Matt Granados is a serial entrepreneur, innovator, risk taker, husband, and father. In this episode Matt shares his life, faith, and business stories. Through their company, LifePulse Inc., Matt and Maria have created a planning system the helps fortune 500 companies, branches of the United States military, startups, and people like us achieve better focus and live with greater intentionality. Matt is an international keynote speaker, author, and all around inspirational guy.
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Follow LifePulseInc:
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Ask anything: info@lifepulseinc.com
Some quotes from the episode:
“The reason why I lived a decent life… [my parents] understood right and wrong.”
“Whether or you believe in Jesus or not, you can’t argue the principles he lived by and taught are valuable and applicable in today’s day and age.”
“I get to [John] 4:23, ’True worshipers know God in both truth and spirit,’ and it hit me like a sack of bricks… I understood logically, I believed logically. I didn’t connect emotionally.”
“Neither of us were seeking each other. We were both seeking God”
“The biggest thing for yourself is creating habits and routines.”
“Structure leads to freedom, and rhythm leads to peace.”
“You’re not going to change your life in a week. But if you change your weeks, you’ll change your life.”
“Learn with implementation in mind”
“If you’re learning all the stuff in the world and doing nothing with it, it’s a waste of time to learn it. ‘Cause I can Google it faster than you can learn it.”
“Don’t let your generosity get hit by fear.”
“If you’re being pushed to do something because of [fear, obligation, or guilt,] I promise you that’s not [God] talking to you.”
Fun things from the episode:
Listen to this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/I7lR7P2ksuw
Share your thoughts: podcast@sarahgood.com
Now That's Something Good Podcast by Sarah Good is licensed under CC BY-NC-SA 4.0. To view a copy of this license, visit https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-sa/4.0
Matt Granados is a serial entrepreneur, innovator, risk taker, husband, and father. In this episode Matt shares his life, faith, and business stories. Through their company, LifePulse Inc., Matt and Maria have created a planning system the helps fortune 500 companies, branches of the United States military, startups, and people like us achieve better focus and live with greater intentionality. Matt is an international keynote speaker, author, and all around inspirational guy.
Follow Matt:
Instagram @matt87granados
Facebook @matt87granados
Twitter @matt87granados
Follow LifePulseInc:
http://lifepulseinc.com/
Instagram @LifePulseInc
Facebook @LifePulseInc
Twitter @LifePulseInc
Ask anything: info@lifepulseinc.com
Some quotes from the episode:
“The reason why I lived a decent life… [my parents] understood right and wrong.”
“Whether or you believe in Jesus or not, you can’t argue the principles he lived by and taught are valuable and applicable in today’s day and age.”
“I get to [John] 4:23, ’True worshipers know God in both truth and spirit,’ and it hit me like a sack of bricks… I understood logically, I believed logically. I didn’t connect emotionally.”
“Neither of us were seeking each other. We were both seeking God”
“The biggest thing for yourself is creating habits and routines.”
“Structure leads to freedom, and rhythm leads to peace.”
“You’re not going to change your life in a week. But if you change your weeks, you’ll change your life.”
“Learn with implementation in mind”
“If you’re learning all the stuff in the world and doing nothing with it, it’s a waste of time to learn it. ‘Cause I can Google it faster than you can learn it.”
“Don’t let your generosity get hit by fear.”
“If you’re being pushed to do something because of [fear, obligation, or guilt,] I promise you that’s not [God] talking to you.”
Fun things from the episode:
Listen to this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/I7lR7P2ksuw
Share your thoughts: podcast@sarahgood.com
Now That's Something Good Podcast by Sarah Good is licensed under CC BY-NC-SA 4.0. To view a copy of this license, visit https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-sa/4.0
Sarah:
[1:29] Hey guys I am here today with my friend Matt, Matt, you wanna say hello?
Matt:
[1:33] Hey everybody excited to be here.
Sarah:
[1:35] Yeah I'm really excited everybody always says that we love it well I'm really glad that you're joining with us Matt has quite the story
your business is incredible and I cannot wait for people to hear what you're going to share with us today but I feel like it's important to note before I even let you introduce yourself I feel like people need to know,
you're very fast talker and I'm a really fast talker and we were just laughing about this do you want to say anything about that.
Matt:
[1:58] You'll hear an amazing ability that if either one of us takes a breath the other one can fit a full sentence in.
Sarah:
[2:05] I love it I love it so I guess what we're saying is just dial in your ears listen quick maybe don't listen to this one any faster than you normally would or you might not be able to keep up.
Matt:
[2:16] Well and most most whatever platform you're listening to you can listen on half speed so we might actually be normal if they were to go the opposite way.
Sarah:
[2:20] So maybe that's true we won't sound like we're slow down we'll just yeah I like it well Matt tell us who you are tell us about your family and what your day job is.
Matt:
[2:30] So Matt Granados is the name I go by wife Maria daughter Natalie son Zach fortunately we all have the same last name,
but day job right now I'm kind of a serial entrepreneur and I say that,
as almost not a not necessarily a negative but I think a lot of people love that concept of wanting to be an entrepreneur being an entrepreneur and I tell people it takes a weird breed,
and again I don't mean that in a positive way I mean our life is crazy on a regular basis so I can say is almost like a curse of being an entrepreneur because there's always opportunity there's always a chance to grow so our,
current company right we have a couple companies but the ones that were most excited about right now it's called LifePulse and it's a consulting company,
the best way I can describe it is asking people who are listening just think about that that time that you got lost doing something you love to do whatever hobby that is,
and then what we do is we come in a companies and make their job that task,
so we're able to connect it with them and we've seen some great results we've seen some lives changed and we've seen some people's eyes open up,
in ways that we never expected so so that's who we are were originally originally from Philadelphia.
Sarah:
[3:43] Okay okay.
Matt:
[3:44] Atlanta for about a decade realized that raising kids without family is tough so decided to move to st. Louis because that's where my wife's room.
Sarah:
[3:54] Okay so you grew up in Philadelphia I don't know how I didn't know that before.
Matt:
[3:57] I try to keep that in,
I'm totally joking I love Philly but yeah it's I grew up in fill outside of Philly rights type of thing where like I said I'm from Philly and some of the go what part and I'm like are you from there okay I'm from the suburbs like I'm not really from the,
came want to Penn State after that started a business in Atlanta and that's what triggered the South,
move down there not knowing anything and I kind of said do I either go get an MBA spent a ton of money on that or do I invest in this new business idea invested in the business idea and I'll say it was very lucky it worked out very well.
Sarah:
[4:31] Well Matt I just want to jump right in and hear the story because
I want to hear how you got to LifePulse Inc what started that or the catalyst maybe even for some of the other businesses that you've owned along the way and really also how did you get to your faith in Jesus and where does all that kind of intertwine.
Matt:
[4:47] Yeah so that was later on.
Sarah:
[4:48] Okay okay.
Matt:
[4:49] Very later on so grew up where it wasn't that there was no religion or faith in my household,
at all and my parents did a great job of raising us I've three other siblings and my mom grew up Jewish my dad grew up Catholic and the game plan was kind of,
they'll find it when they find it I'm the only one who's found it so far and that was not that long ago so,
as I grew up at 15 to kind of intertwine my life
Sarah:
[5:17] Yeah go yeah.
Matt:
[5:18] with faith because I truly feel it needs to be the same thing it's not two separate parts it's just who we are. At 15 I started my first business,
DJing, Explosive Entertainment yeah it was awesome I love it's right before sweet 16 started and I started this business by working for somebody else,
he said collect the balance and keep the balance yourself,
so I got the contract I brought it to the client I ran the event I talked to them beforehand this is at little at 15 I remember I came home and my dad I said why did I,
only get a hundred and fifty dollars and he got about two thousand dollars and I did everything and that was when he explained the concept of leverage.
Sarah:
[5:56] Yeah yeah.
Matt:
[5:57] And he said look he said he takes all the risk did you put any money into it and I said I just showed up he said so you got paid for your time,
and that was the eye-opener of art so if I buy my own equipment if I take the wrist do I get to keep the two thousand dollars he said,
so I said can I buy the equipment you said we might want to save up so saved up bought some equipment started my first company at 15 right before sweet 16,
some of them that's what I paid my way through school and started a company all through Penn State I was DJing and realized quickly that I wanted to get to the hospitality industry so.
