. Tripp's perspective on growing up versus just getting older really hit home, especially his point about how we keep looking for the next guru or system to save us from having to actually feel our feelings. The whole conversation kept circling back to this central question: what if we stopped running from the very things that could transform us?

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