Bri Hurlburt 0:00
Welcome back to Homeopathy at Home with Melissa. Hey, Melissa.
Melissa Crenshaw 0:05
Hey!
Bri Hurlburt 0:06
Today we're going to talk about delayed development and it's heavy on remedies, so I would suggest, if you're able to right now, pause and get something to take notes, however you take notes. If you’re in the car, or listening doing something else, this is always transcribed later. So I just wanted to give you that heads up, though, because it's a lot more remedies than normal, I think.
Melissa Crenshaw 0:33
Yeah. Yep. Just because there's lots of remedies doesn't mean that we're going to be here for 50 minutes. This is going to be like remedy, remedy, remedy. Here's the differential. Here's when you choose this one.
So delayed development. What does that even mean? That's when these babies or these kids are late walking, late talking. Even learning disabilities can possibly be due to delayed development. ADHD could be part of a delayed development picture. Just come back in two weeks and listen. We're going to do ADHD next, so we're going to really dig, just focus on ADHD, because it's such a big problem these days
Bri Hurlburt 1:31
It is.
Melissa Crenshaw 1:32
We know that there are lots of parents out there struggling with ADHD, so we're going to dig into that one a lot in the next episode, but for today, let's just go with delayed walking and delay talking. How about that?
Bri Hurlburt 1:48
Yeah, sounds good.
Melissa Crenshaw 1:50
Okay. Learning to talk. Being delayed. What being delayed in learning to talk means, after two years old. After two, they're still not talking or that they're just saying a few words, because really, in the first year of life there should be words coming. Before one there should be mama, dada. Usually dada is first. They like that sound.
Bri Hurlburt 2:18
All the time.
Melissa Crenshaw 2:20
It’s easier than mmmm, ma. I learned a lot. That was what I thought I was going to do. I went to school for early childhood development because that's what I thought that I wanted to do. So I learned a lot, and I retained a lot of that.
One quick little story about Chandler, who most of you know, if you've been listening to this podcast for long, is that he had lots of ear infections. Lots. He's the one that got me into homeopathy because he had all these ear infections, constant, over and over and over again. And with every ear infection, there was … You know with an ear infection, there’s pain. They might be stopped up or stuffy. Having all those infections delayed his talking. I was really concerned about when he was a little bit behind the other children that I knew, because I worked in a childcare facility. I went to the doctor, actually it was the pediatrician that said, “He's delayed in talking and it's because of these ear infections that he had.” So think about that. If you have a child, a toddler, who has had lots of ear infections, or lots of illness, just because the body's having to work so hard to heal.
Bri Hurlburt 3:51
Yeah. Even if it's not related directly to hearing. I was just thinking while you were talking about as we've introduced so many more vaccines, even in the first couple years of life, I think their little bodies are spending so much energy on just readjusting and rebuilding back their health so it can't spend the energy on learning to talk and learning to walk and developing the same. That's a really good point. Maybe something to consider if you're listening and we never want to make anybody feel bad if you're making those choices to vaccinate, however you are or not, but just consider that. How that plays into your child's development. And don't also take all of these milestones as gospel and use your judgment as mom and your intuition. My third, I'm starting to think … I'm watching him because he's so behind compared to my other two, but I know he's developing. He's just a little potato who doesn't care to say anything, but I think it's in there.
Melissa Crenshaw 5:04
So I love this conversation because we have to think of these things. I have the older son, the middle daughter, and then the younger son. When I took the older son to the pediatrician when he was about two, I was concerned because I knew where he should be developmentally in speaking. My youngest, in the pediatricians office, there was me and Grace and Cash sitting in the office, and I'm telling the pediatrician my concern. Now this one has never had a vaccine or even over the counter medication. I'm telling my concern, and he listened. He was such a good listener. He just sat there and listened for a while. And then he said, “I think it's because she doesn't let him talk”. I was like … because every time he asked Cash a question, Grace would answer. He was like, “I want to talk to Cash.”
Bri Hurlburt 6:08
He doesn’t need to talk.
Melissa Crenshaw 6:09
I didn’t even realize that. He didn’t need to talk. She was talking for him..
Bri Hurlburt 6:13
He's like this is nice. I don't need to participate because she's doing it for me. That’s a really good point, though.
Melissa Crenshaw 6:24
If you know the etiology, like it's just due to constant illness, then we need to address the constant illness. If it’s just due to the sister’s talking for him, then let's address the behavior and say, “Okay, sister. We have to let the baby talk.” We don't want to jump to remedies as a first thing, unless there is a neurological, a physical, a mental condition. And so that's what we're going to talk about today.
The first remedy is Nat mur. Natrum muriaticum. This child is shut down emotionally. That's something you would definitely see. It would be just probably the emotionless, no joy, maybe even no anger or sadness. Maybe even apathetic. Because they hold everything in. Nat mur holds everything. They have those big feelings, but they're not letting them come out and then that affects their talking.