Sarah:
[6:28] Okay wait hold on do you still DJ it's just like a site like you we can't get like did you have a DJ name.
Matt:
[6:34] Did I really have I mean like people would call me Matty G just because my mat Granado's but I never went by it,
it wasn't anything I was super excited about I just really enjoy doing I love music I love being with people I like partying all that.
Sarah:
[6:49] I think that is amazing okay yeah.
Matt:
[6:50] Equals a DJ so started that went really well what kind of hospitality, graduated with Hotel restaurant management as my major,
open a casino that was what I wanted to do so I wrote a letter to the person who I thought was most connected in the casino industry Steve Wynn who basically if you're not familiar with Vegas built Vegas said I want to get an apprenticeship with you,
and I got a rejection letter back from his assistant and I've never talked I mean Steve Wynn at this point and even back that was worth a couple billion dollars on the wealthiest people on the planet and,
yeah me as a college student how do I actually get into that,
and I got a letter back from his assistant and said I never dealt with a billionaire but I've been nice to women before I know how to see if I can get them to help move this thing along so I started sending her flowers and chocolates and,
professionalism of responding and eventually I got a call asking to stop send stuff but what I like an internship.
[7:47] So where all this came from was right at 15 when I started my this little business which was really just me and some CDs I went to a program called Eagle University so this is a very pivotal moment in my life,
Eagle University is a non-profit it's still happening we still volunteer Maria was the executive director for a time being we're on the board now for,
and it brings students 15 to 24 to an on-site college campus and teaches them what I would say everything you need to know that you don't learn in school,
everything from finding mentors how to set goals how to deal with different personalities I mean the stuff that should be taught at schools.
Sarah:
[8:28] Yeah that's amazing.
Matt:
[8:30] Yeah it's fascinating and they get to experience what it's like to be on a college campus which for a lot of people they have no clue what that's like so we call it giving him a seven-year career head,
and the pricing is super and expensive for what we're able to get were able to bring in some of the top speakers from all over the world who volunteer their time for free it's an amazing program so anyway I went when I was 15,
I didn't learn anything the first time except for I thought there was 51 states because all of the Miss USA and Miss Teen USA is when they won would get a scholarship to the program so I thought there was 51 states for a while.
Sarah:
[9:00] That's.
Matt:
[9:01] Because DC had their own contestant so I came home my parents are like you want to go back I was like absolutely like well would you learn,
not explained the states that I learned and they're like I don't think that was the point let's go back so I went back but I really just when I went back a second time I recognize what repetition does when you need to learn something and how far off I was I knew it.
Sarah:
[9:22] Wow what I learned yeah.
Matt:
[9:22] But I do anything with what I learned this was a 15 so I understood how important implementation is,
when I was at this program I met a gentleman who offered to Mentor me as long as I read these 5 books and write a book report form for each,
so I put that off for about six years and then right before I applied for this interview with win I decided to read the first book I've ever read in my life at 21,
I just talked my way through school sales of always been easy for me and if I could talk away and get a C or B that considers passed I'm good,
so that was an interesting moment because that first book was Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill and I became obsessed with self-growth,
I had read any book I could I was a slow reader so it took a long time to read them and I that's what made me apply for this internship like I was talking about so I'm coming full circle.
Sarah:
[10:14] Yeah no no it's good.
Matt:
[10:15] So as we jump into this I'm in Vegas, 21, living a mile off the strip with every other intern I mean it was exactly what you listeners think it was.
Sarah:
[10:26] would think it was is what it was?
Matt:
[10:27] Remember I'm not a Christian at this point right so it was everything Vegas is built to be and,
so it was a great experience but the best part of the experience was when I sat down actually with Wynn and I told him I want to open up a casino,
he looked at me and he said no you don't he said you don't even want to be in this industry,
and I'm like like talk about being deflated right I'm going back to graduate going into my senior year of Hotel restaurant management and I'm just told like being told by Michael Jordan that you shouldn't play basketball like this is the guy who built Vegas is telling me get out of this industry.
Sarah:
[10:59] Did he give you a reason.
Matt:
[11:01] He said what are your values I said loyalty said you care about family I said yes she said well then this is not where you need to be that's not Vegas is not built on winners it's built on losers it's not built on loyalty like that's not what built Vegas they have loyalty points,
there's a whole nother reason for them,
so we'd realized that - it's remember coming home just completely deflated and I reached out to this mentor, who made me read these books, and I'm like "alright man, like now what?"
Sarah:
[11:23] Okay yeah.
Matt:
[11:26] It's like I got this really interesting concept that we're doing, or selling these little things called sugar gliders. Have you ever heard of them? I said I don't know what that is so look it's a little,
it's a little like kind of like a little flying squirrels how we describe it to me he said would you be interested in checking them out? And I'm like, "man, after four years of
tuition you think I'm gonna tell my mom that I'm not."
Sarah:
[11:47] Yeah you're going to sell these things.
Matt:
[11:48] ya know, going at anything, but I'm selling these rats for a living?" and he's like "look" he's like check it out so I checked it out and it was amazing the way people respond on the way the animals are the business behind it I was like I'm in.
Sarah:
[11:59] Wait so it's really - hold on - called a sugar glider.
Matt:
[12:01] It's alive animal called a sugar glider or a sugar bear.
Sarah:
[12:05] We're totally gonna have to post a picture of this for people because I have never heard of this yes.
Matt:
[12:09] You ever see Gremlins? Remember Gizmo? modeled after these type of animals they're super cute super fun super friendly super loyal.
Sarah:
[12:19] Wow okay real.
Matt:
[12:20] Business till today it's still going yep so it's just system eyes and it's doing.
Sarah:
[12:24] So I could buy one of these like right now if I wanted one that's amazing do you have one in your house okay see look right now this was just worth it by mind is okay there that's good yeah.
Matt:
[12:34] So anyway so so I start this crazy business that makes absolutely no sense and this is at 24 so and I'm getting to your all your questions.
Sarah:
[12:43] No you're doing great.
Matt:
[12:44] At 24 at this point I moved to Atlanta Georgia with.
Sarah:
[12:51] Is Maria in the picture yet no okay no okay.
Matt:
[12:54] With a trailer and a van full of all my stuff,
pull into my house in Atlanta because we rented a house so that I could let my employees live in the house that was part of the pay was,
you have your own housing it's just this terrible house in South Atlanta that you shouldn't live in anyway oh by the way our squirrels have a whole other room that where they live in the house.
Sarah:
[13:15] That's awesome.
Matt:
[13:16] I get down there - I'll never forget - I think it's the second day I hear this like loud bang outside of my hat my house and I look out and I see my trailer rolling down the street and I'm like oh no it's going to hit a house and and I look back and I see my trailer going the other way,
and it turns out it wasn't rolling down the hill someone stole it.
Sarah:
[13:33] Oh my.
Matt:
[13:34] Was a second day in Atlanta is like Southern Hospitality at its finest,
and I realize all right this is getting real, this is a real business and there's real consequences, to what I'm doing although it's comical because it's such a silly business though the sale the size and scale that it became was totally unexpected are my,
so 2014 it was growth year after year I think we did our first million in the first eight months I mean we're doing really really well so I was as young dumb lost salesman with a business,
and I at this point right so I was dating somebody which led to getting engaged in 2014 and then I went,
when I'm trying to think the actual timing of everything that happened so we're now january-february,
in March like every good entrepreneur I decided to call my account and say we got to do my taxes.
Sarah:
[14:26] Yeah.
Matt:
[14:27] He's frustrated as every year because I'm always late,
all right let's do it so we do the numbers of Mike mark them like you're missing a ton of money I mean I'm talking six figures plus multiple six-figure,
I said where is how you vacuum it inventory based business go count your inventory that's where your cash is like I know it looks like you should have cash but you've used it for inventory it's all right so I went in Canada,
all the inventory and none of it was there so it turned out a group of employees embezzled,
a lot of the product would sell it on the side with sell it for cash and I've had I had such bad systems that my system in business was make more sales not run a good business was just sell sell sell,
so now the business is extremely in debt right and a terrible time I don't want to talk my fiance because why would that be that's not a good thing.
