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KS 424 - Hope Is Not a Strategy: Family Planning for Christians
What's the missing element in your family legacy plan? Most successful entrepreneurs wouldn't dream of running a business without a strategic plan, yet we often leave our most important organization—our families—to operate without clear direction or purpose.
The reason God chose Abraham reveals the answer. Genesis 18:19 tells us God selected Abraham specifically because "he will direct his children and his household after him to keep the way of the Lord." This divine endorsement of family planning serves as our foundation for creating lasting legacies that extend beyond financial success.
A comprehensive family plan consists of several critical components. Start with a vision statement—a concise declaration of what your family stands for (mine is "Passion for Jesus, compassion for people"). Develop a mission statement outlining how you'll live that vision daily. Identify core values that define your family character—these become the filters through which you make decisions. Finally, create a family constitution establishing rules for handling conflicts, money, responsibilities, and time.
Implementing this framework requires intentional family gatherings where everyone contributes to the conversation about what you collectively value. Document these discussions and revisit them regularly during family meetings. As Habakkuk 2:2 instructs, "Write the vision down, make it plain." My family has begun this journey by exploring what the McCart family should be known for—loyalty, family unity, generosity, and Spirit-led decision-making.
The benefits are transformative: unity during challenges, clear decision-making frameworks, stronger identity in your children, and effective transfer of both wealth and values to future generations. Don't leave your family's legacy to chance. Start crafting your family vision today, and discover how this intentionality becomes the foundation for generational impact.
Have you started developing your family plan? Share this episode with someone who needs to hear this message, and let me know how these principles are transforming your approach to family leadership.
Proverbs 22,. Verse 29 says Do you see a man skillful in his work? He will stand before kings. He will not stand before obscure men. Fellow Marketplace Christians, stop apologizing and start winning. Welcome to the Success Edge, the show that helps you take your walk as a Marketplace Christian to the next level. Here's your host Christian entrepreneur Tyler McHart.
Speaker 2:What's going on, keen and Successful. This is Tyler McHart coming at you, episode 424. Excited to be able to do this episode with you guys. Thank you guys, so much for tuning in. Before I jump into the content, what I want to talk about I just want to give the quick shout out to the family banking concept that I'm educating people on and actually helping them set up their own private bank, start taking advantage of the opportunities themselves and be able to create generational wealth long-term. And if that's you, if you've had any interest in that, you know, send me a direct message. You can find me on Instagram, tyler H McHart. You can find me there. You can also find the. Send me a text regarding that and, lo and behold, you'll find that I'll send you some information back. Actually, the e-book that I pretty much have completed. I mean, they're still kind of a work in progress, but I've pretty much completed that book and I think it's a good time to actually send it out to folks. So, and let me also make sure you hear this Don't think that you've got to be a multimillionaire to be able to do this.
Speaker 2:Not even think that you have to have millions of dollars to start this. No, you need to have a dream, you need to have a vision for your life. I'm actually working with a gentleman, a client of mine, that does have a dream for his life. He doesn't have a whole lot of money right now, single dude, but he has a dream of actually being able to start the process and he has Okay. So don't think that you have to have a ton of money, you just have to have vision. So that's you. Send me a message.
Speaker 2:All right, let's jump into this. So, at the time of this recording, I'm out for a walk and I'm right now 47 years young. A walk and I'm right now 47 years young. I've got four kids. I've got a 15 year old, 13 year old, 11 year old and a 10 year old, and a smoking hot wife at home, all right, and the Lord has blessed us exceedingly, abundantly, above all we can think or imagine. The blessing of the Lord has made us rich and he has no sorrow with it. Well, we didn't get there by accident. But again, there's just something that I have started to learn, started to incorporate into my own family, that I want to share with you guys, that I think that can help you along the way with your own family, you know if you've got a young family.
Speaker 2:If you've got a family, that is maybe your family.
Speaker 2:Maybe your kids have already grown up out of the house, not sure where you're at, you can still have a family plan. All right, a family plan. I've talked about this a little bit and kind of the genesis of this was I sat down with my estate attorney to create the family trust that you know, amy and I are wanting to develop and create, and he told me a story about, actually, this pastor that actually went to a business conference and, as he was at this business conference, couldn't talk about Jesus, couldn't talk about anything like that, but he just asked this group of business people that were before him you know what's the importance of having a business plan and you know, multiple hands shot up talked about how that. You know, having an ROI and having a business plan kind of go hand in hand. You know, talked about how that, you know, without a plan, there really is no reason to move forward. Plan, there really is no reason to move forward, okay. Well, that pastor turned that question on the ear of the individuals that were in the room and said, okay, if you wouldn't invest into, say, a set business plan, if it didn't have a plan period, if it was just kind of this made-up thing or not anything written down, not any kind of concrete vision and values and metrics that were involved. You wouldn't invest in that, then why doesn't your own life have that? And on top in that, then why doesn't your own life have that? And on top of that, why doesn't your family have a plan?
