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I have"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":995.95,"endTime":999.13,"body":"those goals in my mind. Now"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":995.95,"endTime":999.13,"body":"let's say I don't work for them."},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":999.64,"endTime":1002.58,"body":"I'm going to feel discomfort"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":999.64,"endTime":1002.58,"body":"because I'm going to regret that"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1002.7,"endTime":1006.69,"body":"in the future. Down the road,"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1002.7,"endTime":1006.69,"body":"when I realize crap, \"Maybe I"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1006.69,"endTime":1010.17,"body":"should have started working on"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1006.69,"endTime":1010.17,"body":"my goals,\" That's going to be"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1010.2,"endTime":1013.38,"body":"way more uncomfortable. 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I can always"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1233.61,"endTime":1236.52,"body":"grow, I can be whatever I want"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1233.61,"endTime":1236.52,"body":"to be. When you ask better"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1236.52,"endTime":1238.8,"body":"questions, you're going to"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1236.52,"endTime":1238.8,"body":"develop better long term"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1238.8,"endTime":1242.31,"body":"beliefs. If I aske myself bad"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1238.8,"endTime":1242.31,"body":"questions, \"Why do I suck\" I'm"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1242.31,"endTime":1246.18,"body":"going to think I suck as a"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1242.31,"endTime":1246.18,"body":"person, which is just completely"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1246.18,"endTime":1249.57,"body":"faulty. Just because I struck"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1246.18,"endTime":1249.57,"body":"out one time, I might lead to a"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1249.57,"endTime":1253.11,"body":"horrible generalization, I might"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1249.57,"endTime":1253.11,"body":"start to develop a fixed"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1253.11,"endTime":1255.66,"body":"mindset. If I ask myself better"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1253.11,"endTime":1255.66,"body":"questions, how can I improve"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1255.66,"endTime":1258.57,"body":"myself so my team wins next"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1255.66,"endTime":1258.57,"body":"time, that's going to lead to"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1258.57,"endTime":1261.93,"body":"better generalization that's"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1258.57,"endTime":1261.93,"body":"going to lead to you developing"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1262.02,"endTime":1265.71,"body":"a growth mindset, realizing you"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1262.02,"endTime":1265.71,"body":"can change in the long term,"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1265.77,"endTime":1269.1,"body":"improve in the long term."},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1265.77,"endTime":1269.1,"body":"Lastly, the final way to build a"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1269.1,"endTime":1273.54,"body":"resilient mindset is to realize"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1269.1,"endTime":1273.54,"body":"that this will take time. So you"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1273.54,"endTime":1277.23,"body":"have to start by taking small"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1273.54,"endTime":1277.23,"body":"steps, and constantly improving"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1277.41,"endTime":1281.28,"body":"each and every day. Like"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1277.41,"endTime":1281.28,"body":"anything, good things take time."},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1281.28,"endTime":1283.83,"body":"Just start by taking the"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1281.28,"endTime":1283.83,"body":"smallest steps, start by"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1283.83,"endTime":1287.97,"body":"constantly improving yourself"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1283.83,"endTime":1287.97,"body":"each and every day. Doesn't have"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1287.97,"endTime":1291.0,"body":"to be some huge step, but over"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1287.97,"endTime":1291.0,"body":"time, those little steps are"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1291.0,"endTime":1294.51,"body":"going to add up to huge gains."},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1291.0,"endTime":1294.51,"body":"And the best thing is once you"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1294.51,"endTime":1298.08,"body":"finally act, once you try to"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1294.51,"endTime":1298.08,"body":"start moving forward, you're"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1298.08,"endTime":1302.37,"body":"going to feel inspired. And when"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1298.08,"endTime":1302.37,"body":"you feel inspired, you're going"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1302.37,"endTime":1305.43,"body":"to feel motivated. And guess"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1302.37,"endTime":1305.43,"body":"what happens when you feel"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1305.43,"endTime":1308.82,"body":"motivated, you act. So once you"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1305.43,"endTime":1308.82,"body":"finally act, you're going to"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1308.82,"endTime":1312.03,"body":"create this process where you"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1308.82,"endTime":1312.03,"body":"keep moving forward and you keep"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1312.03,"endTime":1314.85,"body":"feeling great. Once again, four"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1312.03,"endTime":1314.85,"body":"ways to develop a resilient"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1314.85,"endTime":1318.69,"body":"mindset are to meditate"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1314.85,"endTime":1318.69,"body":"beforehand, change the way you"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1318.69,"endTime":1322.2,"body":"see discomfort, dissociate"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1318.69,"endTime":1322.2,"body":"events from how you feel, and"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1322.2,"endTime":1324.84,"body":"take small steps. Working"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1322.2,"endTime":1324.84,"body":"through these steps has changed"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1324.84,"endTime":1328.23,"body":"the way I see things and has"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1324.84,"endTime":1328.23,"body":"just made me feel better. Like I"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1328.23,"endTime":1331.59,"body":"said earlier, you are in"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1328.23,"endTime":1331.59,"body":"complete control of how you"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1331.59,"endTime":1335.04,"body":"feel. It's such an empowering"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1331.59,"endTime":1335.04,"body":"belief when you finally accept"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1335.04,"endTime":1337.47,"body":"that, because when you accept"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1335.04,"endTime":1337.47,"body":"that you can start moving"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1337.47,"endTime":1340.86,"body":"forward. Thank you for listening"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1337.47,"endTime":1340.86,"body":"to today's episode of Ion"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1340.86,"endTime":1343.41,"body":"Motive. I hope you enjoyed it"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1340.86,"endTime":1343.41,"body":"and I hope you found it helpful."},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1343.68,"endTime":1347.25,"body":"If you take away one thing from"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1343.68,"endTime":1347.25,"body":"this episode, please remember,"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1347.25,"endTime":1351.24,"body":"your mindset is your superpower."},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1347.25,"endTime":1351.24,"body":"No matter what happens to you,"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1351.27,"endTime":1354.93,"body":"you are in complete control of"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1351.27,"endTime":1354.93,"body":"your life, your beliefs, and"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1354.93,"endTime":1358.2,"body":"your happiness. I look forward"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1354.93,"endTime":1358.2,"body":"to presenting you with another"},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1358.2,"endTime":1362.16,"body":"Ion Motive episode next week."},{"speaker":"Ian Kenrick","startTime":1358.2,"endTime":1362.16,"body":"Until then, remember the Ion"},{"speaker":"Motive","startTime":1362.16,"endTime":1363.96,"body":"live a charged life!"}]}