Sarah:
[15:15] Right right.
Matt:
[15:15] Fiance we're not we're not at that point yet I guess,
and what happened was within a 30-day period found out that went to the doctor I go to the doctor every year for my physical and April it's my birthday it's kind of my birthday present to myself to make sure I'm still alive,
April sixteenth of anyone wants to send a gift you're more than welcome to.
Sarah:
[15:34] They can send you on the 16th and my birthday is four days later
Matt:
[15:37] Perfect we could share.
Sarah:
[15:38] This is why we're friends Matt yes I love it don't share gifts though we want separate gifts.
Matt:
[15:43] Equal value to,
saves friendships so we basically doctor sat me down was like look your cortisol levels are so high through the roof from for those who don't know cortisol is what's produced when you're stressed,
I said your stress level is as high,
at your age as the average person like your baseline is where the average person speaks so like your calm is still stressed your body will not survive past 40 doing what you're doing,
so that was that was kind of the first reality check of like well what's going on so,
professionally I was a disaster physically I was a mess externally I was okay but internally was a mess my internal kind of self growth spirituality was empty I don't have time for it I'm busy working,
so all I had right now is my relationship I was engaged and we're about to go on a trip to Greece and I was now it's May right so I'm bringing you through kind of this 30 to 45 day period,
it's made the day before we leave for Greece she gives me the ring back it says I can't do this.
Sarah:
[16:41] My okay well wow.
Matt:
[16:45] And I sat there and it's fascinating because in the middle of all of this I went I was invited by a priest,
actually it was her home Church's priest right I was just at this point kind of dabbling in Christianity and I guess to go back to that whole journey was I told you I love self worth,
so I was talking with a buddy of mine one of the first time I brought this up was to somebody who's more,
and I said look I said I live a pretty good life my parents did a pretty good job we never opened up the Bible how do you explain that like how could I be living a good life if I don't know what I'm supposed to be doing,
could you a peso what I was asking was how could you say your book is true but I didn't realize where they had a second book that even know about right so I was totally lost on as I was talking about the Bible,
and he said you were raised biblical you just don't know,
which was an interesting point and looking back the reason why I lived a decent life is because even though my parents did not bring us to church or synagogue or make us read scripture they understood right and wrong.
Sarah:
[17:49] Yeah I understood right and wrong okay.
Matt:
[17:52] Which is kind of the essence of I think what Christianity does for us is gives us a clear path of what's right or wrong,
um so anyway so that's interesting that was kind of the end of that conversation talked to another person probably six months later one of my favorite people on the planet and I said to him I said why do you read that book when I have all the answers in these books over here,
and he looked at me and he held up he had his Bible with him he's at my house it looks at all of my books on the wall and it goes why would you read all of those books if I have all the answers right here,
and I was like look you don't have all the answers he said alright let's try it so we start at like 10 o'clock at night we went all night long I'm pulling out every book from Dale Carnegie to to every little thing every traditional self-growth book,
think of and he's pulling versus out that explain exactly the principle that I'm teaching,
and it made me think wait a minute is all the stuff kind of just regurgitated a scripture just in more of a secular way that you could sell so that opened my eyes to actually starting to read the,
and I'm reading it strictly for selfish purposes I do not believe that Jesus Christ.
Sarah:
[18:54] Right right.
Matt:
[18:55] The Son of God I didn't believe in the Miracles but I'm like you know what I'm reading all these other books that I'm assuming these people are true people I'm reading all this history that I'm assuming is true,
here's another book that I could read and probably get some stuff out of it on how to live a good life whether you believe in Jesus or not you can't argue the principles he lived by and taught are valuable and applicable in today's day and age.
Sarah:
[19:15] Right right.
Matt:
[19:16] So anyway and again I apologize for keep talking in circles but it's all points that are leading to where I am now,
and go on this to meet this priest and this priest is his family so wealthy he can't take the full value of priesthood because he can't take the vow of poverty,
so we just gives money to the church like he doesn't need him he's an amazing amazing guy,
person I could talk to in such a strict organized Faith who is willing to answer my,
so we sat down and talked we had a question... blah blah blah... I was I was drilling him with everything of lot of Catholics do this why do they do that wide and he would give me his opinion his,
answers to it and I respected it didn't agree with all that but we're able to have a really really good conversation and he said look my dad,
so my ears are perking up as a young entrepreneur like I'm in whatever you're going to say next let's do it he says he has a retreat every year at our family farm,
would you be interested in going he brings all his friends out I'm sitting there going like absolutely right.
Sarah:
[20:14] Yeah right.
Matt:
[20:15] But a network this is going to be amazing I can pretend to be Christian I can do this all day long,
so I show up and you know dinner happens and I didn't really ask any questions I just said yes so I flew up to Pittsburgh and went to this thing and,
it was a it was the most humbling experience because at dinner I would like I'm gonna play it cool right I'm not going to talk about me I'm just going to listen to what everyone else is talking about,
and then when they ask me what I do I'll be able to tell them this amazing story about how we sell these flying animals and on this young entrepreneur and they'll be so impressed,
while the second it's time for me to talk the priest comes onto the okay so as you all know now is the time for silence music silence,
it wasn't just the retreat it was a silent retreat.
Sarah:
[20:56] Oh my goodness.
Matt:
[20:57] So I'm sitting there.
Sarah:
[20:59] Which I'm sure is your Forte right this is great for people like you and I silence.
Matt:
[21:03] I'm not I'm not even taking a breath on this call letter this this episode little anything else so anyway so I talked with nobody,
I do make a deal with myself that even though I don't believe everything that Catholics believe I'm going to go with meaning I'm just going to assume it is what it is.
Sarah:
[21:20] Right right okay.
Matt:
[21:21] This is no offense to the Catholic religion it's just I wasn't I didn't understand what was happening.
Sarah:
[21:25] Yeah.
Matt:
[21:25] So I was just following suit so when they would go do something or do you know get on there they go down there knees I go down on my knees I would do whatever they're doing,
and at this point I had no clue what prayer was so this is an April of this March 2.
Sarah:
[21:39] Yeah yeah yeah.
Matt:
[21:41] So I to fast forward day one goes by I mean there's guys breaking down crying and I'm like what happened like what did I miss something did someone get a message and I didn't get.
Sarah:
[21:48] What is going on.
Matt:
[21:51] And the whole thing was about prayer and I never understood prayer ever do I let someone talk back do I answer the question do I not answer the question like do I just keep talking like this like my being rude.
Sarah:
[22:00] Right.
Matt:
[22:02] Does God need to put step in I don't know so because I didn't understand it I did what most people do and I just didn't do it,
so that this is my time where I was forced to start doing it because no one else was talking to it besides whatever was in my head,
add it's Friday goes by and I'm getting nothing no answers nothing I'm sending home and I've been reading the Bible for the last year I've been I've been doing,
I think needs to be done what's going on I remember I was told by someone look look if you want God to come in your life you have to sometimes ask him and really mean it,
so now bother right I'm not in a good mood it's Saturday night it's like I flew up here I can't even Network like this is a waste of time I'm sitting here my knees hurt from getting up and down and up and down,
and eventually Saturday night comes around I'm like you know what and this is the only time I talked the entire weekend and I was verbally angry,
look I came up here I gave a weekend of this Ike if you don't show up now I'm done like I'm seeking you where are you,
and then I remember the fact that there were some stories I've read in the Bible of people who tested Ghana to the end up well so I made sure I put a little caveat on this one as look as I want you to show up and I want I want you to wake me up in the middle of the night,
and I want you to come through and give me a good sign of some sort and if you give me a good sign what I will do is I will there's a chapel in the house that we were staying at blessed by the pope himself right this is the type of place.
Sarah:
[23:25] Wow yeah yeah yeah.
Matt:
[23:27] Out of I was totally out of my element in and I go I said I'll go downstairs and I'll pray so you tell me what to do next,
so I went to the bathroom made sure there was no false alarm didn't like that wake up at like 3 o'clock in the morning wide awake no questions nothing and I see a blinking light actually over a crucifix I'm like oh my goodness it's like it's him he's here.
