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5 Behaviors that can Damage your D/s-M Relationship

• Mr Fox • Season 2 • Episode 9

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Relationships are challenging. How to have a close and meaningful relationship with your partner is not something that most or probably any of us were ever taught in school, and some of us have few, if any, good role models to emulate. 


It has been said that how we behave in our intimate relationships today is often a reflection of our parents and how they behaved towards one another in their relationship.  This statement will vary from individual to individual but for myself, in some instances at least, it is alarmingly accurate.  Through the years I have demonstrated many of the same marital blunders as my father.  


My father is not to blame, however, and neither is his father or his father’s father.  And if you are in a similar situation your father isn't at fault either.  Remember, most of us have never been specifically taught how to have a successful and fulfilling marriage including your father.  


Powerful relationships don't just happen by chance.  And the couples living them don't take them for granted.  They are fully present, all of the time, and they have learned the skills that are required to succeed in a relationship.  When you see a married couple that has a healthy meaningful relationship, the odds are if their happiness is authentic, that they will have many other powerful relationships in their lives as well.  It is almost as if they have cracked the code on relationship skills.


If you are listening to this podcast you are most likely here learning or honing those very skills, never taught to us anywhere else.  Those skills are required to have a successful, meaningful, and purposeful relationship.


Understanding the most common behaviors that damage relationships can be a good first step to having a powerful lasting marriage.


See how many of these behaviors seem familiar, either in yourself or your partner.  Which ones of these do you excel at and which ones should you focus more attention on?

Leading with integrated masculine energy!