Speaker 2:And so I went and I, literally I listened to and watched that episode of him telling that story, the gentleman, uh, randy Pope, and man, it really, it really impacted me. I had known, guys, I'll be honest with you I had known that I should have a plan. I'd known that. You know cause, here I was, I had a plan for my own life you know, thank God for the Franklin planner, but I knew that I had to have this plan Well, and I knew that I need to have a business plan for my own life.
Speaker 2:But incorporating your family was just not something that people had written a lot of books on, and I really feel like that this is something that is going to be a genesis for me of writing a book about this, because I'm living it right now and I can share at least some insight of what I'm learning and how I'm working with my own family that you can take back with your family. Now, the scripture verse that I want to have as my, I guess, baseline is Genesis 18-19. And inside the scripture verse God says something extremely interesting about Abraham. So, out of all the people on the earth, why did God choose Abraham as his dude?
Speaker 2:that he was going to start this whole entire covenant that really was going to save the world. Why? Well, I feel like there's probably several other reasons, but I think this is definitely one because God says it very clearly For I have chosen Abraham. This is Genesis 18, 19. For I have chosen Abraham. This is Genesis 18, 19. For I have chosen Abraham so that he will direct his children and his household after Abraham to keep the way of the Lord by doing what is right and just so that the Lord will bring about for Abraham what he promised Abraham. That's the NIV translation.
Speaker 2:All right, so you know, most of us understand the whole entire thing about having a business plan. You wouldn't start a business if you didn't have a plan. You know that plan can be really simple. Okay, you cut a product. You say, well, today I'm going to go and knock on so many doors and I'm going to keep doing that until I start making sales. You know, to a certain degree, that is a business plan. Now I'm going to go into more of. You know having that business plan. Have a little bit more meat on the bone so that you actually can see with a good lens for your own family. All right.
Speaker 2:So a family is like a team, guys, just think about this. You know why does a family need a plan? A family is like a team. It's something that needs to go and accomplish something. It always functions. I mean, you see a lot of these families out there that have a clear mission, a clear vision for their life. They have values. Okay, that might not be written down, but you see this in these families, they're very well off and very together. All right so, but unlike a business here's the deal. Unlike a business, a family is permanent. A business can go away, but a family is permanent and therefore, you know, there has to be clarity and unity around things even more to help that family stay together. There's got to be conflict resolutions. That has to be generational legacy stuff. That has to be thought through. Okay, I mean, you should read proverbs 29. 18 says right in there. It says where there's no vision, the people perish. It says in Psalms 127, verse 1, unless the Lord builds the house the builders build in vain.
Speaker 2:So what are some components, what are some things that you need to kind of think through? All right, for that family plan, well, I'd highly recommend that you have a vision statement. Okay, I mean, a vision statement can be made up of a very short sentence. It can be like three words. I think FedEx is called the world on time. All right, you know, you can look at Nike. Nike's got a vision statement. What is a vision statement? Just do it, okay. So your vision statement can be actually something very simple. Doesn't have to be complex, just something simple.
Speaker 2:My vision statement for my personal life is passion for Jesus, compassion for people. That's it. You know, I wake up every day having passion for the Lord. That's first and foremost. And my behind that is I want to have compassion for people. Okay, that's, that's my vision statement. Well, the mission statement behind the vision statement is kind of the how All right, matthew 22, verse 37, 39. Love the Lord, your God, and love your neighbor as yourself. That's just kind of summarizing that that you know there's something has to be said for you know, having some substance or having some kind of mission or direction behind that vision statement.
Speaker 2:Okay, how is it going to be lived out every day? How is that going to be lived out every day? Another thing that has to anchor it down is core values or core virtues. What are the core values and virtues that make your family up? Is it generosity, is it faith, is it forgiveness, is it work ethic, is it joy? These are all values or virtues that you have to have within your family, that you have to say these are the tenants. These are the things that when we have to make a decision in our life, we're going to bump them up against our values, and if it doesn't violate any of our values, then guess what? We will move forward. Okay, it's just real simple. I mean one of the you know, I don't know why, I just thought about this Chick-fil-A as a business. One of their core values is they do not work on Sunday. Is they do not work on Sunday? They allow their employees to actually have a day where they go and worship how they choose to worship. That's the core value right there.
Speaker 2:So, in thinking through your core values, start to involve your kids with this, start to ask questions. Okay, one of the other components is actually a family constitution. Now this is where things really start to get serious. Okay, so there's rules of engagement in this family constitution.
Speaker 2:You know, agreement on conflicts, all right. Agreement on money, agreement on responsibility, agreement on time. You know that has to be put into the family. These are things that you have to do, right. I mean, ephesians 4, verse 2 and 3, says Be completely humble and gentle, be patient, bearing one another in love. Okay, so moving on. So for me, just with that little thing right there, what I just went through, let me just tell you where I'm at.
Speaker 2:Okay right there what I just went through. Let me tell you where I'm at. Okay, so I'm at this part where that we didn't exercise last, not not last month, but the month before. We started kind of talking about, hey, what is the McCart family going to be known for? What are we, what is, what are some things that we value as a family? And my kids gave answers, amy gave answers, I gave answers and we started just writing them down, just writing them down. And, guys, this is not going to happen all in one day, by the way.