Sarah:
[23:46] Wow.
Matt:
[23:48] I realized it was the fire alarm I was like all right that's not a good sign right I'm trying to fight this thing that like instead of just going with it so I rolled over,
and I said you know what I said what time is I looked at my phone I had one random email that was a sales report and it was way higher than it should have been,
and I left and I was like all right that is a good sign.
Sarah:
[24:07] Okay yeah.
Matt:
[24:08] He speaking like that is what I would consider a good.
Sarah:
[24:11] Right right.
Matt:
[24:11] Crucifix lighting up that's just freaky.
Sarah:
[24:14] Ha! I love it!.
Matt:
[24:15] Hi sales report I'm all-in so I said alright let's go so I go to walk downstairs,
and at that time for some reason right before I walked in the chapel I'm just get this feeling of like you got to go get your Bible I've never had that feeling right,
Bible because I was told to buy a Bible so I can read this I've never been,
encouraged internally to go get it whatever that was that was a voice I've never heard before I was like oh that's interesting let's go get it so I went and got the Bible,
went and sat down now this is the part where it gets funny so they were I'm going to butcher all the different terms of basically the Eucharist was left open or unveiled the whole night which means someone has to watch,
so I come in and this gentleman is sitting there praying,
God right and no one else should show up for about an hour so just out of courtesy I go to tap them on the shoulder and let him know like hey I'm here just so you know,
he must've thought I was God right like he freaked out.
Sarah:
[25:09] Oh my goodness.
Matt:
[25:12] Because he was so deep and I didn't realize what I was.
Sarah:
[25:15] Right.
Matt:
[25:16] Is it going he starts showing me how to make sure the candles don't go out and I'm like no no no I'm not here for any responsibility at all I'm gonna be back here I didn't want to scare you if you turned around in turn I scared him half to death.
Sarah:
[25:24] Yeah.
Matt:
[25:27] So I sit there and I start praying I looked down and there's this book that's open and it's part of think it's called the missile which is like the monthly mass that says here's what this mass is on this debt and I opened the book and it says in order to know God turn to John chapter 4,
I like look around like who put that there,
and I have my Bible right so I turned to John chapter 4 this is like at the point I don't even know how to find John chapter 4 right I'm looking at the table of context like which is it the big for the little for.
Sarah:
[25:55] Right yeah I love it.
Matt:
[25:56] Finally get to it and I'm reading it and for those who don't know it's when Jesus is talking to the woman at the well,
and I'm reading it I'm like okay whatever whatever I get to 4:23 and it says "true worshipers know God in both truth and spirit,"
and it hit me like a sack of bricks I mean I still get the chills so anytime I see your hear that voice that verse because I understood logically I agree I believed logically,
didn't connect emotionally which is what I consider the spirit side they know I'm a truth and.
Sarah:
[26:23] Yeah yeah.
Matt:
[26:26] So I came home I was jazzed up right I talk to God I got this right logically now it really makes sense and I get the fact that I need to work on the emotional side but like I got it logically so that's all I ever need,
came home told my fiance hey this is what's going on and I blow I told her right when she gave me the ring back and said the issue is not that you don't have an emotional relationship with God she said you don't have any emotional relationships in your life,
so that was a surprise I figured I would see I met Jesus time for life to get good and turned out it was the final linchpin to pull everything from me.
Sarah:
[26:59] Wow okay.
Matt:
[27:00] So that was how I came to Christ so,
two months later right because this is where we get into the business side I'm asked by a mentor of mine to come back and speak at Eagle you now right now I've lost everything what am I doing what am I a teaches kids like how to mess up.
Sarah:
[27:17] Up
Matt:
[27:18] I got a whole 4 months of that plus the years prior,
so I went there two months later and that's when I met Maria Maria was the executive director we never crossed paths we should have we both go up and go into the program we just never cross paths she was in a relationship,
and my mentor who was her boss said hey you should tell her your story because there's some red flags that I don't think she's seeing,
so I told her my story halfway through we both got this Epiphany or this realization I realized that wow,
I'm really into this girl she realized wow I feel really bad for this guy.
Sarah:
[27:51] two totally different
Matt:
[27:57] Within a month of that she was single and within a day of that she was not.
Sarah:
[27:59] Okay well hey yeah.
Matt:
[28:02] And then we got married quickly and all that stuff so so that's kind of how our fast-tracked relationship came to people always ask how did it happen so fast is it because we neither of us were seeking each other we were both seeking God.
Sarah:
[28:13] That's amazing yeah yeah.
Matt:
[28:14] Which is why when we met it just made sense and why our relationship has always just made sense it's not this fairytale Thing by any means if anyone listens to our podcast I mean it's brutal.
Sarah:
[28:24] Right right.
Matt:
[28:25] It's hard to be married to anybody and even with us having God as a center it's still very difficult,
got to keep that at the center and one time right before never forget it she sat there and she's like Matt, man I knew marrying you was going to be hard but I didn't realize it was going to be this hard,
that's what you mean she said you're crazy,
like you're insane like I don't understand how you keep whatever you have in your head going and how do I keep up and not that's not in a capability perspective so blow me out of the water just the sense of like how do I stay your partner.
Sarah:
[28:56] Okay yeah yeah.
Matt:
[28:56] It's hard to be your partner I said what do you see I said that there's these nine questions I ask myself every single Sunday,
physically talking about when I said member I told you about that time when we write before we met I went to the kind of this I call it my heart,
beat I'm sorry and she's like yeah she's like well I kind of got these nine questions put on my heart that looking back on it I know where they came from but prior I didn't know where they were coming from,
and I said it was just a way to structure my thoughts so I can make it from Sunday to Sunday because thinking about anything further than a week was too overwhelming,
when I mean I was so lost and everything and she's like oh that's interested can can I see them so I showed her my composition books right I was like the only person over eight who is excited about back-to-school sales right because I go and take all the composition books for the kids.
Sarah:
[29:40] Yeah I love it.
Matt:
[29:43] And she's like this is like chicken scratch I can't understand that she's like let me make this look nice so she took it designed it made it look nice took those nine questions and formatted it beautifully we started using it together.
Sarah:
[29:54] Really okay.
Matt:
[29:55] And we call it we call it I don't know call it anything at that point was like our thing this is will be done.
Sarah:
[30:00] Yeah yeah.
Matt:
[30:01] Eventually a couple buddies saw it asked if I could teach to their businesses I said sure absolutely fast forward that was the beginning of the lp,
is the basis of life pulse, which is the system we teach in LifePulse,
and like I said it's definitely - that was the trigger - eventually a Fortune 500 company found a copy of the book called me and said hey your book solves our biggest personnel problem can we talk about this I said,
yes right member I told you stupid serial entrepreneur,
this whole thing it comes around in circle right I said sure they said can you come tell us how to use it we wanted it for a couple days we did it no charge right I just I enjoy talking about this stuff and I said well we would have paid you a ton of money for this,
I looked and I said you still can they said no no we're good I said it's is this a problem that like only you have a center this is the problem that everybody has and everyone's going to have,
I said do you think there's a business here they said we assume this was a business and I said oh well sure sure sure sure so I called Maria was like hey we need to start a business right now,
this is your fault cause you said I'm doing too many things,
we're going to get it going and that's literally how LifePulse started so we started with that went from there to the Air Force Twitter Google every startup that you can think of different Industries no matter what it is it because we work on the root of the,
and it's all about bringing intentionality back to life which I think is what Jesus meant. Jesus's message to us, not necessarily on what's going to happen before after during all the great stories that he told.
[31:28] But genuinely the only way to be I think a true Christian and a Christian that other people would see and go "I want what they have," which I do think is our job, as we should be a model to other people, is to have and to live a life of intentionality.
Sarah:
[31:41] Yeah so the nine questions I mean so that's what LifePulse is all based off of can you give us just some illicit like an example of like what one of the questions are how does it work or.
Matt:
[31:50] So one of the questions like for example they're not like crazy questions they're not like these questions like what are you grateful for this week,
and part of it is asking the question getting the answer but more importantly having it in a weekly structure so that you get a chance to reset every week.
Sarah:
[32:07] Okay that was the biggest thing yeah.