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Welcome everybody. This is Mr. Fox and you are listening episode, I'm going to talk about 5 Behaviors that Can Sabotage Sure, there are probably many more behaviors than just five, relationship. But for today, I have narrowed it down to just going to discuss during this episode are quite common. It be able to directly relate to some of the discussion today and you may recognize some of the points and other relationships dynamic among friends, peers, colleagues, you name it. Join me relationships. Relationships are challenging, right? How to have a close and that most of us, or probably any of us were ever taught in it's been said that how we behave in our intimate how they behave towards one another, and their relationship. for myself, in some instances, at least, it's alarmingly marital blunders as my father. My father is not to blame, you're in a similar situation, your father is not at fault taught how to have a successful and fulfilling marriage, by chance. And the couples living them don't take them for time, and they have learned the skills that are required to has a healthy, meaningful relationship, the odds are if powerful relationships in their lives as well, is almost as if listening to this podcast, you're most likely here learning Those skills that are required to have a successful, meaningful behaviors that damage or sabotage a relationship can be a how many of these behaviors seem familiar either in yourself or ones should you focus more attention on? Let's get started. five behaviors that I came up with, they're not in any type of to start with proper communication, right? Proper putting them in order, this might be number one. Poor can include everything from not mentioning those little things meaningful way on a regular basis. One might tell themselves I'm better off just not saying anything. Have you ever thought I've heard that a lot. I've heard guys say that to me, and say something like, I don't need to say those things out loud. My you believe that? Do you know how your partner always feels, The quality of our communication is what ultimately is going to Hassan, we're always talking about downtime. Downtime is the just about every single level. We call it downtime. It can be conversations. It is also used as a regularly scheduled event, everything in between. If you don't know about downtime, you married dominance and submission relationship on has dom.com. fighting via text, right? Like this should go without saying that said, a lot of us get trapped in this rabbit hole. As everything and day to day life. Some have adopted using their partners. It's almost like wait a minute, I have an app for apart, they could be apart while working, having different distance can be as small as the kitchen to the bedroom. No practice. For many reasons, we are all a little bolder than we courage to toss out an inflammatory comment, when we're person. We aren't physically present to take ownership of the even lie to the other person and maybe even to ourselves and say wrong. Whether you really didn't mean it that way. Or that was ownership for those words that we choose, and when and how This is the ability to understand to interpret and to taken the leadership role. It is also easy to misinterpret what them. What's that old adage, communication is only 7% verbal language, vocal variety, tone of their voice inflection of their manifested has been under a lot of scrutiny for many years. And think we can all agree that the written word is one of the worst to say, and that most of you would probably agree with me In a relationship. It may be an amazing way to communicate in in relationships, we're two people to emotional human beings or in some instances the proper position of downtime, and having how difficult that conversation may be. In fact, the more that conversation needs to take place in person. The next communication hack would be never expect the other that the crystal ball syndrome. This is a common challenge in you, or how long the two of you have been together, or how many read your mind. When you create expectations or layout subtle out, you're setting both you and your partner up for failure. No almost zero chance of meeting your unset expectations. Think riddle to be solved, yet you are expecting them to solve it. Take fulfillment. And let your partner know what you need. What we'll do what they can to fulfill your needs. If they are opportunity to please their dominance, right. But again, without communicating your expectations. Clearly, do not want in this dynamic. And finally, the last communication like to give the silent treatment to their partner when often justify the silent treatment as a way of avoiding conflict is not accomplished by avoiding or ignoring the not do anything other than escalate the situation even relationship by weakening the foundation. Our foundations and also talk about generosity, and flexibility and in grace. Over interested in resolving the issue. Avoidance creates a space repetition, this space that I talked about will grow too large needing to take a minute to collect your thoughts before creating is not avoidance. That space is wise. It is the should all take a minute and think before we speak, There should never be a problem with asking for a moment to about it. Take a deep breath. Consider the situation at hand. well. This calm consideration will enable you to control your me? Do you find floggers sexy and as a symbol of dominance in don't know what you really want or what you really need. Are you what you are purchasing and why Fox and Hare floggers prides both the top and the bottom. These luxurious vloggers are just beautiful. They have done extensive research on what performance. Check out these magnificent floggers on Fox and Number two on my lists will be insecurity. For a dominant for a dominant insecurity and anything is a killer. When the Imagine if when you were a child, your father was nervous. case, would you feel safe? Would you feel secure? Or would you your company appearing to be apprehensive, fearful and whose livelihood was dependent on that CEO in his leadership. to undermine the confidence that others have in you. And like a of others around you. Your partner cannot trust in you as a Insecurity can manifest itself in many ways. Are you frequently previous relationships? Do you analyze everything your partner or losing interest in your relationship, any constant worried about the stability of your relationship than you do relationship. If you have a lot of insecurity in relationships, esteem. Number three, a need for unchecked control. Do you feel likes to be dominated day in and day out. Not even a submissive. domineering. dominance is a position of leadership within a but also in control of himself. A dominant is a person of those in his charge at the forefront of his mind. People someone asserts their control over another in an arrogant way. other person or the other person's welfare. Being need to control everything about your relationship, and your doesn't work at home. In your relationship. It tells your is commonly camouflaged as caretaking, taken to the purpose. The real purpose would be control. You can be in reactive. A reaction is instantaneous, like a reflex. biases and our prejudices. Have you ever said something without unconscious mind speaking, that reaction is based in the moment of what you do and what you say. We often react without usually emotion driven. It's usually aggressive. It often position of leadership. It's not who speaks first, that is the you say it. It also puts your partner on the defensive. So in other words, do not react aggressively. Do not react without being aware. Aware of the entire situation. Gather insight gain some perspective before you respond. Do not react do not need to. A reactive comment may turn out all right, relationship especially with passion. A reactive comment will even say a word or give any indication at all that they've with resentment. And that resentment may continue to Know the final straw will snap someday, without any known nice guys often assume this role, they mistakenly believe happiness, that they will eventually get what they need in making, that will eventually be leveraged against your partner expecting you, or wanting you to sacrifice anything in a about abundance and growth for both people involved. Each possible without the other. It's synergy. Your partner wants your the martyr in a relationship leads to a level of resentment five behaviors that can sabotage your relationship. So take a yourself. Can you identify which if any of these areas, maybe you to enhance and forge a better, a stronger marriage? Life is a how old we are, or how long we've been with our partner. We gone over quite a bit here today. So let's wrap this up being the perfect partner in your relationship. No one is is that we recognize this, and we accept it. We wake up every for excellence. It seems a little crazy. But in our society how to lead in a relationship and learn how to have a successful fulfilling relationship. We need to learn stages of our relationships. Poor communication will drain a every day, whether we realize it or not. Everything that you do, inflection of your voice, even the way you position yourself, communicating something to someone. Think about it for a word, you're communicating something, look into downtime, relationship that will enable proper communication like DSM. We weren't born with the skill and most likely were never but rather the reality and maybe the catalysts to motivate you to every single facet of your life. And most important in your your responsibility. Own it as a submissive in the supportive that responsibility. Today we also talked about insecurity, cannot be a dominant if you're insecure, if you're anxious if assuredness, self confidence. And this isn't about faking it self confidence. Are you jealous? Do you as a dominant do Correct? Are you indecisive Making decisions is difficult. If so, consider joining or becoming part of a group. A your thoughts you can share your ideas. It is also powerful to are holding themselves accountable to overcome similar communication and learning. Today we also discussed domineering man? A dominant man exhibits self control and self slave to his vices and his appetite. It's all about him, domineering men also generally have vices, maybe they overeat, all their time watching TV, or on social media. A dominant man gratification. He expects submission. Most of the time confidence, good humor and wisdom. While a domineering man take his submissives thoughts or her perspective in mind, he about being reactive. being reactive to anything in life emotion is also a skill. Skills are not something that we're something that we hone that we sharpen. The next time you feel few short seconds and consider how you are going to react. It clever or crass comment flash into your mind. Ask yourself, assuming the role of the martyr, assuming the role of the martyr own happiness. When you behave like a martyr, you give your to learn new ways of responding to your own feelings and your today, that you feel that you could work on to be a better better husband, better leader, a better dominant, has domme. met a single man that can't find tune or trim has sale. And I There is no one to blame for any one of the skills that you want friends or family. No one, not even you. blaming anyone, including yourself is Accept where you're at. Accept yourself for what it is and for plan and take action

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