Bri Hurlburt 7:37
Their talking,
Melissa Crenshaw 7:39
Mm-hmm. You might consider Nat mur. Nat mur is a cell salt, so you could use it in a 6x. That'd be a great place to start, just a couple of times a day, if you feel like that's the etiology of this delayed talking.
Another one is Baryta carb. Baryta. Some people say Baryta. Baryta carb is the mentally defective. This is a learning disability. This is a big one for Down syndrome. This is a big developmental delay. So there's lots of delays. This is very prominent. This is not just the little boy who doesn't talk because his sister's talking for him. This isn't just the boy who … or the kid who has had lots of illness and he's just hasn't gotten there yet but he's getting there. This is big. This is a bigger learning disability.
Bri Hurlburt 8:40
Okay.
Melissa Crenshaw 8:43
Causticum. Oh, did you have a question?
Bri Hurlburt 8:45
I did. I was thinking just more about that one. If that one has such a bigger picture and could legitimately be connected to a disability or a chromosomal defect or something like that, how would you gauge improvement? Because with a child with Down syndrome, it's very common they speak later. Giving them this obviously isn't going to take away Down syndrome so would we just expect to see maybe more talking? I know it's probably hard for you to answer too because that can look different.
Melissa Crenshaw 9:21
It can look different for everybody, but you're looking at emotions. You know, homeopathy works on the mental and the physical. It's usually the mental first, so you might see a brighter, more energy. You might see a child that doesn't get sick as often, because Down Syndrome children or people, I think they get sick more often. But you should also then start to see more words, more understanding of what's happening around them, because there's different levels of these learning disabilities and these mental problems. Some people with Down syndrome can work and can live on their own and some can't.
Bri Hurlburt 10:10
Maybe it's even more of a mental clarity or understanding and something you'll have to observe depending on your child.
Melissa Crenshaw 10:16
Right.
Bri Hurlburt 10:18
Okay.
Melissa Crenshaw 10:21
The next remedy is Causticum. That is great when there's delayed speech that's accompanied by stammering or stuttering. This is a problem in the vocal cords. That's why the speech is delayed. The etiology is the vocal cords. This child might have had or have lots of sore throats. That could be the etiology. So the problem is here.
Bri Hurlburt 10:54
I think that's the remedy, too, for that machine gun cough, or one of the coughs that's chopped up like that, which is interesting that it’s linked to stuttering and stuff.
Melissa Crenshaw 11:06
Yup. That's a good observation. Bri. I don't have that memorized.
Bri Hurlburt 11:09
I don't. That came to my brain. It will probably never come back when I need it for a cough or something.
Melissa Crenshaw 11:17
The Lord brought it to you.
Bri Hurlburt 11:19
But I could be wrong, so.
Melissa Crenshaw 11:21
The next one is Agaricus. Agaricus muscarius. It's the poison mushrooms that toad … If you type on your iPhone mushroom, that white stem red capped mushroom with the white dots, that's Agaricus muscarius.
Bri Hurlburt 11:38
That’s that?
Melissa Crenshaw 11:39
Yeah,
Bri Hurlburt 11:41
This is the only use I've ever seen for that, so this is great.
Melissa Crenshaw 11:46
This is neurological problems with slow speech development. Neurological issues, then there may be twitching, spasms, you know? What's the other word for twitching? Tics maybe. It's a twitch. Lots of neurological things that are causing the speech to be slowly developed.
Alright, and then Sanicula aqua. It’s a combo. It's a combination remedy. These are my notes from Dr. Murphy because this is where I went to school. And I honestly don't know. Bri, do you have your Materia Medica?
Bri Hurlburt 12:37
I do.
Melissa Crenshaw 12:38
See if that's in there.
Bri Hurlburt 12:41
Okay.
Melissa Crenshaw 12:42
I wonder because I know-
Bri Hurlburt 12:43
It’s under my computer. Alright, I've never heard of this one either so I learn new stuff all the time. Okay.
Melissa Crenshaw 12:51
While you're looking for that, this has Silica, Calc carb, Nat mur and Sulphur in it and it's potentized mineral water. It's not that you would go to Ainsworth and say, “Combine for me Silica, Calc carb, Nat mur, and Sulphur.” Dr. Murphy described Calc carb as having this and this, the oyster shell and the I don't remember … there's other times where he describes the combo remedies like this.
Bri Hurlburt 13:34
It is in here.
Melissa Crenshaw 13:38
So what does it say that it is? Like its whole form?
Bri Hurlburt 12:41
It’s mineral spring.
Melissa Crenshaw 13:43
Okay. Okay.