Matt:
[32:08] That was the biggest thing I wasn't I was the last to know about all those things happening in my life that makes sense my employees knew they were stealing my fiance knew she was leaving me I mean I was the last to find out but yet when I look back there were so many signs and if I was just paying attention,
or if I was just re tweaking what I'm doing on a weekly basis I would probably have less regrets,
now I needed to go through all that to learn this but now every single week Marie and I sit down and go through this planner,
and what that led to is different coaching options different Consulting we do different speaking we do is then let us to write the book motivate the unmotivated,
which became an international bestseller right away and it's just because this concept of motivating ourselves and others is not difficult it just takes intentionality and our system shows how to be intentional about whatever it is you're trying to do.
Sarah:
[32:52] Well and let's talk about it for a minute because people I mean intentionality is huge because I think a lot of us a lot of people listening myself included we start off with the best intentions
like we want to do this I want to go here or this is where my angle is but we don't know how to get from point A to point Z
or how to stay mode you might get a few steps but then we fizzle out so just talk to us about that what does that look like what would you suggest what.
Matt:
[33:15] Yeah so the key to getting from A to Z is if you're talking 26 letters in the alphabet is stepping from A to B,
and then figuring out what's going on then B to C and figure out what's going on we work to the client who who designs the video games a big video game company and,
I was talking with their creative team and they drop they drew this picture that was so fascinating to how we deal with life so I'll try to draw it through.
Sarah:
[33:41] Yeah yeah.
Matt:
[33:42] But basically is when people develop when a customer sees a video game that was developed we see it as there was an idea and then here's the end result like a straight line.
Sarah:
[33:51] Right right.
Matt:
[33:52] Not the developer sees it as it's like mad genius you know web how they came from A to B or A to Z and your case,
when in reality the most efficient and effective way that we had them now do it is you go from a to z by kind of going straight to the left it's like a pendulum,
so you go far left and far right than a little bit less left than a little bit less right than a.
Sarah:
[34:12] Okay yeah.
Matt:
[34:14] Kind of come in to an angle where you're trying different things and I think that's how God has his work as we need to step and then add a,
and then adapt versus run a million miles an hour.
Sarah:
[34:26] Right right.
Matt:
[34:26] Until you are burnt out and realize not only are you not where you want to be but you went the wrong direction,
so the biggest thing in the only thing that humans have over other other species to survive is the ability to add that,
but yet we don't use that when it comes to setting goals so,
we do is we break down our big goals into smaller achievable goals so if we have a result based go let's just go with losing weight because I guarantee you everyone's had that or has that,
if you're trying to lose weight we go with the number what's it say on the scale that's what we call a result base goal,
that's great however results have a lot of variables to it so for example if my goal is to lose 10 pounds,
and I go and work out like crazy and I gain some muscle I might not lose 10 pounds I might even gain two pounds.
Sarah:
[35:13] Right yeah.
Matt:
[35:15] But if I gained 12 if I lose 10 pounds of fat and gained 12 pounds of muscle is that a win I think so,
so the results May Vary right we've always heard that same with life so instead we take the result base going we break it down into different types of goals the first is an action-based goal I guess that nothing we do is complicated we're very simple in the terms we.
Sarah:
[35:32] I like it.
Matt:
[35:33] Action-based goals are goals that are based on your actions the choice to do so instead of a goal to go to the gym or to lose the weight it's go to the gym three times a week.
Sarah:
[35:42] Okay yeah right.
Matt:
[35:43] I don't care if you even work out you go to like when I go to the gym I'm usually on my headphones taking a phone call walking around the weights for 30 minutes and then I leave right that's kind of my exercise.
Sarah:
[35:49] Yeah.
Matt:
[35:52] So that's the that's the actual base gold and there's a time-based goal which is look I'm gonna go for a 30 minute walk now you might not feel good so that walk might be for 10 steps for 30 minutes but you're dedicating the time to the action needed to be done,
so we break it down to that because that's all based on choice and we if you can't take advantage of this big called free will that we were given,
then you're never going to understand or experience I think the fruits of what life can do that Free Will is different than,
big mistake getting a lot people make Free Will is the fact that we have the ability to choose to be on discipline whenever we.
Sarah:
[36:27] Yeah that's good yeah.
Matt:
[36:29] And choice is a big deal.
Sarah:
[36:31] Okay I love it so talked about for a minute motivation because he's all kind of go hand-in-hand
but sometimes like I said we might get a couple steps in or like hey I've been going to the gym three times a week but I'm not seeing results or it's different and so how do you keep motivated when maybe the results aren't quite the way
you want them to be.
Matt:
[36:49] Yes so big thing to recognize when it comes to motivation as motivation is not a character trait it's a state of mind.
Sarah:
[36:56] Okay okay.
Matt:
[36:58] And because of that I can change.
Sarah:
[36:59] Yeah that's good yeah.
Matt:
[37:01] So if you're like if you're sitting on my kids just not motivated I go first you got to stop,
you're causing an issue if you're categorizing categorizing them as motivated or unmotivated there's not a motivated right now are you surprised that your kids not motivated to go to history class are you surprised your kids not motivated to take the trash out like that doesn't make someone but that's a choice they don't like it.
Sarah:
[37:20] Right right.
Matt:
[37:22] So in order to keep yourself motivated there's a couple things that we do right when we come in and we work with companies we do a program called motivate your management where we will work with the upper level management or a manager on how they can,
motivate their tea but not in a way that other management programs are most manager programs are fear the managers are ya here's how you get your team to do,
that's not what we teach we teach here's how you get your team to want to do the.
Sarah:
[37:46] Yeah that's huge.
Matt:
[37:48] And the way we do is we tie it all to what we call pvt that's personal value tied to task.
Sarah:
[37:50] Okay okay.
Matt:
[37:53] So everything you do if there's personal value behind it it's no longer Monday.
Sarah:
[37:58] Right right.
Matt:
[37:58] Matter what it is so let's talk about a little task that I like to call reading the.
Sarah:
[38:03] That's good yeah right.
Matt:
[38:04] I think most Christians could do more of or any of would be nice right and I say that half jokingly because it's such a simple thing to do but yet we all tend to.
Sarah:
[38:12] A lot of us can yes yes.
Matt:
[38:13] I'll get to it later it's like wait wait like Jesus was sitting in the room right now would you get to him later.
Sarah:
[38:17] Right that's good.
Matt:
[38:18] He's here like whether you see him or not so a test like that would you put personal value behind it it's I want to do it I don't have to do it's not a chore.
Sarah:
[38:28] Right right yeah.
Matt:
[38:29] That makes sense so how do we figure out this PV TT there's different assessments that we do everything from finding out what's motivating individuals to What's blocking them but the biggest thing for yourself is creating habits and routines,
if you're if you have an issue after a while if you create a habit of going to the gym and you don't go to the gym you will feel differently.
Sarah:
[38:51] Right right.
Matt:
[38:52] So that's why I said let's work on your actions because actions lead to,
bleeps not desires not hopes not dreams they don't lead to they don't lead to the results the actions will lead to that.
Sarah:
[39:02] Yeah that's good.
Matt:
[39:04] So that's what I would suggest is focus on the actions you're taking right if you are trying to lose weight and you've had I don't know McDonald's breakfast in the morning followed by a you know 14 Chick-fil-A nuggets at for lunch.
Sarah:
[39:14] Right right you're not yeah.
Matt:
[39:17] Action just don't worry about what you've done take that next action have a salad for dinner like and that's what we realized we get thrown off track because we weren't perfect,
and therefore we throw the whole goal out and instead what we teach don't know you're going to not be perfect so let's find an easy way to get back on track,
that's how we focus on each individual task.
Sarah:
[39:35] That's huge so just a couple other questions here Matt so what I mean we've been in Corona time okay like pandemic I feel like everybody's productivity and motivation really got hit especially early on
so what would you say to people now that are like okay 2020 I started this year with all these goals these intentions all these things started off strong and then Corona hit and it was a wash and now we're at the end of the year I want to finish strong
and hopefully that would be our desire that we want to do there's still time 2020 I mean every day is a gift right we have the choice of what we're going to do with it what would you say to somebody going like what do I do where do I just kind of restart how do I get back motivated what would be a,
First Step that you would recommend.
