EP05: Freedom to Put Yourself First (+ Meditation)

How do you go from putting yourself last to putting yourself first so you can be happier and healthier? 

Find out right here. 

[0:42] Devora explains why we put ourselves last, why it's a problem
and what to do about it.

[5:45] 12-minute meditation to help you take better care of yourself while being connected to your Divine Source. 

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Transcript

How do you go from putting yourself last to putting yourself first?

Find out right here. 

[0:36] Today we’re talking about  Freedom to Put Yourself First

I’m guessing you sometimes if not often find yourself pulled in different directions, juggling your time between work and family. Maybe you’re feeling overwhelmed with everything you need to do for your business and for others, although somewhere in the recesses of your mind you remember once upon a time being happier and healthier.  

And you already know what you need -- time for yourself. better self-care. To exercise. Eat better. Go to bed earlier. How many times do I sit with a client and they’re telling me, yeah, maybe if I went to bed before midnight and get up earlier I would have time for myself. Mm, hmm, really? 

Remember having time for yourself?

As women we are natural givers and we are trained to care for others from a young age. That whole nature-nurture question? It’s both. 

You’re committed to your family and to your clients. You’re committed to your goals, to your vision and your purpose. So it makes sense that it’s hard to take the time to take care of yourself.  It is totally understandable. 

Maybe sometimes there’s also that guilt factor about putting yourself at the top of the list... 

Let’s talk for a minute about why it’s a problem to put yourself last or at the bottom of the totem pole - 

1. Your health and wellbeing is at stake. If you take your physical health, plus your emotional wellbeing and your mental state, add a lot of stress and overwhelm to that and you get burnout. I don’t want you to burn out. That’s what I did and I ended up with a chronic illness. 
   
   
   
2. Your relationships are at stake. You feel moody and withdrawn, not the best recipe for close and fulfilling relationships. And if you have kids, what are you modeling for them? 
   
   
   
3. You don’t feel fulfillment or satisfaction from life. We want to feel good and enjoy life. We want to feel joy and love. That’s our natural state. 

So what if you could feel connected with yourself, get back into alignment with yourself, What if you could have more energy and a sense of peace, joy and freedom. What if you could live your life from a place of greater well-being. You could go with the flow, relax with your family and have more fun. This is all possible. And in this podcast we’re going to explore the first steps to having that. 

Let’s start from the beginning. Inside your mind is a place whose job it is to keep you safe and comfortable. It helps you feel secure by running a constant program of patterns that were established from a young age. These patterns have a purpose and served you well when you were little and needed to feel a sense of belonging to your caregivers so that you could survive. This is a place where you may be still receiving subconscious messages such as: 

You can’t have that

You’re not worth it

You don’t deserve this

You can’t ask for what you want

Just keep yourself busy with your family, your clients, your work, the housework

You can’t take time for yourself

There’s no time to rest. 

And so on. 

The place running this programming is very hidden. But it can sabotage you with its beliefs about what’s true. It can cause you to put yourself at the bottom of the list, and give to others until there is nothing left for you. It can be tricky, because it can feel like a comfort zone because it’s what you’re used to. And struggling alone with this may even feel easier than having guilt about putting yourself first. As a result, you’re drained and depleted. Go long enough like that and you will burn out. Like I did. 

So here’s a solution. Now learning new ways of thinking and being is a process. The first step is to recognize those limiting beliefs that lie underneath, hidden away in the subconscious of your mind. The voices that are telling you to keep yourself small and take care of everyone and everything else. 

Acknowledge these beliefs with self-acceptance. Forgive yourself for being human. Know that you are doing the best you can. Recognize the positive side in being there for others. And realize that now’s the time to make a change.

When you take this step, you connect to yourself and feel more aligned, balanced and free. You stay healthy for your family. And you become a shining light to your clients, and your potential clients who need you to lead the way for them. 

And remember - You are only human and you are not alone. There are millions of others who feel this way. This can be both humbling and empowering.

Meditation : Let’s start to transform limiting beliefs or programming around putting yourself last. 

What if you could allow yourself to create new possibilities for yourself?

How would that feel physically?

How would that feel emotionally?

How would that impact your relationships?

What could you do, have or become?

[CLOSING] Thanks for listening to Ease and Flow for the Purpose-Driven Soul. I appreciate your taking the time to share  If you’d like to have a conversation about how you can have ease and flow in your life and business, be sure to reach out and let me know at easeandflowsoul.com There’s also a gift for you to download there.  So i wish you much love, many blessings, and remember, it’s all good. Xoxo DG