Bri Hurlburt 13:45
That's interesting.
Melissa Crenshaw 13:46
Actually it's potentized mineral water. Within that mineral water, you’ve got the silica.
Bri Hurlburt 13:54
Are those things, yeah.
Melissa Crenshaw 13:56
You’ve got the Calc Carb. You’ve got the Nat mur and you've got the Sulphur. Again, it's not that you go to the pharmacy and say combine these things for me to make this remedy to do this thing. It's because they are present in the mineral water.
Bri Hurlburt 14:09
Mm-hmm.
Melissa Crenshaw 14:10
Awesome. Thank you. We're going to use Sanicula aqua when there's obstinance in the child. It's delayed speech development and a concomitant, a symptom that comes along with that, is obstinance and skin problems. Remember we're looking at the whole picture. You might think skin problems have nothing to do with delayed speech, but in this remedy, that's part of the differential. That's part of what we're looking for that goes along with the delayed speech.
Bri Hurlburt 14:55
I wonder if obstinance is just that strong will, like I'm not going to do it because you want me to do it. A lot of these seem to have or I mean, there's not a ton of them, but they all have a mental picture or a majority of them do. Like there's even just a mental temperament that goes along with it.
Melissa Crenshaw 15:20
Yep. So those are the main delayed speech remedies. And remember, that's after two years old.
So delayed walking. All three of my children were extremely careful. All through their childhood. They rarely got hurt.
Bri Hurlburt 15:39
Are they still?
Melissa Crenshaw 15:41
They still are. And it's not like an anxious careful. They don't get hurt.
Bri Hurlburt 15:47
Must be nice. The rest of us are like, well, my kids …
Melissa Crenshaw 15:55
All 3 of them walked … they didn't just … you know, you see these babies that just take off and they fall. And they take off and they fall and they take off and they fall. They drop everything and they fall all the time. My kids just never. They didn't walk until they were absolutely ready to actually walk. Is that funny?
Bri Hurlburt 16:13
That is really … I know of mom right now. Her child is like that. And I think one of mine was and then my second was like, I'm going to keep doing this till I make it. I remember him learning to go downstairs. Sorry, side note. He was running and kicking a soccer ball at 10 months old, so it was sometime between a year and maybe like a little over a year, he would fall down stairs, obviously. He would look at the edge. And he got a running start and just like thought if I'm in a run, I'm just gonna keep running as I fall and make it. And that was his solution. Instead of being careful, he decided to just run and it sort of worked for him, which is not great.
Melissa Crenshaw 17:01
Yeah. As I reached over to grab my meat stock to drink it, and I saw in the video my mug, it just reminded me I wanted to say this is the mug that they gave me when I left the hospital. My precious friends at the hospital gave me this precious mug and I drink out of it. So if any of you are watching or listening, I drink this all the time. And I'm so thankful for it.
Bri Hurlburt 17:27
You do. I’ve seen that mug before so I can attest to that.
Melissa Crenshaw 17:30
It reminds me of my beautiful hospital friends.
Okay, so delayed walking. Agaricus, again, can be used for delayed walking and remember that’s due to the neurological problems with spasms and twitching. Neurological again. Same thing with the talking. If there's was delayed walking then you would think of Agaricus muscarius.
You'll also think of Baryta carb again for delayed walking. This is due to endocrine problems, dwarfism, and pituitary hypofunctioning. Again, Baryta carb is not going to fix the dwarfism but it addresses that as part of the picture and you will start to look for maybe more strength or maybe the ability to, I don't know. I really don't know what that would look like but there should be some types of improvements as we look at those things. If there are endocrine problems or pituitary hypofunctioning, then you might think of Baryta carb.
And then Calc carb. Our little Calc carb babies are flabby. They're soft and squishy. They’re fat.
Bri Hurlburt 19:06
I like those babies.
Melissa Crenshaw 19:07
This is the lack of structure. This is flabby muscles, lack of structure, weakness in the limbs, but just because they're so fat and squishy. Grace was so fat. We called her the Michelin man. She had rubber bands. She was so fat that she couldn’t crawl.
Bri Hurlburt 19:37
So cute. Oh, she couldn’t crawl because she was so fat? You wouldn't know it now. She's like super thin now.
Melissa Crenshaw 19:50
Yes. Beautiful. Thin.
Bri Hurlburt 19:52
Yes, she is.
Melissa Crenshaw 19:58
And sweaty. Usually the Calc carb babies are sweaty. They have the sweaty heads. They might even smell sour.
Alright, and then Calc phos. This has everything to do with the bones. Bone weakness, curvatures of the bones, easily breaking bones. They might lean forward while they're walking. They might have flat feet and their ligaments might be lax, so you're going to look at Calc phos. Calc phos is a cell salt so you would be looking at a 3x or 6x two or three times a day long term to try to strengthen those bones and get those things to line up.
