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119: Money, Marriage & A Destination Wedding - How We Got Aligned Before Saying I Do (Togor's Journey)

April 12, 2025 • Dee Olateru • Season 11 • Episode 119

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I'm so glad Togor responded to my request for people willing to share about getting on the same page financially before getting married. While there are many horror stories of financial incompatility, this story shows what can happen when two people do the work and show up openly and authentically.

In this episode, we talk about:

When she and her now husband had their very first money conversation
How that conversation set the tone for their relationship
Red flags when a potential mate refuses to talk about money consistently
How their financial conversations have evolved over time - reading books, not making money the elephant in the room, education, having a systen in place, reviewing together
How they got on the same page financially and the importanve of honesty
The importanve of being open to renegotiating terms initially agreed to
How they set a budget for their Lake Como wedding
How they established boundaried leading up to the wedding
3 key principles they established that continue to serve them today one year into their marriage

While Togor wants to live a quiet rich life, I'm thankful that she decided to share her journey with us. As promised, here's the link to a snippet of their special day on Lake Como.

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