Matt:
[40:16] Oh my goodness there's so many things I want to talk about so let's real quick talk about what happened to us with Corona.
Sarah:
[40:21] Yeah please do.
Matt:
[40:22] Um
what Corona did to us outside the fact that it's just a nasty virus right like that stuff I'm not smart enough to talk about that but what Corona did to us was it did not take away our ability or our discipline it took away our structure and our rhythms.
Sarah:
[40:38] Yes as huge yeah.
Matt:
[40:40] So what happens is is if you don't have structure structure leads to freedom and Rhythm leads to peace.
Sarah:
[40:47] Okay that's good Matt.
Matt:
[40:48] You can look that up biblically you can look that up and you can just experienced that in your.
Sarah:
[40:52] Can you just say that one more time that's really.
Matt:
[40:53] I gotta remember what it is,
structure brings I'm sorry structure brings freedom and Rhythm brings peace.
Sarah:
[40:59] Yes yep.
Matt:
[41:01] And the reason why I say that is because that's what we do with this LP write this stupid pen and paper planner that's built this business that goes all over the world teaching it is,
gives you structure and it gives you a rhythm to function are whole world,
based whether you believe in creationism or not, on rhythms and systems and cycles.
Sarah:
[41:18] Right yes yes.
Matt:
[41:22] It's consistent so one of those Cycles is this thing that we call a year,
drives me nuts that people wait I always love them people like oh what do you do you do planning I can't wait to bring in in January I'm like we charged seven times as much in January why because people think you have to plan in January.
Sarah:
[41:38] Right right.
Matt:
[41:39] Well you have to start oh well sorry it's already February I can't do anything for this year we start whenever you want if right now you feel you're able to start your goal again this is day one,
and start from day one at don't think you need to be perfect anytime you need to get back on the wagon start back over it's like looking at a little kid who can't walk it's just learning how to walk and they fall down like no get back on your feet let them crawl for a bit.
Sarah:
[42:00] Right right.
Matt:
[42:01] And then let them get back on their feet I mean we put so much pressure on us to be perfect.
Sarah:
[42:05] Yeah that's a great reminder.
Matt:
[42:07] In the year up is because right now I told you I have this new book that's coming out it's called the intentional week.
Sarah:
[42:10] Yeah okay.
Matt:
[42:12] And it's not out yet it's just been on my heart to do and it's all about living the six days between Sunday's right I talked about how the weakest I think the most valuable measurement of time to live your life but and the line that I always use,
is that you can't you're not going to change your life in a week but if you change the weeks and your will change your life.
Sarah:
[42:28] That's good.
Matt:
[42:29] That's what we focus on and I'm doing research right now figuring out what's the point of the week so here's what I found and this is a chapter that's in the book,
year,
there's value in primitive people knowing what a year is right when the leaves come back it's cycling again it's happening again in Egypt a lot of the people who had power words were able to predict when the Nile was going to flood,
turns out that's not as difficult when you have thousands of years knowledge but we don't have thousands of years to be able to say oh by the way to Waters Comin you get power over the people,
the years have value days have value right days of the space between the nights so days and years and even months because months they were able to tell by the way the moon was sitting in the sky then it would cycle back around,
a week is an artificial set of time that has no survival benefit whatsoever besides what our society has told us.
Sarah:
[43:20] Okay that's interesting so why was it created yeah.
Matt:
[43:21] So why was it creative right so it was created what I'm finding right now there's only one of two sources number one is probably it started due to the,
that was kind of the start or end of the week on a Saturday or a Sunday, right, started on Saturday now Saturday didn't exist,
when this concept was there so how do they handle it was they named all the days seven in the base on the planet they knew about at the time,
so what happens is the week has no true survivalist pattern for a hunter and gatherer but in the world we live in right now,
the reason that we became so universally used is because of Commerce was it was the next cycle of the.
Sarah:
[44:03] Okay okay.
Matt:
[44:03] So it would cycle through on a weekly basis so therefore our lives are based weekly due to the way the humans and Society has made them.
Sarah:
[44:13] Okay that's interesting.
Matt:
[44:14] So it's just a fascinating kind of cycle that these cycles that we think that we have to live within,
had nothing to do with what we do on a daily basis a year does not do much for us right now we live in homes that when it's hot out,
we just turn on the air-conditioning and when it's cold out we just turn it down and when we need food we go to the grocery store,
so yet we're still trapped by these kind of primitive models although we don't need them anymore so basically if you're seeing are going I just need to get start again how do I do it how do I do it how do I do it unfortunately answer is you just get started.
Sarah:
[44:46] Yeah okay okay.
Matt:
[44:47] And if you have a goal to go a hundred days healthy and you get 50 and you stop great so you missed one go back to 51 the next day,
and we aim for Perfection of will never get it.
Sarah:
[45:00] Yeah I think that's such key Matt because we do it's like if we if we start something and we mess up I'm on day two I ate a chocolate bar and I said I wasn't going to eat y'all were like,
oh man now I have to quit the holy I got to start over.
Matt:
[45:12] Give me the Oreos.
Sarah:
[45:13] And I think that's why you're so Kyon like the action and you're changing the intention like you said of like if we can get that in the right place and we can continue to move forward and then just faith and relate and
our whole world but with Jesus were able to do more of what he's created us to do when we can change these Pathways in our intentions behind.
Matt:
[45:31] Hundred percent and it goes to the why did religion exist in the beginning was to help people get into a rhythm of getting closer to God,
it's gotten perverted over the years no question about it and where the religion in my opinion is not as importance of relationship in any way shape.
Sarah:
[45:44] Yeah absolutely.
Matt:
[45:46] The question is not how religious are you but how's your relationship and it's probably very similar the other relationships in your life,
if not overly mystery,
and I don't mean mystery in the sense that you're being mean to Jesus you're being mean to God but it's the fact that you're not giving the time it deserves.
Sarah:
[46:03] Yeah that's that's huge.
Matt:
[46:05] I always talk about a simple prescription for that is 20 minutes a day in the world,
that's it that's all you need you don't need much more now there's times where I'll go 20 minutes and then I'll go an hour and there's times where I'm looking at my clock every minute for 20 minutes because I just cannot connect because my head's not there I'm not there that I'm reading numbers again and I'm just going through whose son is who.
Sarah:
[46:25] Yeah I get a little lost in there.
Matt:
[46:27] But in reality it's sitting there praying to God and making sure he's going to he's going to help you see what he's trying to.
Sarah:
[46:32] Yes absolutely and if you don't spend the time and you don't just get disciplined to do it then you won't you're.
Matt:
[46:37] You don't have to be good at it I think people like think they need to like like they're stuck in this concept of like well I just don't get where to start try page one.
Sarah:
[46:45] Yeah.
Matt:
[46:46] Yeah and if you don't know where to start in the Bible what I was told which absolutely was helpful was go to the gospels go through those.
Sarah:
[46:52] Yes yep.
Matt:
[46:53] And little did a podcast couple weeks ago and they asked what am I what am I favorite book,
this is not a Christian podcast but you know I don't edit myself much no matter where I am and I said honestly I said the first book is the Bible and I said but not for why you probably get that answer if you ever get that answer I said but if you're not a believer,
whether you are or not I don't care and you don't read the gospels to understand how to take care of people and you don't read,
that's a how to create a movement in your business or have a following then you are missing out on some key information on how to be successful in life forget what you believe,
content is so rich so good those books alone will change the way you live your life the rest are great the rest have a lot of content a lot of lessons to be learned but it's also a lot of back story to explain to me how we should be living today,
there's a lot of value in it.
Sarah:
[47:48] Yeah Matt if somebody's interested in the planner can anybody purchases or have to be through a company or how tell us a little bit about.
Matt:
[47:54] You go to our website lifepulseInc.com/mylp that's how you get the planner you get the book lifepulseInc.com/MtheU which is motivate the unmotivated,
you can get the book there or you can just reach out to us info@LifepulseInc.com if you ever have any questions or you think this is something that's decent for you yourself your family your company,
we work with everybody no matter how big or small I don't care I mean ya we've worked with big companies like a Google but I love working with people I can actually make more of an impact on,
and have fun with that.