Causticum. Again, the nerves are affected so there might be paralysis, weakness or weak legs, so that's why they're not walking well.
Nat mur, they don't want to walk.
Bri Hurlburt 21:06
I always laugh when I think of Nat mur people. Not always, because sometimes it's sad, and you always say Nat mur’s your remedy, right?
Melissa Crenshaw 21:15
It is.
Bri Hurlburt 21:17
Yeah, like for your headaches. Holding in emotions is sad, but thinking of the kid who's like, “I'm just not going to do that.”
Melissa Crenshaw 21:23
I just don’t want to.
Bri Hurlburt 21:25
I just don’t feel like it. I’m not gonna walk.
Melissa Crenshaw 21:28
You might think, how would you know? I mean a toddler’s not going to say, “I just don't want to.” A one year old is not going to say, “I just don't feel like it.” Listen, you as the mom, you have these clues.
Bri Hurlburt 21:44
You can tell.
Melissa Crenshaw 21:45
You know. You know if there's something physically or mentally wrong, or if they just don't want to. We have to trust moms when they say, “He just doesn't want to walk. He can, he just doesn't want to.” We really need to trust that they know what they're talking about. And so then we would try Nat mur.
Bri Hurlburt 22:03
It's cool that there’s several of these that overlap, so maybe recognize that if you're listening. Maybe your child is struggling with both. You might be able to find one remedy that matches instead of trying to find one for talking and one for walking, they may overlap where you can use it for both things.
Melissa Crenshaw 22:24
Yeah, that’s good.
The last one for delayed walking is Silica. Silica is weak. Silica is your thin, weak, pale,. They just have a general weakness about them. They're frail, puny, premature. They might have been a premature baby. They’re thin. This is just the most puny, the most frail. Real thin with a big head and a big belly. That is just the picture of Silica. So if they're not walking because they are physically weak and thin and frail, then you'll think of Silica, Silica is also a cell salt. Silica is very often used in a 12x, so you might think of a 12x. There's nothing wrong with using a 6x, but I usually start with a 12x or maybe even a 6c. Let me just clarify that 12x does not equal 6c. There's a way big difference there. It's just kind of the range that I like to start in.Again, though, even with cell salts, you can use 30s and 200s. You can use any potency that you want to but cell salts, I like to start low, in the decimal scale.
Bri Hurlburt 23:54
I have a question for you. I know that was our last remedy we were going to cover. And I just have maybe an ending question. If any of these are due to vaccine injury? Maybe it's a delay because of them, but I have seen kids respond with that muscle, like the twitching and the spasming, following a vaccine. It's not necessarily delayed, like they were walking and now it's kind of gone a little bit backwards. Would you use the same remedies or would you suggest doing a vaccinosis-type protocol or both? What do you think?
Melissa Crenshaw 24:37
Silica is big for vaccinosis. Silica is just already a big one for that. Thuja. Thuja’s number one for vaccinosis. If you have any ailment that arises because of a vaccine, Thuja is usually the one that you'll go to first. And Silica. Those are the two.
Bri Hurlburt 24:55
And that’s like a chronic? You would treat that chronically, then, if it's a vaccine injury?
Melissa Crenshaw 24:59
Yeah. I do believe I would. Especially if they go backwards like that, then you might look at some of the autistic or autism remedies. Let's see. Wow. Silica and Thuja. Yeah. Silica and Thuja both show up a lot in that.
Bri Hurlburt 25:25
And then maybe later introduce some of the … Like if you kind of address that initial vaccinosis and see improvement, then maybe move on to one of these in a few months or something?
Melissa Crenshaw 25:35
If it still fits, yeah.
Bri Hurlburt 25:38
If they’re still delayed stuff? Okay.
Melissa Crenshaw 25:42
Mm-hmm. Yeah, so in two weeks we're going to talk specifically about ADHD. Let me just touch on really quick why we're going to do that, why that's going to follow this. Development problems in children can include excessive behaviors and deficits. All those behaviors contribute to development delay in one way or another. When you look at ADHD, that is part of that picture, so we want to talk some about ADHD and ADHD remedies next time, in two weeks, so come back for that. Next time is not going to be heavy on remedies. It's going to be heavy on what we're looking at, what it looks like. And they are going to be remedies, so if you're thinking I already know what ADHD looks like, still come back because it looks like we’ve got several remedies we’re going to talk about. That one might be a little longer.
Bri Hurlburt 26:59
So we’ll make this one short. Where we at? Bye, everybody.
Melissa Crenshaw 27:08
All right. We'll see you in two weeks.
Bri Hurlburt 27:10
Okay. Thank you.
Melissa Crenshaw 27:12
Thank you.