Speaker 2:And then here recently, we brought the whole subject back up again at our family planning and prayer time. You've heard me talk about that. Maybe I might do a whole entire episode on that right there, but with me actually doing that has given me the opportunity to talk about okay, okay, hey, eventually we're going to create a family. You know, vision statement we're going to create family values. We want to start isolating these things down. You know, one of the things that they talked about is loyalty. They talked about actually family sticking together. They also talked about generosity. They also talked about generosity. They also talked about Holy Spirit-led decision-making. These types of things are valuable to our family and this is something that we as a family started talking about.
Speaker 2:Okay, so, honestly, that's just where I'm at with this whole thing. This has become very real to me. It has to be intentional. It can't be just something that, you know, you kind of hope and pray. Hope is not a strategy. You can't just sit there and hope and pray. That man. I just hope my family, you know, loves each other, sticks together, sticks close together and, you know, knows how to work together. Gang, I'm here to tell you, I'm a testimony that it is possible. But it's also.
Speaker 2:I've seen in other families that when the family has no kind of guiding morals and guiding principles that the patriarch has set up, that it goes quickly south. And south is not what I mean by south, is not a good thing. I was just in there talking to a gentleman just the other day and he was sharing with me about how that one of the family members that had pretty much complete control over the financial side of the patriarch went in right before he passed away and changed a whole bunch of stuff. And, man, it just again. That family got blown up. It just again. It's not something.
Speaker 2:You have to be purposeful, you have to be thinking through these things. Okay, so just some practical steps. All right, so you've heard me talk about these things right here already, which is examples that I'm doing right now, but here we go. Practical steps is actually, you know, get away for the weekend maybe. Or you know, get away for the weekend maybe, or you know, take some time doesn't have to be every, uh, be once a once a month, could be twice a month that you actually take some time. We actually do this on sunday nights. Okay, last night we did not talk about anything regarding our family planning stuff.
Speaker 2:It was more just, we needed to get stuff done with our family for this week Wasn't anything long-term that we talked about, so it doesn't have to be every week, okay, but you got to write stuff down, okay, Revisit the stuff, all right, and start to craft this. Once you actually kind of have it down and together, actually you know, review it, go back to it, bring it back up and actually a family meeting that you have. Habakkuk 2.2 says write the vision down, make it, make it plain. You have to do that, guys and guys. Here's the thing. The benefits of having a family plan are these things right here, you know you're going to create unity during difficult times. That's one huge thing. You're going to create unity in difficult times. You're going to be able to provide direction in decision-making. You're going to instill identity and legacy in your children. You're going to instill identity and legacy in your children. You're going to strengthen generational wealth and values that you want to transfer to that third and fourth generation. It says in Proverbs 20, verse 7,.
Speaker 2:it says the righteous who walk in his integrity. Blessed are his children after him. So I go back to this as I close this thing up. Guys, I know you believe in business plans. I know you probably even go as far as saying I need to have an individual plan for my life, which is great, but, man, why shouldn't you have one for your family?
Speaker 2:That's my challenge. That's my challenge. That's my challenge is for you guys to start to craft and draft your own vision statement for your family. Get your kids involved, get your wife involved. Do that. Don't just sit on your hands and think that, oh, I don't need to do this. No, this is why God chose Abraham, because Abraham was willing to give his family a vision, something greater than himself. Deuteronomy 11, verse 19,. And I'll end with this right here. It says teach them to your children when you sit at the house, at your home, when you walk along the side of the road. Guys, I'm sorry if you're going to be a home when you walk along the side of the road. Guys, I'm sorry If you're going to be a parent, if you want to create something to last, it's going to take intentionality of actually teaching your children.
Speaker 2:You know, last night we had to have a long conversation with my oldest because there were some grades that were not exactly where he wanted them to be oldest, because there were some grades that were not exactly where he wanted to be Long term. That's going to affect him potentially if he chooses to go to college. He doesn't have to go to college, but if he chooses to go to college, it's going to affect those things if he doesn't change some things and do some different things today. That takes some intentionality, it takes some time. It just can't we sit, I just can't sit there and, you know, hope and pray that. You know he's going to change his mind about stuff. I actually, amy and I, had to sit down with him for about 20 minutes and talk and just have a conversation. Yeah, there were some tears from him, you know. Yeah, there was. There was some prayer that his mama started praying over him.
Speaker 2:For, guys, this is just real stuff. This is stuff that you have to do. You can't just sit there and, again, hope and pray that it happens. Okay, god's giving you the tools to do it. So again, guys, my two calls to action. I think my first call to action is start. Start actually having a vision for your family. Start by gathering your family together and talking about it. That'd be the first thing I'd say. The second thing I'll always say and this is something that you know I'm going to say is, if this impacted you and you felt like it helped you out, share it. Share it with somebody. If you thought of one person, that's it. Don't think of ten, just one. Share this with them. Okay, so, gang, know that you're blessed, you're highly favored, you're empowered to prosper, you walk in divine health. The spirit of breakthrough is on you, guys and gang, we'll catch you on the other side.