Sarah:
[48:26] I love it I want to talk about for a minute you and Maria and we're going to have Maria on actually in a few weeks or so I'm really excited,
yeah I don't think that will I get the same just be different which will be good I've seen her put I mean both of you kind of post about these life dates is that what you call them,
can you just real quick so I think that's huge for anybody listening who is married or in a relationship what is that what do you do.
Matt:
[48:50] It is what saves our marriage every 30 days right.
Sarah:
[48:52] Love it.
Matt:
[48:54] Who are buried you understand it's like you wonder how you can get to the next day sometimes right like I love this person but like I don't like you.
Sarah:
[49:01] Right right.
Matt:
[49:02] And that is very common and and as I think there's more times that we actually don't like each other than we actually like each other but we always love each other but we actually we're if you were to put like a rating every day,
it's hard to live with people they throw kids in the Mexico business in the makes you throw money and that makes.
Sarah:
[49:17] Yeah it's tough.
Matt:
[49:18] It's crazy so anyway so I read a Blog one time about somebody who he wrote this blog and I don't remember their name and driving me nuts and I can't find it so if anyone hears this and knows where it is please email us and tell us,
but it was he was writing a Blog for entrepreneurs wives,
to tell them what's going on in your and your guy's head right now obviously it was a husband to a wife so please don't if you're listening to this you're bothered I said that you'll be okay.
Sarah:
[49:47] Yeah.
Matt:
[49:48] But recognize the fact that this guy was talking about what it's like to be married to an entrepreneur and one of the blogs was he and his wife went on this thing that was called a life,
and I said why so that's interesting and there's certain rules too,
so we took those rules and we've kind of Incorporated our own little piece of it as well and you can find a copy of it on our website also if you wanted to see the outline of it in our personal resources Tab and you go in to a dinner every 30 days,
it's a celebration you're celebrating life,
so here's what happens we get each other a gift we get each other a card I usually will get her a candle I used to get her flowers he doesn't like flowers but I get her subtittle extra just because that's what I felt we should do we get a babysitter,
there is no time limit there is no dollar limit there is no diet.
Sarah:
[50:36] Okay yeah yeah.
Matt:
[50:36] We go for a great dinner every 30 days,
and we get there we talk we don't ask for anything normally when you sit there I got where's the menu can I get a drink I get the bill,
you let the waiter dictate the speed and normally they will drag it out just cause they don't know what to do right.
Sarah:
[50:52] Right.
Matt:
[50:54] Be sure to the restaurant with gifts in hand always break that don't open them at home bring them to the restaurant with you it makes the whole thing a lot easier because I'm explain what we're going to talk about and Gifts make you happier as we get real.
Sarah:
[51:04] I love it.
Matt:
[51:07] So we give each other the gift and that tends to ease whatever previous argument was happening in the car on the way there it's like right when you go to church or in your rip each other's heads apart before you.
Sarah:
[51:15] I love the world is if so is this true.
Matt:
[51:16] And and then we get there and we open up the each other's gifts and when you open up a gift there's just so I don't care whether you like it or not there's just,
put you at ease like I don't care it's a bad give now these gifts have range from here's a card because life's crazy all the way to hey here's a new car like it could be there's no.
Sarah:
[51:31] Wow well are you listening to this okay.
Matt:
[51:35] There's no price issue on it when you get married it gets funny because you're sharing the money that you're spending anyway.
Sarah:
[51:40] Right right.
Matt:
[51:41] It just it gives that extra thought of what it is that you want to look there's a lot of times that I bombed the gift it's not about the actual.
Sarah:
[51:49] Yeah okay.
Matt:
[51:50] It's about the giving is about getting it,
so anyways you give each other to get and then you go into the conversation the conversation works like this once you walk into the restaurant I get Maria's phone Maria gets my phone there are no phones allowed.
Sarah:
[52:01] Okay yeah that's good.
Matt:
[52:04] Anything that is not set at this life dinner is not allowed to be brought up again meaning there's an issue we talked about.
Sarah:
[52:08] Okay issue we talk yeah.
Matt:
[52:11] You're also not allowed to solve any problems,
which is huge right so all these rules are necessary because if forces the conversation in a safer place than at the kitchen table or while someone's doing dishes or while someone's cleaning up a poopy diaper.
Sarah:
[52:25] Right right.
Matt:
[52:26] The most inopportune times will be tend to deal with the conflict it gives a place where we can all right you know what we're going to talk about that next week,
and we get to talk about it in a time where I can she'll say something to me guys we tend to be the ones are let me explain myself let me fix it doesn't happen just bothers me the way you load the dishes,
from to that to we've had times where like the they've had to come to our table to make sure we were okay,
because it got it got heated we were talking about adoption and Maria felt called and I've said we're not called just yet and she was bothered by that I was bothered that she was bothered and it got heated.
Sarah:
[52:59] Yeah yeah.
Matt:
[53:01] That's not a small topic to talk about and when do you find time in your busy life to have a serious conversation about that if you're not both on the same page and that what tends to happen is somebody just gets steamrolled,
and I got a kid at your house.
Sarah:
[53:12] Right
Matt:
[53:13] Help people like well how could you pop it I've seen couples fall into traps worse than that and even things like a think we should move I don't think we should be paying I found it out okay fine whatever is not worth the argument.
Sarah:
[53:23] Right yeah.
Matt:
[53:24] That's not a healthy relationship and I learned that from my last relationship because she randomly left and I don't want Maria to randomly leave,
so anyway so we have the rule you can't solve it which makes it safe we have the conversation we have dessert we have drinks we hang out it's lovely it's fun and here's what happens if you're having a rough time in your relationship,
the first few of these are going to be very difficult that doesn't mean don't do that.
Sarah:
[53:49] Yeah yeah.
Matt:
[53:49] Doom it worth it because after about two or three there's not that much to complain about.
Sarah:
[53:56] Okay yeah.
Matt:
[53:56] That makes sense like a lot of people are like what's wrong with your mad everything's wrong this okay cool give me a list there's usually like two or three things that they were change.
Sarah:
[54:04] Right be okay yeah.
Matt:
[54:04] We'd be okay and it's like dumb things like pick your socks up like like it's not major things it's just things that I don't know is really bothering her.
Sarah:
[54:13] Yeah yeah.
Matt:
[54:14] It bothers you but like budget enough to like not be able to sleep at night yeah like I haven't slept because every time this happens you do x y and z,
stupidest things in the world we've been able to solve very quickly and we've had we've had couples come to us it's saved their marriage,
people were thinking about getting the people in them in the process of filing for divorce and did this and stop,
and I'm not saying because again I told you I found this somewhere else right we tweaked it a little bit.
Sarah:
[54:37] Yeah yeah.
Matt:
[54:40] But what I really want you to recognize that just gives a safe place to go to and I know there's times where,
and yeah you know Natalie story of a daughter who has medical issues so there's times or were in the hospital for 30 days right so how do you find time for it and we've done it in hospital cafeterias.
Sarah:
[54:54] Okay okay.
Matt:
[54:55] We've done it at home during covid right we do it once a month and what happens is if we miss it we feel.
Sarah:
[55:03] Okay that makes sense.
Matt:
[55:04] So it goes back to what we were talking about with achieving goals is consistency is key because when you don't do it it's like wait something's off,
we did during like the oh that's why everything you do makes me want to.
Sarah:
[55:15] Yeah yes.
Matt:
[55:17] It's not because we're doing anything different that we haven't had a chance to express ourselves and this is what build up feels like but people like I said back with my stress levels when your body humans adapt,
body will adapt to whatever pressure you put it in so if you're used to holding things in you get better at holding things in but you don't get better at handling,
so it makes things and danger so that that's what a life data is and it's saved our marriage and we had we have friends do it with friends it doesn't have to be your significant.
Sarah:
[55:45] Yeah yeah just somebody important.
Matt:
[55:48] It just gives a safe place to have a conversation that needs to happen.
Sarah:
[55:50] Yeah I think that's great do you have like a set like it's always the 23rd of the month, or?
Matt:
[55:55] The first Tuesday of the month so we got one.
Sarah:
[55:56] Okay okay and that's probably help just put it down you know it's there block it off.
Matt:
[56:00] That look you can move it but you don't skip it there's a big difference you move it okay we're gonna do it on Wednesday said is that good yeah fine we'll do it on.
Sarah:
[56:08] Okay okay I love it and you said you have that on the.
Matt:
[56:11] If you go onto our website under the personal resources tab you can access all the.
Sarah:
[56:14] Okay that's amazing Matt is there anything you else you want to talk about that we didn't get to talk about anything else you want to share with us about.
Matt:
[56:21] No I just I love what you're doing I love how I love this podcast I think it's awesome that you're pushing through with this one thing I do always offer whenever we have a good conversation if you don't have good conversation on an offer.
Sarah:
[56:31] Yeah okay good so this is a good car.
Matt:
[56:34] Exactly so if you ever hear me on other pockets and I don't put this out there.
Sarah:
[56:38] You know what happened.
Matt:
[56:39] But basically any listener I feel like people listen to podcast it's like I just want to do something and I'm a big believer of learning with implementation in mind.
Sarah:
[56:48] Right it's good.
Matt:
[56:50] When I learned something that's why I was never good at school because I couldn't learn math and no I couldn't connect how to implement they don't teach us how to learn they teach that to memorize and that doesn't work very well,
so now what I learned is how does that impact me how can I actually use this information,
so what we'll do is we'll put together this thing that will call a podgift so if you get a lifepulseInc.com/podgift,
we will put a special offer out there will compile a bunch of our stuff at a fraction of the price of what we normally do it as and it's strictly because I want people who are listening to go hey I gotta take action,
look if you like what we're talking about I don't even care if you selling these mugs you just tell you I love these mugs.
Sarah:
[57:30] We're not selling them yet but we.
Matt:
[57:32] You should sell the mugs,
just just taking something something from this and taking action.
Sarah:
[57:37] Yeah yeah.
Matt:
[57:38] Think about it that's what this gift will be is it will have structure there will be some free steps to it so if you don't want to get the the upper and stuff we can definitely give you some information to start working on,
but I just I love when people hear something and take action because I think that's the missing piece you know knowledge right now,
knowledge is worthless I joke about it. I don't know if you watch Sesame with your kids but Natalie was like on a big Sesame kick,
at Sesame back in the day was the puppets would ask adults for advice doesn't happen anymore now the adults are actually like goons like they're goofy.
Sarah:
[58:11] I haven't watched it recently.
Matt:
[58:12] Stupid adults like they're so goofy it's they don't actually do what they used to do where they were than they were the.
Sarah:
[58:17] Wow yeah.
Matt:
[58:19] Well now Elmo and Elmo's World he says what do we do when we need to look at our we don't know something and then smarty comes.
Sarah:
[58:26] Okay yeah yep.
Matt:
[58:26] His smartphone, Elmo's smartphone, who's three, I don't know if you guys knew that.
Sarah:
[58:31] Okay there - see, so much information.
Matt:
[58:32] You got to learn something anyway and he says what do we do when we don't know something it says we look it up,
and I make the joke of the math teacher who used to sit there and go "you're not always gonna have a calculator in your pocket." Will, we we do now."
Sarah:
[58:42] Yeah right right.
Matt:
[58:44] So knowledge is at our fingertips wisdom is what we want though so wisdom is using the correct knowledge that the correct time in the correct way and we don't know how to do that anymore,
because we don't take action so if you're learning all the stuff in the world at doing nothing with it it's a waste of time to learn,
can Google it just as fast as you can remember.
Sarah:
[59:05] Right right.
Matt:
[59:07] How are we implementing whatever it is you're learning.
Sarah:
[59:09] I love it well thank you very much for offering everybody something special I hope that you guys will go take advantage of that and just
like I said you I told you Matt for started we've had a saying that is just do something around here just take whatever the next step is whatever God is calling you to move the needle forward just a little bit and sometimes we don't know like those little small steps might seem like hey it was just this today or I just chose the salad they are just showed up to the gym but over time the results are huge,
so that's great okay Matt people want to follow you personally can they find you on social media?
Matt:
[59:40] Find me on social media be warned I don't know how to spell very well so be okay with whatever spelling error comes with every post,
if you find us on our business side the handles at LifePulse Inc on all platforms you can find me directly on Facebook and Instagram I don't even know what my handles are for myself.
Sarah:
[1:00:01] Okay we'll fight we'll find them in Lincoln.
Matt:
[1:00:02] I think Instagram it's @Matt87Granados,
full name and then I think it's the same I think I might have gone through and done it the same for all but @LifePulseInc is where you'll get the good content if you want pictures my daughter and my son find the personal ones but if you want the content if you want the implementation of what we do find us on all social media platforms.
Sarah:
[1:00:21] Awesome and real quick you and Maria do have a podcast you alluded to it but tell people where they can find that because it you guys listening need to go if you're in a relationship you need to go check it is so real and it's so good and I love it.
Matt:
[1:00:31] So it's called REALationship you can find it on iTunes or any other platform Spotify all that stuff and it the whole basis of it was Maria want to do a podcast I said okay I said what you want to do it on just I don't know,
I said we'll look let's just so we kind of came to this together and this what we do with ideas she throws it up it's like a volley back and forth so the concept of it is we deal with whatever issue we're currently dealing with live and we're not allowed to edit it so what you getting.
Sarah:
[1:00:55] I love.
Matt:
[1:00:57] You think you need this last episode we just did you got to hear what it sounds like when our dog barks unexpectedly and we get to get nice and angry at it and the microphones keep going and we don't edit it and it makes it makes it real makes it very raw and that's what we go for is look,
these relationships it's not about the shiny good picture you took on Facebook,
it's about what happened between the walls when no one else is looking and it's really hard and the world is making it harder and harder and harder and the one thing that we do is these LPS this system that we teach,
she does hers I do mind if we come together every single Sunday and that's how we stay on track with everything from her business right she's got her own Boutique she,
I have couple businesses we have cult businesses together we have nonprofits we work on,
daughter was a major medical issues that keeps us very busy with doctors and therapy we have a son that we have to remember that we have sometimes right we joke we love,
but we sit there and we people go how do you guys do it all I go first off if you were to live with us for a week you'd feel very uncomfortable because it's it's very hard.
Sarah:
[1:02:02] Yeah right.
Matt:
[1:02:02] It's not all fun and roses as a second off we know what we're doing every single Sunday and when life throws us off,
we have a good track to get back.
Sarah:
[1:02:12] Yeah that's huge.
Matt:
[1:02:14] And that's the key to the I think the the podcast that we show people and the reason I think couples love listening to us because they get to hear both sides men and women-- verse and I feel like there's a lot of I told you so,
but on both sides which reveals the fact that we're all wrong.
Sarah:
[1:02:28] Yeah that's good we're all wrong I love it that's good okay Matt so to end we always ask everybody's on the show the show is called now that something good
so do you have anything it can be anything like something good one last good thing to share with those listening anything comes to mind.
Matt:
[1:02:44] Yes so the one thing that just I don't know why it pops into my head but,
in "times of scarcity the ability to be generous" just pops into my head in a sense that in a time like this it's the end of the you know let the last quarter of 2020, thank God, we all want this year to be done,
we all might be struggling in one way shape or form in the one thing that Maria and I made very big point during all this is no matter what happens we're not going to lose our generosity,
and we're not going to get in a scarcity mindset right now. A lot of people are scared they're living out of fear God doesn't talk to us in those terms. We use this acronym in one of the one of the things I teach everybody not just religious people called FOG,
clear the fog and it came from a Biblical principle principles actually that God doesn't speak to us in these terms and fogs you know when you see fog it's hard to see,
it's Fear Obligation and Guilt and if you're if you're being pushed to do something because of any of those three I promise you that's not Him talking to you.
Sarah:
[1:03:46] hmm - yeah absolutely.
Matt:
[1:03:47] So when it comes to scarcity when it comes to what we're going to do with this virus that says this does not mean don't take it seriously it means don't act out of fear obligation or guilt but instead take a step back think about it have,
and move forward with it so don't let your generosity get hit by fear it does not end well.
Sarah:
[1:04:06] That's definitely something good Matt thank you awesome thank you so much for being with us today Matt appreciate it.